Etiquette around asking someone at a sex club back to our hotel

October 06 2024

My husband and I have decided to attend a bi-curious event at our local swingers club. We’ve been on the verge of arranging our first mmf threesome for some time now but something always gets in the way and really,,we’re in no rush.
Also, in our discussions around boundaries etc, we’ve agreed for our first visit to only play with each other while we suss out the scene.
We’ve assumed that we’ll be fairly damn horny by the end of the evening and we were wondering if it’s ever the done thing to invite a guy back to our hotel afterwards or is this completely frowned upon?

Comments

  • NeoAndTrin

    NeoAndTrin

    a month ago

    I think you're good hey.

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    a month ago

    It’s a huge step between playing with someone at an event your already at enjoying and inviting someone back to your place imo, but the worst they could do if you asked is say thanks but no thanks ,

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    a month ago

    Kinda the point of the event.... One of anyway 😜

  • CachelessSociety

    CachelessSociety

    a month ago

    It sounds like you are still figuring out if you just want to play with each other (the boundary) or potentially bring another male into the mix during your first visit.

    If the right male does come along on your first visit, you are both feeling it and there are spaces to play at the swingers club, why not play there?

  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    a month ago

    We used to attend events regularly. We actually preferred to play at home . We found the event a great place to meet likeminded people that we were both attracted to . We always asked a guy and occasionally a woman back to ours . We met some amazing people that way and we feel very grateful to have met some fabulous people at events .
    Good luck . We hope you have the best time . We found it best to go with no expectations and see what eventuates .
    The short answer to your question from our perspective is , it’s definitely not rude to ask a guy back . We definitely think it’s the way to go .
    Ax

  • peter196921

    peter196921

    a month ago

    If you are all comfortable, yes it is, I have been to a few events and the couples asked, I would have to say, if the guy is spending time chatting to you he would be very interested ☺️

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    a month ago

    Same 😀

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    a month ago

    I’ve met some lovely friends at bi events. There aren’t any rules about taking home a keeper.

  • inquisitivepair

    inquisitivepair

    12 days ago

    How did you find the event? We have been thinking the same about attending and plying together only as well