M42
Meeting at houses
January 22 2020
- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
4 years ago
Meet in a public place and don't go to someones house you don't know. But hey that's just me.
MsPF
SpicyKale
4 years ago
I'd be going with my gut! I might be completely out of touch, but how many single females would meet for a first date at their own house, or a guys place for that matter? I can completely relate the rush of meeting new people, it's the chemical responses in our brains that make it either exciting or scary as all fuck! There's nothing wrong with a coffee or a quick drink as a first meet though. If they aren't willing to meet in public first are they really worth the effort! I don't think we'd even go to another couples house we hadn't met first.... Ok maybe one or two interstaters that we've been trying to line things up with for ages 😊
Safety doing this applies to the guys too!RHP User
4 years ago
No, nope, no way, don’t do it, shit no!! Are you crazy?? ( not OP, what I say when someone asks to come to my place first up)
Sawadee
4 years ago
If your both thinking the same about meeting in public , there's a good chance its legit.. Otherwise you never know what you'd be walking into . Probally OK, but its not worth taking the chance...
73bandit
4 years ago
Had a number of meets at my place which did surprise me a well as other places but all went well as I seem to be legit , as for others I can not say but be safe folks.
MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
You'd be quite surprised by how how often many single women/men do invite strangers into their homes straight up. One woman in piticular who comes to my mind does. She gets so wasted and trashed that she has no idea who is who in her home. Then goes into chat room bagging out the guys for taking advantage of her. Reality is, it does happen more often than we think it does. Sadly, it is reality. Especially when one is in a really bad head space, they do make unsafe choices. Sometimes one has to hit the bottom of the barrel to understand that bad choices do have negative consequences. Sometimes some will never change their behaviours.
Ms Foxy
aussian43
4 years ago
I have had ladies meet me in a motel with no public meet in advance on a few occasions. Those cases all involved a lot of messaging over time first.
Much better to meet elsewhere, without expectations so either party can get out if needed.
I have not had any bad experiences yet luckily.RHP User
4 years ago
Chickening out on meeting people once arranged is poor form.
Sure bit of nerves always going to happen. But if your meeting in a public venue with no expectations.
Then safe to say that you can leave at anytime if you found them to be dishonest about how they represented themselves.
What your talking about is high risk for multiple things to go wrong. Sounds like your interested in excitement of it. But nerves or high anxiety maybe just your body telling you not to put yourself in harms way.RHP User
4 years ago
Are you one of "those guys"..
Who cancels last minute or even worse.. just doesn't show up ..?
KittyDeluxe
4 years ago
- Is my advice.
Always meet in a public place.
I also have a safe call in place - basically a person who will contact me at a pre-arranged time to make sure everything is ok - every time I meet someone new.KittyDeluxe
4 years ago
Being nervous is completely normal. I still get nervous even after seeing someone multiple times.
Just remember that the person you are meeting is just as nervous as you.RHP User
4 years ago
The Company line is you never meet at someones house first up, men should never ask it's bad form and women should never except due to the personal danger.The reality is most people have done it and of course for most it's been fine bar a few dud roots and a few have had nastier experiences.I've done it at mine and at hers, being male it's less of a personal security issue and in all cases I have had extensive phone conversations.BUT, I wouldn't recommend it for everyone, I think the meet first play later scenario is way safer for all concerned, I think the golden rule is, as mentioned follow your instincts listen to that gut feeling.
RHP User
4 years ago
Too be honest the only time I had a bad experience was when meeting in public first- massive creep alert.
Luckily the others were all great, but I think you have to go with your gut.SpicyKale
4 years ago
Foxy
Both parties are potentially leaving themselves in a vulnerable place in that scenario. The lady runs the risk of being taken advantage of and the guy runs the risk of being accused of god knows what. How much consent can you give if you're trashed?
