This is me, What type of person are you??

This is me, What type of person are you??

    | Feb 25, 2018
Msmidnightblu71
Warning!! Nuclear size rant coming.

I am a good person. I take the time to ask people if they are OK? I will help anyone who needs me and I am always there. I genuinely care about people often to my own detriment. I get taken advantage of because of my kindness. I am honest. I have integrity. I am measured when giving advice to not hurt people's feelings. I am smart, intelligent, and I don't tolerate being treated like I am stupid. I know my faults and I know my strengths. I have quirks and behaviours that are hard to deal with. I don't need sympathy, just a little empathy. I generally do not have a personal agenda.

I know exactly who I can rely on and these are the people I turn to when I am struggling but in saying that I often don't ask for help because all I get is advice and judgement. Sometimes I just need someone to ask if I am OK without all of that. I just need someone to be there and I need to know that they are there just for me in that moment. My biggest fault is I am willing to give all even if I am getting nothing back.

I might be smiling and confident on the outside but have turmoil going on in my head. I pretend I am not hurt but actually crushed inside. I don't speak my mind when I am angry. I feel the only true person I can rely on is myself. I am not a selfish person.

My point is if you have someone like me in your life. Treasure them because I am a rare person indeed. Maybe if there was more of me in this world, it would be a much nicer place.

Rant over.


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blondes6365   Couple Man 55yrs Woman 53yrs

This is me

Very well put Msmidniteblu71

Were hearing where your coming from
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pangolin28

Msmidnight

I can't presume to know where you are coming from but I do relate in many ways. As some forumites may be aware from reading my posts that I am bipolar and many years back before medicated I swung from extreme high to extreme low. Now in my highs people often avoided me as I was just too full on, having ADHD didn't help the situation much I must admit but this did not bother me as I knew how I could be and I would have even given me the shits at times. The lows were a completely different story as those that have suffered deep depression will relate to. All one needed in those times was company if I was up to it and when friends were around it was hard as nobody related to what I was going through, so the usual how are you, cheer up and all the advice in the world meant nothing. In fact it brought me down further (my fault for not telling them of course). Some without knowledge of mental illness do not understand that trying to help being positive with all their advice and judgements does not seem to do anything just make matters worse when all I needed was a shoulder to rest on. Sometimes an ear is so much better than a voice is what I am trying to say.

So Msmidnight what ever it may be you are going through at the moment just keep in mind that you are you and obviously you like who you are and that is all that really counts in life. And if it is about matters of the heart you are referring to, that person may one day think what the hell did I let her go for. I imagine there may be a few women out there thinking this of me, well at least I hope so.


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Msmidnightblu71

Pangolin28

I totally understand you and hear where you are coming from.

Having a child with ADHD and mental health issues myself sometimes I am just exhausted.

A nice escape would be wonderful. Run away. Leave my troubles behind for a week or so.................

Hmm maybe I need to find a few people who feel the same to run away with. Anyone???
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Msmidnightblu71

Know exactly who

On here will get exactly where I am coming from........

Anti could use some of your words of wisdom right now.

Anyone else who can lighten the mood feel free!!

Suggestions for places I could run away to would also be useful. Not that I can but the thought is good.

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Xxalex   Man 37yrs

Msmidnightblu71

If you see this post please message me or flirt and I'll message you... Your profile is unavailable to me...

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pangolin28

Running away

The one place I have been that made me feel at home and completely free I guess mainly as it is far removed from the stresses of the world and life was the Daintree. As a nature lover it was heaven and those walks by myself to be immersed in its beauty helped me immensely. Maybe there is a place of solitude nearby for you that will help you centre yourself. Happy to run away with you but I have to run away to where you are first :).
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Lovechild17   Woman 48yrs

Well said OP....

Well said.



LC.
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vampavibe   Woman 38yrs

Midnight, sincere thanks for your words




as the below describes me very accurately too:


(I have edited your paragraphs slightly to suit me but again, thanks for posting this)


I am a good person. I will help anyone who needs me and I am always there. I genuinely care about people often to my own detriment. I get taken advantage of because of my kindness. I am honest. I have integrity. I am measured when giving advice to not hurt people's feelings. I am smart, intelligent, and I don't tolerate being treated like I am stupid. I know my faults and I know my strengths. I don't need sympathy, just a little empathy.

I generally do not have a personal agenda.

I know exactly who I can rely on and these are the people I turn to when I am struggling but in saying that I often don't ask for help because all I get is unwanted advice and judgement instead of practical help.
Sometimes I just need someone to ask if I am OK without all of that. I just need someone to be there and I need to know that they are there just for me in that moment. My biggest fault is I am willing to give all even if I am getting nothing back.

My point is if you have someone like me in your life, treasure them because I am a rare person indeed. Maybe if there was more of me in this world, it would be a much nicer place.


