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Kids and swinging

February 01 2010

Has anybody else been in the position of having their child ask them out right if they are a part of the swingers scene ?? Did you deny or lie ??? lol We told him we were separating (after 20 yrs) and he asked if we were swingers...........so we said yes...... After the anger and shock settled...we still have a great relationship and a new respect. (all of us) but especially my son and I. Have you had to handle this ?? How did you or how do you imagine you will if you have to.......... Cheers Miss b

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RHP User

16 years ago

had my mum ask me if the hubby and I were swingers we almost choked, told her yes THEN she asks us where we go how we met people caus eher and the new step dad want to give it a go MOST AWKWARD CONVERSATION EVER

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RHP User

16 years ago

Indigocream...i respect your honesty ..as im sure your mother would..for that's what we want from our kids openess n honesty+ communicationand i found it has to work both ways..xoxoxheymummaall the best

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16 years ago

One of the blokes who works for me is always going on about his sex life, and i'm ALWAYS LIKE-"Dad, enough of that crap FFS, i don't wan't to know", Usually whil running around in circles with my fingers in my ears

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RHP User

16 years ago

Indigo and Rough, I'm sorry but I laughed when I read your posts. I have a fairly honest and open relationship with both my sons though my youngest son told me he was very shocked when I admitted I had tried bondage. And how amazing your mum and her partner are open minded enough to want to try something new Indigo. Way to go!Wildly cheering the older generation (I think I'm part of it)

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16 years ago

Very awkward for you, but extremely funny for us! :P

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16 years ago

Our kids do not know, I do not like to play when they are with us so there is no chance of them finding out. They are too young to know anyway. Parents on the other hand!!!! Lol reading this. On our recent holiday to NZ my parents had friends over for dinner and I swear it was the dirtiest flirtiest most offensive dinner conversation I have ever had. Mum and Dads friends are newly dating and he enlisted my parents help to convince his girlfriend that blow jobs are a good thing.... My Mun asked Andy if he had ever had a gay experience, and I blamed bad technique on the males part for fanny farts... Fast forward to a couple of days ago and I am on the phone to my Mum, she asked how I weekend was and I told her we went to see some friends on the Sunny Coast. She questioned these 'friends' she has never heard of and told me that my sister (who lives with us) was questioning where we go at night and who our so called 'friends' are so when she asked if we are swingers I answered very deadpan, "Yes Mum we are swingers. We go to parties and put our keys into a big bowl at the door." I am not sure if she believed me or not as I kind of deflected and moved on to something else as I really did not want to have that talk. In hindsight I wish I had just confessed, at the end of the day So what? On the other hand, while openess and honesty is all well and good, I like my privacy and should not have to tell anyone I do not want to about my sex life. xx Salina

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RHP User

16 years ago

Is a well known custom in both rural New Zealand and rural Australia. People didn't call it swinging though. It was something to liven up a Saturday night. Know of some interesting outcomes in the area of NSW I come from. cheersWTG

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16 years ago

what if you have young children? what if you decide to play when they're in bed? that smacks of danger to me, i've heard of one couple that invites over their playmate after the child has gone to sleep - gawd wouldn't want the kid to walk in while the wife is being serviced!

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16 years ago

We have young children, two aged 7 one aged 9. I really do not like the thought of playing when they are at home in bed. We have had people over for social meets only, but aside from the danger of them catching us in the act, I can not relax knowing they are in the house.We have met people before who have had there kids with them and it just does not put me in the mood for play. If we do invite someone over for a social meet we do tell them the kids are home and we let it be there choice to come or not. I totally understand when they choose not to!xx Salina

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