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At my wits end...
January 30 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
Get of RHP and you'll find a plethora of single men wanting sex and some wanting further zing. OP, in my experience there are a lot of single men on here. In saying the above, if you dont become a paying member on any site, your choices are very very very limited. As a non paying member you cant contact people, which if course is not idea, l if you are seeking pleasures of your own desires. Good luck. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
But you knew that. 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks inspirit, I just go out and meet men....if only I was 35 and slim. Its all good 🍻🍷🍺🍸 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
One of the hardest things to find here,the friend with benefits...xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
You mean to say..... that bloke with a thousand 'friends' hasn't messaged you yet?!! LOL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The only thing I can suggest is to get out in society and meet people in person, and by this I mean go to the sort of parties frequented by RHP peeps, and also muggle/vanilla activities. Most of my best mates I have met through uni, parenting groups, political groups and so forth. I've also met a lot of people of Twitter, as it's an easy way of finding people with like interests. It's a very small jump to suggest a coffee or drink and one's social group starts to expand overnight. Specific to this site I have no answers. I find that the friend with benefits thing always on offer from RHP blokes and is easy to find, although finding the 'right' person or connection is harder. Your profile is clear and friendly, although there's always room for experimentation and perhaps improvement. Wishing you all the very best of luck xxxx Lovebitten xox - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I met people by going to meet and greets when I joined RHP. In saying that, we are lucky in Perth as there are always social activities going on for people who dont have any interest in the swinger parties. It is advertised as "An Adult Dating Site for Swingers and Singles". You could organise an informal singles lunch and put it up on the events pages? Ive met a few great guys on here, I hope your luck changes soon.....just dont be afraid to go out and meet people. (I had zero confidence when I joined RHP?) Good luck xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I feel as though you need to show you are serious/genuine. It would probably help to get your profile verified to prove you are real. Also, pay membership fees which supports the site and allows you to be more proactive to find the guy(s) who suit you best. As a side note, I think its unfortunate that many females say they are lookjng for a FWB and dont want to be clingy, yet they generally don't want honest and open guys in a genuine open relationship who are available for FWB and not just sex. My wife has several FWB's as guys generally don't demand females be unattached to be friends with the benefits. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' I met people by going to meet and greets when I joined RHP. In saying that, we are lucky in Perth as there are always social activities going on for people who dont have any interest in the swinger parties. It is advertised as "An Adult Dating Site for Swingers and Singles". You could organise an informal singles lunch and put it up on the events pages? Ive met a few great guys on here, I hope your luck changes soon.....just dont be afraid to go out and meet people. (I had zero confidence when I joined RHP?) Good luck xx If you rely solely on RHP to meet people you're going to be waiting quite a while unfortunately, though as a woman you do have a bigger net to cast. As Koko said the best way to meet people is to get out to the meets etc and meet people that way. We've personally found messages etc a waste of time. Just our two cents.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Need to try something different, as its insane to keep on doing the same thing but expect a different result. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sure your in the right place ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
that you love sex but your profile doesn't send that message
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your profile stated... "I am not wanting play meets only". So that is completely negating serendipity. When I was younger I was fed up with relationship hassles and failures so I adopted a healthy attitude of just looking for great sex. Hooked up with a great woman who loved fucking, no hassles, no issues, then over a period time we fell in love and married, that is serendipity at its finest. So normal, nice people can actually form a relationship through sex. In fact if the prospective partner is crap in bed then no relationship will develop. Also you have joined a sex site not a relationship site, yes yes I know people here have found partners.......through sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You want to try something different, move to Perth lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a guest your limited to whatever washes up on your beach. As a member you can be more pro active about finding what your looking for. Sitting on your arse and waiting is a waste of time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
So unless I want a fuck only, I can't be here. I am looking for a fwb, I am not wanting a traditional relationship but yes some conversation and connection would be nice..seems that rhp is very clicky and closed group. Enjoy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Where exactly should I be??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