Public meets and zero regrets in my opinion
We're definitely not in the camp of hotel meets only, fake names etc... that we've heard on here. If we like you enough to want to get into your pants you're welcome in our house🤷♂️
AnnieWhichway
4 years ago
No matter where you meet.
Done all the various meeting scenarios. Mine. Theirs. Hotel. Public.
But gut feeling for each contact but I'm more settled these days so it's public place. If I'm good enough to want to hook up, I'm good enough to be seen in public with.
But OP, those that don't show are the worse. You have balls or not? Man up and show up.RHP User
4 years ago
I've done it few times and it's definitely an adrenaline rush. I've never had any bad things go down though. I'm absolutely gobsmacked that the women on the other end of the situation were ok with it and it sort of does make you suspect a setup.
EarthQueen
4 years ago
Curious
What was your bad experience?
If you don’t feel comfortable don’t do it? How would you relax and enjoy yourself if you are feeling that stressed?RHP User
4 years ago
Anxiousness and Excitement are apparently the same physiological response in our body, so you could potentially argue whether you're nervous or excited is purely a choice on where you like to stand in your head...kettle of fish for another time to discuss...
Public meeting first is obviously the safest way to go for all parties. I have met at a persons house for the first time, hotel first time, secluded public, but have had conversations etc beforehand to make the decision to go ahead. It's just about having enough info to go one to decide for yourself that everything is legit before going ahead. And with the information at hand, if it's not legit, can you exit the situation easily enough.
I have had one meet not go well at someone's house for the first meet. It wasn't the worst thing in the world, but I'm not sure meeting in public beforehand would have stopped the situation from happening anyway. I'm being vague with details, but the point I'm making is that despite all the safe guards you put in life, at some stage you've got to put your foot forward and go with it - I'm not trying to be nonchalant about it, but a healthy dose of reasoning over gut is sometimes required.
If you do ever back out, my advice to OP is that the courteous thing would be to at least let the people know. It's not nice pulling out at all, but ghosting is even worse. Just for the record if I agree to meet, then I keep my word.
86Jasindy
4 years ago
Other than RHP I have never online dated, so not exactly sure how it all works. My partner however, did before we met. He told me he had been invited to a girl's place to meet there after online conversations (I believe it was only one girl?)
I put myself in her position, and I doubt I would invite a stranger into my home. I doubt I would have felt comfortable turning up at someone's place I didn't know. Maybe I just watch too many true crime dramas 🤣
I think it's strange, or maybe I'm just too private? Or too out of this dating game?RHP User
4 years ago
Well I must be the lucky exception. Nearly every person I’ve met from rhp I have invited to my home for a drink for the first meet. We’ve already set ground rules and quite a few times - it was just a drink as one or both of us didn’t feel the chemistry.
But generally, I’ve had nothing but relaxed, enjoyable vibes and great encounters. And quoting Foxxy - I’m not at the “bottom of any barrel”! Lol! I will state a caveat here - I have a very good BS detector and if anything feels even slightly off, then so is the invitation. Safety is v important and I have a face pic and a back up buddy I’m place every time. But I’ve never had to call.... trust your own instincts xEarthQueen
4 years ago
and it probably is.
But in real life most people just want to have sex and live out a fantasy, not turn you into a skin suit.
You can't just assume that every woman who wants to have stranger sex has mental health issues or is desperate either. That's not the case.
countrytouch82
4 years ago
Bad choices under the influence of alcohol or any other similar substance can occur at home or out.
I've met about three different women at their house for the first meeting, but it also included other prior communication and phone conversations. One of the benefits of coming across as harmless to them. Much more difficult if not impossible to tell based on just texted messages.
Curvesnextdoor
4 years ago
I’ve never had issues and I’ve gone to a guy’s place several times. I don’t see it as any different to picking up at a pub, but the sex is so much better !!
It’s exciting but I’m very very particular about who I do see and there are certain things I do to validate the situation.
The guys are taking a risk in having a stranger in their home as much as the woman is going in and generally everyone is very nervous.
