M29
Much needed advice
September 16 2019
What u guys think of it?
- Posted from rhpmobile
Comments
RHP User
5 years ago
It's not you, it's them.
Lots of people are just photo collectors.RHP User
5 years ago
It's definitely not you or your profile. As a lady on here I am picky about who I play with. But I've also had people disappear after messaging for a bit ofr when you're supposed to meet.
It's best not to take things to heart too much.RHP User
5 years ago
It has nothing to do with you.
We get lot of these “I don’t know what I want” or “I am too scared to act on my fantasies” crowd.
First ones are just indecisive and the latter cowards.
RHP looks like a Wild West of sex to many people and attracts all kinds of enthusiasts who feel like they are on a mission to live their own sexual revolution.
Then they start contacting people and the reality kicks in.
Do they really want to meet total strangers?
Probably not.
My suggestion is that give people reasonable time to respond to you once you share your albums, like 24 hours.
If they don’t respond they are not interested, block them and erase the messages.
Move on to next.
We decided to do this after bunch of couples who initially didn’t respond back to our messages to their messages, started to try booty calls on us, just out from shed16, had few drinks, scored nothing so they decided to try us.
Block and erase.
Yes we all get busy but someone who really wants to meet you will make time for you.RHP User
5 years ago
I don’t really understand what you’re pissed off about...
You say you’ve had a reasonable journey so far, but you’re pissed off that you get rejected by some people but not all??
Is it me or do you think you might just need to suck it up and face the fact that no one can possibly be successful at EVERY interaction they engage in??
sweetnsensual
5 years ago
Just because you have sent your pg people can change their mind. It happens to us as well. Like anti not sure what you are complaining about?
FeistyFatty
5 years ago
Just pic collectors. Its common. Simply dont share your intimate albums when requested. I only share mine if they haven't requested AND were planning to meet.
RHP User
5 years ago
I tend to agree with Antichrist, you come off as sounding a little entitled to me OP. You have a ''chiselled'' profile pic, you appear to have a fantastic body, your private galleries probably contain more of the same and you are still getting some disinterest. Welcome to the world OP, you are not everybody's cup of tea. There are some regulars on the forums here who are quite vocal in not liking supermodel-types, preferring dad bods and the like instead.
Some people might entertain the idea of you, thus approach or message you (or you them). They are allowed to consider your profile, your approach and responses and decide whether you are what they actually want. Surprise, surprise - some of them decide you aren't.RHP User
5 years ago
They just feel paled by your magnificence ?
Seriously though, most men here get nothing, no contact, no replies, the occasional view, that’s tough.
Be grateful for small mercies, your doing ok.Sawadee
5 years ago
My advice is to enjoy whatever you have while you still have youth on your side ? We're not all everyones cup of tea.. Some women like muscles , some dont ? Just the way it is..
RHP User
5 years ago
It's the brag that put you in the top .01% of the male population.Do you you back that up in your PG?Forget about Linx you'll take down Rexona with that bad boy.
RHP User
5 years ago
Thanks everyone for your valuable feedback.
And to those who think that I shouldn’t be pissed off or can’t take the rejection, perhaps u should read the post carefully again. I never said that I want everyone to like me. But telling someone that they look amazing and interested and then suddenly stop responding for days and come up with that lame reply is not cool and appreciatable. Perhaps people should be a bit more careful and sensible before replying to other people’s texts and also before commenting on others’ posts here in forums.RHP User
5 years ago
My bad...
You’re not upset by rejection, you’re just upset at the fact someone changed their mind and informed you that you were no longer what they were seeking ....
Assuming of course they were actually the gender of which they advertised on their profile....
