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Become An Expert Dirty Talk. Here Is How.Want to know the secret to a new and invigorating sex life? DIRTY TALK

Christina Miller | July 11 2016

Become An Expert Dirty Talk. Here Is How.

Talking dirty in bed is a skill worth mastering. Because spicing things up in bed doesn’t only come down to trying new sexual positions or getting frisky in public. Little things like dirty talking can heat things up and take your bedroom game to a whole other level.

At first it’ll feel awkward and embarrassing as you hear yourself utter words you’re used to hearing in porn. Dirty Talking, is an area of sex that makes a lot of people feel silly because they’re unsure of how to go about it without feeling ridiculous. 

There is nothing worse than sounding like a noob when trying to dirty talk. 



This scene from Wanderlust is funny for two reasons, one because Paul Rudd is in it, and second because it takes us back to our failed attempts at dirty talk.

Don't give up yet, it takes a bit of practice to get it right and it'll be worth it. 


With practice dirty talking will be second nature and it’ll make your romps as hot as hell.


Remember that your brain is the biggest sex organ, what better tool than dirty talk to stimulate it? That's why sexually driven language — dirty talk — is so arousing. When partners talk dirty to each other, they're stroking the right organs.

But how do you go about talking dirty without feeling self-conscious? What are the right things to say? And how do you say them?

Below are a few tips on how to talk dirty.

1. Practice Lots

Get comfortable hearing and using dirty talk in the bedroom, so practice saying them over and over again! Practice makes perfect, play around to find the limit that you’re comfortable with.

Expressing your dirty side in bed and blurting out sexy rude things is a lot of fun.

Here are some dirty talk examples that will help you figure out how to approach the naughty fun of talking in the sack and feel more comfortable about it.


 “ I want to feel warm tongue in my pussy.” Or “ I’m dying to feel that hard cock inside of me”,  "I want you on your hands and knees.” “ That feels good, keep doing that”.


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If one of you is better at dirty talking than the other, one good introduction is to simply explain in the dirtiest term what exactly you want done or are going to do and then ask “What did I just say?”

2. Say What You Want

Dirty talking is about saying what you truly desire on the moment, that’s why it’s so hot and sexy. The low down, don’t repeat something you’ve heard somewhere in an erotic movie. Dirty talk has to be genuine, in the moment, overly sexual that fits the moment.

Basically don’t say something like “ I love your big, firm ass”, when she is slim build, it’ll sound inauthentic and probably kill the mood, as she might wonder who you were think of at that moment because it sure wasn’t her ass you were getting excited about.

The low down – be descriptive of exactly what you want to happen to you or perform on them.

3. Say It Like You Mean It

Say it with conviction and seduction. Don’t bark it out like a mean sergeant, unless the occasion demands it, you might be role-playing some kinky role, then bark away.

However, if you are trying to be sexy, persuasive and passionately express your desires, speak in hushed tones that will make your dirty talk work for you. Once in the moment you really won't care what you say as long as it is moaned, whispered or commanded.


4. Communicate

With all things SEX communication is at the core of all great sex and sexual relationships. Dirty talk, just like sex itself, is something that needs to be calibrated to the individual that is hearing the dirty talk from their partner.

We are all different and some things we perceive as a turn-on and others as turn-offs. Therefore, find out from your partner which words are a definite NO. Some women do not mind the word Slut in the bedroom context; others at its very utterance will shut down and be completely turned off.

Arming yourself with these tips will transform you into a dirty talk deviant.


Don’t be quiet in the bedroom! Know how to dirty talk and make it work for you.


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