Wasted time.

2 people liked this | Feb 09, 2019

Man 46yrs

First time forum poster here. A question to pretty much all. I have had a woman showing a lot of interest and yesterday morning she asks if l am interested in catching up. Now, after replying with a yes, l don't receive any answer all day so l organise something else to do for the evening. Well the next morning she has sent me an apology for not replying but she is very keen if l am interested for that night. Well damn yes, that's why l am on here so l say yes and then lm busy for half hr so off the site during, his time. Now when she hasn't replied back at all, l go to send another msg, which won't send so l click on her profile, to find she has blocked me. I start my profile off pretty much saying no time wasters please, and she has sent a few hot msgs, but to ask if l am keen for a catchup, and then to block like that for no apparent reason, and after about 2weeks of sending msgs, this has me pretty annoyed. If your not interested, then just reply with that but to have someone stuff around for 3 days straight, saying they want to meet and play, just to find your now blocked, does frustrate a person when they have had a massive time waster, after making it quite clear at the very start of my profile, I'm not here for wasting time, and l am a paid member and verified, and on here for the serious stuff, which does happen, but why waste so much of someone's time instead of a no thanks. Does this happen to many on here, and what do others think of this practice.
Signed,
Frustrated me lol. (Just wondering what others have to say on this.

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curiousmrs

Couple Man 53yrs Woman 38yrs

Unfortunately that’s part of the game on here. It’s damn frustrating.
Especially if you’ve taken time to organise kids etc.
Now we make plans. But always have a back up date night planned as well just so it’s not a complete waste of a kid free night lol.

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Tall_n_Hard

Man 61yrs

Unfortunately...

Pretty much par for the course here. Has been the subject of many complaints over the years. Can be many reasons behind it- including last minute anxiety, or guys pretending to be girls.

Also you'll find 95% +/- of the women here don't meet - seems they're here just to satisfy their egos to say they're on a sex site, or something similar. My observation has been there will be plenty of newbies coming through on a daily basis - put up a profile, then never come back again. Many have their own theories about this sort of activity too.

Don't go counting your chickens here - most eggs don't hatch. Good to check up on the forums to see what's going 'round, but that's about it.

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deepestpurple

Man 36yrs

Too keen mate

People change their mind, it's how it is. Really how much of your time was wasted? You just got disappointed, it happens.

Putting no time wasters on your profile isn't going to help much, people have different ideas of what that means and it turns into pressure not change their mind and pressure doesn't get results at all on here. The onus is on you not to invest any time into this you aren't afraid to lose.

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MrMojoRisin

Man 65yrs

I'm here for the forums

Whether Iike it or not 😋

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Qefenta3

Woman 69yrs

I think it's called

Ghosting..it happens to women as well as men,Why do people do it? Because they can.

Why not go to a meet and greet,at least you will meet real people there.

Hugs Q

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leelud

Woman 37yrs

Everything amazing is worth working for. If it came easy then I wouldn’t appreciate it when it comes along... well that’s my mantra.

When it first happened to me... I just shrugged it off. Then... I wondered what I had said that offended... then, I looked at my profile... rewrote it... changed the pics... verified more. It doesn’t matter. People have the right to say no. They don’t owe me anything. I have to admit it... hits the ego and as if it’s not difficult enough finding someone you click with first!! Insert expletive!

I often look back through the profiles I started chatting with and wonder if they felt the same way...that I had dropped off because I hadn’t replied to every comment - maybe they all liked to be chased?

Then the next challenge is actually catching up... many never show.

It’s part of the challenge! If they don’t show... keep in your brain the part where you say... it’s not me it’s you dipstick.

Well mine includes more expletives...

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SuperFoxxxy

Woman 47yrs

It is safe to say,

Your expectations were not met. Until you meet a person face to face, there should be no expectations. You can write and demand all you want on your profile about time wasters. People do not have to do what you want.

At the end of the day, she was most likly chatting to others not just you. She lost interest somewhere along the lines, benched you, then ghosted you. You had not met, so she can change her mind meeting. Move on and if you don't like being ghosted, don't do it to the next person. That's the only way to stop it.

