Isn't it interesting.....

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I think Sas you might e on the right money there. Some are comfortable declaring it..but, it seems to me, it's far more acceptable for women to claim 'bi' and people be ok with it, then men. Just the sense of I picked up in general conversation. Of course, it depends entirely on the target group.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I have found that yes, guys dont' want to be judged and there's a lot more bi or bi curious guys out there than you actually see in print and there's a lot less genuinely Bi women because a good portion of them do it for the men anyway. Not actually because they madly lust after women. xx Kitty

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Firstly, I think for a lot of bisexual guys, identifying as bisexual may not fit the image they have of themselves. People can behave, not necessarily according to their actual sexual urges, but according to how they identify... and how they want to be identified. As you know... a bi guy can be a very happy chappy rooting women... and given that we are all capable of choosing to be monogamous, sheer willpower and stamina and out of respect for our lover ensures that we can if we want to, then a potentially bi guy might never actually get off with another dude... and not knowing if that is actually for him, is for all intensive purposes a heterosexual man.So our sexual identity is how we perceive ourselves... as well as how we want to be perceived. Some of you might be saying.. "but I really am straight".... and of course, you are. No. I believe you. Seriously I do. Would you like another beer. :pHUgsStalky

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  a lot of guys i meet say they are "straight", but when thye find out i am bi and quite open minded, they admit to wanting to try having sex with another man. i think society is a lot more accepting of bisexual females, however you would think if they were wanting to explore that option rhp would be a good place to start.... a lot less scary then the "real world" hehe

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'naughtygirl4310' a lot of guys i meet say they are "straight", but when thye find out i am bi and quite open minded, they admit to wanting to try having sex with another man. i think society is a lot more accepting of bisexual females, however you would think if they were wanting to explore that option rhp would be a good place to start.... a lot less scary then the "real world" hehe Yep. They are straight right up until they know I won't judge them for being bi...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We agree totally with the above comments. We have found some are real in what they say but more are not real in what that say.

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  Wild_Pagan_Love

  14 years ago

  It kinda freaks me out how judgmental people still are (in general) - in this day and age, and all. You'd think after all the horrible stuff the worlds been through - even in the last 100 years - why the fu*k is someones sexual preference (or individuality) seen as such a threat???It frightens me, cause this sort of intolerance can ruin lives.

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  N4November

  14 years ago

  I've posted many times before in the forums that I think it is so unfortunate that male bi play is generally not accepted in the swinging community - ironic when the lifestylers advocates the freedom to express your sexuality! But no guys playing together please! WTF?! . From my experience with bi males - they love being with women first and foremost. Some that have listed themselves as straight (I suspect) do so because they don't cut their chances competing with the hetro alpha males for female attention - and further on from that, so that they aren't judged generally. But as was suggested above, wouldn't it be better to 'come out' if you were curious or actually bisexual especially in cyber-space? . I reckon its better to be authentic from the get-go (well in moderation like you would with any 'interest/fetish hehehe) because you may have a real chance of connecting with a likeminded and accepting partner! . Just my thoughts anyway....

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We find it quite disappointing that Bi is such a big deal in the swinging community, look at the profile of couples nearly all, one will be listed as Bi and looking for a single Bi lady. It limits the contacts if you honestly have no wish to go to the Bi shop, there is not huge variety out there.   We all know why some guys list as straight and they are bi....is because some couples will say No only to Bi guys, we know Bi guys can play straight and it should not matter. But put the shoe on the other foot most Bi couples wont play with straight kids either! LOL, So the Bi guy trying to cover the odds misses out which is what the OP is referring to.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  It is VERY surprising how many men put straight on their profile but then go and list MMF etc under sexual preferences,mad scramble throughout the RHP community now as people go checking lol. bothtogether6

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'bothtogether6' It is VERY surprising how many men put straight on their profile but then go and list MMF etc under sexual preferences,mad scramble throughout the RHP community now as people go checking lol. bothtogether6   Remember this from another thread.....mfm = straight and MMF = Bi But the Bi community has a problem with labels ......wonder why?

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