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Ladies: Do Validations Actually Affect Your Impression?
June 20 2019
So this topic is directed at the ladies, as I feel fairly confident that the vast majority of guys struggle to read past line 1 of people's profiles, let alone actually delving into the supporting materials...
Recently I got an offer from a lovely friend to write me a Validation here (yeah, sweet backdoor brag dickhead), and it got me thinking: Do these actually impact people's (ladies) impression of someone such that it could turn a nil or negative response into actually instead thinking "yeah fuck it I might actually meet this person"?
In short, has a Validation ever actually induced you to reply/meet up with someone - and if so, why do you think that was? If not, why not?
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RHP User
5 years ago
When I first started on here, many moons ago, they put me off a bit. But they were mostly the ones talking about his thick meaty cock and how many times it made her squirt before she flew off the bed into the sunset. Now I do read someones validations as a lot are more about the guys character which is good to know. And yes, Ive met someone because he had nice validations.
DynamicCouple36
5 years ago
Yes
They are like notches on a bed post . Instant turn offEnmorian
5 years ago
"how many times it made her squirt before she flew off the bed into the sunset."
hahahahaha holy shit that's genius.Enmorian
5 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36'
Yes
They are like notches on a bed post . Instant turn off
yeah totally valid call. interesting.
Eiliethiya
5 years ago
A heap of validations about how great you are in bed...definitely a turn off. That gives me the impression you're just fucking your way though as many women as possible, and then bragging about it (or they are on your behalf) 😂
Freaky_Fun
5 years ago
Bahahaha Koko 😂😂
Shouldn't have read that on the train.
I was the same at first l was like wtaf but now not so much. Although , if there's 50 made me squirt, great cock, best I've ever had etc then l will generally swipe left.
I have 9 validations between here and my couples profile. I have only played with two of those validators.
As an event planner people like to know I'm real and it's nice to know people think I'm a decent human.
MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
I have received emails (just recently from a couple), wanting informatiin about validations people have written me and I have written them, wanting to know about details etc. I am not a pimp nor is that information up for discussion. I must admit I do have a giggle at their assumptions, which to me is a red flag. Yes, like Koko, I have met people who have had nice character validations rather than those who make a woman squirt that they fly off the bed into the sunset. 😂
Ms Foxy
AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
For me they validate that they are real and remove suspicion of fake profiles so yes it may help a decision to meet. Several are a turn off if they give TMI.
AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36'
Yes
They are like notches on a bed post . Instant turn off
This isn't the school committee. I would have thought with your constant banging on about fake profiles, that a validation or 2 would assist in that regard.
Readyfors0mefun
5 years ago
As a bloke in a couple id say yes we do take validations into account.
I immediately cuts down the chances of dealing with the fake profiles.
If it's a single guy we're looking at for a bit of threesome fun and he has a couple of validations saying he has played with couples and was respectful of the couple ect it goes a long way.
It not a must but it's worked for us in our short time here.
What works best is a well written profile that catches our attention or a message the same instead of the generic crap we seem to read or get sent in messages.
TwoPlus
5 years ago
Yes very much so...I enjoy reading validations.
Everyone on here is looking for their sexual compatibilities. It gives you an insight to the persons character. Also who this particular RHP member enjoys spending his or her time with in their validations & friends 🌸DynamicCouple36
5 years ago
Annie
There is a difference between validation & verification. The latter is something that Admin does - they verify your profile by asking you to upload a coded selfie. Does verification make you a genuine profile ? We think it helps but of course the fakes still find ways to bypass this.
Validation is in essence “word of mouth”. Like restaurant reviews. One can get anyone to bad mouth ones competition, just as one can get anyone to write a good review.
The OP asked a question, they asked for an opinion. We gave ours. Most of the validation that we have seen are, in our opinion, advertisements of the sexual prowess of the person being validated. For us we find them off putting, an opinion that we are entitled to have. But then we prefer ones conquests and playmates to remain private. We don’t allow validations on our profile nor do we validate others that we have met / played with . We prefer to keep what happens in the bedroom, in the bedroom, as opposed to using it as “advertising “ material to attract playmates. Not all validations boast of sexual prowess, but many do.
Is it off putting for us ? Yes
Are we entitled to feel this way ? YesEnmorian
5 years ago
Just to echo what 'DynamicCouple' have said - I'm just looking for some opinions here and some discussion on something I find a little... well, odd isn't the right word, but certainly something worth thinking about. Different people's experiences are all equally valid.
I certainly hadn't considered facets like party planning endorsements or 'notches on the bedpost' so it's already been educational :)RHP User
5 years ago
With so many fake profiles or just keyboard warriors. I think validations go a long way to at least proving they are active users whom actually meet people. In saying that Foxy has given me a validation as we are friends. That doesn't mean u should assume I'm a notch on her bedpost. 😆
windows_spent
5 years ago
I see validations as an extension of safety in heavier kink - tacitly endorsing safe people vs those who can’t manage boundaries.
Verification certainly ensures some put a little effort in - even as a guest, is definitely a plus.AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Thanks for explaining. Who would have thought.....
I give equal cred to validations and verification. Verification doesn't give any indication that they turn up and or perform. They are all tools that help. Easy enough to weed out the fakes and the timewasters by using all the tools and ones know how. To dismiss 1 of those tools as notches is a bit naive. The reason they are there is for that precise reason.
You'd certainly need all the ducks in a row to play with you 2. Gawd, imagine the chances of a non verified stud with several validations and having "If required" in the safe sex box.....
yeah it's ok.... let's not go down that track. We know...AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Thinking over a red wine ( only one, so need to brace yourself....)lets say
couple A, has been with B,C,D,E,F,G,H,J,K,L,M,N,O,P,Q,R,S, and Z but had 0 validations.
Does that make them safer/more appealing than couple X who has been with B, C, D and M and has 2 validations?
mango69er
5 years ago
Saw a profile with 62 validations. To many one thinks
thecatsmeowaus
5 years ago
Validations are some what important to us. Actually means the profile has had some real life meet ups and the other party was willing to write them a validation. That goes a long way with us. Increases our preference to actually meet them.
MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
But wait! You do make a good accessory tied to a bedpost, as well as an adorable inclusion to any bedroom. 😁
Ms Foxt
ElectricDreamers
5 years ago
As someone who meets guys alone sometimes they help me work out who is going to be a safe option doubly so if a mutual connection supplied.
Samnite
5 years ago
I see two aspects to the validations.
The first aspect of a validation is that they are real people who actually meet others. This goes for both the giver of the validation and the receiver.
The second aspect is the reason for meeting. Sometimes that is more difficult to discern. The reason for meeting is largely related to what each of us wants from RHP. Whether you are looking for just play, a FWB, a serious relationship, etc. Therefore, validations that are in line with what you want from RHP become more relevant and those that are not become a turn-off.
Personally, I am looking for something more than meaningless sex with someone who is open-minded enough to experiment or learn or try various things both sexual and non-sexual. If this leads to a more permanent relationship then fine and if not that's fine too.
wildcrazyloving
5 years ago
I guess i prefer simple validations that verify that your meeting a nice person. Some read as territorial marks.
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