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  AnnieWhichway

  5 years ago

  Mmmmmm. Wondering how she would feel knowing her arse was posted online in a couples profile. Seriously, wtf

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  That was going to be my question. Does your partner know that she’s on here?

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Let’s all just criticise the profile instead of answering the question, or offering and suggestions, that’ll teach her! @Panchi you should probably set your profile to a single profile that says you’re attached, obviously you’re expected to know this before joining somehow... To answer your question, without knowing your partner it’s very hard to give advice on how you should approach her, every situation is different and unique, however you approach though make sure she feels secure and loved when doing so, it can be rather upsetting and hard to understand at first. It was for me anyway, it’s hard not to feel like you’re not good enough or you’re being rejected in some way when your partner wants more than you can give, that mindset can take time to work through.

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  SpicyKale

  5 years ago

  Everyone’s going to be different on how they react to that one! Took us ten years if my memory is correct. My one bit of advice, make it about her and not you and you’ll have a much better chance

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  MsSuperFoxy

  5 years ago

  Ummm you have to actually talk to her and have a matured, open honest conversation. Man up. She's your partner. Ms Foxy

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  2EssesExploring

  5 years ago

  Mrs S went from virgin to opening exploring her desires in a very short time. How? I was there to support her desires and at the start hardly participated but was there to make sure she felt safe. We talked and talked and talked about what she wanted. Now, she has discovered one of the sexiest things for her is to see me in action, so now I participate. We haven’t had a bad experience yet so seems this approach worked for us but ymmv

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  teamaj2

  5 years ago

  Personally I wouldn’t take kindly to my picture being on RHP without my knowledge . I understand you maybe eager to explore but all good things are worth the wait . Communication is the key . Talk about fantasies and really listen to what she has to say . Ten years into our relationship we dipped our toes into the water . Clear boundaries need to be discussed , as I’ve said many times, these can be changed at any time with respectful discussion . There is many words of advice myself and others have given over time on the forums . Firstly , be a united front and a team prior proceeding. I know originally I felt when the discussion arose , I wasn’t enough ? When we did proceed , with caution - we were a strong team that was able venture into this without feeling jealousy as we both felt secure, loved and knowing we had each other’s best interests at heart. No one really knows how they will feel once proceeding. Feelings of jealousy , insecurity can always arise . Everyone has to feel they can discuss , vulnerabilities, boundaries without reproach at any time . Good luck .Ax

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  Sawadee

  5 years ago

  To answer your question. Theres no shortcuts. There must be something that stopping you from just comeing out and talk about it ? So truth is ' unless she's fully on side' its not going anywhere. However ' if she is willing to listen and you can come up with senarios that appeal. Who know's ? Men are visual creatures where woman are more . emotional .. The only way is to find a time when you feel she's relaxed and talkitive. If she's horrified , you can always tell her " if l dont ask 'i dont know "

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  naughtytintin

  5 years ago

  is that your girlfriends ass on your profile? If so have you asked for consent to use it on a profile that says a couple is looking? If not that is your answer. If you are sneaking around without asking her or having the conversation you want to have then you need to start with some integrity and man up as another comment says. It may not be easy. It can take time. And as someone else said have a conversation about her and her fantasies. what things does she want? How can you help make them a reality? Does she want another guy? Does she want a group of guys and for you to watch? Yes you want what you want but if you are not in it for her too why should she be in it for you?

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