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Is “sex addict” real or just an excuse?
August 22 2019
- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
5 years ago
Assault is assault .Sex addict or not.
RHP User
5 years ago
According to the DSM, any addiction broadly speaking, must cause distress and dysfunction. To self diagnose is a big stretch and very likely social reasons (ie exploitation, sympathy, etc.). It would be a brave shrink to place this category on someone as it is controversial. The problem with labels is that it often gives people permission to 'act out', 'use as an excuse' even when misdiagnosed. Saying that, if it fits a full criteria and causes harm, a slave to an addiction is not fun.
MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Sounds like you snagged a wanker, than a sex addict.
Never been fooled or been that gullible to anyone who does their own self diagnosis. It is dangerous and unsafe.
Ms FoxyRHP User
5 years ago
Hi Pixie,
I think that you already know the answer to your question. The man in question has felt free to use you and your apparent naivety to get what he wanted.
As an earlier comment said.. Abuse
You should never confuse what one says vs what one does.RHP User
5 years ago
TheQuiet1
I wouldn’t say it was an assault. More like harassment. xRHP User
5 years ago
Delish
He declared that to me and told me “I told you so” :(RHP User
5 years ago
Ms Foxy,
I didn’t even think about anything. The man was old and wise and I trusted him. No questions asked. I was young & dumbRHP User
5 years ago
Allsort
Like I said, I trusted the person. I now know him but just wondering if there’re lots of cases out there where men just this as an excuse. I’m also interested to know if someone with real problems can diagnose themselves? I’m also interested to know why is sex an addiction to some people? I.e: drug is designed to be addictive but sex?RHP User
5 years ago
Did he touch you without your consent and against your will?
RHP User
5 years ago
I never fold to the pressure or take one for the team. You are in control of your body and mind and regardless of what their issues are or what libes they spin + pressure, no-one should ever be placed in that situation. This does sound concerning. If it was without consent, it is abuse
RHP User
5 years ago
lines they spin I meant
RHP User
5 years ago
Hi Pixie,
I think addiction is not the right word as you say he enjoyed sex. There is a difference.
But when an opportunity comes around with an attractive young lady like you i am sure many men would enjoy exploring your wonderful body.
An addict would go for anything that moves and only be interested in satisfying him or herself.RHP User
5 years ago
I feel sexual addiction can be a thing if it takes over your life to the point it's impacting other aspects of your life. Where you're sacrificing time with friends or family for sex or its impacting your work.
But as others have said it's a grey area what's too much for one might be just enough for another.
However, it's definitely not an excuse to touch someone without consent. He definitely took advantage of the situation and your trust.RHP User
5 years ago
I read this as he merely lacks self control...
AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
But it is often an outlet or a mask for an underlying psychological condition.
Like all addictions it has serious undertone and can lead to self harm.
But it is often misused to justify unsavoury behaviour like affairs.........or touching you up OPMsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
I believe functioning addicts are the worst. 😕
Ms Foxy
LetsFrolic
5 years ago
It's real for me. It's pretty much always in the back of my mind and can be annoying
Mask_007
5 years ago
Is a lot of confusion about that subject. Is something real and much more people have that mental disability then we think.
I did some research and that is what I found:
"By way of a definition, “sex addiction” is described as a compulsive need to perform sexual acts in order to achieve the kind of “fix” that a person with alcohol use disorder gets from a drink or someone with opiate use disorder gets from using opiates.
Sex addiction (the compulsive sexual behavior described here) should not be confused with disorders such as pedophilia or bestiality.
For some people, sex addiction can be highly dangerous and result in considerable difficulties with relationships. Like drug or alcohol dependence, it has the potential to negatively impact a person’s physical and mental health, personal relationships, quality of life, and safety."
I do agree with one of the others. You have such a amazing body, as sexy as I_touch and other top sexy woman in these site and i would be happy to explore your body as wellRHP User
5 years ago
Thanks everyone.
There were lots of grey area. The man was my inspiration in class and there was no consent but no denial either. There was, however, a clear boundary bcoz he was married but not in an open relationship. I didn’t know what to do or feel. I felt sorry for him bcoz I thought he couldn’t help himself.
I’m open to being explored. But don’t lie/fool me. Honesty is everything
XxRHP User
5 years ago
Lol do you didn’t use your functional brain then?
RHP User
5 years ago
So*
RHP User
5 years ago
Functional brain
Maybe you didn’t? I was fooled back then. I learned from it now. If you want to know why didn’t I use it back then, maybe use yours. He’s older and wiser. He knew how to fool me. If you don’t even have any knowledge to share, leave.RHP User
5 years ago
Pixiex saying he's a sex addict in this context is a red herring and no more meaningful than saying he's a monkeys uncle and therefore human law don't apply to him.Trying to convince you there's a valid reason to accept unwanted actions from him is abuse.Even worse is the classic abuser move " I told you" to shift the blame for his actions onto you because he told you he was going to.It is important you recognize the mechanism of the abuse and how it was employed on you.To my mind if he told you before hand he was a sex addict with the intent of later saying "i told you" to excuse inappropriate behaviour .That is a premeditated sexual assult.
EarthQueen
5 years ago
The self proclaimed sex addict may indeed be one. I know many people have trouble controlling impulses. But if someone I was planning to have sex with described themselves to me as a sex addict that would straight up be a warning sign.Seeing as you like Tony Robbins so much( and this is not being sarcastic because I have a lot of admiration for the guy) just ask yourself .....What would Tony do?
Get in touch with your intuition, it will be invaluable to you. As you said you were young. My theory with men in sexual situations is if in doubt, pull out. As in bail early if you get any funny gut feelings even if they are the hottest thing on earth and are saying all the right things. Sometimes your intuition is all you have if people are good manipulators.RHP User
5 years ago
But we can choose what we do, Sex at Dawn.
RHP User
5 years ago
The Quiet1
Parts of me still want to believe he’s a good person. Uggg. But I get what you mean. I have learned from this the hard way and now the friendships gone. Apart from all these dumb stuff, we were built on a friendship. I should never get into his personal life from the beginning but like I said, I wasn’t aware.RHP User
5 years ago
EarthQueen
Thanks. I only got obsessed with Tony after this man. I got into depression and was suicidal for months, a big contribution was this man. And then Tonys videoes saved my life. Hence the obsession.Mask_007
5 years ago
I agree with you EarthQ...
Maybe first use your intuition and trust a bit more your deepest toughest.RHP User
5 years ago
back out if you have any concerns. Our intuition is indeed our best tool
yep_its_me
5 years ago
Sex Addict Real.
Well my addiction with sex is frequency and variety, that doesn't involve anything illegal or inappropriate. I would never use that as an excuse, but Yes it's real and there are dedicated sexual addiction psychologists who look at not only your back ground but also your actions ect.
My issue with managing my addiction was the truth. When I was honest with everyone involved, my addiction doesn't matter, as its satisfied with the same thing that I was looking for before. But I'm open and honest about it now. Yes I still have an sexual addiction. Yes it's manageable with the right help and following what you feel is right.
Play nice
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