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Mental/Physical

August 23 2011

I know a lot of people say they are not into endless messages and I generally understand their reasons for saying so. Personally I think there is great benefit in exchanging messages. This allows you to get to know the person to some degree. In essence it gives you an opportunity to get inside their head. You learn a bit about them and allows you to have a mental connection right from the start. We put so much importance on looks that we often miss out on finding perfect partners. If you exchanged truthful messages with someone for a few weeks, and you decided that you really did like them, and you wanted to jump in sack with them, what would it take to stop you? Understand that I am suggesting that everything was truthful, and they make you horny just reading their messages. Once someone gets inside my head to that extent there is nothing that would stop me from having sex with them. To me the mental attraction is way more important than the physical…So which do you rate higher…Mental or Physical?

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tamworthguy46

14 years ago

Hi there mate...long time etc I suppose the amount of messages depends on what your learning, and recieving from each other ?, I'ts all up to the individual i suppose......some people can go back and fourth in messages and get some stimulation from that.....other people like to meet face to face, looking for chemistry. I see nothing wrong with learning about someone, but sometimes it kills the mystery for some people i think ! Tam

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RHP User

14 years ago

I enjoy the intelligent conversation, sexy chat and foreplay exchanging messages sometimes bring. I think getting to know a person on the mental level only enhances the sexual pleasure when it happens. Once we exchange a few messages and they show a side of their personality that is attractive, well then looks become secondary and I am going to have sex with them anyway. Perhaps it's a more mature thing....... Cissy

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RHP User

14 years ago

i am the same , i belive getting to know the person first with messaging is what its all about , and yes to me peronality comes first and formost before looks,,, its a persons personality that is the biggest turn on, for me anyway i have no idea how people can jump into bed with someone they have had little contact with , the brain is the biggest sex organ i think ,,

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RHP User

14 years ago

opportunity to exchange meaningful messages and playful banter with a potential partner. But for me it's conversing on the phone. The sound of a man's voice speaks volumes. And to answer your question LC - personally I rate mental higher. Kisses KK

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RHP User

14 years ago

Hi TG, I took some what of a break for a while so back now for a while :) I think that you can find chemistry just in chatting and messages...I include phone calls as well. To me mental chenistry is stronger than the eye chemistry... Mike

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RHP User

14 years ago

I think we always make some sort of mental connection....we have to as there are no "tick the box and meet me here" options on this site. How deep we want that to be or how much we know is as individual as the person. I like a strong mental connection...not that could not do the deed without it but it makes everything a lot better, including the physical. | Downside for me...I don't do boring or bored. If there are too many messages, no chance to talk on the phone etc. I almost always pull up. If it doesn't really look like it's going somewhere...it's probably not. | You can lead a horse to water...just don't let him die of thirst.

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RHP User

14 years ago

For me being on this site it is physical first! It is about how they look to me and if I find them sexually appealing! That is why I joined this Site and not a vanilla one...if I want the mental I would join one of them! As for messaging for weeks? No way! I get bored with the person and the physical attraction loses its gloss! I would rather a couple of messages, a chat on the phone, see them on cam to ensure that it is them and not a fake nor an old pic and then meet them ASAP! xFunlovingx

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RHP User

14 years ago

The more I know about a guy the better. We're welll aware too many guys on here think all they have to do is flex their muscles or show their dick and their in.. It's not like that guys and definately not for me..I need to be mentally stimulated before I agree to meet with any guy. If you dont put in, you dont get in... simple really..

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RHP User

14 years ago

CD, Granted its similar but Different. My aspect was that you can end up with such a good mental connection that regardless of their looks you still want to shag them. There are time when i have seen people(women) in a bar and not been willing to walk 3 metres because of their physical appearance(Oh God I could be so shallow)...To me I realise that our eye can lie to us. . So for me it is always the mental stimulation that makes good sex FanFuckingTastic. . I have to say its running about 50/50 by the looks of it...I will stick with mental stimulation tho...I actually enjoy getting to know people...mind you with so many interstate people the mental is all you can hope for unless you travel a lot. . . LC

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RHP User

14 years ago

I found that the guys that are happy to send a few messages and build up a mental connection first were the better lovers. It had nothing to do with mental attraction, just that they were more relaxed and more considerate. And it wasn't a case of endless messaging either.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I like the probing ..if you dont ask ,you dont know..and if the planets align, let the prodding begin..

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RHP User

14 years ago

The mental versus physical question. I think I have to stick to guns and say both, I've experienced one or the other separately and both were great, but it's when you get the both that it really blows your hair back. I dont think I would be in my current situation without the attraction I had right at the start, it was a 'phhwaaarrr' moment lol I remember looking at the location and thinking, "ahhhh bummer too far" but with each message (mental) the attraction levels went through the roof. I'm not sure either of us really knew if we were actually going to meet at the start, but we kept chatting anyway. I think that right there played a huge part in how open we were with each other, silly I guess how we hold back more with someone we could very well meet next week, yet relax our walls in another situation. Obviously due to the distance and difficulty of a meet all we h

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RHP User

14 years ago

Lol continue DGT ya wally Obviously due to the distance and difficulty of arranging a meet , all we had was talking. The attraction and build up got to a bloody ridiculous point, talk about months of foreplay (fuck was I ever ready ) Let me tell you, because of all that back and forth that everybody seems to dislike , our first time together was unbelievably, ass shakin, jelly legged, outa this world freakin amazing. Its the first time Ive ever had to clean up a room 'before' i let room service in to clean

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RHP User

14 years ago

I have actually been really turned on by people online but met them in real life and "it" is just not there. Chemistry in person is everything. But that was early on in my adventures on RHP and i learned after that to become MUCH more familiar with them before we met and it didn't happen again thankfully. xx Kitty

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RHP User

14 years ago

Quoting 'tamworthguy38' I suppose the amount of messages depends on what your learning, and reciveing from each other ?We like to chat enough to find out if the person/couple is our type and then after that we would prefer to meet for a drink. As for the attraction ratio... Well we are looking for physical encounters and possible friendships so 70/30 for physical one offs and 50/50 for friendships as a rough guide. How shallow are we!

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RHP User

14 years ago

I like the mental side of things although not into endless chit chat for weeks Cut to the chase... Don't get me wrong I have long distance friends who talk the talk then I need to go for a big power walk and a little jog to make it pass. All in all not into long wind up conversations, meet or don't ! xxx ps wb Kitty xxxx

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RHP User

14 years ago

How are you sweetie? Great to be back. Hope you've been having lots of fun xx Kitty Quoting 'BlackStilettoes' I like the mental side of things although not into endless chit chat for weeks Cut to the chase... Don't get me wrong I have long distance friends who talk the talk then I need to go for a big power walk and a little jog to make it pass. All in all not into long wind up conversations, meet or don't ! xxx ps wb Kitty xxxx

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RHP User

14 years ago

Mental and physical aren't as separate as you're making out, LC.While for me messages are critical to get the initial spark, because I need an intellectual and humour connection to get that, if the messages go on and on the spark dissipates. And phone calls don't really work for me because I don't relate strongly in conversation without eye contact. This is just a particular bent of my psychology, and I know lots of people can natter away for hours on the phone, but it's not for me.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Got me thinking, oh how it hurts lol Mental and Physical would be the ideal!!! it's not black and white Mental and physical aren't as separate as you're making out, LC. I do agree!!! ps Kitty all good here honey!!!

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