Is the swinging scene more shallow than people expected?

Is the swinging scene more shallow than people expected?

    | Jun 28, 2018
Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs
Couple finding it hard to find another couple who approves of both. Always seems to be we like her and can she play alone with us? Answer is no we play as a couple and have had numerous mmf and one ffm but the couples scene seems harder to break into than we thought due to shallowness. We understand there must be some form or mutual attraction and more importantly for us a connection on a social level to put things at ease but isnt the whole idea of this site about meeting people for sex? Not having a go at woman or putting you all in the same genralistaion but seems to be the biggest deal breaker weather it be his looks or penis size or not being ripped and muscly. Before we give up our search thought we would just get clarification first.
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cheekiplaymate

It’s a shame

I like you both but not a couple 😔

- Posted from rhpmobile
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cheekiplaymate

Oops

I’m not a couple that is... not a woman either lol

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Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs

Any

Any replies would be welcome 😁

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1   Couple Man 47yrs Woman 51yrs

You’re profile is all about the Mrs ....

She’s your ‘selling’ point on your profile (yes mine is too, but I don’t want to change to a singles profile coz hubby isn’t playing and the validations support who I am), you’re perpetuating the things you’re fighting against. If you’re not getting traction, change it up, show case Mr in a different light.



IMO though women tend to maintain a ‘better’ appearance than men. Women are the prize on a site like this, that’s the reality. We can be choosy and for me for example, I won’t ever take one for the team. If my pussy doesn’t throb for both of the couple - absolutely no way will it happen. It’s not shallow and nor do I make apologies for it. At a party or on this site, I feast with my eyes first, I have limited time and if the attraction isn’t ‘boom, crash, bang’ there isn’t a hope. I know in seconds if it’s going to happen for a couple, with me.



I’m choosier with whom I have sex with than who my friends are or who I’m social with. If I’m going to suck a cock or lick a pussy, it’s going to be a damn fine one (that meets my standards) lol. Sorry to say, I’m not concerned about whether I’ve hurt your feelings, I’m more concerned about the couple being sexy to me and we have fun.



Shallow Mary xx
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Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs

Shallow Mary

Ok that's fair only asking for opinions but what would your suggestion be to showcasing in a different light? The only other qualities I could offer would be the fact I'm a very good chef but we didnt come here to cook for other people? I have not taken offence to your comment at all not hurt my feelings. But generally looking for either solid advise or if others have experienced the same. So actually looking for help as apparently the swingers community is a very open and welcoming place but we yet to see that. More criticism than constructive criticism

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Bazingal  

Woman 43yrs

People like what they like

just because you (as a couple) don't fit what you're looking for does that make them shallow?
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Bazingal  

Woman 43yrs

*d'oh*

People like what they like
just because you (as a couple) don't fit what they're looking for does that make them shallow?



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Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs

Did anyone actually read this?

I never said everyone just said from experience but thanks so far it seems I have not been proven wrong. Was hoping for more of a welcoming to the scene rather than criticisms

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MsJonesy   Woman 51yrs

There is a

Real need to include pics of your partner in the public gallery. Dont make people ask for them, make it easy! He may not want to show his face and that is ok - your pics dont either.

Also, perhaps include in your profile why you want to have a couples only experiences, and if you are happy for it to be straight swap..... in other words some of the 'rules' of your play with couples.
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Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs

Ms jonesy

Thank you this is all I was after was some advice! And I feel our profile is pretty straight forward and detailed but guess not enough. We have not done the couples swap before but always because there is never interest in both of us

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sweetjen1

Shallow

Lol you say people are shallow yet you wanted ripped and a big penis!

I wouldn’t meet a couple as a single if ones a smoker or one has a flabby ass.

Does that make me shallow?

I don’t think so

I’m attracted to what I like

Have fun here
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Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs

Sweet jen

When did it say we want ripped and big penis? Think you may need to re read this

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LetsFrolic   Man 41yrs

Honestly

Some people are picky on looks and others are picky on connection

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FredAndGinger2  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 44yrs

Advice from a couple

Hi Harley n Jay

Here's a few pointers if you're seeking to meet with couples:
* Verify your profile
* Load up pictures of your fella too
* Go to social meets or other events where you can meet and chat face-to-face
* Be more selective who you're adding as friends - seeing you connected to single guys 50+ could be a turn-off for some

Otherwise, you have some really nice pics and a well-written profile.

All the best
Fred
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JohnAnn2227   Couple Man 43yrs Woman 42yrs

Are you only trying online?




Hi,

Are you only trying to meet people online or are you going to swinger clubs or house parties? In our experience it is much easier to meet and play with another couple at a club than meet online. At a club we can get to know the other couple over a few drinks and sometimes a personality can be the clincher as to whether I find someone attractive enough to play with. Also we find there is less pressure at a club or party than meeting couple to couple at a bar or restaurant.


Good luck!

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The_Antichrist   Man 39yrs

The best advice I can give to you guys...

Is sometimes ya gotta kiss a lot of toads to get your prince/princesses....

Patience is a virtue....it’s a much greater task to score a win on all levels when you’re trying to match 4 people instead of 2 or 3....

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs

thank you




Quoting 'JohnAnn2227'







Hi,

Are you only trying to meet people online or are you going to swinger clubs or house parties? In our experience it is much easier to meet and play with another couple at a club than meet online. At a club we can get to know the other couple over a few drinks and sometimes a personality can be the clincher as to whether I find someone attractive enough to play with. Also we find there is less pressure at a club or party than meeting couple to couple at a bar or restaurant.



Thanks this helps alot and we plan on very but we do want to go to parties and events but time is hard with work and family commitments so online was ideal to meet people first to meet up with but with no expectation of sex just to see if we hit it off but 99% of the time its always "can Harley play alone she is gorgeous" No she wont we are in this together and want to share the experience together


Good luck!



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Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs

fred




Thank you and we are going to verify the profile when we get a chance lol and we used to be into the mmf seen but not now as we want something new. we would love to go to more social events but dont get that luxury of always being free.

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Livingandloving2   Couple Man 48yrs Woman 48yrs

OP

You have asked for advice so this is my 2 cents worth
You state this is a sex sure so there must be a n attraction from both members of a couple you are trying to meet. It doesn’t make them shallow if their selection criteria is based on physical/ social/ emotional connection. At the end of the day every couple on here is aiming to satisfy their fantasy too, depending on their take of what floats their boat. Your post comes across as fairly entitled which won’t be attractive to many.
My other pearl of wisdom is to be selective in how you respond to the people who have taken the time to answer your post. Because this is an online platform many couples lurk and trust me when I say lots of couples would cross you off their potential list if they get the feeling of entitlement or hostility from your responses.
Mrs LAL

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Harley_N_Jay   Couple Man 31yrs Woman 24yrs

2cents

thank you for your input and advice. I never intended any of the replies to come across entitled and sorry if they seem that way. Maybe i have worded it wrong from the beginning . Basically just looking for advise as to where its all going wrong and there are certain factors they have all been the same that have contributed for us being unsuccessful. We really have all intentions of meeting other people and playing but don't seem to get the chance and we totally understand everyone is going to have a preference which is fine we all do us included.

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