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How to host an amazing Sex PartyThrow a sex party and create a night of erotic freedom your guests will think about for a long time... ...

Christina Miller | September 07 2017

How to host an amazing Sex Party

Have you ever thought of throwing your own sex party? 


Maybe you have, so here's a little guide to throwing your own sex party and create a night of erotic freedom your guests will not forget.


The best sex parties, start out just like any other parties with a selective number of people enjoying drinks, music and chatting, but end up turning into a sex party.

Sex parties are fun to host because you'll run them exactly like you think they should and you get to invite the people you consider fun.


So here are a few things to remember before hosting a sex party....


1. Have a suitable theme



What your guests wear sets the mood to the party. Ogling and eye candy are the cornerstones to any great party. Satisfy that visual appetite and the night will eventuate to the delights it promised. So your best bet is to choose a theme for your party. Think something sexy and not too hard to organise, especially if guests decide to come last minute.

Dress up themes like lingerie party, pool party,Tonga party, White party and so on are great themes but for most people a bit elaborate. They require more planning and time to organise and maybe left for bigger scale parties. 


2. Think sexy and not sex




A sex party isn't necessarily strictly only about sex, it's so much more. It's about decadence, seduction, freedom of sexual expression. Make sure guests don’t feel like sex is the only reason to party or in any way required. They can choose to drink cocktails in a sexually charged environment, make out or go all the way out, wherever the mood takes them.

3. Curate your guest list




When choosing guests, consider the guests you're inviting. Your party will be a complete success only when you have taken steps to get the mix right. Invite guests who align with age, likes and interests.

Do some research before your party and look at your guests profiles. Know your crowd well. Depending on your guests you might want to invite some singles, both single men and women. It'll cover for couples looking for threesomes, bi-play, cuckold, hotwife or a small orgy. Allow for all possibilities with your choice of guests. At the end, everyone will have more fun if you bring the right people together.


4. Stock The Bar




You don’t throw a sex party without top-shelf liquor, and possibly aphrodisiac foods. You can ask your guest to bring their own choice of beverage. 

Have a single sexy guest volunteer to be the bar person or just make it a self-service bar. Remember to provide bottled water and light snacks, since you don’t want anyone too drunk to know what’s going on. 


5. Create a sexy music playlist 




A good sex playlist is an essential in any sex party, it increases all physical sensations and emotional undertones. Even Shakespeare wrote: “If music be the food of love, play on.” We all know that music has the ability to affect our emotions and therefore our mood. 


So get those tunes planned out before the party and if you need help ask your guests to bring along some of their music. Women love to dance and men love to watch.


6. Set the scene 




What's the party without a bit of ambience? If your home or a hotel room is the venue. Here is a list you should tick: 


1. Make sure you have enough beds or a designated play area. Have a group play area and other little nooks.


2. Stock your bathroom with extra towels, toiletries, spray-on deodorant and mints.


3. If you plan on getting kinky, having toys, paddles, and restraints available, most of which individuals will bring along)


4. Put condoms, lube, wipes, and trash bins easily accessible. 


5. Lighting is major- go dimmer especially in the play area or swap white bulbs for red.


7. Go over Rules - Consent and comfort are key




Ensure all your guest are aware and on the same page about what is expected, understand consent and how to behave. Creating a safe and accepting space where all your guests feel comfortable. 


What is consent? In order to make sure a sexual encounter is OK with both/all partners, consent needs to be vocal, enthusiastic, and continuous.


If the event is large assign some 'guardians' making sure no one is getting too drunk or is in an uncomfortable situation.


8. Be a great entertainer



There's nothing worse than going to a party and you spend most of your time clueless. Wondering if there's anyone in there that you'd like to talk to, anyone who is compatible.

Be a good host, show your guests around the house, point out the restrooms and the playrooms. Most important, introduce everyone, get the conversation started and the rest will happen by itself. 

 

9. Break the ice




To get things really moving organise a couple games to promote interaction. Play a grown-up edition of " Truth or Dare" or "Spin the bottle", get creative and try to think of icebreakers which will help introduce any guest who don't know each other.
 

Encourage a little naughty talk. A suggestion is to print out little note cards with sexy little phrases on them. Sneak piles around the play area(s) and let your guests find them throughout the night. Consider sexy requests like “May I kiss you?” and “”You look like a bad girl, do you want a spanking?” will help make enthusiastic consent easier to put in practice.


10. Check on your guests




If you're organising a large event, it's a good idea to assign some 'guardians' to make sure no one is getting too drunk or is in an uncomfortable situation.

Sex parties are emotionally and sexually charged so minor conflict may arise. Sometimes these clashes arise from miscommunication, excess drinking or unintentional misconduct. 

Step in and cool things down.

Most times nothing happens, and everybody's having a great time, but be prepared for any situation.


Before your guests leave, ask your guests if they were happy and ask them for testimonials.

Parties take a lot of effort to organise, and a lot of time you don't get the thanks or gratitude you deserve, but if you enjoy being a party host, it's all worthwhile in the end.


If it's your first party, try a few smaller parties - six to eight person play parties - before you try for the big league. That way you’ll have a community of trusted partners rather than just getting it on with a bunch of nameless strangers. 


If done right, sex parties can be extremely fun and enjoyable. The appeal of a successful sex party lies in their elusiveness and exclusivity.  Hopefully, these tips you'll give you a better idea what you need to pull off your own sex party. Have fun.


What other tips can you add that would make a sex party unforgettable?