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new tricks for an old dog?
June 05 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
Why bother?? he doesn't like it.. you do.. one of you is going home pissed :) get someone you DONT have to train...
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RHP User
14 years ago
.... NEXT!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Girl, u need tung up inside u, if he wont do that at the very least.. Ditch that sandbag!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Simple answer....no.Agree with Cavey
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RHP User
14 years ago
Cass xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Where do I do a copywriting course!
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RHP User
14 years ago
That now he thinks he has you he just cant be bothered. He is just using you. Dpont like foreplay *snort* Right! I bet he likes it well enough when it is you giving him head though. . NEXT!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Like, utterly ridiculous. The statement alone: "I don't like foreplay" doesn't even make sense. "Foreplay" is not just one thing - it's a thousand possible things! That's like saying "I don't like foreign food". That's the first red flag. Second is the medieval attitude. He sounds like a guy from a Monty Python Meaning of Life sketch! Absolutely don't settle. This is probably one of those instances where you CAN change your fella, because good foreplay, honestly... who can say no?! How did he get that attitude in the first place? Shame him into it - if it's not that serious between you then tell him you're doing him and any future girls he's with a big favour. If it is serious, well, tell him it's the only way it's going to stay serious. Introduce new experiences bit by bit. Tell him what to do. Most guys actually love when girls tell them what they like, because it's like cheat notes to Being a Stud 101. Sexual compatibility is one of the bedrocks of a good relationship, in my opinion. It can survive without it, but you better have some damn good other connections to fall back on! Sincerely, Agony Uncle Drift
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RHP User
14 years ago
He wont change,at least not for you.Six months is an aeon ,in no fore-play hell.Just a selfish dick really.x Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm with the others DELETE.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You don't like sex without foreplay. Then stand your ground. You'll either get it your way or know he'll never change Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oh Itiswhatitis...I laughed at your post ...definitely not at you but with you cause I could have written your spiel . I totally empathise with you as I was in the same position once...NEVER AGAIN ...and my own experience (as other posters have already pointed out) he wont change...no matter what..cause he doesnt want to..sex is suppose to be about mutual pleasure..but not everyone thinks like that..a 5 minute poke does suit some as long as they get off...and it is all about them..no matter what enticing honry promises they sms you before the meetup. The someone in my life took up with another lady from this site...they ended a little while ago...and the lady closed her profile down...she recently reopened her profile (good for her and yes I know her so no hard feelings there) but I did have a chuckle when she wrote the following on her revamped profile. "People who are mature enough to know their sexual needs. People who like pleasing others as well as themselves" Made me feel a whole lot better that it wasnt just me... as Morticiaaa ritely said...NEXT.
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RHP User
14 years ago
After the guy has come is probably not the best time to state your needs! Best to lay it on the table before you start.You might get a much better response.Of course the guy shouldn't need to be told, but you could be a little bit proactive too.Cheers Felonius........communicate people communicate
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RHP User
14 years ago
He doesn't like foreplay - then use him when you're toey to finish the already started job and send him home.If he can't even do that, then.... NEXT!
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RHP User
14 years ago
much food for thought...@Felonius, been there done that, just keep getting the same old thing..Starting to think maybe im better off with BOB..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'itiswhatitis85' Starting to think maybe im better off with BOB.. If BOB takes batteries you probably are...
