The Single Female's Guide To Being A Unicorn

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The elusive Unicorn that is every couple's ultimate fantasy...

A unicorn is a bisexual female who is down to hooking up with couples for a threesome.

Why would any female want to be with another couple? For many reasons, the few we can think of are self-awareness, sexual empowerment and a more satisfying sexual experience.

Think you might be a good fit for a unicorn relationship? Here's a helpful guide on everything you need to know about being a unicorn in the swinging community.

Know what you want

What is your threesome fantasy? Is it MFM, FMF, FF? Once you decide what your fantasy is, think about your rules of the game. Be honest about your boundaries, don't just accept the first invitation without getting to know the couple’s needs as well as your own.

As a single woman, you get to be pretty selective about whom you play with. Seriously, take your time finding a suitable couple. It’s worth the wait. Clarity is crucial when three people are involved. Everybody's needs and wants should be met.

Communicate your role/fantasy

Couples seek out unicorns for various reasons, most commonly for threesomes, but also to venture into the polyamorous scene or as a step towards opening their relationship. Ideally, the unicorn will be bisexual or bi-curious, not looking for romantic attachment, and available at the couple’s discretion. The important thing for the couple is that the unicorn poses no threat to the relationship.

In saying that, you also must communicate to the couple your needs, desires and boundaries. You might be fulfilling a fantasy of theirs, but you're not there to serve. Unless, that's the specific dynamic you want, even then make that clear too.

Be ready to speak up if anything happens that you do not like. It's absolutely vital that everyone involved feels safe and respected throughout the encounter.

You don’t have to be a model

Single females are highly desirable in most of the swinger communities. The assumption would be that the younger and more attractive you are the more attention you will receive, but that is not the case entirely. As long as you make an effort with your appearance, have a strong, sexy confidence, and you are comfortable in your own skin, you are going to be in high demand.

Do it for yourself

Joining a couple as a unicorn is an exhilarating experience that allows you the flexibility, freedom, and sexual satisfaction without the traditional commitments of a ‘normal’ relationship. It also gives you the chance to explore your own sexuality with the sex you may be more attracted to. 

Finding the right couple

Use RHP to find and interact with couples. Go to parties, clubs, get to know couples. You will meet like-minded people at these venues and couples that you play with will also introduce you to other couples they know and trust.

 Interpret emotions

Since you’ll likely be dealing with a couple, you need to pay attention to each of their needs simultaneously. You need to be intuitive enough to pick up on facial expressions, body language, tone and even eye movement that might signal discomfort, concern or hesitation.

Go with the flow

It is best to find couples that are actively looking to explore the lifestyle. To take the pressure off, meet up for a drink and see if you hit it off. Then meet up again for sex, if not, no hard feelings. This schedule gives the couple and the unicorn time to honestly assess how they feel about each other.  

Ultimately, communication and honesty are the two most important ingredients to a successful unicorn experience. Once you’ve sorted those things out, you can focus on how crazy hot the experience will be. Exploring our sexual fantasies allows us to develop a self-awareness that makes us all better, healthier and sexier partners. 

Are there any more tips you'd like to add to help other female unicorns have the best experiences every time? Let us know in the comments below.

Author's Corner

Christina Miller
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Writing interesting pieces about sex, the lifestyle and the different aspects of human sexuality is a challenge that Christina will endeavour to take. When she’s not blogging, she loves to exercise, watch movies and go to the beach whenever she can.