Ms Foxy

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Ursla

Woman 38yrs

Well Steve honey you know you have done that to me pretty much the first time and afew weeks ago didn't show up and we have fucked afew times in between that and you know I'm still here for you honey and always will be it's okay honey don't get so hurt about it, when you didn't show up the first time I already had afew drinks and I had a good time with the music and my dildos and the last time we were meant to have a 3sum and you didn't show up so I texted "sir cee" Sean from rhp and we all had a good time when I was at at ms Tracey's don't let others control your desires if you wanna cum well cum while your waiting I do it every time I'm waiting on someone and it's more enjoyable to pleasure next. Love you Steve honey and I'm not finished with you in the bedroom. yet honey xxxxxxxxxxxx

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swingalingson

Man 38yrs

Meet and greets

And parties are the go.

Best of luck my friend!

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Redmustang

Couple Man 44yrs Woman 40yrs

It’s part of the journey...

Our ghosting/no replies strike rate outweighs the number of people we have met.

However the people we have met outweigh in quality the people who have ghosted/stopped replying to us.

At the end of the day someone’s sincerity can not be portrayed in messages it’s relativelt easy to say anything in a message without sincerity behind the words, it can be somewht gauged in phone calls to confirm validity of person and it can be portrayed in their actions - actions speak louder than words..

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madotara69

Couple Man 49yrs Woman 49yrs

G'day mate

if you go back through your messages, you will likely find what you may have missed during the moments. You are learning is all, perhaps by no fault of your own, naive to the magnitude of deceitful fuckers amongst us dirty fuckers lol.

Mado

Mado Tara xx

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Kokoflamingo

Woman 55yrs

Same here

Chat....arrange a meet....radio silence

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TheMonkeyBoySam

Man 33yrs

Timewasters

Timewasters are everywhere, you might even be wasting your own time here (or any dating site really).

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Yolo80

Man 39yrs

Ghosting is part of the game

Happens all the time. Just be greatful that someone has even bothered to read your messages.

In my experience most messages I send on here don’t even get read so my chances of being ghosted are slim so that’s a bonus lol

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The_Antichrist

Man 39yrs

Seriously...when you boil all the bullshit out of your rant ...

You get left with....expectations.

You expected that by putting in your profile that you don’t want time wasters that you weren’t going to find them...

You expected that your interactions were going to get you somewhere....

You expected a lot...let’s be real about it...

Drop the expectations that people are going to do what YOU desire them to do and you will eliminate your disappointment....

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Mischeviouslad

Man 47yrs

Harsh words, but truth

It’s a familiar story,... but one you can avoid if you .....

a) determined if you were messaging a woman, or a bloke pretending

b) assuming it was a she.... that you sufficiently engaged them enough to have a phone conversation... (kinda helps with (a)

c) kept their attention via (b) without over saucing the pudding with dribbling sex talk

d) propose meeting because it’s a make sense proposition because of the rapport via (c)

See the progression?

People seem efficient at complicating life. Attention spans are short and there is competition for that short attention. . It doesn’t need to be so hard to message, interest someone to the point of deciding to meet, and follow through to meeting with a view to see if you actually like each other

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SuperFoxxxy

Woman 47yrs

Ursla

Oh my! Do we really need to know that much in depth, honey.

Ms Foxy

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MsJonesy

Woman 51yrs

ML

Oh I do love this phrase..

" without over saucing the pudding with dribbling sex talk" 🤣

So very true. I tend to find there is a link; the more dribbling sex talk there is prior to meeting, the less likely the meeting will ever take place. If you have supplied the requisite amount of sex talk for a successful masturbation session, they are not going to bother cleaning up and bouncing out the door to meet you. And really, sex chat with a complete stranger...not my thing at all as it is so dull and predictable.

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FatFunFiesty

Woman 38yrs

Fuck yeah Ursula...... Loving the overshare Honey😋😂

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DynamicCouple36

Couple Man 48yrs Woman 40yrs

More than likely

She was was a he , and had no intentions of meeting up

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