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RHP User
14 years ago
like the tango
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RHP User
14 years ago
What Roxy said. A lot :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
yep, Bob and a healthy supply of batteries! While you seek out a replacement lover.Lol, You watch him scream blue murder when he gets his marching orders..and therealization sets in just a little to late.Cheers Felonius
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razor2000
14 years ago
Selfish as that attitude is. Foreplay encompasses everything really, from the dirty text messages or phone calls during the day and kisses on the neck as dinner is getting made to the more routine exploring that happens in the bedroom. To just say no makes no sense at all and if he's not going to try then you're probably going to find yourself left a touch unfulfilled and unhappy at the end of the day.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Isn't there a song about him. Lol ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I had to re read it...I thought it read restraining him...possibly one way to get a better lay...well..I had a dead horse of a partner who forgot foreplay and it got pretty pathetic, so I started slapping his hand and demanding that he ask permission, and teasing him, not letting him go there filly til I was ready...got the best and possibly only decent sex from him that way...luckily not all guys get amnesia as a result of securing a relationship with you, but of they do, try something completely different...sometimes appearing less interested is enough..sometimes they just stop putting effort in, or just aren't all that into it. Hence me.taking about ex-partner...oh well... X x
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RHP User
14 years ago
Perhaps next time he wants to have sex with you,read a book,then he will definitely get the messagex Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
when he climbs aboard, (hopefuly by now you have an idea how long he takes) then pretend to cum or be satisfied then get up and say thanks that was great and walk out to the kitchen make a brew he is there not finished and most upsetting for a manhe will either go to the loo and beat his bishop or start to play with you to get you horney again, then you just keep saying not ready till you have your fill of playthen kick him out he henasty but could do some thing along those lines or as Hesione says just read a bookhope you sort it soon either wayH
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RHP User
14 years ago
Why are you on RHP?????Just asking. I dont get something here. You are on this site....for what???? You have a lover>>>>>>>who cant make you cum or doesnt want to>>>>>>>> you tell us all>>>>>>but why are you on RHP???? What you did too, in my oppionion....is saying you poor girl are with a dud, mmmm, every stud on here will write and offer his support.....clever girl. Good move. Vey clever.
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RHP User
14 years ago
How much are you into him...If He really completes you in other ways, it may pay putting time and effort into options.For most people it is a lack of experience or knowledge ...There is wonderful sex workshops that can help to explore sexual pleasures, he/you both can learn lots about stimulation, pleasuring, touch, energy flow and all sort of magic that will enhance sex. You can attend this workshops as a free dancer or couples.If he is not that great in other ways, it may pay to move on (you can still suggest self improvement to him though, he will thank you in the long run )
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RHP User
14 years ago
If you are laying there afterwards (because you haven't even cum after he has gone) then it tells you all you need to know....this man couldnt give a rat's fat about your pleasure Are you going to keep telling him (by way of staying with him) that this is ok?because its not!!You've tried asking, multiple times by the sound of it, to no avail..If I was you and wanted to give it one last try (in fact I wouldnt though) I would say, "right!!! Im off to the pub to tell ALL of your mates what a crap shag you are".Hit him where it hurts.....LOL his sexual reputation with the boys, cos I can assure you that's all this guy cares about, not about you or even any other woman's pleasure. Time for girls to stop letting these sorts think they are all 'that' in the sack by not telling them the truth.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Is the rest of the relationship worth the effort of even attempting to retrain him?
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Smilingwithfun
14 years ago
Agree with the Heedlesshorseman. If you like him enough to try & change him then as he gets close hop up & say your done. If he then wants to comunicate spell out your needs as he leaves you feeling like he does now. What have you got to loose that you are already thinking about ditching.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' Why bother?? he doesn't like it.. you do.. one of you is going home pissed :) get someone you DONT have to train... +1
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' Why are you on RHP?????Just asking. I dont get something here. You are on this site....for what???? You have a lover>>>>>>>who cant make you cum or doesnt want to>>>>>>>> you tell us all>>>>>>but why are you on RHP???? What you did too, in my oppionion....is saying you poor girl are with a dud, mmmm, every stud on here will write and offer his support.....clever girl. Good move. Vey clever. The OP quite plainly says on her profile that she is here for the forums and the occassional perve! Why can't she be here? Even if she is looking for sex...it's her life! Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
What is wrong with this person! Unless he is paying for service, he has an absolute obligation to give you as much foreplay as you want ...... and more if he wants to be appreciated! Send him an invoice .... for services rendered! (he's a pig .... a bore/boar .... ditch him) Little Bull
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RHP User
14 years ago
First of all, show him this site, and show him this forum post! Dedication to honesty!Make him read all the stuff on here about foreplay, oral sex tips, etc.Offer him a fantasy situation in exchange for him making an effort. Carrot, and stick. tell him to pick a girl/guy/couple, whatever, from RHP. If he does whatever you tell him to do for x amount of time, give him a mind blowing fantasy encounter.Make an effort yourself. Tie him to a chair, blindfold him, use his body to get you off BEFORE you go near Mr. Winkles.Wake him up in the middle of the night by straddling his head and slowly rubbing yourself out with his face. Ppl here may think I'm being a smartass, but it is an AWESOME way to wake up at two AM. All you girls should spring this one on your man at least once. If they try to dislodge you, grab a fistful of hair or slap them and use the words "Shut the fuck up.". This is HOT, and should get you the response you ask for. Make sure you cum doing this. I cannot stress how important this is. Fake it if you have to.Give him a striptease to sexy club music. Get yourself off in front of him however you like BEFORE he is allowed to touch you.Dress up in a slutty costume. Cops are always good, I hate authority figures and I want to make them suffer!BE DEMANDING. If he doesn't do what you tell him to, make him your bitch.kiss nibble lick bite suck slap and scratch him to ecstasy. No sex.When you can say you've done everything you possibly can to snap him out of his lack of effort, you will have no doubts and will need no propping from others when you walk out, and he will only have himself to blame. Watch his friends laugh in his face when he tells them you're too sexually demanding. In situations like this, there is always something that is missing, something you are not aware of. You need to discover what this thing is. When you find it out, things might change. For all you know it could be a penis.RA
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RHP User
14 years ago
itis - sort of get the feeling that you know the answer yourself but you are hoping someone can come up with a miracle cure that will change him !
