What happens to clothes, lingerie, footwear, and accessories after a break up...?

What happens to clothes, lingerie, footwear, and accessories after a break...

    | Jun 14, 2018
dickfullalove  

Man 37yrs


Out for drinks with the lads tonight to help a mate through his breakup last week, he was telling us how he just received on Tuesday, the lingerie he bought for her birthday, which is in a few weeks time. We all told him, that he definitely can't and shouldn't give it to her, and then that lead us to the discussion of what do we each do with those presents.

What do you (both men and women) all do with them? Do you keep the jewellery? Do you take it for melting/traded it in? Do you keep clothes bought for you, or send them to the salvos? Do you throw them away? Are intimate items like lingerie or say a sexy costume kept for future play with future lovers, or thrown away due to memories?

Do you keep shoes/sneakers/trainers because they look good and are comfy, or do you chuck them away just because they were his/her gift? Or does it just depend on what had a significant meaning, compared to something that you still enjoy?

Personally... the items that really reminded me of exes have been given away, or thrown out, but I have kept certain tees, hoodies, and sneakers that just look too good, and I like too much to get rid of.

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cavey50   Man 59yrs

I keep anything




I have been given..

other things... same as.. keep them, use them.. ditch them when they break... give them away...

*Shrugs*... fuck it.. they are fucking mine, I can do what I want with them..

Things she left there??

Lingerie?? fuck it.. wear it??

I don't know.. I actually have a bag of "Software" left at my place...

I know every pair and which girl owned them..

My fear is.....

"I get killed in a car accident (Or get shot by some jealous hubby) and my kids find them and decide I was a fucking cross-dresser...."



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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 55yrs

Surely

You dont throw good stuff away just because of a breakup?

She was good enough to spend quality time with. Just because things went south is no reason to get rid of a few good memories. The good and bad relationships make us/improve us what we are today.

Sign of a strong person is to embrace memories for what they are, just that. Then move forward to add to the collection.

And any presents that l haven't given her before the breakup, I'll wear myself if they fit......
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 55yrs

Cavey





My fear is.....

"I get killed in a car accident (Or get shot by some jealous hubby) and my kids find them and decide I was a fucking cross-dresser...."






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The_Antichrist   Man 39yrs

I’m with cavey....

I don’t expect stuff to be given back or I return them...

Stuff like the lingerie that was obviously purchased either online or required a waiting period for attainment I’d either sell or re-gift to mates if they want to give it to their partners...

That way my secret cross dressing days come with me to my grave 😂😂

- Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 49yrs

Interesting!!




This has been said about a few posters over the years (most times untrue) .

BUT

Is it just me or are others starting to think Cavey and Annie are one in the same person-lol


Mr Luvsilver

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VivalaKoko

You guys are funny!




But Id love to see you all in lingerie......... On subject, I wouldnt throw away any gifts, as Annie said, that person was once special to you. I did sell a diamond ring I got from my ex to pay the rent when I wasnt working, but that was out of necessity.
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 55yrs

Getting

The beard stuck on and getting it off is a real bitch. And the smell of it......omg
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The_Antichrist   Man 39yrs

Luvsilver....

Velcro adds kink

- Posted from rhpmobile
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boobs_or_bust   Couple Man 52yrs Woman 43yrs

no good to me

i’d make an ugly freakin woman 😂

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Snap_Dragon   Woman 40yrs

Can't recall

ever being given lingerie or even clothing by an ex. If I had and assuming I liked it I wouldn't have a problem continuing to wear it afterwards.

The only item I still have from an ex relationship is my engagement ring. I kept it because a) I paid for half of it myself and b) I love the design. I still wear it occasionally.
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Mischeviouslad   Man 47yrs

Gifts

A gift is given in good faith and good will



Once it’s given, it’s gone
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vampavibe   Woman 38yrs

Half an engagement ring




Quoting 'MFW_23'

ever being given lingerie or even clothing by an ex. If I had and assuming I liked it I wouldn't have a problem continuing to wear it afterwards.

