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Meet The Unicorn, A Unique Attendee At Every Swingers PartyIn the swinging scene, unicorns are solo females who go to sex parties on their own...

RedHotPie Editor | May 15 2020

Meet The Unicorn, A Unique Attendee At Every Swingers Party

They're rare and highly sought after. 

According to fairy tales, unicorns are mythical creatures that everybody has heard of, but nobody has seen. In the swinging scene, unicorns are solo females who go to sex parties and swingers’ clubs on their own. They arrive alone, they leave alone and just like their mythical counterparts, their scarcity makes them highly sort after.

Unicorns admit that even people in the swinging community are surprised when a single female arrives by herself at a sex party.

Lucy* is a mid-30's professional, who was married for 10 years “I always wanted to explore things like swinging and pegging when I was married, but my husband wasn't keen. When I got divorced, I met a guy on a dating site who was into the swinging community. He took me to a party and straight away I realised, these are my people, this is what I had been looking for, it was fantastic, I was hooked."

Lucy admits that her first sex party started just like any other party. “There were about 12 couples in a serviced apartment, there was Jatz and cheese and dips. People were standing around making small talk and having drinks, then after about half an hour, a couple of the girls yelled out ‘let’s get started’. So a few couples moved to a bedroom and started getting it on with each other, then some more people joined in. By the end of the night, everyone was naked and having sex with each other”

Since then Lucy has been a proud unicorn, going to sex clubs by herself or being the third wheel in threesomes. "It's just more exciting by yourself, you don't have to worry about what your partner's doing if they're happy or being taken care of. It’s great to be able to pick and choose who I play with and who plays with me. Being a unicorn I always make sure I play with the hottest couple".

"A lot of people comment that it must be really empowering walking into a room where everybody wants you, buts its actually the other way around, I do it because I am empowered. It’s something that I enjoy doing and I have enough confidence and I'm comfortable enough to be able to put myself out there" Lucy added.

Louise* also considers herself a unicorn even though she is still married. “About ten years ago, I found myself alone as a single mum with two young children as my partner travelled overseas for work nine months of the year. My sex life was restricted to watching porn and using a vibrator when the children slept. I didn't want to get into the complexities of having an affair, but I missed the adult company. My partner suggested I go to a sex club as we both agreed it was safer emotionally and physically."

It's not just guys that Louise is attracted to when she goes out alone "I am polysexual, so I am attracted to people rather than a specific sex. If I am playing with a couple, it doesn’t matter how nice he is, I have to connect with her as well. If I'm playing with a single guy, then he can’t take himself too seriously, make me laugh and make me feel like I'm the only woman in the room, and you’re halfway there. Sometimes for fun, I will see a couple playing together and if I catch her eye and I can see she is interested, I will just walk up and start kissing her. His reaction is usually jaw-dropping, especially if they are new to the scene."

Even though Louise loves being a unicorn, she doesn’t always fly solo. “I have more interaction as a solo. As soon as couples and other singles notice I’m solo they come and say hi, but I don’t feel any pressure from the people I meet as I’m 100% in control. I also meet some awesome people and make great friends. Occasionally my husband will come along if I ask him. He loves the cuckold experience, so he is more likely to say yes if the event is not for couples only.”

So would Louise ever go back to a vanilla relationship? “Yes, absolutely, I enjoy the community and I love being a unicorn with the full support of my partner. Without that support and encouragement, the magic wouldn’t exist and would likely be replaced by jealousy and there would be nothing sexy about that.”

“The swinging community has taught me many things; Firstly confidence – the perfect body doesn’t exist outside of magazines, so except mine, as it is, take it or leave it. Unicorns are unique within the community and I've enjoyed the confidence that has brought me. Secondly, never to expect others to know what I want or what I am into. I tell them what I want, how to do it and what I don’t want. I find they really appreciate this inside track and that way I avoid bad sex. Here’s an example – my breasts are very sensitive. Treat them with care and I will get really turned on, start squeezing, prodding or chewing and I am going to want to flatten you and not have sex with you.”

When Louise tells people she is a Unicorn, it usually comes with a lot of misconceptions and judgment, “People think we are sex maniacs or predatory female marriage wrecker. Sure, we like good sex, but we love the interaction and friends we make as well.”


Have you crossed paths with the fabled unicorn? Have you unicorn'd yourself? Hit us up in the comments below!


