Is it normal for a guy to come in his own hand after sex with a woman?

Is it normal for a guy to come in his own hand after sex with a woman?

    | Mar 03, 2018
Lovechild17   Woman 48yrs
Further from the threads on guys who get up and leave and returning the favour.

I had a double whammy. I was asked to go camping by a guy i had been seeing and had a connection with. Apart from only having sex twice over 3days and nights. (Which wasn't enough for me). When we finished a session on the Friday he got straight up, left the caravan and me, walked outside and logged straight into

a dating site on his phone. He couldnt move quick enough. But thats not all..His profile says he gives oral. He doesnt. He never did it once. Even after receiving and he always insisted on finishing by coming in his own hand. Has anyone ever encountered this? Is it normal? Cause i think its odd? And kind of rude. I could live with the hand thing but not without oral. Im not a bloody Saint. So i got up the courage to politely ask him why? It was a fair and legit question but no. He instantly blocked me. Fuck you, no explanation. Blocked.

So that was that. The end. I had been putting up with it because i'd developed feelings and we communicated a lot and did have chemistry. But it never seemed to translate in the bedroom for me and thats where the truth tends to play out. Yeah....don't lie in your profile. Seriously. Dont put in there that you want a relationship and you give oral when you dont.

Honestly, you live and learn.

LC.
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Hardozzy80   Man 39yrs

Hope your not with him now

You are very beautiful and none of that is normal , I hope you find someone that will treat you the way you want and the way you should be treated

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Xxalex   Man 37yrs

Wtf

All I can say is WTF... seriously... even if things didn't go well or how I planned... If I asked you camping with me, it would be all about you and me and our adventures in and out of the bed.. If I asked to spend time with you, I would be focused on you, not planning my next hookup... some people are just strange. I get you might put you give head and not really enjoy it, but I wouldn't put it there if I wasn't going to do it.. further more... I can cum in my hand anytime I like.... WTF would you do that unless it was to do kinky stuff like use it as body lotion on your partner... I'd be cumming anywhere else but in my hand....

Sorry I can't give answers as to why, other than WTF....

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madotara69   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 48yrs

Maybe

Asking politely soothed the inevitable, if you had have taken to him with a wooden spoon, given him the look of a thousand curses, splashed some of one of your lotions, called it potion and put a spell on him.

You may have had more satisfaction with closure.


'Put another log on the fire"

Mado

Mado Tara xx
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gazpacho   Man 57yrs

A bird on the hand ....

Finishing in the hand....



Don’t be offended if he’s comfortable with that. Women do it too. I mean bring themselves to orgasm when there’s a partner there. It’s often efficient, when a finish is just not happening and you’re late for a doctor’s appointment.



As for the “not going down” situation, I’m at a loss. Try telling him during one of these sessions that you want to hear munching sounds, and ask him to stick his tongue in your arse. A bit of dirty talk may be all the encouragement he needs?



:p



I love these questions, we forumites are forced to invent a scenario to elicit a reasoned response.



Hugs

Gaz
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Katurdai

Wow....

So I came into this thread ready to defend what sounded like just someone with specific penile sensitivity issues who needs to finish off by wanking himself, but whoaaaaa! There's just soooo much WTF in all the rest of his behaviour.....I can't even begin.... :/

Anyway, the bit about needing to finish by wanking is not super unusual. It doesn't necessarily mean that there's anything wrong with you, or your technique, or anything else. Sometimes the sensitivity just isn't there to cum any other way except by one's own hand, where there's full internal control over the exact type of touch and response, etc. At any rate, all the rest of his behaviour sounds so crap that I don't want to "defend" him. But I reckon it's likely that explains the hand bit anyway. It's not you, it's him. Sounds like he was really bad at communicating that anyway, along with all the rest of the badness.....

Sorry to hear that happened to you.
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Lovechild17   Woman 48yrs

No let me explain

more thoroughly.

He would reach orgasm, then quickly pull-out of me and catch it in his hand. I did offer my stomach but he declined.



LC.
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Brunette_Dragon

A sentence in your topic jumps out at me

I had been putting up with it because i'd developed feelings and we communicated a lot and did have chemistry. But it never seemed to translate in the bedroom for me and thats where the truth tends to play out.



''I had been putting up with it'' is a phrase that speaks volumes. In these sorts of situations there are almost always red flags, warning signs....signs that we choose to overlook for many reasons. I've done it myself in the past, often.