Also for me I’d never turn up intoxicated or on drugs, so the risks are less.
Meeting someone in a public place doesn’t mitigate the risk at all. Plenty of weirdos and violent people have a facade of respectability. Very charming. You can get a stalker from meeting in public as much in private.
Everyone’s different, maybe you’re Champagne and roses girl and needs the pretended of a mini date, or are you a gun and chocolate girl her to indulge yourself?
Less judgment about women’s choices would be a good start.Vinnydimma
4 years ago
Thanks all I agree with all I think public place is the way to go
teamaj2
4 years ago
I agree with everyone in regards to safety and the risks in allowing someone into your sacred space called home .
Our gut feeling about those that we meet has served us well. Perhaps we have been lucky .
When we first began this journey we did spontaneously ask someone over without first meeting . Luckily for us , it went well .
Would we do it again ? No we wouldn’t . We wouldn’t tempt fate and in hindsight it was risky .
We are always nervous prior meeting someone new . So many possibilities and outcomes of a first meet . Will they like us ?, will we like them ?, will the attraction be mutual? , will they turn up ? The list goes on . It’s normal to be nervous .
Kokoflamingo
4 years ago
Its personal choice. I prefer to meet first as I like to see if theres some sort of connection. Ive chatted with a couple of guys who have gone to someones house and been met by someone who wasnt what they expected. There was zero attraction but they still had sex with them anyway. That, I dont understand. But thats maybe a different topic.....
Sawadee
4 years ago
That's something l could never do.. Have sex with someone just for the sake of it..
madotara69
4 years ago
had troubles with anyone invited to our home. Only ever thought that's what you do, invite people to enjoy the comforts of a safe environment, we enjoy having people in our home, we enjoy hosting and second nature show of respect, care to the best interests of the meanings to belonging.
There's a saying 'locking your doors only keeps out the honest folk'
There is also an instinct we all have in our natures, it's when met by welcoming tendencies, friendly and comforting.. we in return express our intensions.
Well that won't happen, won't know the intensions by any other means. Guess that if you are not prepared, nor care to the accommodating a welcoming sort of thing, then the burden of it all.. you'd probably think much different and stick to the plan as it is and that's ok, your choice, way more risky too.
MadoMado Tara xxKokoflamingo
4 years ago
I think its different for a couple. Would you invite someone over if Tara was at home by herself? I love hosting in my home but its social and there are always a few friends here. Im old school though, from the fuddy duddy contingency :) x
RHP User
4 years ago
We 2 have only ever had ladies meet at our home! Seening as we have our little dungeon room... we have no interest at all in organising play elsewhere. Only once met in public first. Yes it's easier for the couple meeting a single woman, most likely more daunting for her.. "Devilishly Exciting" might be a better euphemism! 😄 Anyways we're not into bullshit... wanna meet? Ph No first, lot's of exciting texts followed by a how the fuck are ya conversation over the Ph!! What's that your saying... don't give out your No? Don't contact us!! We have nothing to hide! Ps... 🤔 Think of it this way, it helps screed out unwanted visitors right from the start! 👍🤣
RHP User
4 years ago
We would never ever meet or ask to meet a man, woman a couple for the first time anywhere but a public place. The bar at the Hyatt is our “go to” place of choice. Meeting anywhere else is just dangerous IMHO
R&Kmadotara69
4 years ago
Murky waters with old school Koko, good question I will try my best,.. men often made choices for their wives and wives had little choice otherwise, an ingrained idea that men controlled decisions under the vail of protector over their wife and her best interests served.To answer your question, it's passable some might make the choice to or not to with Tara home by herself, could include the plumber, gardner, washing machine repairer etc, Not the milkman though and we all know how that old school story goes lol.
I fear more to the consequences of making Tara's choices in any way shape or form, understanding and protect unconditionally is her rite to make and learn from her mistakes too and aswell. I choose not to make the mistake and risk the consequences accordingly, so no Koko I would not invite someone if Tara was home by herself.
