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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  It is always challenging to fight stereotypes and we've certainly had our fair share of less than tasteful messages from single guys as I'm sure everyone has. Your profile is well written. The photo doesn't grab me though. My preference is to see see a man smartly dressed or an outdoors action photo (clothed of course). You smoking would deter me also but do appreciate that you're honest about it. I would send tasteful and respectful messages without mentioning sex at all for a while. Pay attention to the lady or couples words and vibe. See if you can get an invite for a social function. We run social meet and greets in country nsw as RHPcountry and single guys are welcome however don't tend to attend. Don't assume anything will happen when you meet people. Be very proactive with consent. Good luck with it all

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I think something similar has been asked before. We all send messages that don’t get replies. We all wonder what we are doing that could be changed so as to get responses to our messages. At the end of the day it boils down to how that other profile feels about you and your profile. If you aren’t what they are looking for then they don’t have to reply. There’s nothing more that you can do than to be you. To alter or adapt your natural inclination on what to write or say would not be portraying you.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You’re essentially asking for a “one size fits all” message that will pique the interest of the recipient.... And that....is impossible... You will never attract everyone that you message..and I think this thread contradicts your opening paragraph in your profile....

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Use less ellipses...

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  FFS..maybe START with a half decent profile photo!

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  BeachOasis

  7 years ago

  Just because a question has been put forward by a single guy looking for honest advice doesn't mean you have the right to rudely reply.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Island_life.. hhhmmm your right!! Thanks!!

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Hi scaffy, here are my tips, based on personal experience and several years on the forums. Check the profile of the person you're wanting to message, and make sure you are what they are looking for. If you're not, walk away. Never assume you're the exception.(When I'm looking, my profile will say I'm only looking for guys over 6 foot tall who don't smoke, for example). Be prepared that even if you meet every single requirement in a woman's profile, this is no guarantee. She may just not feel the attraction. So be it. When you message, be polite, use her username, and mention something from her profile to show you've actually read it. Don't talk about sex just yet, and sign off with your (user)name. Manners go a long way here. Be prepared for silence, or plain "no's". Sending a "Thanks for your response, all the best to you too" is often appreciated, as us women sometimes (and sometimes often) get narky messages if we decline someone. It may not change our minds, but it just makes RHP a nicer place. As for your profile: A smiling face pic would be great. And personally I don't like exclamation marks, I keep thinking you're yelling at me. (Also, I'd love it if people would leave all the LOLs to the kids, but I might just be a grumpy old hag...) Good luck

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  What she said ☝🏻..... mostly I WILL say though, after reading the wishy washy manner you’ve drafted this topic..... to be more on-point with your message. Be bold, not boring. I could have written that in approximately 3 sentences. But I had to wade through 6 or 7 paragraphs of excess crap! Like receiving an overly long and waffling message...... “ain’t nobody got time for dat”, especially if your message is one in the swarm of moist and sticky flies in someone’s inbox 2c + gst

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  DarkSouls

  7 years ago

  IMO the biggest put off for me is when they only refer to me in a message. Even worse if they just write a long paragraph of what they're going to do to me in bed. It just does nothing for me. On that note, if someone completely disregards my husband (we have a couple profile & he's clearly shown in public photos) I delete those messages straight away because they clearly don't understand what we're after. I also find it incredibly disrespectful. That's the main thing I can think of right now. TL;DR - Refer to a couple as a whole, don't start sexting from the first message - ignoring the less pretty one is only shooting yourself in the foot ;)

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Exclamation marks. Lols. . My god . You could have the perfect profile and people wont like it cause its to perfect. . You have a clothed photo with your face on it. And the the person with the bum for a photo thinks yours is rubbish. Just do what you want with your profile. Be true to yourself. And to others.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  thanks for continuing to read my posts, I'm flattered. Opinions are just that though. The OP asked for them, he can take from them what he wants or simply toss them aside right? Happy days.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Quoting 'Auflaurer' Use less ellipses... OP is only using about 66% of an ellipsis, if he used less it would just be a full stop...Anti however knows how to use them properly...To paraphrase Roy & HG too many ellipses is till not enough, I love 'em!I mean I love 'em...

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Quoting 'DarkSouls' IMO the biggest put off for me is when they only refer to me in a message. Even worse if they just write a long paragraph of what they're going to do to me in bed. It just does nothing for me. On that note, if someone completely disregards my husband (we have a couple profile & he's clearly shown in public photos) I delete those messages straight away because they clearly don't understand what we're after. I also find it incredibly disrespectful. That's the main thing I can think of right now. TL;DR - Refer to a couple as a whole, don't start sexting from the first message - ignoring the less pretty one is only shooting yourself in the foot ;) Cant understand why some people /men think that couple sharing means they can come over and take over your wife one on one with her as you watch and complain here they got no reply personally ive answered a few adds in couple 4 couple getting no reply but plenty of replies from single males all wanting to fuck my wife clearly the add was in couple swapping cant they get it

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  usrightnow_Again

  7 years ago

  Quoting 'MrMojoRisin' Quoting 'Auflaurer' Use less ellipses... OP is only using about 66% of an ellipsis, if he used less it would just be a full stop...Anti however knows how to use them properly...To paraphrase Roy & HG too many ellipses is till not enough, I love 'em!I mean I love 'em... Ah Mojo, you brilliant fella, I was waiting to see if anyone else noticed the same thing I did, when I showed Mrs. urn. this thread earlier. Technically Anti. could have gone for a coma or semi-colon for a pause between "that" and "is", elsewhere, why not. And I'm certainly Not one to pull people up on how they wish to use the English language, which I've mentioned before, is ever evolving. Just read a story, which included tweets from Corey Feldman, where he put a w, to indicate with. Amazing what our brains can cope with. (surely that deserves an lol?) .Oh, topic, did I stray? Ah, as Solitary and Anti. said, although most don't like to heavily spoon feed these type of help threads. .. Mr. urn. .

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