Put a little thought into being serious

Put a little thought into being serious

    | Mar 03, 2019
twowithnolimits   Couple Man 53yrs Woman 38yrs
At the risk of hearing the groans here is a chestnut..

recently we were messaged by a Queensland couple planning to visit our lovely state. as we always do we welcomed the idea of making their stay more pleasurable and a little less vanilla tourist. frequently enjoying fun on our own travels we know things can be memorable this way. plus we make new friends for our own travels.

well as the arrival approached we agree on Saturday night being best for all.... so we synchronize our work rosters so we will both be free to play with the visitors, since that was their wish, then we arrange childcare and of course reject other offers of entertainment for that night.

prior to heading to work on Saturday we message said couple for final hotel, timing , contact details etc as they had landed by this time.... upon returning from work we see the message has been read but not replied to....we give them a respectful time to reply but the evening is approaching and we need to dress etc..we message them via chat app .... eventually being curtly told "made other plans".. no warning, no courtesy reply, no apology....... clearly these people have no concept of being time challenged, nor any shame at wasting others time and money, ..we appreciate plans can change but this couple clearly had no intention of letting us know and only answered because we chased them!

the question is what do others do in these situations, there appears no redress, lobby for a name and shame board perhaps?? i feel that the anger, frustration and disappointment need to go somewhere, but where, not like we can do a make -up fuck they leave WA today.... ?who else has been stung by thisa nd should Queensland be allowed to remain part of Australia?
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teamaj2   Couple Man 37yrs Woman 56yrs

TWNL
Good morning !
Hope you managed to still have a good weekend ? I could be wrong but I think your scenario or something quite similar has happened to a lot of people . Disappointing and rude as it is , this happens not only here but on every dating site .
We had the same thing occur a few years ago. We were all worked up for a fun night of drinks and the hope of more if we were all happy. It’s unfortunate but you can’t make people be polite and do the right thing.
Hard not to take it personally I know .
Maybe , look at it in a different way ? They obviously weren’t people you would want to meet anyway ?
Goodluck in your future endeavours .
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SuperFoxxxy  

Woman 47yrs

Name and shaming It is not cool,

It intices a pursation of group pack mentality towards people, because your expectations were not met. Ask yourself, would you like it done to you?

This "couple" was visiting for themselves. Yes, they can change their minds because they can. Not only that you were probably not the only people they were talking too. Other people most likely caught their attention. Always have a plan B back up.

Ms Foxy
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teamaj2   Couple Man 37yrs Woman 56yrs

Well said superfoxxy !
I totally agree
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Qefenta4  

Woman 100yrs

I thought

WA would succeed from the rest of Australia,You could have Prince Leonard or his son Prince Graham as your King.

As for people not turning up,it is a common problem not just on here but in other areas of life.

Why do people do it? Because they can.Perhaps you had a lucky escape,would you want tp spend Tim with such rude people.?

The Queen of Queensland

Queen Q

Hugs xx
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Qefenta4  

Woman 100yrs

Oops

Meant time not Tim
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Xenaesque

Sadly there’s nothing you can do in this situation. The disappointment and the let down is real and unfair.

I’ve come to realise (after we have been let down multiple times) that at any given point in time people will be in more than one conversation seeking a potential meet on one night. What it then boils down to is who sparks their interest the most I guess. Regard for what that other profile has to do to be free doesn’t seem to be given much consideration - it’s about having options in case such and such falls through.

This isn’t the way we approach things. Plan b is great for when you are drinking and don’t want to drive home from the pub but not when you’re playing with people’s emotions and expectations and hopes have been raised and promises to meet made. I do understand it’s part of it and dealing with the disappointment is required but it’s not my most liked part. If you’re choosing to want to meet with someone they should light your fire.. make you excited and antsy to see them.. not be in a list of people you’ve half agreed to meet.

I am sorry this has happened to you and I feel your disappointment. Sadly it does happen (more frequently than you’d imagine), keep your chin up and keep looking - you’ll find someone who will be glad you spent the time and effort on them and it will make it worthwhile.

Mxxx
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countrytouch82  

Man 36yrs

Having a name and shame system just leaves people open to abusing it, some will make actual false allegations; some people that are just nasty and vindictive. This occurs in the public eye too through the media and individuals, which is why we have to have defamation laws, although the social damage can't be undone. It is hard to know if a certain person deserves a bad review like a restaurant without knowing more, and if they are 99% bad or only 1% bad. I know I've probably stuffed up at times with dating or messaging etc, but having a publicized "bad review" would quite literally kill off any further chance of dating in the future, at least from people on the site where the "bad review" exists.