The only item I still have from an ex relationship is my engagement ring. I kept it because a) I paid for half of it myself and b) I love the design. I still wear it occasionally.



Sounds familiar unfortunately.

I can't remember why I ended up doing that. The timing of the engagement party maybe? The details are lost in time.

I wouldn't tolerate it for any reason whatsoever these days though - I know better now.

Jeez, how many of us gals ended up paying half the cost of our engagement rings and what was the reason the guy didn't pay the total cost himself? Hope nobody minds if I hijack this thread to ask that.

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Snap_Dragon   Woman 40yrs

In my case




Quoting 'vampavibe

Jeez, how many of us gals ended up paying half the cost of our engagement rings and what was the reason the guy didn't pay the total cost himself? Hope nobody minds if I hijack this thread to ask that.



I think I just offered to pay half since I was the one that (stupidly) pushed for the engagement. I didn't even love him anymore by that point, and we broke up a couple of months later.
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vampavibe   Woman 38yrs

MFW_23




Quoting 'MFW_23'






Quoting 'vampavibe

Jeez, how many of us gals ended up paying half the cost of our engagement rings and what was the reason the guy didn't pay the total cost himself? Hope nobody minds if I hijack this thread to ask that.




I think I just offered to pay half since I was the one that (stupidly) pushed for the engagement. I didn't even love him anymore by that point, and we broke up a couple of months later.


Thanks so much for taking the time to reply.

Sorry to hear the relationship didn't work out for you.

Hope you're doing well in your new abode.


I know this is really a separate topic but I'd be interested to hear from any other ladies that have paid half for their engagement ring.

I'm kinda glad to hear I'm not the only one that did this.......if you know what I mean.

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Livingandloving2   Couple Man 48yrs Woman 48yrs

I wouldnt

Keep any lingerie I’d worn exclusively with an ex
I don’t really know why - too intimate maybe?
Mrs LAL

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Snap_Dragon   Woman 40yrs

vampavibe

Thanks :) That was many years ago now...water under the bridge.

I've certainly learned about relationships the hard way though. As in, I think that I'm just not very good at them.
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Obsidian   Man 47yrs

It stays

They were given/received with love, so even if that love is no more the original intent remains and that is special.
I have a memories box where things like this from my past go. My first serious GF, for example, might be long in the past now, but the card she got me with the soppy message written in it, I will keep until I die.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen   Woman 47yrs

Vampa Engagement RIng

I didn't, but I don't think its that bad to pay half. Ideally to me its a partnership and if it started with shared costs of a ring its not really a big deal to me.


Disclaimer: Actually the whole idea of an engagement ring annoys me so its probably not a good topic to start me on.
"She is mine, so I shall put the ring on her finger."
Why doesn't he have to wear one?
Patriarchal much ?


OP I'm keeping all the stuff I like and donating the rest. He can take what he wants when he goes as well including the lingerie, Just the other day I was decluttering and pulled out a large hard plastic pink vibrator he bought me and contemplated mailing it to him with a message saying "WTF this is the worst sex toy ever?" Kind of wish I still did but I ended up chucking it in the bin. Honestly I don't know what he was thinking? It was garbage. LOL.
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PeachyPearL   Woman 54yrs

T-Shirt

I won it at the Vegas in Perth (in the 80s) but sent my ex up to accept it from the Leather & Lace ladies. I kinda regret I didn't step up now.

Anyhoo, I claimed it upon division of property... I still have it, I'll post a pic. It's stretchy, it still makes the best of the assets. Peachy, bahahaha, the brand is Grab-it (Proudly made in WA, those were the days in that regard at least)
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Hottie1   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 51yrs

I’ve not been given gifts ...

But I would return anything if I’d been given and I’d expect anything I’d given, returned. For me I’m all or nothing ... I’d leave nothing for them from me and vice versa... if I had anything they didn’t want returned, it would go to a salvage bin.



In this case check if it can be returned to the retail facility ... if not, try to sell it independently. As a last resort, a salvage bin would suffice.



I’m just a straight forward. If it’s done, it’s done!



Mary xx

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