Married and attached preferred

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  PandaAndBri

  4 days ago

  I am actually the opposite on here if I am looking at a one on one play date I would decline If married unless I met the partner to ensure it was all above board. I don’t want to get in the middle of anything. Couple swaps etc are a different kettle of fish all together though. I expect to have some feelings towards a play mate, attraction to them as a person and liking them but certainly not love. I don’t think I could do just a wham bam 1st night I have met you kinda thing. I haven’t yet, even when I was young and unmarried I never went home with someone I had just met. I guess I need some sort of mental connection at least before I jump in. Bri

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  MsSuperFoxy

  3 days ago

  But the flip side gets overlooked. People talk a lot about singles catching feelings, yet couples catch feelings too. Sometimes one half of the couple does. This is not unique or new to singles. And to be fair, not many singles want to get caught up in couples drama Lama either. Plenty of singles deliberately prefer couples because the structure is clearer, expectations are defined, there’s less pressure and easier exits. Not because they’re scared someone will catch feelings. Yes, feelings can happen, but sometimes singles are simply better at separating sex from relationship expectations because they only manage themselves, not another person’s emotions as well. Singles are not there to be a couples therapist. Ms Foxy

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  SweetSerenade

  3 days ago

  I don't think relationship status matters, anyone can persue the unobtainable and cheating happens in monogamous and lifestyle relationships alike. Also there's plenty of 'single' profiles who secretly are partnered they just don't tell you. Having said that, a couple on RHP is less likely to be someone posing as available who isn't. (Although we did once meet a 'couple' at a club once who were FWB that were both cheating at the time.

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  nutsundae

  3 days ago

  Hey Shells, it's not just you - it's pretty common from what I've seen. Seems to particularly be a thing in situations where, for whatever reason, a person is looking for something a bit deeper than a one off, purely physical encounter that ends with a celebratory high-five and mutual back slapping, but well short of picking out curtains together. The theory being that you might be able to develop some level of mutual feels and ongoing situationship with someone who is already attached, but being attached, they won't want go ahead and ruin everything by wanting to get serious, asking for exclusivity etc.. The "we'll just catch up regularly and then go home and everyone will live happily ever after", narrative. I never said it was a good theory, or even a fair or ethical one, but that's the theory I hear. Of course, it doesn't always work out to plan. That's the funny thing about feels. Feels don't always follow a script.

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  dannid_xx

  yesterday

  It’s me haha … And I prefer it because *generally* someone who’s been open/poly/enm for a while are the best & least complicated fuck buddies. The singles can deliver too, but I find it easier to tell with someone who is attached (and the partner is on board). If they’re doing an open relationship well, they have great boundaries and can easily communicate what they want & what doesn’t work for them. Often after the initial vibe check, contact is light, friendly and mostly to arrange the next hook up. You’re getting great sex with little effort required because they have a whole other life & relationship to maintain.

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  Everest

  1 hours ago

  I fall into this category, I actually learnt through the lifestyle that I’m monogamous, nice big shock from an open marriage. But I love the communication from couples and hot wives, intentional, present and there’s just no games. And you get a front row seat to a healthy relationship. I tend to play with couples that have been together 10+ years and it’s much easier to communicate im here to enhance their dynamic. Singles I meet at parties because on here the poor things get absolutely swarmed

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