Where am I going wrong

Where am I going wrong

    | Sep 03, 2018
Wangdangdoodle   Man 55yrs
Just a question, please





I’ve been on the site, a couple of days short of six months. I’m just wondering, where am I going wrong





Am I too old, ugly, crap profile.





After all this time. Not one meet up. When I send messages. I’d say 90% are to those, in my age range, looking for me. For less than a, 25% reply. I’m pleasant with my messages





Your feedback appreciated. Very curious to others thoughts. Not sure if I’ll re join





Wang
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deepestpurple   Man 36yrs

25% reply rate is not bad




What percentage of those replies are explicit "I am not interested" replies? The others had some level of interest so don't be too quick to assume too old, ugly, crap profile. I am wondering if your roadblock is what you do after that point. How do things typically play out with those have replied?
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Wangdangdoodle   Man 55yrs

25%

Was an estimated guess. Largest majority are, sorry, but no thanks
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Redmustang   Couple Man 44yrs Woman 40yrs

Your name

Just makes me laugh to start...
not sure about the profile pic - whilst I’m sure it has a good story it just seems odd to me... but that is just me..

Maybe refine your profile wording a little bit..
There’s honestly not that much to go on to get and indication about who you are or what you want

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Koolgrey   Man 44yrs

Wang..

Your "about me" on the profile is kind of shallow, frankly.
There's just not much there to build a picture of you. That can't be helping your case.

Why not put some stuff up about your interests, what you like to do...that sort of thing.
It'll help you appear human and relatable. And may give insight into your sense of humour.
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FatFunFiesty   Woman 38yrs

Wang

A little from column A, a little from column B.

RHP is fickle playing ground Wang. There's is well down disparity in the numbers of males to women which means women can take their pick essentially.

Not that you're my target demographic but profile feedback.... your profile pic is silly. A nice normal smiling pic is way more appealing to me.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Sweetjen7

Its starts with your name

Lets see
1.profile name
2. profile pic
3. profile
4.whats written in your profile
5. whats missing from your profile

Overall its mainly your profile
Refine it puts some decent pics
your luck might change
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 55yrs

You asked

Pulling no punches here but let's not beat around the Bush.

Few things against you.

You live in Geelong. Far enough from Melbourne to limit interest

You are getting past that 54 yo cut off for many. I know I'm there as well.

You have your description as large. It drastically limits interested people.

Add what others have said

Add all that up means you need to be patient. Good luck
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Wangdangdoodle   Man 55yrs

Pictures

My profile picture, is just having some fun. Wearing a Samurai hat. I kinda hiding I know. That’s to stop anybody I know, seeing me. I just see this site. As a private thing. I always send photos of myself, with my messages. From my pg



To those who have replied. Thank you
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Wangdangdoodle   Man 55yrs

Wangdangdoodle

Is an old Howlin Wolf song title. With some of the manes I’ve seen on this site. For eg. Whore, slut, fuck me hard etc. I don’t find it strange
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Sweetjen7

profile

you think the samurai hat is funny but honestly i have arouns 1.3 seconds to decide if i like a profile and tyours i dont even enjoy looking at
Take our comments on board or listen to the crickets
You asked we have said what we think
you are obviously doing something worong so what you think isnt working
Harsh but you did ask
Your name and pic are terrible i wouldnt even want to read the profile

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Dallas1975   Man 43yrs

It's a tough crowd

Don't be too tough on yourself mate, I'd say that's probably around the average reply rate on here. Men massively outnumber the ladies on here, you've got to be something special to stand out from the crowd!
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rosali   Couple Man 57yrs Woman 51yrs

Wang Dang Doodle

Ha ... We think its a pretty cool profile name.

Looks like not too many folks in RHP land are familiar with the names Chester Burnett or Willie Dixon
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EarthQueen  

Woman 47yrs

Hi

I think your profile pic and usernames aren’t doing you any favours. If people aren’t familiar with the music it just sounds a bit juvenile. For good examples of nice profiles look above my post at Kool or Dallas. Give people a bit more about who you are as a person so they want to learn more.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Sweetjen7

Profile

Dogging

Bukkake



Not fans of property of both

You seem to have not taken any of these comments on board and still have the same profile
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Wangdangdoodle   Man 55yrs

Sweetjen7

If you have another look, I have changed a few things



One, I will not be changing my user name. I, like many others. Don’t judge books by their covers. Growing up, I had a mate called Egbert. Yes, Egbert. He got tested. Yet it didn’t change the fact, because he had a different name. He was a great guy.