I should feel so ashamed of myself....my only wish is that I did 😘
Mr Dragon_phoenixRHP User
5 years ago
Sorry to say OP, but your reply just reinforces what I stated previously. People are just being honest with you by the sounds and yet you seem to think that because they have responded to you or approached you that it's a done deal. You do look amazing, at least from your main profile pic (I haven't checked your whole profile) and were I a woman and I received a message from you I would most likely be interested and I would most likely convey that to you via a message or a reply. I would still be under no obligation whatsoever to take it further than that though, which is definitely what you are implying (''telling someone that they look amazing and interested and then suddenly stop responding for days and come up with that lame reply is not cool and appreciable'').
Here's another option for you; they may like the look of you and express interest, but they may also be looking at others and interested also in them. After a few days they make their decision and that decision is not you. They advise you of such (or not) - and that really should be that. You still look amazing, they were indeed interested - but interest is not commitment.
Suppose you go looking to buy a car, you go to this dealer and you see a car you like. It may not be the best car for you, there could be better cars that are more suited elsewhere. You convey to the salesperson that you are interested but you will have to consider. After a few days you decide you don't want the car, you've picked another one you like better or whatever. The salesman rings you up and asks you if you decided, you tell them that actually the car you looked at is not really for you. Salesman gets shirty with you down the phone, saying things like ''but you said you were interested and you liked the car''. You respond that yes you were and yes you did - then but not now. Salesperson tells you that what you have done is ''not cool'' and ''not appreciated''. What would your reply be to that salesperson?
newyboy70
5 years ago
People can make a decision based on a PIC. They are either interested or not. They may reply and say they like your PICS etc as a way of being polite. But do not want to take it further.
FeistyFatty
5 years ago
I've said "thanks, I enjoyed your pics" just to be polite. Id take it with a grain of salt amd not always think compliments are 100% genuine and heartfelt..... Your pics are fine... but let's be honest; no one here is a supermodel. Just be realistic and don't take this site too seriously.
RHP User
5 years ago
I actually do that often. I see their main pics which may look attractive but then when they open their face pics I lose the attraction so then respond politely that I'm not interested in anything further.
For me personally I instantly think do I want to kiss that face of not? If it's a no then I move on.
Yes I judge a book by its cover initially because the reason I'm on here is for satisfaction not a relationship. Each to their own.
If the attraction is there then the banter begins :)
LittleGiant
5 years ago
Quoting 'Evie666'
I actually do that often. I see their main pics which may look attractive but then when they open their face pics I lose the attraction so then respond politely that I'm not interested in anything further.
For me personally I instantly think do I want to kiss that face of not? If it's a no then I move on.
Yes I judge a book by its cover initially because the reason I'm on here is for satisfaction not a relationship. Each to their own.
If the attraction is there then the banter begins :)
Yep, guilty of this also. I have had people open their face pics and it kills the interest right away. If I'm not physically attracted to their face then that's that really.
Bang4u, it might sound harsh but they may be seeing your PGs and something in them isn't grabbing them. So they compliment you, then wait a little while before fading out, rather than doing it directly after (which is super obvious). It may also be as others have said - they're simply pic collectors and wanted to fantasise about a hot young thing wanting them, so once you gave them the tools to visualise it they were done.
I've been on here for longer than I care to admit as a single and couple and been ghosted many times, i've stopped trying to guess people's intentions/reasons. Just move on and try not give them a second though, it'll just give you a headache trying to make sense of it all.
Miss Little
xx
AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Evie and LittleGiant summed it up.
After time you'll harden up a bit in here and not take things personally......or......as Okey exposed.....Maybe you could consider being a car salesman and crack it with peeps that loved your cars but bought elsewhere....RHP User
5 years ago
Thanks everyone for sharing your views. I have definitely taken some useful notes from this post and will bring them into practice from now on.
RHP User
5 years ago
Annie...
Lol I met a car salesman once that did get snippy at me for buying a car of similar nature somewhere else 😂😂
Mr dragon
Mrs_Deep_Love
5 years ago
Hey I may be speaking for myself here but....
