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The Do's and Don'ts of Hot Oral SexOral sex. It's an amazing foreplay technique, a major turn-on, a great appetizer to sex, or a full-course all...

Rebecca Daniels | July 11 2020

The Do's and Don'ts of Hot Oral Sex

Oral sex. It's an amazing foreplay technique, a major turn-on, a great appetizer to sex, or a full-course all on its own. Whether you give it or receive it, it is an extremely arousing and intimate way to interact with your partner's body.

But there are rules... if you want to ensure it's pleasurable for everyone involved, that is (and of course, you do, right?).

Want to make going down a real treat? Here are some tips and tricks, and some traps to avoid!

Do Know Your Anatomy

It is important to know and understand your partner’s nether regions. And it is a region, even when it comes to oral sex. Think of it as a map.

In that case, the first thing to know is that there is a lot more ground to cover than just their clitoris or shaft. If you understand how to work with the whole area - and even the whole body - you'll be on your way to giving much better oral stimulation.


The labia minora and majora (inner and outer lips) are both sensitive to stimulation, as are the nerve endings at the entrance of the vagina. Flicking your tongue and sucking these areas will make your partner's toes curl. 

And of course, the clitoris is key. Just don't go there first, OK? 


The frenulum (underside of the head of the penis), the corona (the ridge of the head) and the urethral opening are extremely sensitive. Giving this area some extra time and attention will leave your partner begging for more.


The perineum (the space between the vaginal opening and anus, or the scrotum and anus) is sensitive to stimulation and can be stimulated by mouth or manually. Stimulating this area is a way to stimulate the G-spot in vulva-owners and the prostate in penis-havers.

The best (and most fun) way to discover the body is to explore it, so test out some new techniques from time to time and see how your partner responds. You and your partner may be surprised to find all the hidden pleasure zones you didn't even know about.

Don't Forget Technique

Oral sex (great oral sex anyway) involves more than just using the tongue for stimulation. You should use the entire mouth: the lips, the teeth (only by request) and the entire tongue - not just the tip, but the ridge and surface as well.

Alternating between using different parts of the mouth in different combinations will always keep your partner guessing about what you’ve got up your sleeve next.

Do Communicate

One of the simplest things you can do for better sex is communicate with your partner. We're not saying to stop in the middle of oral sex and ask your partner for a performance review. But it's always good to check in with your partner after the act and ask if there's anything you can do better.

If your partner is going down on you, make sure to tell them what you like and don't like as well. If they're missing the spot, tell them higher or lower, left or right, softer or harder, faster or slower. Assuming you partner cares about your pleasure and experience, they'll be more than happy to have some guidance!

Humans aren't mind readers. We have to talk about sex to get better at sex!

Do Keep It Neat and Clean

It's always a considerate measure to make sure that your genital area is clean before oral sex, especially if your partner or yourself are new to oral sex and find the act a bit intimidating.

By keeping it clean, we really just mean clean your folds and trim your pubes, people.

Genitals are never going to smell or taste like freshly baked cookies (and they shouldn't!). Vaginas smell and taste like vaginas, and penises smell and taste like penises.

Just take care to ensure your privates are somewhere you and your partner want to go!

Don't Forget a Few Extras

You can accompany and highlight oral sex by using other methods of foreplay. Analingus, better known as "rimming" or "salad tossing" is a great pairing to oral sex.

You can also combine penetration using your fingers or sex toys to add to the stimulation. Toys can also give your mouth a bit of a break without taking away from the pleasure.

Choose the types of toys you love! Be creative.

The only limit to oral sex is your imagination. And, um, possibly your flexibility.


What are your favourite oral sex moves to use and have used on you? Let us know below on the comments!


  • Mr_Smith1

    21 Aug 2020

    Everyone’s different

  • Sexy_Perth

    16 Aug 2020

    I do you like to look in the man’s eyes. Run my fingers and nails up his chest. I also love to have my breath blocked by his cock as a lean my head back over the bed and take it all deep in my throat. Probably my favourite thing is to be on my knees with him holding my hair as I look in his eyes crying from choking, him pulling my hair and thrusting his cock into my mouth. 😊😊

  • itsjustforfunRHP

    03 Aug 2020

    I like to look in there eyes and see if i am doing it ok as there eyes show it, i also love to make love to there cocks and balls not just sucking, and they love it when i tell them i want to swallow there cum, which ladies is very healthy for us with all the minerals in it. Tested it at uni in the lab.

  • MRmr222

    03 Aug 2020

    These are all great tips however, a circumcised penis has little to no feeling around the head or pee hole haha, for me the most sensitive areas is underneath of the shaft, running a tongue up and down the shaft will Make some guys eyes roll backwards in a good way, attention to the balls(Sucking) and having a good grip whilst stroking.

  • bhowa93

    31 Jul 2020

    Having your head on the penis sucked while getting a hand job/balls massaged. Doesn’t get any better

  • SilverValentina

    13 Jul 2020

    Men really love it when you look into their eyes while you are pleasuring them. It's a real mind teaser.

  • shucksta

    12 Jul 2020

    Once the train is well and truly rollin' along nicely, tongue action (twistin', twirlin', tuggin'...basically anything with T..) combined with suction ...hold on tight ....and whatever you do...when she says..."Don't stop!!" _not_ stop..even for breath.

  • miss_polly

    11 Jul 2020

    I like moving a finger down and rubbing their asshole gently while I suck their cock. Doesn't take long to know whether they are into this or not. You can usually tell if they are into a cheeky finger pretty easily

  • XxxSmurf

    11 Jul 2020

    The clit is the womans equivalent of the penis head. So after you've warmed her up use your fingers to gain as much access to it and use your tounge like she does. Twirl it around, flick it, lap at it, and make sure you suck on it, gently at first of course. And don't forget your fingers free hand where you can and finish with your fingers rubbing hard on her Gspot

  • N4November

    10 Jul 2020

    When you love what you do, they'll know it and that in itself is sexy as fuck!!

  • Powercouplevic

    10 Jul 2020

    Mrs P loves it when I suck her clit into my mouth and then use my tongue simultaneously to lick her clit as I’m sucking her clit into my mouth .... always using my hands on her body at the same time trying to simulate more than one person is focused on her 😘