  • cplfrmmng

    17 Oct 2022

    Any phuket here?

  • MRcasual88

    04 May 2022

    New to all this I'm from Sydney just looking for fun.

  • Dannyking311

    15 Jan 2021

    Hey I love to eat girls

  • sensualsavana

    19 Nov 2020

    57 something Unicorn Southern Perth region. Msg me if you are keen.🥂🥂

  • fletchergayluv4u

    28 Sep 2020

    I'm here

  • rush72

    08 Aug 2020

    Hi, I’m single and been wanting to venture into a more adventurous sex life; unfortunately I’m so nervous that I haven’t met up with anyone in the near year if been in this site.... argh! How do I take the plunge? I’d like to see a good swingers club, definitely FF & FFM are what I’m wanting... I just can’t quite step out.... so, I’m looking for someone to help me take that first step, nurture, guide & encourage me in the journey (for the start of it till I find my feet)... then hopefully I find my people ... xxxx

  • casalafonsoau

    18 Jul 2020

    we are looking for unicorns, a beautiful and sexy girl, for the region of brisbane, gold cost, or sunshine coast

  • Morethanone69

    04 Jul 2020

    Would love to meet a unicorn in the Newcastle area. I(f) am available as a solo female for couples locally too. Does that make me a unicorn too? All this labelling!

  • JoeLiKori

    04 Jul 2020

    Thank you! That was very informative! Demystifying what a unicorn 🦄 is and understand some depth of their ways

  • Megs77

    01 Jul 2020

    Looking to join in in mackay area. Anyone help me out?

  • lilmisst

    23 Jun 2020

    Looking to join a hetero couple in darwin area 🦄

  • Covians

    21 Jun 2020

    Seeking unicorn in the Wollongong area....hit us up for a chat

  • bigmogo

    09 Jun 2020

    Looking for a good fuck

  • gazpacho

    06 Jun 2020

    Oh wow! I think we’ve met before?

  • HolyFunk

    05 Jun 2020

    I turned my old Mercedes into a Unicorn one with a suction capped dildo

  • shylilslut

    04 Jun 2020

    Reminds me of my early days at Perth's Pleasure Lounge 😉😊

  • moyspeed

    04 Jun 2020

    Hey how are very one

  • Naughtycpl69RHP

    03 Jun 2020


  • Naughtycpl69RHP

    03 Jun 2020

    Wtf mate

  • Pinkypie

    02 Jun 2020

    I have been a unicorn and loved it, and didn't realise it was so rare! Now that I'm trying to find one for my partner and I, I am realising that it's even more difficult to find than I thought.

  • 4nmore

    30 May 2020

    A few years ago we attended a group party and met a lady who was there with her brother. He didn't play , he was just there as a minder more than anything else. It was a little weird but she certainly enjoyed herself several times with different people including us. There are always plenty of guys wanting to attend parties so in this world of equal rights why shouldn't some ladies want to attend and have a good time too.

  • Unicorn123

    25 May 2020

    Please just play nice folks! We are not hear to be abused and fyi not stupid!

  • sweetnsensual

    22 May 2020

    We have met quite a few beautiful women and have remained friends with them over the last few years. We treat them like people with respect and friendship!

  • sparkledaisy

    22 May 2020

    I love being a unicorn! I get to play with all my friends partners with no comeback. And most in our friend circle too. Fun times

  • kevirish

    21 May 2020

    Where r the best clubs to meet these lovely ladies when things open up again in Melbourne

  • beautifulcouple1

    19 May 2020

    We are looking for 🦄, we’ve been lucky enough to have two ladies in our bed but we didn’t have the chance to build a friendship with them. Also, seems hard to meet girls on RHP, in most cases they ask for naked pictures and if we don’t provide they disappear. Female unicorn around Perth don’t hesitate to contact us.

  • sweetnsensual

    18 May 2020

    Have had two visits by unicorns on the weekend who we have formed ongoing friendhips with . Beautiful people and lovers.

  • 1_Naughty_Couple

    17 May 2020

    There is plenty of them out there finding the one that suits now there lies a hole new puzzle on it's own. She needs to be attacked to both and feel wanted by both especially by the female of the couple. That's what we have found anyway. Neither the less they a are truly marvellous creatures and we have had some great experiences with some amazing ladies. Love them all but it would be nice to end that search😘

  • blondie77

    17 May 2020

    🙋‍♀️ 🦄.