To be honest. What’s with the 7,after your name
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FatFunFiesty   Woman 38yrs

Wangdoodle really?

Why even bother asking for advice and honest opinions if you can not cope with the responses?

Maybe, going out on a limb here, your failure rate is moreso due to your personality coming out in messages than your username and profile pic?

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Koolgrey   Man 44yrs

What's in a name..

I wouldn't change your name, either....if you're happy with it.
It's not offensive, and that's the main thing. There's other eccentric names on here. Take Obi..K, for example.

Flesh out your profile with some things about yourself, and word it like you are actually speaking with someone...in a flowing, comfortable sort of way.
I see you've made a start. It does take a bit of coming back to.

And be careful not to rise to baiting on here....it never looks good.

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OkeyDoke45   Man 48yrs

You do you...

WangDang (it is fun to type), don't be too perturbed by what some have said on here. I too think the samurai hat looks silly but that is just me. It certainly is different - my profile pic is as dull as dogshit, most profile pics on here are - at least yours does stand out. Ditto your profile name.

If people are going to skim past you based on those two characteristics then I dare say you are better off without them. If they are that easy to disappoint without having met them, just imagine what it would be like should you be invited into their world.

I did have a quick look at your profile when you posted this question initially and it was a tad on the dull and uninspired side, but again so is mine. I have chopped and changed mine a few times over the years. I've put more detail in, taken detail out. I've made it more in-depth, I've made it less in-depth. At the end of the day people here tend to fall into two camps - the ''TLDR'' camp that like a simple profile, and the ''you need more detail, I need to know your favourite colour'' camp for whom too much is never enough.

You cannot please one camp without turning the other off you completely. Make your profile what you want, it will truly reflect you then - and if that means you are not what people are after, then so be it.

Oh, and Sweetjen? You are constantly complaining on the forums about what a rough time you have in your quest, so your ''you need to change it to what I say'' attitude will do WangDang no favors at all.
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oceandreaming   Man 39yrs

Same boat

I'm in the same boat my friend, the interest I seem to be able to stir up is minimal at best, and I'm terrible at taking photos. I generally find that I will get on a date on the rare occasion when I actually do manage to organise one & the lady will be delighted with how I look & sound compared to my profile, where I will be left a little bemused by how different they look. So I guess here's some thing to consider.
-ladies are usually absolute jets with photos, filters, lighting & have the advantage of lingerie & make up for that extra initial appeal
- They will pick at & decide against the weirdest imperfections in both appearance & profile ie, profile name, occupation, height, you have a nipple that's to large or the wrong colour, they don't like the throw rug you have on your couch etc (obvious made up examples) and they can do this because like me, they are very particular and unlike us (men) they hold all the power in the world of initial attraction.
- Probably the biggest clincher is purely just the numbers game... If you take out the couple that contain a lady (who are also more often than not also seeking another couple or single lady only) then the percentage of single women to men is absolutely miniscule.. Probably as low as 10% are single females. So you would have to really really stand out among your male competition, many of whom are fake, inactive profiles or they're are set up by jaded & bitter married or newly single men who just want to unleash frustration on any good woman willing to talk to them.
You throw all that in with day to day living, kids, careers, longer than 20 minute travel to a date etc & I'm amazed that most ladies even bother when all they'd rather do is kick back on the couch with a glass of wine & have their feet massaged in silence & obligation free while they watched SOA or the bach...
At least that's the conclusion I've come to 🤣 Good luck my friend, we all need it...

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Wangdangdoodle   Man 55yrs

FatFunFiesty

I have listened to a few. If I listened to everybody, I’d be a lunatic. With some contradictings others.



The name stays. The profile picture, says. For reasons I’ve said on here. I do send better pictures of myself, in my pg. when I send a message. Yet some don’t seem to want to red that.



First, no guys going to question a femal user name. Whore. Plenty of guys would say yes. Slut, even more guys would say yes. Cum in me. Well her inbox would be full. I’ll explain gain. Wangdangdoodle is just a song title.

Secondly. Your limb. Well, go figure. So many fucking women on this site, who do judge books by their cover. Which I’ll add. I do kinda understand why. They do get the choice.mthe way it is. Besides, you wouldn’t have a clue what my messages say. But you be the judge.



I’m fucking over it. 8th September. Will be goodbye. I have better luck, pick up at the pub



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