We have not had anyone come to our home who have invited them-self's, expressed intensions murky, undesirable and riddled with feelings risky.
We did have a guy once in meeting us, ask if it was ok to ring a friend who knew where he was going and let him know all was ok. What a great idea.RHP User
4 years ago
Quoting 'island_life'
Are you one of "those guys"..
Who cancels last minute or even worse.. just doesn't show up ..?RHP User
4 years ago
Is someone less likely to make a skin suit out of you/murder you/do whatever horrible things if you meet them in public first though? Creeps can hide their personality for a while until they get in private.
I have a safety person who knows as much detail as i can give about the person I'm meeting. And i always check in once done.
I do not drink or do drugs, so I'm always of sound mind :)
ryan2469
4 years ago
literally was so stunned last week meeting a couple that i almost forgot how to talk, couldn't believe they were legit.
MissKink
4 years ago
After messaging for a while I always talk on the phone first, if that goes well meet in public for a drink. No stress. I also make it clear if one of us isn’t into it or if there’s no mutual connection then no pressure to go further. I’ve found this works really well and I’ve never had a bad experience since I started doing this. Just don’t be ‘that guy’ who doesn’t show up. Good luck
lovman8
4 years ago
Wise tactics MissKink. I've been on this site for a number of years and only had a few meetings most of which have been in public and have been fine. A couple of no shows, a couple of last minute cancels, one woman showed up with daughter and grand daughter which was unexpected and different?? And I have had two meetings at ladies residences that were fine and very trusting of them. One lady I had chatted with on the phone many times , the other, we had only exchanged messages but she had something come up and rather than cancel invited my to her flat. So I've found most people to be genuine and respectful.
RHP User
4 years ago
The OP asked how do you know if the person is going to be a female. Well easy meet in a public place nothing to do with being made into a skin suit 🙄
RHP User
4 years ago
It puts the lotion on its skin, or it gets the hose again.....
*Dr Hannibal Chianti sound*
Mr DragonRHP User
4 years ago
Welcome to my heart.
RHP User
4 years ago
Keen to drink and Netflix in my place.
Nice lady welcome.
Tendertouch
4 years ago
I never do any private meets anymore. I met a couple in a public place, neither were anything like what their profile described and they followed me when I left the venue. Got their car registration and reported them to the cops. Then messaged them and told them what I’d done. I only meet at swingers venues or partys. There’s safety in numbers especially with likeminded people. And if the meet doesn’t work out there’s other options
RHP User
4 years ago
We only meet at ours. Our usual scenario is leaving the front door unlocked and the guy just walks in and finds her ass up in air blowing me and he licks her out then fucks her or she blows him then he fucks her. It's hot as fuck....
enuffnrg4u
4 years ago
cant stand time wasters
Talk on the phone profiles are verified and they cancel at the last minuteMsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
LMFAO! I think we all know what "Drink, Netflix and chill means". 😝
Even my 24yr old daughter does. Just last week, she was explaining this to her 72yr old grandmother. Even at her age, she knew exactly what it meant. 😂😂😂
Ms Foxy
HighlandFox
4 years ago
I always offer to meet in public to break the ice, but having a first meet in someone's house happens more often than not. I've had a couple of "interesting" experiences though. Twice I've had women lock doors and say I couldn't leave ... now that's when it gets a bit weird!!
Casanov
4 years ago
Hi, I have done it several times and I had some weird experience with some couples, but I also had incredible experiences and became very good friends with some of them. My tips are to make sure you understand the couple dynamics before you meet, you ask for details around their sexuality and boundsries (many profiles do not fully specify this and then you might get stuff like "we were hoping you were gay") and if you can have a short videocall to verify they are who they say they are that helps too... these things will give you some peace of mind and make you feel more relaxed;)
RHP User
4 years ago
I've gotten good at screening. When guys have more than 3 validations I might invite them over without meeting in public first. I haven't had any creepy experiences, just some who I've not been attracted to.