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RHP User
14 years ago
So whats the problem???? lol Just kidding LOLNothing makes a guy treasure a good woman and sex more than having a dry spell, i say cut him off for a while make him appreciate what he has. ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Have I told you guys I like to express OPTIONS?? OP... here is one... When he want some nookie next time, stop him... and say.." Lover, I LOVE fucking you.. BUT, I love foreplay.... which, you dont.. so.. here is what I need for you to do..." Go get one of your mates.. he can do the foreplay on me.. and you can come in a fuck me when I am ready.." The outcome of that MIGHT be hell fun!!!!!! *grins* cavey.. offering
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RHP User
13 years ago
Should be getting as good as your giving...
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RHP User
13 years ago
do you know if this guy even knows how to get a woman off? maybe he has no idea and is worried about embarrassing himself?? iv'e been there before.....who knows if he is young like you are, it is possible, because i mean who doesn't like foreplay...i mean it could just be bullshit and he is selfish, but next time make sure you are taken care of first and if the sex is boring, make sure you let them know exactly what gets you off so you are not left frustrated.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wake him up in the middle of the night by straddling his head and slowly rubbing yourself out with his face. Ppl here may think I'm being a smartass, but it is an AWESOME way to wake up at two AM. All you girls should spring this one on your man at least once. If they try to dislodge you, grab a fistful of hair or slap them and use the words "Shut the fuck up.". This is HOT, and should get you the response you ask for. Make sure you cum doing this. I cannot stress how important this is. Fake it if you have to.Haven't laughed so hard in ages! Love your work!Leah
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RHP User
13 years ago
sex without 4play,,,, is there such a thing,, 4play is the very important pre curser....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Get me up there and I'll show him what to do.Giving oral to a woman is great!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
hi! Hun :) From what you said this Lover does seem to be way too self absorbed to be any good for anyone except Lady 5 Fingers.. However if you would like to be with him some more but as a more Attentive Lover.. explain to him that satisfying your needs means he'll have a Major Orgasm because you're getting Off! you'll do the same for him ...cause and effect he should understand that unless he's a Moron.. .I had 1 Guy who wasn't into pleasuring me because it was YUK! I explained he had better learn Fast to do that with a Woman otherwise his chances of being their Lover is very slim .. He took my advice and other things I taught him ...Now 3 Women enjoy his company in the bedroom.. Good Luck! Hun or as others said get your BOB and plenty of batteries or change Partners Prontio..last resort get drunk have sex that way it worked before he!he! Cheers Lu :) This Guy was a Virgin I'm not sure what you Guys excuse is if that's it he doesn't like it that's crap! I hope you told him so too for his sake:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't think retraining is the answer.I went out with a lovely lady for a while, who didn't like foreplay.She wanted wham bam thank you maam. No fooling around.When quizzed about it, she said foreplay was taking the long way home.I like taking the long way home. You experience more on the way.That didn't suit me at all so the inevitable happened.We are still good friends, well friends, and she is happily married with kiddies.Her hubby is a top bloke as well.So I feel that its all horses for courses.