You appear to be from a sri lankan/indian/pakistani background. Unfortunately many men on RHP from similar background treat women on RHP as hookers. I have experienced this personally on many occasions here and on other dating sites ( and i dated a lovely indian-malay man when I was 17)
If you are an aussie/brit perhaps you should promote that. It's not a pretty truth. But it's the reality.
Sorry mate. harsh but that is the way it is. For me anywayAnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Quoting 'Dragon_Phoenix'
Annie...
Lol I met a car salesman once that did get snippy at me for buying a car of similar nature somewhere else 😂😂
Mr dragon
My last experience with the turkeys.......Drove a demo model that had 10k on the clock and he put it up for about 10k under list new price.Said l loved the car and went on my merry way.He rings up day or too later and asks what my decision was. He list it when l told him l bought a brand new one for less than he was offering the used one. He couldn't get his little brain around the conceptRHP User
5 years ago
Pure gold
dimples67
5 years ago
Hi hun
I’m sure you have received great advice from everyone , I and I’m sure a lot of people on here are in the same boat .
It’s not you as you have very thorough profile introduction
Yes it’s frustrating that they approach you and the normal messaging back and forth , plus giving them access to your pics .
Then *NOTHING*
So you leave it for a while then message them , and the reply ,oh sorry not what I’m looking for “😳
What a waste of everyone’s time
They are just looking to play with peoples minds and feelings and definitely self centered , and only get off looking at pics
Don’t be disheartened babe it’s their loss
And your profile is spot on
Mwah 😘RHP User
5 years ago
It's not just you or guys that suffer this. It's most of us
We get couples and singles messaging and winking us.
We chat for a while . Then that's when they start asking for nude pics and vids etc. But never seem to want to meet
Or they just disappear and ignore our messages
This is probably 9/10 contacts
My theory:
There's a huge amount of fake profiles.. those sexy single woman profiles you see on the home page? Yeah mostly Guys pretending to be single women
Also. There are many couple profiles were the gy winks or messages because his hoping and wanting to swing. But the sad fact is, his wife or gf is only 10% into it. So every time he suggest a couple she will say no or umm maybe but not that one.
You have to remember. The vast majority of members are not serious about actually doing anything
It's better to go to parties. Much better
badboyhere
5 years ago
Totally agree with the others comments.
Here are some facts about my account here that you might be shocked with but here it goes. I have been a member of red hot pie now since 2005 which is 14 years, or more that half your life (based on what your profile advises). You would say that I have one of the longest running legitimate profiles on this website. I have been persisting on this site over these years and have met 2 couples and one single lady in all of those 14 years, and each of those meets were fantastic. The sad fact is that you are dealing with other people’s superficial wants and needs. If you don’t meet these needs what ever that may be, people won’t commit. Simple as that. You will see from some of the other commenters in this post that they are not unattractive, some are hot as and still fail to get a message.
It is what you deal with and it’s time you started developing a thick skin to these sorts of facts on this site if you want to stay for the long haul. You have already got one great meet that I can see from your validations and they look like a great couple. Cherish this and be patient for the next event, and build a thick skin.RHP User
5 years ago
Wow, nothing wrong with your profile or photos.
To me I would be intimidated that I would be out of your league my that’s the reason. Another possible reason is couples and single females prefer a couple M/F as it’s less of a risk of bad situation happening.
My you should try becoming a member of a swingers club as they do have specific nights for single males to attend.
Just a few points for you to consider, but most importantly, be honest and genuine as that is so important in this lifestyle and people’s are quick to pick up on it.
R & T 💋
4aCharm
5 years ago
I'd be curious to know that if a 24yo female posted this msg, would there have been so many "so sad to be you" posts written from a pretty bitter perspective. To be honest, i thought his post was pretty respectful and curious, and asking for some honest feedback. Or are we assumming that all single males are predatory arseholes..I rechon that being a single male on here would be really hard. Maybe we should all just be abit more empathic and inclusive.
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