RHP User
4 years ago
I have a couple of guys just come to my house, might seem strange but I feel much safer and more in control that way, plus it is pretty hot! Never had any dramas. I like to think we are all decent adults just looking for a bit of fun (sadly I know not always the case and I def go with my gut when talking to : inviting someone over
RHP User
4 years ago
Meeting at my place? First time? No way never. Meeting at their place first time? No way never. Always meet in a public place first time. Safety first. No matter how much you have spoken via phone, message or however, you are both still strangers to each other. If things go awry it’s easy to leave in a public place
RHP User
4 years ago
Generally I'd at least chat with someone on the phone before even considering to meet someone. Even better if you can do a video chat.. An actual conversation with a person speak a million times louder than hiding behind text messages. And if that person doesn't want to have those chats prior to meeting then I'm not going to meet them. It's that simple. If you're putting yourself into that kind of situation and not doing a bit of ground work then you're quite foolish to be fair. There's nothing at all wrong with going to someone's place the first time you meet them, just have your head screwed on and if you have any doubts then don't do it.
LotusLover
4 years ago
I've been invited to women's houses for 1st dates quite afew times. I'm very honest & upfront about my intentions & desires.
It is fraught with danger though. On a couple of occassions the lady had misrepresented herself with very old profile pics (I am not comfortable with that), & another occassion she had a partner with her..
But these instances were a scare & could have been worse.
Now, I always insist on alot of communication & a coffee & chat.
I want to desire the lady I am playing with, have a nice connection & be safe always.RHP User
4 years ago
Good call. I was catfished earlier in my rhp life. I had turned up at a apartment in Surry Hills for some random guy to answer!
But that's the only time. Back the I didn't apply the depth of due diligence I do now (verified or validated profile, ability to hold challenging conversation).
But to your other point. I always get nervous before first meet. I really want it to work and I'm usually pretty damn excited. So it's natural to have butterflies if it means something to you.
I hope that helps mate.RHP User
4 years ago
For the girls sake I would never do this meet in a public place like a cafe bar that’s why you’re getting nervous your putting yourself in a precarious situation.
RavingChipmunk
4 years ago
I dont meet at my house. Its my safe space. My kids live there. I get hugely nervous before hand. I prefer meeting in public.
RHP User
4 years ago
I have ladies come to my house after msging for a while and me go to theirs . On more than several occasions they come in my front door put a blindfold on before seeing me and then leave on for 1hr or 2 . Or I go to theirs and tell them to be naked in the lounge with blindfold on then I do wat it is I do always start with kissing lips ..I can hear there heart beating and the nerve vibe coming from them but the kissing relaxes them a little then I lead them to my room or there's and we play for hours . One lady never saw me at all. Ever . I am a gentleman and the msging prior tells me wat I can or can't do . They have all loved it the whole thing from start to finish . They love the adrenaline rush and cum quite a few times.. the key is msging I have never had a bad experience nor has any one I have been with . For me it's the control and the submissive lady that turns me on ...
Tellmeyours
4 years ago
I don’t have meets at my place but happy to go to theirs. I’ve never had a bad experience yet, so I guess I’m just lucky but I certainly have my wits about me and don’t roll up drunk. Maybe I’m just picky lol. One guy was so nervous but I’m pretty cruisy and once he relaxed, everything was great. He’s now a good friend. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with.
RHP User
4 years ago
It's definitely riskier than meeting at a pub or somewhere , but for the most part I've found it's safe. I've both hosted and been a guest at someone's home without having met in public first and only once did I feel uncomfortable with the couple. That was because of their lack of cleanliness not because of their personality. I wouldn't have found out they lived in a pigsty meeting them at a pub though !