My guestimate is that many of the single guys here aren't really single. Try going to some of the clubs and parties in Brissy like Mike's Place, Chateau Vino, LJ's or SEQSparties.com.au. There is always a range of nice single or FWB guys at these venues, problematic guys just don't get to come back. Guys who aren't single, or aren't allowed to play are not out at swingers clubs or parties on Friday and Saturday nights, so the pool is narrowed. If your worried about jumping into the deep end too fast, swingers clubs and parties are safer venues than vanilla night clubs; people don't grope you, and no means no.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi norush66. I think your name sends the wrong message. For example. A nice guy is checking out profiles , sees your pic and thinks , ok, alright, i'll jump straight on and send a flirt.. But he hesitates, unsure why he quickly realizes. Yes he's over thinking it but yes, he is a man. Anyway, he sees 'norush66' but he comprehends 'try someone else, I have a llot of things on and I'm really not in a hurry to meet you or anyone else66' Could be as simple as a username change. .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ummm....you need to calm down and re read my post, and try to understand it. Did you not understand where serendipity can lead you?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Finding quality fwb's is difficult, no matter where you look. What I like about RHP is that, for the most part, people are open about the experiences and desires, and accepting of others. At least, on a site like this, you can be open about what it is that you are after with (usually!) no judgment from others. Good luck! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Perhaps it might be worth putting a little more info about your interests in your profile. If you're looking for people who would like to spend time with you as a friend, as well as sexually, it might help for them to know what kinds of things you like to do outside the bedroom. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I find rather rude. Who's is anyone to tell another. What It says to me you are passing judgement. It up to the OP, it's her choice to be here. As for single women wanting to meet the opposite sex- go out alone and feel safe?? It's dam hard, not only that it could be unsafe. There's no real "safe" environments for women in the community (as in real life). Titty bars (mainly aimed at males, maybe??), pubs/clubs (seriously, how many women go alone??) Sure there's "adults clubs", realistic how many single women go? Do many single women (I'm talking reality vanilla world here, not knowing anyone) go alone or know of them?? Seriously there is really nothing that mainly caters for "single" women where they can go and feel safe. Hummm maybe I should open one up? Great business opportunity. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Op, I don't think your demands (non-smoker and single) is asking too much. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
A few years ago I joined, when I first moved to Brissy. I went along one night, met some lovely ladies. They sat around talking about Knitting and crocheting. All I could think about was "viginal knitting". So I stuck another iced vovo in my mouth. They were delicious and the only thing I found interesting that evening. Sadly I didn't return. Ms Foxy.
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N4November
10 years ago
In my opinion there is nothing sexual or alluring in your profile... :-( You might as well "as long as you have a pulse ". You need to spell it out for them what it is you are looking for. You're a pretty lady. Validate your profile and pay for a basic membership. Then you can go hunting for what you are looking for yes?! Take some risks and give new experiences a go but always play safe online, phone, in person etc. Good luck! :-D - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Spot on, and great profile by the way. 😍👍
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RHP User
10 years ago
The meet up a swingers club? Sounds a rip off for a few iced vovos lmao - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
For everyone's input. Don't feel I need to let the world know my sexual kinks etc, that is for private chats and I won't be changing my name as I am not going to just fuck anyone so I am in no rush! Rather use my vibe then lower my standards....looking up knitting classes right away ☺ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'norush66' So unless I want a fuck only, I can't be here. I am looking for a fwb, I am not wanting a traditional relationship but yes some conversation and connection would be nice..seems that rhp is very clicky and closed group. Enjoy - Posted from rhpmobile It is not RHP that is a closed and clicky group - I experienced the opposite butting in as a newcomer late last year.. I think friends with benefit is REALLY DIFFICULT TO FIND because we anticipate lot from friends - and that is why they are hard to find...I also notice - having lived overseas- that Australians make their life-long or close friends early in life - preferably prior to finishing uni...if you want to make CLOSE FRIENDS in your late 20s or 30s it is HARD..Aussies make connections, build networks and form friendships but those are not that strong as the ones they made prior to finishing Uni.. I think social_suicide and others before them got it right - just go with the flow. You might have to suspend your dreams for a while and accept an NSA or two (or three etc) until you find that person who is willing to venture into the depths of a FWB...but it does not mean that you cannot be picky who you pick for NSA....just take it for it is - NSA which might or might not proceed further...to FWB.. And go to meet and greets and travel - solo or join group tours to meet other single people... we are out there :) (I am in Xfiles mode today:)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Be a little adventurous with some new profile pics? Not saying you have to get the boobs out, but you can experiment with different shots and see if that gets things moving in another direction with contact for you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Looks great
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
from reading the above.Become a member and start searching and messaging carefully.That would be your different thing to do.You may have to go through a few meets though, to find the FWB where you both click.But least you will get some sex in the process. Win Win?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' As for single women wanting to meet the opposite sex- go out alone and feel safe?? It's dam hard, not only that it could be unsafe. There's no real "safe" environments for women in the community (as in real life). Titty bars (mainly aimed at males, maybe??), pubs/clubs (seriously, how many women go alone??) Sure there's "adults clubs", realistic how many single women go? Do many single women (I'm talking reality vanilla world here, not knowing anyone) go alone or know of them?? Seriously there is really nothing that mainly caters for "single" women where they can go and feel safe. Hummm maybe I should open one up? Great business opportunity. Ms Foxy ....you are onto something there Foxy Fox, go for it !!!