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Posted: May, 11 2019
Throuple- best relations had!!! Unicorn looking to meet couples, looking to explore a throuple
Posted: Mar, 24 2019
Wow i like this
Posted: Feb, 28 2019
Hey love for a chat
Posted: Feb, 21 2019
Omg yes!! I felt like this.
Posted: Jan, 23 2019
Single female...... very curious
Posted: Jan, 01 2019
If you find it tell us ???? Hahahaha
Posted: Jan, 01 2019
That’s so true
Posted: Jan, 01 2019
We are a nice fun young couple looking for a unicorn ?? ??
Posted: Dec, 27 2018
My partner is new to this but has expressed an interest in making love to a woman while i watch see has a submissive side to her that she llkes to explore in the bedroom when we talk about it she is nervous but excited at the same time she likes the thought of being out her comfort zone but having the security of having me near
Posted: Dec, 27 2018
My partner is new to this but has expressed an interest in making love to a woman while i watch see has a submissive side to her that she llkes to explore in the bedroom when we talk about it she is nervous but excited at the same time she likes the thought of being out her comfort zone but having the security of having me near
Posted: Dec, 24 2018
My partner and I thought we had the ultimate unicorn! She unfortunately fell in love with me which brought its own problems between me and my partner which we managed to keep under control between us, but for some unknown reason she then decided to go beyond the boundaries of the arrangement the three of us had in place and seduced my partner when they were on their own - then blamed him saying that he coerced her by threatening to break up the threesome if she didn’t comply. My partner and I are still together, but be careful who you invite into your lives and your home there are some emotionally dangerous people out there - she is one of them.
Posted: Dec, 20 2018
Growing up and as a young seemingly happily married wife , well its not something i thought i would ever lust for. Put a few years on that and a philandering husband and more particularly an adventurous and loving best friend, her bed and her husband. Need i say more
Posted: Dec, 16 2018
Be prepared for the post sex let down. Different, hot... rolling orgasms... being with him, being with her, being between them, watching them f*ck. Incredible. Then you go home alone and because you are the extra for the couple it seems strangely disconnected. Fun thrills but needs a good emotional base. Yes, I'd do it again.
Posted: Dec, 16 2018
I want to be a unicorn ??
Posted: Dec, 16 2018
Thanks sw1ng3r. For the record the sexless marriage was my partner and her ex hubby so that's been well and truly addressed. She left him 3 yrs ago. Now that she's with me she's discovered a whole world of pleasure she never knew existed. And I just want her to have a good time and make up for all the yrs she endured married to the wrong person. I have no interest in getting a massage or playing with some other woman, all my wild oats were sown yrs ago and I'm over all that. Being here is all about her pleasure not mine. But I do like the idea of getting her a stripper, hadn't thought of that. Thanks for the idea :) x
Posted: Dec, 15 2018
We have played with a few uni corns it’s best to be upfront with what everyone wants sexually ... as most uni corns are looking to explore the bi curious side ... So if it’s more about spoiling your (male) partner with a girl best to be clear and upfront honesty and communication... we did have a uni corn who became to attached to Mr so need to be mindful she may also develop feelings.. other than that we enjoyed our unicorns and would do it again X
Posted: Dec, 15 2018
We are relatively new to the lifestyle but before we dipped our toes we tested the green eyed monster. I got hubby an erotic massage with a happy ending and he got me a stripper (with the hands on upgrade). Was a good way for us to see how we would be with another couple/person.... if I was you I would address the sexless marriage before inviting someone else into the bedroom though....
Posted: Dec, 15 2018
From what I’ve (Elric) seen unicorns tend to become overconfident seeking the best of the best whilst forgetting who will treat them well vs who has the nicest curves. Actions speak louder than silver tongues. Unicorns or those wanting to become, look past delicious curves and see the people for what they are, see who will treat you well and for the love of god drop the ridiculous ego that comes with being “in demand”.
Posted: Dec, 14 2018
Life is short dream big
Posted: Dec, 14 2018
We're new to this site and not sure if this is for us. My gf is bi curious but has never acted on it having been in a sexless marriage for many yrs. If a unicorn were to join us I have no desire of having intercourse with her but I'd be ok with giving her oral. It's mostly about my gf and another woman enjoying each other. What Innocentfun posted worries us. Does it have to turn sour? How can we know we won't regret this? Any thoughts or perhaps another article addressing this question would be most welcome. Thanks everyone.
Posted: Dec, 14 2018
We're looking for a unicorn mainly for her. If the right person came along she'd love to have an ongoing girlfriend to compliment what we already have. If she likes playing with me too then all the merrier x
Posted: Dec, 13 2018
Fun for a while then turns sour. Trust me I’ve lived it
Posted: Dec, 13 2018
Stopped being a unicorn with couples as it seemed to be very one sided mainly to the benefit of the male partner, most ladies are curious only and very unsure of playing, like receiving but don’t like giving.
Posted: Dec, 13 2018
The whole concept of the unicorn is because a woman looking to play alone with a cple is very rare, a male on other hand isn't so rare so your just a single guy ??
Posted: Dec, 13 2018
@eaglesglory the correct term for a reliable single male looking to join a couple for a mfm is called a manihorn
Posted: Dec, 13 2018
I’m a single straight female, am I a unicorn too?
Posted: Dec, 13 2018
If a female with threesomes is a Unicorn, what is a male with threesomes?
Posted: Dec, 13 2018
Being a couple that does not often go out to clubs etc, it is hard to meet these ‘unicorns’! Being from a small state like Tasmania, it makes it difficult to know where to go to meet and greet etc!

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