RHP User
4 years ago
There is a difference between nervous and worried. We all get nervous, just something you need to get by. As for meeting at a private house, I have done with lots of talking first. It was such a rush and there was excitement on both parties. They were at the point of knowing, well maybe there was some heart leading the head there, what we were getting into. If you don’t feel comfortable, don’t do it.
DarkPassion
4 years ago
To be honest I love meeting in house ,visiting someone to have night stay or fun ,but sometimes it’s abit scary as I never met them before ...doing n love it lol 😂
vanillanot
4 years ago
In public first time every time a tavern a cafe doesn’t matter never someone’s place of residence first time after popping the cherry yeah straight to there but never first time.
RHP User
4 years ago
I've had too many guys stand me up when it's been a legitimate meet. They then don't offer a reason or explanation and maybe because they're embarrassed but from my point of view it's frustrating and a big let down. You then don't ever hear from them again so something that could have been good is lost...
RHP User
4 years ago
Wow... it's disappointing to see some bagging out those that don't show up at times.
Have you ever thought that perhaps you are projecting expectations on the person you are meeting!
I can get what the OP is saying in regards to wanting to feel safe... geezus I know I'd like to feel safe... as I'm sure the person/s I'm meeting are wanting to feel that same reciprocating feeling of safety for their welfare.
Then again... this is what Open relationships have lead us to now-a-days... this is the trend I have been noticing over time.RHP User
4 years ago
Meeting in public is good form. But also... doesn’t anyone chat on the phone anymore? I do this after one or two messages. I’m a sapiosexusl though, so not interested in meeting people I can’t chat to.
RHP User
4 years ago
My thoughts are what if it's a set up is it a female, what does that sentence mean? Seriously I can't figure it out
RHP User
4 years ago
I meet and play at other people's houses and never had any issues... Though if they tell me that door is left opened and come inside, I always reply: I would want you to meet me at the door for the first time coz you never know....
But most of the people on here are mature and only looking for good fun...RHP User
4 years ago
I have 3 times with no awkwardness, just butterflies?
RHP User
4 years ago
I've done both public and private meet ups. Can't say I've had any issues either way. Sometimes the chemistry just wasn't there and it was nothing more than talking, a meal or drinks. But you know what, that's alright. Not everyone has that chemistry even though you may even be into the same things. In relation to chickening out, if you think it's an anxiety issue, there's nothing wrong with seeking some counselling for it. You can get free sessions if you have a chat to your GP. They still bulk bill it for several sessions under Medicare. I make referrals for people in Sydney all the time
RHP User
4 years ago
Something fun in a public location is always good for a first date.
RHP User
4 years ago
I love the anticipation, the excitement of what might become with no expectations other than pleasure.
poppeez
4 years ago
I always ask for a selfie with a certain number of fingers up so as to know it was taken there and then. Has worked for me. I go with my gut and have had wonderful experiences with first dates being at mine or theirs. Mind you I chat first and get a feel for the person over a few days to weeks to make sure the personality in the chat is consistent.
RHP User
4 years ago
I've had many a random meet in hotels ,their homes or mine never had a bad experience as yet .
I know it can be dangerous for everyone involved but that rush of meeting a virtual stranger is hot as fuck.RHP User
4 years ago
Like anything there are risks.
I have done both. Met in public for a coffee or a drink. But have also gone to someone’s place for the first meet.
Usually if it’s first meet at their place it’s purely sex. Both parties know it and want it. But it’s good to just ask lots of questions before hand like adress, time, how to get in and out, and also what their expectations are and yours.RHP User
4 years ago
Sometimes people want to be discreet...especially if they're cheating on their partner... public is not an option so you just have to roll the dice.
This is my predicament atm... is it worth meeting a cheat to start even??RHP User
4 years ago
For myself i wont go to strangers place..im so scared of technology these days webcams lol..but going to the point i neva had such an experience but public place for a catch would be good and if u wana take things further than book ur self a room....
DaddyRP
4 years ago
I have to be honest and say i have limited patience with your thread.
