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Why are hook ups so hard to organise?
June 09 2018
- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Lots of people are pic collectors and time wasters...
Filtering through to find the genuine profiles can be extremely difficult for all... doesn’t matter if you’re a single profile or a couple profile..
You’ll get a feel for the ones full of bs and you will come across the sincere ones...
You just got to keep on viewing profiles and making contact.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Welcome to the Land Of Eternal Frustration. From the other side of the fence, it happens to us blokes too, although probably not as frequently.
RHP User
6 years ago
well.. it is like this.. (As I see it...)
A fella might SAY he is bi, or up for a MMF, because in the comfort of his room, and the safety of being alone with his hidden desires, it is a good scenario to wank to... BUT... when it ACTUALLY comes to going out (hooking up with you and your fella) .. and having opened his mouth and stated he is "OK" with a MMF as opposed to a MFM, he suddenly realises he is going to have to ACTUALLY participate in a Bisexual manner..."THAT" is too much.As I said... when he wanking.. he will talk the talk, and probably really want to go ahead with it.. ??No way...Sorry you are having a hard time about it all..
But.. a question....If your fella is up to it, would it be easier if he finds someone?Just a suggestion..But, I certainly find it easier to organize a MFM for my playmates, then they do.. (And it is not because my playmates are ugly... it is probably because I look a t bit rough around the edges myself)
But.. hope your luck changes pretty soon kiddo.."Good Luck"
DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
that you have more luck, if you verify your profile. That will show that you are genuine.
There are far too many males on here, posing as females.
There are also plenty time wasters and photo hunters.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
How many have you approached in just those two days?
The younger generation I know seem to do their "picking up" while out on
the town on a Friday/Saturday night, and if they meet someone, and want
to take things further, they can do so immediately because they are already
on free recreational time. I know of people that have done this
more than once in the same night! (Maybe it's a bit cold outside lately...)
Not every profile owner, even genuine ones, are able to come over at short notice (even singles have work/family stuff), and not everyone wants to go into a play situation before at least meeting them first. Women are certainly very mindful of their security going to unknown places with unknown people, but also are many men. Check the intention on the profile also, some state play meets only, while others have meet first, play later etc. Some people are into basic hookups or one-offs, others would like something ongoing. Of course a one-off can turn into something ongoing, but something ongoing is often better with some more connection developed first. Some people have existing connections they may be focusing on.
Don't stress too much. Everyone has something specific they are looking for, and mostly everyone finds it just as hard to find it. And certainly not in just two days unless you are really really lucky. Most people I know on here are looking for more connection first, even though it's often labelled just a "sex site".RHP User
6 years ago
Due to age alone I'm not sure if the OP is aware of the MMF vs MFM terminology difference. RHP calls it MMF vs MMF (bi), even most straight porn simply calls it MMF. She mentions wanting to experience "two cocks f***** her" on her profile, so in this case I'm not sure there's a bi-male interation.
RHP User
6 years ago
*Chuckles*....
IF she did hook up.. and brought him home to BF.. and BF didn't know the fella THOUGHT he was getting into a MMF...BF might get a shock..OR he might LOVE itRHP User
6 years ago
One or more of the following:
1. They are partnered
2. Their age and/or pictures don't jive with reality
3. When it comes to the crunch they don't have what it takes to step up
4. They are just fantasising.
I could add: #5 they are brainless idiots who wouldn't know a good thing if it was standing naked right in front of them.
I took the liberty of having a peek at the OPs profile, and, seriously, you wouldn't move heaven an earth to make it happen if the invitation was made?? What is wrong with them?
- Posted from rhpmobilecompressor
6 years ago
Well as sure as I am sitting here I sure would try to give a lady an orgasm if I was lucky enough to meet someone
rupamohan
6 years ago
Nothing to do with site/ app.
Online hookup is not as fast meeting someone in a gathering and take him home.
Firstly many catfish...with fake gender / physical details.
Complete fakes will avoid meeting because it will be game over. The despo will be ready to run barefoot to your place. You don't need to be rocket scientist to guess if they were good they would have many options and not need to be despo.
Then the genuine one have to plan a meet.
Finally you still have to like them when you meet to go any further.
Your location also makes difference.
Redefine "Hard" based on context. There is difference in 5min super glue, dick getting hard and organizing a online hookup.Over time you will get better to spot gems efficiently. Good luck!!!RHP User
6 years ago
"Scored" ????
"Gonski"
AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
That those that time wasted the OP, were right on the money. Well done lads.
RHP User
6 years ago
I'm one of the lads that apparently "time wasted" the OP. First message was "looking for a three way?" I asked a little more information to establish things would be a good idea. Got that information, but was told it "must be tonight". I could not do so as I was in the middle of a 13 hour work day. I guess just another of the bs "excuses" by men for not coming right over.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Reverse the gender scenario and see what you get.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Are hard to organise??
Not at my local brothel lol
- Posted from rhpmobile
bonefide
6 years ago
Spoken and or written CT. Fully agree
RHP User
6 years ago
Parents over
No babysitter
No hotel rooms avail on short notice
Monthly visit period
Kids have come home from sleep ova.
Car broke down
No money for uber.
We don't play in these sort of places.
Sick
Goldfish died.
Hamster ate the exercise wheel.
Can not for the life of me find the car keys
Dog ate my car.
