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Thanks but no thanks - doesn't mean try harder!
January 13 2019
So without telling them blatantly to hit the road, what else do I do? Because when you don't reply, either they keep messaging or change tactic and the messages become downright disrespectful and rude. Interestingly enough, this isn't just in regard to single males but couples as well.
Okay, end rant :))
- Posted from rhpmobile
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horneycouplewa
5 years ago
Simple !!!
narnia11
5 years ago
I feel that I shouldn't have to but I'm beginning to think you maybe onto something there!!
RHP User
5 years ago
Well i think it also comes down to respect their is a sane No means No an its clear to some that they cnt handle rejection an think that they are special
RHP User
5 years ago
Block them! You don't have to worry about future messages from them and they get the clearest message of all. I don't think it's rude to block.
FeistyFatty
5 years ago
Block. Simple as that. My Block List is outta control but thanks to some extra persitent douchebags in the early days, I block every profile I say no thanks to AND repeat flirters.
RHP User
5 years ago
Have some fun and get sassy with them, that’s what I do. I’m like “you know what? If you’re gonna be a dumb shit and bug me I might as well get something out of it”, so they cop all the sarcasm and lack of concern I have for shitty people in everyday life who I can’t say anything to.
I highly recommend it.deepestpurple
5 years ago
Agree to meet them, somewhere really inconvenient and then don't show. When they ask wtf happened make up some lame excuse and arrange a new time/place. See how many times they'll fall for it. If they make it to 5, invite all your friends and family to be there waiting to laugh and throw tomatoes at them.
RHP User
5 years ago
@deepestpurple
I thought I was sadistic...I’ve got nothin’ on you 😂😂RHP User
5 years ago
I don't respond in the first place. Shuts it down before it even begins. My profile says that I'll only respond to people that interest me so that clearly means no response is a response in itself.
Call me what you like naysayers, it works for me 😝
madotara69
5 years ago
Quoting 'deepestpurple'
Agree to meet them, somewhere really inconvenient and then don't show. When they ask wtf happened make up some lame excuse and arrange a new time/place. See how many times they'll fall for it. If they make it to 5, invite all your friends and family to be there waiting to laugh and throw tomatoes at them.
It's apparent, you, the type of fiends you mingle with, even your family are capable of things too terrible and I cannot bare the thought with simply letting this fly past all fluffy, like a fluffy duck drake, soaring through the sky above, circling to land with a swishy washy wake through the water, impressing the decoy ducks feeding call in the mating season.
You could have used choko's, even cumquats, why tomatoes, why is it always the tomato bought into sort out problems ? I like tomatoes and feel a bit emotional atm, sorry but maybe next time you will think about that, even change your way and become a better person, mentor, tomato friendly, humbled then wise.....I forgive you.
Mado
Mado Tara xxnarnia11
5 years ago
@FatFunFeisty
I can imagine your block list would be out of control! As for repeat flirters... Is it wrong that I don't even look at them 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
The expectations of the online scene are ridiculous, yet, the reality is you have just as much unnecessary drama online, as you would going out and picking up.. Trying to suss out whether or not that 40-something professional in the city is actually married and cheating or just online for the ego boost and has no intention of meeting.
@MadoTara
Ahh.... Okay. Just so I've got this clear, you're offended by the use of tomatoes for public humiliation? Bananas? I hate bananas...and tomatoes.
fukmehard6725
5 years ago
Blocking them is really the only way to stop them 😔
P.S. sorry we haven’t gotten back to you yet, want to get the Christmas debt out of the way before we upgrade our profile. Please know we have not forgotten about you, and will contact you in the near future miss Narnia 😉
countrytouch82
5 years ago
I got the thanks but no thanks bit quite a lot growing up. But of course many times that was in person and from people that I decided to try and ask out in person. Obviously, you can't simply block and not talk to someone that you might still have inevitable contact with in person. But at least the asker can be nice and show respect to the person who decided that you're not their type, and not ask again, even if further polite conversations are likely. Yes, the thought is still there in the back of your head that showing such respect makes them see that and hopefully one of them changes their mind and accepts a meeting (the rationale behind the message of thanks for the other person's honesty and reply). It is online behind the anonymity of the keyboard which is the reason people will respond with abuse and questions etc. So yes the block function works well in this environment.
narnia11
5 years ago
@countrytouch82
That's just it though, if it was real life and they approached me, I talk to them because I know how hard it is approach a woman, especially when my resting bitch face usually screams "F@#%K OFF" ;) so I do give them the time of day and usually have a chat and then say thanks but no thanks, which has backfired on me a few times... They all of a sudden think "Woop! I'm in!" and they ignore everything you say.. it's catch 22 and it's ridiculous.
Being in a small town, kinda like yourself, you don't necessarily want to inadvertently piss off the wrong people so where do you draw the line??RHP User
4 years ago
I have tried the no thanks. But find it simpler to block. Not for me, but for them, so they aren’t constantly looking at my profile wondering what they did wrong. They usually don’t do anything wrong, I have been in many relationships and I no longer wish to compromise on what I want in a partner. I would rather be alone than with someone I don’t like 💯 evocatively, no if’s or buts. He has to be perfect for me.
By blocking them, I am no longer taunting them with what they can’t have or feel like they are missing out on. They can forget about me and find someone who is more suitable for them. Or reminding them of my rejection.RHP User
4 years ago
Hi Narnia,
Personally I like to receive a response and when its a NO (and I am well mature enough to understand there doesn't need a reason given) I will always respond with Thanks for responding and wish best of luck to them. I feel the closure, as such, is great, I don't hold it against anyone either for not responding. My thinking to being polite, other then just not being a complete ass, is that it is possible to see that person out and about in all sorts of capacity and to have them feel comfortable that I am not an ass in real life, and its not for any gain other then just their comfort because I know that's how I would feel. Everyone has the right to be treated respectfully online and in real life. This is important to me. And that is just me. I really don't get why people just can't move on. After all look how many people are on here!
Is it possible you combine your instant response, which you can make up your own and save to suit your personality, then block them?
On_Safari
4 years ago
I still respond to every message simply because courtesy costs nothing. Of course that can at times open up a can of worms and angst I neither want nor need. But still, courtesy costs nothing and when it gets nasty neither does a lesson in manners. I never used to block, I felt the same way you do OP but now my block list is pretty extensive and I’d say I’ve been blocked by quite a few entitled, narky fuckwits too 🤷🏼♀️ comes with the territory.
As for the flirts.....I rarely if ever look at mine and my profile states this so if someone wants to knock themselves out flirting with me and it makes them feel happy who am I to block them? They haven’t messaged me and got abusive.
I do always check my messages in stealth mode first so I can see if I’ve had any previous contact with that profile and they can’t see if I’ve read their message. Also gives me time to weigh up a response.
As for the person suggesting sending unwanted suiters on a wild goose chase with the promise of meeting, that’s just downright wrong on so many levels. 👎🏼countrytouch82
4 years ago
Mado and DP...
You can always try tinned tomatoes :pRHP User
4 years ago
Really ripened Jack fruit would be my suggestion......
That’s got a smell that would take awhile to get out I reckon....
sweetnsensual
4 years ago
When we say thanks but no thanks some guys think it’s a challenge lol
Tonight received a compliment which we replied to thank you.
Next message what are you into?
Said thank you for the message but not what we are looking for.
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It’s like he wasn’t even reading what we replied!
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