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
No. It was the web site "Meet up". I almost chocked on the ice vovo. I like your new pic. :) Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm a quintessential Scorpio and time and again, I find myself forced into a corner and having to question my values and beliefs, and undergo some sort of re-education or regeneration. Changing mindsets and challenging value systems one has grown up with and upheld for the most part of one's life can be one of the toughest things to embark upon. That said, having come out of a recent failed relationship, I took the time to recover from it and then decided to go on a journey of discovery and learn from others who are happily living a lifestyle that is different from mine. I have learnt so much from reading the comments in this forum and sometimes, it's like a whole new world is unravelling in front of my eyes. OP, like yourself, I am also looking for a FWB. But truth be told, when I look back, I actually had two long-term FWB's and those relationships unravelled only because I decided to live free, forget about my conventional restraints for that moment, and just "go with the flow" and enjoy the sex. It was tough initially because I'd enjoy the sex, and then I'd have this "Madonna vs the Whore" guilt. However, because I am highly sexed, I couldn't resist the good, frequent sex and caved in to my animal desires. And to my surprise, I ended up with an FWB relationship that became a partner relationship that lasted seven years! It was mostly held together by awesome and very frequent sex because we both had high libidos. We weren't compatible and we were as different as night and day. But never underestimate the power of sex! I find that deprived of sex, I get super grumpy and unhappy and I could start wars Game of Thrones style. (Hehe! :P) But, with regular sex, the world goes round, it takes much more to antagonise me, and I walk with a lighter step knowing that I've been fucked good, and another good fuck is just round the corner! My second FWB relationship lasted three years. Once again, I was consumed by my raging hormones because I had been celibate for bloody nine years because I was of the opinion that unless I was in a relationship, I won't have sex. Well, fat lot of good that did me! I chose a decent man I met from a dating website. We weren't compatible, again, but because I almost went insane with sexual desire, I asked him if he would consider being my Fuck Buddy. And of course, he said yes! So we decided to break my drought with a dirty weekend in a secluded countryside cottage and it was OMG mind-blowing sex... and more sex... and even more sex! Suddenly, the clouds lifted and the world seemed brighter! What social suicide said is so true. Sometimes, we just have to let go, and see where the currents take us. With my two FWB relationships, they were with guys I wouldn't have dated because they didn't tick my boxes. But I suppose with guys, awesome sex oils the gears to their emotional gates and helps them open up. After being tortured in a bf-gf relationship recently where the man had sexual issues aplenty and couldn't deliver the goods, I can tell you that it is sheer torture to remain faithful in a sexless relationship. I remained faithful to my ex bf because I cannot fathom cheating and breaking his heart, but it was sheer hell for me to be hit on and to have to reject ardent men for someone with so many sexual dysfunction issues. So OP, try to just go with the flow. Most women possess a very good "6th sense" about things so if someone gives you a good vibe, and turns you on, roll with it. Sometimes, men who rock our world do not have to tick all the right boxes! I'm still learning, still on an adventure of self-discovery. I recently pissed a man off because I was worried about whether I was just going to be a one-night stand or an FWB. I made a New Year resolution to live free and release my grip on things and within the first three weeks, have completely broken that resolve! LOL!!! I still feel a tad sad because he would have been a great lover but oh well, if a man isn't patient enough to help this Scorpio shed her armour, then it isn't meant to be! We live, we love, we get hurt, we move on. All the best, OP! I'm a kindred spirit on the same path!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wasn't suggesting that you tell everyone all about your sexual kinks - kms big fan of keeping a few things private. ;-) But what about a bit more info about what you like to do? If the "friend" part of an FWB is the hardest thing to find, a few points in your profile about what you like to spend your time out of the bedroom on might be helpful. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nice new pics, showing a sexy side whilst remaining classy. Excellent choice. Good luck.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think most of us on here have at times wondered why someone or more people are not showing interest in us. The reality is first visual impressions do count, and we aren't all immediately attracted to everyone. The risk is of course we miss chatting and meeting with someone who could have been just what we are looking for, but that's life. It's a bit of a numbers game at times. My advice, hang in there, stay positive and enjoy the challenge which is human relationships. Good luck in your search. P.S. Beautiful new photos