Had to many recreational drugs and making 3am booty calls to a random like to RHP forumite Swingalingson... I so hate those calls!!!!
Please add to the reason why the "hookup" has no happened.
Legs up..Eating popcorn....RHP User
6 years ago
The less they give.
More pics ..more pics...pics...pics..please share..pic...cmon people wake up....
Swingalingson swinger stone cold truth.. rule numba 1 in the book of swinging.
Section on...Time wasting couples, ladies, and men. Some on here do not know what they want.
When they do.. Perhaps then contact someone.. Just courtesy..
tempted12
6 years ago
We are having this issue. and to clarify looking for MFM.
We like to plan our plays, normally chat a little first to get to know each other. Then try to give 1-2 weeks notice of being in town and meeting.
Still have been stood up and felt like I have been used for pics.
Would prefer honesty. Would also never expect a last minute unless are you available, and if you happened to be then it would be meant to be, if not then no harm done.
But after saying that - the majority of our plays have been with notice.
It is almost like the guys feel like it’s ok to talk it up and not follow through because I have a husband to fuck later..... which is true but when I’m prepped for playing I need to share that cause this girl goes to some effort.
I would never expect a “booty call” type scenario where I contact a guy and expect him to be available on command.... respect goes both ways. And this sites is full of players that I am still learning to weed out unfortunately.
FlirtParties
6 years ago
And then the OP's unverified profile just disappears. Who woulda thought?
Unfortunately that's the game. This is why we only chat with and invite verified profiles to our events.
Don't you wish everyone could just play nicely together? This would be so much easier.
Flirt xxxasiacouple
6 years ago
Some people just want a safe connection.Took us a year to finally meet one couple from here... after a year of online chatting.Now we keep in touch and very occasionally arrange meet up to fuck.Same reasons as mentioned earlier, family, weather, work, family on visit, willy won't stick up tonight, blah blah blah.
Much easier to just tell your online 'dates' that you're gonna rock up at a swingers club and see who shows up.Works for us... if they show up, great. If not, there's others at the club.
YoungLad97
6 years ago
There are a lot of time wasters on here, and some blokes are still very shy off the Mmf. Just keep trying is all you can do.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Maybe if you had a couples profile. People would be expecting a single women.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
5 years ago
I understand your frustration, lots of time wasters on these sites. I’m actually really annoyed at the guys on these sites, my wife starts chatting and then organised a meet and the guys don’t show.
Wish there was a way to filter out the pic hunters and keyboard warriors, I mean how hard is it to show up!!!
I always show if I have a meet organised, it’s a matter of respect for the person that you’ve organised to meet with, not hard really.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
5 years ago
I understand your frustration, lots of time wasters on these sites. I’m actually really annoyed at the guys on these sites, my wife starts chatting and then organised a meet and the guys don’t show.
Wish there was a way to filter out the pic hunters and keyboard warriors, I mean how hard is it to show up!!!
I always show if I have a meet organised, it’s a matter of respect for the person that you’ve organised to meet with, not hard really.
- Posted from rhpmobile
SxcMissM
5 years ago
just a side note CT why are you hiding
RHP User
5 years ago
Super tough for us too. Looking for an MFM regular as well. We don't even have a requirement and yet when we offer an invite, guys either ghost or don't show up. But we found a gem of a gentlemen once so sometimes it's just a game of statistics.
RHP User
5 years ago
Well u need to check all the messages... I sent you one the same day on ur date finder but haven't got any reply yet...
RHP User
5 years ago
I dont get that why collect photos an not show up for a hot hook up in any description. Ive found it hard due to fake women who dont even look close to their photo or asians pretending to be aussie an try to charge you when u first meet. For the record ive never paid for sex just doesnt interest me an same goes with collecting photos
RHP User
5 years ago
"In 2017, the Census Bureau reported that a record number of adults in the U.S. were not married. More than 110 million residents were divorced or widowed or had always been single; that's more than 45 percent of all Americans aged 18 or older. And people who did marry were taking longer than ever to get there."
https://www.cnn.com/2018/01/05/health/single-people-partner/index.html
"Once upon a time in America, marriage was the norm for adults. But now, for the first time since the Bureau of Labor Statistics began tracking these numbers in 1976, there are more single Americans than people who are married."
https://www.pri.org/stories/2014-09-14/singles-now-outnumber-married-people-america-and-thats-good-thingRHP User
5 years ago
Probably cheating and thinking they'll get caught.
Craney2008
5 years ago
I was lucky enough to get a start and validation on my first day lol.
Nothing since then though.....
That was like six months ago lol
Single male profiles are plentiful and
Seem to get dismissed altogether by most.
Because of pic hunters ?? Quite possibly 😏
chewie6969
5 years ago
agree redmustang sometimes i get the feeling some of the females are more pic collecting us men lol
RHP User
5 years ago
Because we dont trust you!
Women have made out that guys are the untrustworthy and sleasy sex for Years to the point where we cant trust you anymore.
I know i dont trust women, but i also know for a fact that a Lot of guys feel exactly the same as me.
If i see a woman asking for sex if im dressed up or as a bi guy, the first thing i think is Is this a setup and am i going to find myself in jail the next morning!RHP User
2 years ago
We're you located in keen to help..... But yes so many times have I been let down
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