**** Hugs to you Midnight. And empathy. ****

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MrMojoRisin   Man 65yrs

Msmidnightblu71

You're not alone on this issue, I too have a son and a daughter with issues.
Just being there for them is the most important thing, I often refer to the Serenity Prayer for comfort.
Stay strong

Grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

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pangolin28

Mr Mojo

The serenity prayer one of my favourite sayings/quotes my mother gave it to me at a very early age and it has helped me through many a shitty episode.


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madotara69   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 48yrs

Msmidnightblue

If you step away far enough to look back at yourself, those around you and to see that you are special being just you, no one else can be you, you canโ€™t be anyone else, people try to be another thinking they will be seen the same, better than the person they see themselves and it will only ever fail, not only in self, it weakens the harmony of community spirits, because everyone is special at something no matter what the part is, no one else can be as special in this life is now, as special as you. You are who you are and the special part you play ?



Is you are for others your self and if all play thier part themself, we all have something called belong.



Believe in your self you are important to everyone, now you see in as belonging, step back to yourself and be the best that no one else can than you, you can then see who is who and disrupts the harmonial balance by not themself and point it out to them to step out and look in......



Well that is what I believe and we belong and as you have said, your doing your bit, well done.



Mado



Mado Tara xx
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notdeepestpurple

respect Msmisnightblu71

Thankyou for sharing and I respect your courage and honesty. I wish you well and there are lots of supportive people here, more so than me but I offer what I can.

I'll do what it takes. 4 people depend on me financially and I am proud that I put myself in a position where I can provide that and still have enough time and energy to enjoy my life and have fun with them regularly and also provide emotional support when needed.

I'll lead the absolute fuck out of people when the situation calls for it and they almost always follow willingly, I am very good at sex and sensuality and I love to fight but I'm mediocre at it. I struggle to relate to people unless it's in one of those three ways, I default to the third when the first two aren't options and this makes me a little bit sad.

I love all animals and they mostly love me back. I especially love cats.

I have taken on board recent feedback that I come across angry, bitter and hateful and I am reassessing what I seek from my RHP experience and I intend to present a more balanced impression of myself here but I stand by what I have said.



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NortyNancy   Woman 53yrs

Msmidnightblu

I think alot on here can relate to what you are saying. It would be lovely for ppl to ask if you are ok rather then judge, a hug can be a great thing also however I shy away from contact a bit when Im down.

Having BPD (borderline personality disorder) My highs are high and my lows are low and it happens all in an instant where you cant understand how you can be happy one moment and low as hell the next. I also have chronic depression. Im a giver, a carer, I would give the shirt off my back to help others and have often had ppl shit in my face.

The past 2 yrs have been hard and I have been suicidal and in and out of hospital. I also feel low about myself because of the mistreatment all my life. Only a few weeks ago my neighbour made me cry when she said "Nance I have never met anyone as awesome as you and I cant understand how you cant see this" Its the first time ever someone had a kind word to say to me when alot would beat me down. She has hugged me, cried with me and she has really made a difference and an impact in my life. I still have bad days and there is always someone that will drag me down but Im feeling a little stronger now.

I hope someone will give you a hug also and a good ear to listen to.
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Msmidnightblu71

Meander

I have seen ISTJ on facebook and other acronyms for similar

Please enlighten me as to what they are short for.

Thanks Ms M
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Msmidnightblu71

Vampavibe

Hugs right back babe

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Msmidnightblu71

NortyNancy

I am so happy that someone took the time to be so kind to you. It is nice when someone restores you faith in human nature.

It makes our daily struggles a little easier.

Mado and Tara thank you for your kind words.

The support I and others get on here is amazing and you guys are a pretty awesome bunch!!

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The_Phoenix   Man 42yrs

Standing right beside you MB

It warms my heart to see care and affection for you. These forums do sometimes tell a sordid tale. This however, shows just how important reaching out can be. Genuine words from those I see actually care, and care enough to shout it.

Meander and Mado, Vampa. Mojo.

Thank you for jumping right in and boosting my dear friend.

As someone who has dealt with severe depression, PTSD and anxiety you never ever know where support will come from. It takes time to learn and accept that there are people in this world who donโ€™t judge and lay themselves bare for others to stand on.

Youโ€™ve got this MB, we are all here for you.

B.B.

Super hugs, XoXo

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MrMojoRisin   Man 65yrs

Woohoo Barnaboy

I can feel a new pair of shoes to run away in...
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inspirit   Woman 54yrs

Ms Blu....

(((HUGS)))

I hope the very sincere posts in here have lifted your spirits.

๐Ÿ˜



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The_Antichrist   Man 39yrs

....

I donโ€™t really look inward much...Iโ€™m too busy living inward...

Some people have described me as funny, dominant(haha yeah I thought was fucking hilarious too),intelligent....

But to be honest most of em are full of shit...

Iโ€™m just me...nothing more, nothing less ๐Ÿ˜Š



- Posted from rhpmobile

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