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Rim jobs or 'tossing the salad' in colloquial lingo, is still a little taboo. And if you think tossing salad only refers to meal prep, let us widen your horizons.

We're pretty sure you've heard of it, you probably regularly enjoyed receiving or giving it, but when it comes to admitting to it, a large majority will shy away. 

Rimming or using your tongue to pleasure, lick, suck and tickle the rim around the anus is a very erotic sexual act. 

People find it erotic thanks to the thousands of nerve endings around the anus. It can be a practice that is easy to incorporate into your sexual routine, if you're into it or curious about it.

If you have been thinking about trying it, here are 7 things you should know before you give a rim job

1. Start your fun in the shower

Rimming can actually be really clean just by showering beforehand. Regular soap and water will do the job. You can even use getting clean as part of the foreplay by taking a sexy shower together. Nothing says intimacy like washing your partner's butt.

2. No, it doesn't taste bad

As long as it's clean, especially after a shower or a bath. The anus has no different of a taste than other parts of the genital area. Some will say it tastes subtly musky and even divine. Rimming can feel fantastic and is especially intimate. Sex is a total-body experience. It's not just touching her, or looking at her, or hearing her moan. It's all of that and more - and definitely tasting her. If playing with someone other than your partner play safe and use a dental dam.

3. Always ask your partner before diving in

You should obviously do this with any new sex act. Throw your inhibitions and stop being nervous about trying butt play. Your anus is an erogenous zone just like any other, simple as that. Ask your partner before you start, go slow and enjoy.

4. It might take a few tries to feel really comfortable with the whole BUTT thing 

Most people are not conditioned to feel completely comfortable having someone's face all up in their butt, so if you were nervous the first time but think you might like it, try it again and try to relax and enjoy the sensation. 

5. Shave? It's not exactly an easy spot to shave yourself

Similar to oral sex, having hair there does not affect the experience unless your partner just doesn't like it. But chances are, you're going to be dealing with at least a little bit of hair during a rim job. It's not exactly an easy spot to shave yourself. What's more, blind-shaving an area you can't see can lead to cuts. A little hair is not so bad.

6.  Rimming techniques

There are a variety of rimming techniques that you can do. Your partner will probably enjoy all of them, but you can tell which one they really love by the moaning you hear or by the pushing back with their butt they're doing. Continue using the favoured technique the most. 

Gentle Blowing - Blowing in the anal area is a good way to ease your way to anilingus. It helps prepare your partner for what's to come, and it feels good, really upping the anticipation level.

Long, flat licks -  Use your tongue with long, flat licks, which will feel like a massage. Reach your tongue all the way to the perineum, slowly licking all the way up to the anal opening. You can vary this by sucking the area.

Penetration/Thrusting - Use your tongue to probe the anus. Then stiffen it and try to put it inside the anus like you are attempting penetration.

Best position - Best positions to have your butthole pleasured is -doggy style and lying face down with pillows under the hips are the best positions to receive a rim job.

7. What if you feel insecure about doing it?

Of course, rim jobs are not for everyone and that's okay. You should never do anything in bed that makes you uncomfortable, and rimming is not a requirement for a fulfilling sex life. 

However,  if tossing salad sounds fun to you, just make sure to proceed as safely as possible, and just know that you — and your butthole — are more than worthy of the pleasure rimming can bring. Plus rimming your partner is a great way to prep for anal sex, once you are relaxed and your inhibitions about butt things are down then ....