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RHP User
10 years ago
Perhaps change the wording in your profile as it does come across as a little "needy". Be positive :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi darling, I found some of the RHP community very clique-y too so from an outsiders point of view after looking at your profile... it seems a little serious, maybe make it a bit less intimidating, it reads like you want to find a FWB who will take you on dates? If you just want sex which I've found a lot of guys on here want, then you will have a bit more luck. With that said, I've received numerous messages from gentlemen who did want to wine and dine, I had to say no as that isnt what I'm looking for. Those guys are there somewhere, just keep looking!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'goldengirl12' Hi darling, I found some of the RHP community very clique-y too so from an outsiders point of view after looking at your profile... it seems a little serious, maybe make it a bit less intimidating, it reads like you want to find a FWB who will take you on dates? If you just want sex which I've found a lot of guys on here want, then you will have a bit more luck. With that said, I've received numerous messages from gentlemen who did want to wine and dine, I had to say no as that isnt what I'm looking for. Those guys are there somewhere, just keep looking! __________________________________________________________________________________________________ Do such gentlemen exist and lurk on this site? They aren't elusive? They aren't a mirage? Maybe I should go get me one of them compasses that points North for Gentlemen and South for sleazebags. LOL!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Do such gentlemen exist and lurk on this site? For 28 yo women, yes they probably do exist here.Sorry but, that's life
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Quoting 'goldengirl12' Hi darling, I found some of the RHP community very clique-y too so from an outsiders point of view after looking at your profile... it seems a little serious, maybe make it a bit less intimidating, it reads like you want to find a FWB who will take you on dates? If you just want sex which I've found a lot of guys on here want, then you will have a bit more luck. With that said, I've received numerous messages from gentlemen who did want to wine and dine, I had to say no as that isnt what I'm looking for. Those guys are there somewhere, just keep looking! __________________________________________________________________________________________________ Do such gentlemen exist and lurk on this site? They aren't elusive? They aren't a mirage? Maybe I should go get me one of them compasses that points North for Gentlemen and South for sleazebags. LOL!!! Yes. They do exist, most definitely. A lot more than you think. Lol. I love it! I think if we are quite specific with what we want, the men who read it and are attracted to women who know what they want will definitely take up the offer of fwb, regardless of their age. I find these type of men very interesting and i like talking to them about what makes them tick and what excites them. I think there are still lots of smart sexy men out there who like the idea of seduction and some outside fun like dinners, drinks in a funky bar, etc, before some naughty romp in the bedroom. I am very happy to have met these gentlemen and makes for more interesting friendships.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Do such gentlemen exist and lurk on this site? They aren't elusive? They aren't a mirage? Maybe I should go get me one of them compasses that points North for Gentlemen and South for sleazebags. LOL!!! Just warning you that that the compass always ends up pointing south. I can play the sophisticated, urban, witty, charming gentlemen for a while but really under it all I'm just a dirty old pervert who wants to get into (or even just close to) your pants!!!
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