  • maltalian0

    17 May 2020

    I have met a unicorn at a kik party once. She basically told me she was a unicorn. I mentioned how impressed I was and was turned on to see such an empowering women and had full respect for her. She loved my attitude and said that was not at all what most guys think or react. After a few drinks and chatting I then got invited back to a secret after party. She was unbelievable. We both had a great time. She played with all the couples and other single guys. Was a fantastic experience. It was like I was her casual cuckold for the night. He he

  • horny26a

    17 May 2020

    I've lived the unicorn life for around 5yrs now and im quite certain I've found my calling. I'd like to find a supportive partner who would except it and be part of it with me but to be honest that's easier said than done. Lol

  • KissUsNow

    17 May 2020

    I guess you could say we met a unicorn at a party. The 3 of us clicked amazingly and ended all falling in love. Coming up to 12 months together as a throuple.

  • sydney_tradie

    16 May 2020

    Been lucky enough to be a male unicorn sometimes

  • cymbeline

    16 May 2020

    We no longer get invites to swinging Parties things are much quieter in Canberra than thirty years ago,then Mr Cymbeline visited a Party overlooking Lake George and there were actually two of these rare Beasts,friends,both divorcees in their late thirties...both very pleasant and obliging Ladies,he remembers water in the Lake then,just as rare a phenomena LOL.

  • funways

    16 May 2020

    We would love to meet a unicorn

  • ajaussie

    16 May 2020

    I have been regular to some parties and find single women there coming for fun. All are good and they mingle with each other well and there’s no prasuti at all form anyone to play or so. And in the end we all end up having a good time.

  • Johnislooking

    16 May 2020

    We have met several lovely unicorns on this site. We prefer dinner rather than a swingers party as it is more intimate.

  • teamaj2

    16 May 2020

    We love unicorns . We prefer single males or single females to a couple . For us attraction mentally and physically for ALL of us is important . The other persons wants,needs and boundaries are just as important as ours . We’ve also found at events many female unicorns . Understandably it is safe way to meet like minded people . Single males are more the rarity sadly .

  • busty_temptress

    16 May 2020

    I feel that single women at swingers parties aren’t rare at all and definitely on the increase. Parties I go to easily have over 5-10 single ladies inc me! ....and single ladies also look for single ladies & men, there’s less pressure and issues, it’s just not all about couples!

  • badboyhere

    16 May 2020

    I’m a male unicorn. Start the crickets chirping in the background. Well if anybody likes a male unicorn message me. In Brisbane area

  • Subswitch13

    16 May 2020

    I can't seem to find a couple that's right for me 😔

  • 3SM_Events

    16 May 2020

    Funnily enough we find it a lot harder trying to get single guys to come along to our parties. The single women have never been a problem nor are they that rare tbh.

  • GingerNinjer

    15 May 2020

    Single females not so hot, bi couples make the tee

  • Zulu889

    15 May 2020

    Believe us... finding the right single guy is just as hard! #maleunicorn

  • LivelyLadybird

    15 May 2020

    I recall my first swingers party and couples experience, quite popular being the single girl 🦄

  • LivelyLadybird

    15 May 2020

    I recall my first swingers party....quite popular being a confident single girl. 🦄

  • Beingjustme

    15 May 2020

    How do i start my first move to that life?

  • h20oo

    15 May 2020

    I’ve shied away from the term unicorn. Sure I have the ability to make some fantasy’s come alive , As a reasonably attractive promiscuous naughty female -The best part = I come free of baggage and drama. But from my view, I’ve occasionally felt like a Piece of meat in a couples fantasy, which has made me put couples on the back Burner for a bit. Ppl become so focus on finding a unicorn they forget that we r real ppl as well. It’s about exploring everyone’s fantasy’s, and experience sexual satisfaction and friendships amongst a group of like minded ppl. We’re certainly not out to steal your man or your wife in some cases. Therefore I throughly enjoy meeting couples on a even playing field like a swingers club, where I have the opportunity to meet couples that are conscious that my needs r just as valid as theirs. We’re all their for a good time, and the friendships formed are just like the cherry on the cake 💕

  • Cassabella

    15 May 2020

    New to it and loving it! 💃

  • MissKink

    15 May 2020

    Another unicorn here ❤️