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Good things about exes

June 05 2018

Now that I’m single again with a huge weight lifted off my shoulders on trying to figure out my recent ex and why he blocked me, I started to fast forward my life as I was driving in my car. What are some of the nice things about your exes that you liked and thought was unique? I would like positivity in this thread. I will only be using the ones that impacted my life in some way. 1st ex - he was always thinking of me, loved me more, eventually was earning more than me, great on paper, took lots of holidays together, my decision not to stay friends 2nd ex - blew me out of the water. Met on sex site and had the best first date - nighttime coffee/walk/fuck - that was extremely memorable, taught me how to deal with confrontation, aspired me to travel, was a still a good friend for 10yrs until we grew apart and bickered. He taught me to be friends with my exes. Met all his ex flings at his farewell (that was weird - he told me how he regretted that later) 3rd ex -I wanted to learn to be more kind and forgiving, learnt how to get over my fears, knew what responsibility was, entice him to go to new places with me. Felt very chilled I wonder where I will find the next one and what it will have in store for me.

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EarthQueen

8 years ago

When we were in love he totally loved me. He was super affectionate, cuddly and told me all the time how much he loved me. He had my back. We grew up together and shared many learning experiences including lots of travel. We had great sex. The sweetest thing he did was wrote me a song and sung it for me at a gig he played. All the best Flygirl for the next part of your journey xx - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Tried and failed. I'd rather make a clean break.

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RHP User

8 years ago

@Bazingal That’s totally fine and thanks for your post. It was just a reflection of my own life. Taking the good bits and realising that they may never come to my life again. It was almost like just being a third party to it all but remember the feelings and thoughts going through my mind. Just practising gratefulness so I can keep something from each connection. If I bumped into any of them in the street, I’d at least say hi, but totally ok if they felt awkward. I understand everyone feels differently of course. @EarthQueen that’s so great! You are one that has such an open minded outlook on life. We all realise it was great while it lasted. Even if I was in a relationship I could still separate these from my partner. I guess it’s an individual experience nobody else could understand :) I hope for you it feels good to reminisce as well. I remember more positive about exes than negatives, but know that I’m not attracted to them anymore. It’s a strange feeling. I do wish them well. Accepting it makes me feel that I don’t need to fill that void in desperation. And thanks :)

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RHP User

8 years ago

Taught me that I deserved more than he could give me, in a nice way, so he set me free to go on my journey of self discovery He was a good guy This is a nice forum OP

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RHP User

8 years ago

Just the one ex (so far? mmm...), and I am eternally grateful she came into my life, even though it was only for six months. Was a first for everything for me at the time. I doubt I woud be here (like, exploring much further, on RHP and stuff...) if it wasn't for her. Writing what I liked would be very lengthy; there were barely a few things that were not to my complete liking. Unlike OP your response to EQ, it still saddens me to reminisce - 4 years back - those moments are the strongest memories as that is what happens to memory made with the strongest emotions. But I am lucky enough now to have had many moments in more recent times with other wonderful people to think of and only smile :)

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RHP User

8 years ago

Except for one, and she was the first woman I ever said "I love you" too, but not the last...

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RHP User

8 years ago

To, not too 😵

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RHP User

8 years ago

So bloody hard to keep positive but he made me leaving with the kids a lot easier than it could have been. What happened since is another story - Posted from rhpmobile

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MsSuperFoxy

8 years ago

It was with the last person I was in a coupled committed monogamous relationship with 10+ yrs ago. We wrote thank you letters to each other. He came and picked me up, drove to the beach (sat under a full moon) and read our letters aloud to each other, then we burnt them. We then just sat for hours not saying a thing hugging and just sitting there. Then it was time to go home. He dropped me off, I walked inside shut the door and that was that. It was very loving and respectful. Never been in a coupled monogamous relationship since. LoL! Ms Foxy

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MsSuperFoxy

8 years ago

He was the first person I travelled overseas with. He promised to keep me safe and have my back at all times. And he did. He kept and auctioned his words. I loved that about him. Ms Foxy

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MsSuperFoxy

8 years ago

I'm still very good friends with. Our friendship is over 30yrs. Our family and friends always thought we would end up married, but we didn't. Our timeline events are the same, but not with each other. I got married, he got married, I started a family, he started a family, he got divorced, I divorced...now we are both single. Just weird. LoL! Ms Foxy

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RHP User

8 years ago

1st ex. 7 years gave me 2 boys. Cheated. We divorced. Memories of my 2 boys ( now men ) I will be forever grateful. Still friends 👍🏻 2nd ex. 10 years, gave me my daughter. Became overly controlling, I left. Were still friends until he remarried. She doesn’t believe we should be friends. So.. Friends when new wife is not around ( only to talk about our daughter tho ). Our daughter is gorgeous and I’m glad we had her 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

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FeistyFatty

8 years ago

Had an ex; married my first love from highschool and we're still riding the wave 21 years later. I would move heaven and earth to avoid us becoming exes. We have said though in the Unlikely event of our uncoupling that it would be civil as we have always been best mates and always would be. - Posted from rhpmobile

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