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Stepping into swinging and how to invite the Mr
July 30 2019
My Mr and I have talked about it but that’s as far as it went. I want to open this into our sex lives because who doesn’t love sex?
We’re going away to Melbourne in a few weeks and I’d like to surprise him like he “I’ve organised a wicked little treat for us tonight 😉” and take him to a meet, drink and possible play event.
Is this possible? Do I have to like apply at clubs or anything of the sort or is it simply find the event, register interest, pay the door man and then enjoy the event?
And anyone got any good ideas how to invite him ?
- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
5 years ago
I don't know if this is the Mr or Mrs but I would definitely not be surprising the partner with such an event. I don't know that you could anyway. They need to screen attendees. If you mean a private party, you can express interest but you would need to receive an invitation.
Wild guess this profile won't be here for longRHP User
5 years ago
Looks like OP is the female half of the couple
I’d strongly advise against doing such thing.
Specially when it comes to events at clubs.
Females get lot of attention at clubs, and if your relationship is not secure and you haven’t discussed this throughly, it can end up very ugly.
This is not something to be used as surprise material, both people in relationship should talk about this and agree about hard limits and what’s permissible and what’s not.
Judging from what I read, you have never done this and you have no idea what it’s about or what needs to be done before taking part in such activity.
FeistyFatty
5 years ago
I can see your heart's in the right place but personally, no way would i have ever sprung a meet and greet event or a playmeet on my hubby. I wouldn't have liked either. Not really the sort of thing to throw an unsuspecting ill prepared person into. Not having any further insight as to where you guys are on your journey.... communicate together and make sure you're on the same page.
britandtaiwan
5 years ago
However only you know what your partner is like and maybe spontaneous is your thing.
All I would suggest is be prepared to anticipate his reaction, if it's clearly making him uncomfortable then be ready to drop the idea until you've discussed it more.
If you do decide to go ahead then yes, you can usually just turn up at a club, I would advise reading up on the club event you wish to attend so you have a bit of an idea what to expect, some clubs allow single males on some nights, some don't.
Again always be vigilant about how he's feeling, yes you might get a lot more attention that him so make sure you're both super supportive and reassuring to each other at all times,
Again be prepared to leave if it starts going sour.
MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
If my partner did a suprise (without my consent), “I’ve organised a wicked little treat for us tonight 😉” and organised a met/drink prior, I would my fucking shit. That's one way to destroy a relationship.
Ms FoxyMsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Here's an idea, have a lot more open raw honest conversations together. Go educate yourselves with reading material like "The Ethical Slut" and "Sex at Dawn". Maybe check out the event tab and look at social meet and greet nights or attend a local Adult club one night. Rule #1 Do all this together. It's A journey "together" as a couple. Remember NO means no. If he says No. Look at other options like cuckold. What ever you do, do not fall into the planned deceit rabbit hole.
Ms Foxy
Obi1kenietzsche
5 years ago
Keep discussing the general idea with him and perhaps he might just eventually come up with idea “himself” and then surprise YOU with just the very thing!
Obi1RHP User
5 years ago
Hi guys thanks for the feedback!
I understand we need to set limits and and have a discussion of limits and what works for our relationship. I also want to add that he’s attended a swingers event with one of his mates before when we were in early days when a friend of his took him along. I haven’t though. So to me that shows he’s open and would hopefully enjoy the surprise but I might be wrong.
I am prepared to drop the subject of he refuses, I respect him. I just thought this could be a fun thing to surprise him with. I haven’t asked him much about his experience but I know he enjoyed it. I’m just here trying to get all the info I need to be able to approach the idea fully informed and prepared for what I’m thinking of getting into.RHP User
5 years ago
Don't drop it , swinging is fun , just don't forget about your hubby when playing . He is a guy and will probably like that idea ... BUT like i said , don't forget about him when you are playing.
You don't want him to feel left out .
Like what was mentioned by someone else ... its something that must be discussed for example what you are and what you are not allowed too do .... maybe no kissing allowed for example . Plan it out , when it does happen you going to learn and you will find things along the way will change, something that was allowed in the begging may be put on the not allowed list because it made one of you jealous .
And don't drop it if he does not like it at first , you obviously have a high sexual drive , not saying your husband can not please you but sometimes you want a different flavour lollipop too suck on and there is nothing wrong with that . Rather that than sex becoming boring and the same position being used and your eyes eventually wondering for another man and i don't mean in a nice way where your hubby will be ok with it. Once again ill just reintegrate ... don't forget about him when you play .... and don't ever play if you can't find a lady for him . He may say its ok but im sure it will bother him .
Oh and the surprise ... discuss bringing someone over but in a joke way and say you going to surprise him with a nice girl , then only organize something and when she walks in , tell him his surprise is there for him or tell him to get his ass washed like 10mins before she shows up , just there is a lady coming to play and you must be clean for her and he wont be too sure if its a test at first so you may have too encourage things too move along a little ... otherwise ... all the best with your escapades !RHP User
5 years ago
I literally thought that there’s going to be way more women then men so he has way more chances of finding a playmate he vibes with then I would with fewer men.
Ugh I have to learn so much.
Can I get a volunteer to talk me through absolutely everything? literally someone explain the whole lifestyle and open my eyes. The good the bad and the ugly. First hand experience beats articles on the net.
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