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RHP User
13 years ago
What song might that be?One trick pony ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh gosh! If he does it for you in other ways and you feel to continue a relationship with him consider .... Why on earth does he not like foreplay?!?!? Too, foreplay is also a tango. There has got to be something going on in that deep mind of fantasy of his. Find out what it is, if you can (and identify yours)- he might just be shy... He might even like "Bob" to participate?!? ask. For me there is nothing more satisfying and exciting than helping others open their barriers and walls and too desiring my own to be confronted (even beyond a sexual level). Give it a shot if you think he's worth it ... You're worth it. It doesn't really sound like you've got anything to loose, except maybe a fish who cannot and will not satisfy you sexually - but there could be alot to gain. Open up! Too, the simple 'you can't have unless you a,b&c' could work and I think if you don't care for him all that much then "Next" is also a good option. ... Cassandra ... May the force of getting to the bottom of all this be with you .... Hmmmm maybe that's it!?!?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sounds like he is either a very selfish prick, scuse the pun, or maybe he is extremely traumatized in some way and can only function in this manner. How does he treat you in other areas? I would advise professional help here.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never compromise your wants,needs or desires for someone who isn't open to afford you the same luxury.To say he isn't interested in foreplay is not only foolish but arrogant also.This is a man you will never feel satisfied by,in so many ways....NEXT!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
He just cant hold it that long, his forplay is unzipping his pants. I think everyone can change and learn no matter what their cirumstance, they just have to want to do that. Just tell him that you want some, first and put little red dots on you and say I want you to kiss me here, here here and ohhhhh god here! then put a little yellow star on his dick for a job well done.
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xxsexythingxx
13 years ago
Hehe i agree with cavy50 other opinion sound more fund and you will find out if he is just there using you. Life is to be enjoyed.
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xxsexythingxx
13 years ago
Fun mind in the gutter hehe
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RHP User
13 years ago
when i made this post, i think i already knew but was looking for a fix lol, so anyways we ended up splitting, for quite obvious reasons :) thanks everyone for the comments though, a good laugh at the least @cavey ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
If i was you i would let him start to get what he wants and when he is about to cum ( if you know hwen he is ) stop and let him be frustrated or he will just have to have a wank Jodi. xxx Worked for me now i get plenty of foreplay
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RHP User
13 years ago
ring me and i will look after your needs
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RogueGeek
13 years ago
"Not Fair";)Cheers,MS Quoting 'Cat505' Isn't there a song about him. Lol ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Every time i hear that song i get a grin ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well all I have to say is that is why you don't fuck friends! Lol and yes I don't think I have ever had sex in my life without forplay. That's like strawberries and cream without the strawberries. Lol anyway just thought I would say.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
he's probably bored with you so that's why he's not putting in the effort maybe he's got someone else in toe as well. sorry only a thought i agree with every one else NEXT time to move on girl
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'subserviantsinna'sex without 4play,,,, is there such a thing,, 4play is the very important pre curser.... yep its called married life with kids. forplay is turning of the tv oral sex is saying good night Kissing is after you have been fucked for one minute, followed by a roll of and over with backturned. Forplay is looking at the roof and counting the strokes in and out and thinking of your shopping the next day. forplay for married guy is when the wife says hurry up will ya, I am gonna misss my soapie. Forplay for a married guy is when she takes of her fluffy slippers. Forplay for a married guy, is being allowed to fuck for one minute and then being told its bin day tomorrow before your finished.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'madmax75' Lol and yes I don't think I have ever had sex in my life without forplay. That's like strawberries and cream without the strawberries. Lol anyway just thought I would say..... You mean you don't just walk over to the fridge sometimes when no-one's looking and cop a mouthful of Dairy Whip?Ummmm, me neither then...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Do you mean to tell me there is something before sex? How can this be? Mummy told me about sex and how it is evil and how I should NEVER touch a girl in the front bottom. Sex is only for babies. I want my mummy. How does this guy get women ready for a good time? Does he dip his finger in and then whip out the one eyed trouser snake if its a bit slippery? If I haven't spent some quality time on the essentials and its like riding a bucking bronco with my mouth, then I don't feel its "time". Good luck with the latest Mike
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