1. As suggested, if you are nervous meet in a public place first.
2. Consider how the ladies feel, both in terms of their own nervousness to who you may be, and also how they feel when you talk it up then chicken out
3. Consider how much harder you make it for the rest of we sensible genuine guys with your no show act and others like you.
Look, whilst i acknowledge that nothing in life is certain, equally no risk equals no reward. A fair amount of common sense, good manners and an appreciation that others time is just as valuable as yours should surely succeed more often than not, whilst at the same time weeding out those who dont hold the same values.
And btw that's no judgement on on your nervousness, just perhaps your actions followingRHP User
4 years ago
Meet in a public place first for coffee to see if u click and if they are real so many fake profiles. It very rude not to show up don’t say your gonna meet and not show up. Some people have very limited time with kids and family so it may be hard for them to be free. Think of that before u even think of standing someone up.
cute_and_fit
4 years ago
Definitely a public place first, whats wrong with a coffee / drink to start off?
I have found a lot of people totally different in person versus behind the keyboard.RHP User
4 years ago
Nope Just nope. Safety first then sex
RHP User
4 years ago
Have a few dates with a person and get a vibe for their personality.. listen to your gut instinct and if you sense any red flags then abort mission.
I made the mistake of letting a date come to my house too soon. Luckily I was in a position where I knew how to defend myself, so I was able to kick the crap out of him and throw his arse out of my unit butt naked.RHP User
4 years ago
Yes I certainly do get nervous at the first time meeting
sweetnsensual
4 years ago
We host at our apartment or house and have never had an issue. We have met at others houses but only after we have had a drink with them in a public place first.
Sawadee
4 years ago
Having a drink at a public place is the correct way to do this. Gives you the opportunity to check out who's who and if you wish to go further.. Always safety first..
RHP User
4 years ago
First meetings are always held in a public venue, if there is no connection both of you can depart with no problems. If however there is a connection and you cant wait you can always rent a daytime motel room go there and enjoy a fun filled day not in your own homes, then take it from there.
RHP User
4 years ago
God no ... just don't do it!!
I suffer from anxiety at meeting new people at the best of times, but couldn't go straight to someone's home. My safety is always paramount in my mind.
I have gone back to a guys place after meeting them and gauging my gut feelings, one of these turned into a 2 year relationship from that night.
Just don't arrange a meet then not show up or cancel at the last moment.
CJRHP User
4 years ago
I go by gut and my experience in my profession and general life experiences. I’ve met all kinds and pick up pretty quickly the suss, weird psycho ones as well as the legit.
Everyone should always have a safety plan in their minds for situations that could happen, both men and women. We all know there’s psycho women out there too.
By the time I’ve sussed someone out, I’m not nervous at meeting. Just hoping there’s some chemistry face to face...
In all that, everyone should do what feels comfortable for themRHP User
4 years ago
No judgement here guys but this is something I’ve always done on a first meet. Just had them come to mine. I guess I’ve been lucky so far but have met many this way and for about 6 years now. Even have asked a few to leave on occasion as I wasn’t feeling anything toward them or they were dicks.
Yes, my friends have always worried about me doing this, but it’s no different to picking up when u go out and ur drunk and bringing someone home that u don’t know. And I do have a housemate also.
Everyone on here that I’ve met bar a one married couple, I’ve just invited straight to mine. I’m always nervous but that’s for a number of reasons. And it’s after some decent convo before I invite them.
This has just been my experience anyway.RHP User
4 years ago
The only time we have gone to meet a girl at her house was not the best experience pics didn't really looking like her an her size was a lot bigger then she said but not to be rude we still went in an had a few drinks an catch but thats as fare as it went
RHP User
4 years ago
you can always facetime first if you really want to go to their place or yours first, but gut feelings play a huge roll and tend to act as a warning as would verification from other users on their account. In the end it's up to you but I tend to play it safe
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4 years ago
Yes im weary nerves but not for long
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