Interestingly a similar site SH has a type of social rating system, where you can give positive and negative scores based on your mutual contact and interaction with people. Not that great for men in this case because it requires actual communication to occur (replies, meetings etc) haha, I'm stuck on neutral having no data either way.

But the point is moot because even if you get some sort of bad review it is very easy to just simply delete and start a new profile.
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Xenaesque

When we are planning a meet I prefer to not have a plan b. Once I connect with someone I kind of put all my energy into that and wanting that to happen.
I do understand that it is part of life, that numerous conversations are happening and that the most suitable will be selected for a face to face meet.

I’d hate to feel like a plan b so never want to make anyone feel like this either.
For me I guess I still need to learn to not invest all of me to one conversation and one connection.
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Freaky_Fun   Woman 49yrs

Well we allow New Zealand to be part of Australia so probably not much chance of getting rid of us Qlders 😜

It's a cunty thing to do. I haven't had it happen to me and I dare not do it to other people. But that's just me.

Heaps of other nice people out there to meet, their loss.



❤️FF
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Tall_n_Hard   Man 62yrs

To me...

it also boils down to lack of what now might be referred to as "old fashioned" manners - respect, courtesy and being polite.
The have contacted yourselves and you have replied and made all the necessary arrangements required to be able to carry out the expected meeting. Their lack of 'manners' has inconvenienced you in a number of ways.

Unfortunately it seems to be the accepted manner here on site with regards to communication, rather than the exception.
As well as increasingly in the real world.

Tall
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GetMePlease   Woman 48yrs

As a Queenslander I often wonder why Australia has not seceded us. I mean we are pretentious calling ourselves the 'smart state'. We are retrogressive in that we refuse to align with AEDT. We opt instead for AEST which, because we are so smart, I am quite surprised we haven't recoined AEQT. We are enduring with our 'if you haven't placed your order by 7pm - you're not getting fed' dining in the suburbs philosophy. And we tour interstate and have the gall not to front up to hotel rooms to get kinky with strangers.

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FatFunFiesty   Woman 39yrs

Hahahaha...... sounds like the other couple actually dodged the bullet here🤣🤷‍♀️
🗣🗣QUEENSLANDER
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KJ1971   Man 47yrs

FFF
That sounds like a rather unnecessary assumption about the OP who got stood up by a couple who didn't have the decency to say that they'd changed plans.
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FatFunFiesty   Woman 39yrs

KJ.... yeah but nah. Simple off hand remark to the OPs, "Should Queensland even remain part of Australia?" Comment.
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FatFunFiesty   Woman 39yrs

GetMePlease..... I'm very glad we've dug our heels in on the Daylight Savings issue...... we wouldn't cope with it up here in FNQ lol
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GetMePlease   Woman 48yrs

BTW I'm being facetious. That is shitty what they did.
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PeachyPearL   Woman 55yrs

Arseholes

It amazes me how people explain away this sort of behaviour, accepting it as OK because to me it's not.



The problem with the name and shame scenario is the he said she said potential which is why I support validations as a tool to see that people are genuine and do turn up whatever is written there.



Pretty clever OP I thought BTW funny! You were asking for some ire from the QLDers though 😂 😂



🍑 🦪 West Aussie extraordinaire
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XantheaHunter  

Couple Man 45yrs Woman 45yrs

No naming and shaming

Although you may be justified and truthful, others may not be. It may also lead to other horrible things like - rate my fuck. No good can come from any of this. Speak up when things are good and learn from the rest.
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OkeyDoke45   Man 49yrs

Time goes on, except in a certain state...




Quoting 'FatFunFiesty'

GetMePlease..... I'm very glad we've dug our heels in on the Daylight Savings issue...... we wouldn't cope with it up here in FNQ lol
As an ex-Queenslander, I remember when I left a quarter century ago the debate about daylight savings was just as lively then. I always loved how the most common argument I heard on talkback radio against DST was ''my chooks would get all unsettled'' .

When I travelled through QLD a few years ago, for the first time in about 15 years, I was shocked at the still-blatant outright racism toward aboriginal people. I had completely forgotten a particular catchphrase that was often used to describe how ''best'' to ''deal'' with them until I heard it uttered (with muttering agreement) at a pub. I nearly fell over. A monument built to remember a massacre outside Mount Isa is continually defaced and vandalized, still to this day.

Nudity is still not permitted. Nudist beaches don't officially exist.

Ah, Queensland.
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FatFunFiesty   Woman 39yrs

Haha Okey.... I definetely agree with elements of your statement (Spent time in the Isa many moons ago lol). Having been an expat in a few other countries for many years I just love being back in QLD, and FNQ is God's country and been a fantastic place for us to settle back in Australia with our children.

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