I'm not going to comment on whether the cumming in the hand thing is normal because I don't think it's appropriate to do so without knowing more information. Same with him not giving oral. The getting straight up and logging into a dating site though, is incredibly disrespectful.

As you say, it's a learning experience. When we feel in our gut that things aren't quite right, it's usually because they're not.
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Xxalex   Man 37yrs

I'd pick the tummy any day.

Mmmmm I love tummies.

Sorry that's how I took your original post.. to catch it rather then finish the job at hand....
No pun intended.

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Lionsdoll1   Woman 38yrs

Asshole hunny

I’m sorry 😐 nothing much to add. You seem like a beautiful soul, I’ve read your posts and I think you seemed very excited about this guy?
Don’t question it. It’s just weird.
And ummm jumps up after sex to check in online? Prick!
Definitely not you. Sending you hugs 🤗
Head high, shoulders back. Smile!



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The_Antichrist   Man 39yrs

LC...

When I was married, I used to pull out and catch it in my hand.....still do mostly....

For me, it’s cleaner...I go off and just wipe my hand or wash it off....as compared to ones stomach or back....or wherever...

As for the dating site thing....that’s a bit different, yet it could just be how he processes the scenario. While it’s not entirely a good explanation, his response to your question is enough for me to know his head just isn’t very nice to him....



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gazpacho   Man 57yrs

Catch it in his hand?

Oh.

That’s just weird, if he’s not going to eat it, or smear it in your hair or something. No. The guy is not right.



As for Anti.... cleaner? Oh gawd, you carry a handkerchief don’t you Felix? Blow on her guts, get down there and lick that clean before Daddy gets his razor strap out.



Hugs

Gaz
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Lovechild17   Woman 48yrs

Found out

the hard way that he's just not a good guy.

Like his come is so precious he wont share it and all the other odd behaviours that escalated towards the end. Serious control issues and repressed rage toward the feminine.

I dont need that in my life.

LC.
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I_touch_myself2

Don't

think it's you. There are guys who just aren't good at sex and intimacy. I met this guy once, funny as fuck what happened after, I'll get to that, but you know when we're new to this and meet people you're not really into but feel obliged to go through with it? I did with a few, quickly learned that by doing them a favour, they in turn, end up being fucktards anyway. So I went to this guys place, wasn't into him at all right from hello, but thought it would be rude to leave. Fast forward a bit, had really bad sex, was regretting the decision to stay, then walked out to the kitchen to get a drink, he sat on the couch but conversation was like pulling teeth, I then noticed he was on his phone and jokingly asked if he was arranging his next fuck, and he was! 😁 I couldn't get out of there fast enough. How rude, the guy was revolting anyway, no way I'd do that now.

Fast forward maybe a few months, was at a place in Freo having lunch with extended family group, walked up to the bar with my son to order a drink. I thought the barman was acting strange, looked nervous but seemed quite rude and dismissive. The penny hadn't dropped but I commented to my son who told me off for making a judgement 😀 few seconds later the guy dropped and smashed a glass. It was only then I realised who it was. Two reasons, he obviously didn't leave a lasting impression, I blocked him out of my memory, but I'm pretty sure he told me he did fifo 😂 You should have seen the look of sheer satisfaction on my face then. I waltzed around with a huge smile enjoying his himiliation. Fuck it, he deserved it. Gotta feel sorry for the next chick he met lol

Your weekend omg you poor thing. That would have been so uncomfortable and massively disappointing
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I_touch_myself2

oops

Sorry for the long post
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madotara69   Couple Man 49yrs Woman 48yrs

Disrespectful perhaps, no arguement




Quoting 'Brunette_Dragon'

I had been putting up with it because i'd developed feelings and we communicated a lot and did have chemistry. But it never seemed to translate in the bedroom for me and thats where the truth tends to play out.






''I had been putting up with it'' is a phrase that speaks volumes. In these sorts of situations there are almost always red flags, warning signs....signs that we choose to overlook for many reasons. I've done it myself in the past, often.

I'm not going to comment on whether the cumming in the hand thing is normal because I don't think it's appropriate to do so without knowing more information. Same with him not giving oral. The getting straight up and logging into a dating site though, is incredibly disrespectful.

As you say, it's a learning experience. When we feel in our gut that things aren't quite right, it's usually because they're not.

Also in nature as time progresses in new age technology advancing, the human mind adapting lesser than the speed of rate the mind develops naturally in this time of ages marked.

Science of human behaviour is suggesting the behaviour deemed disrespectful as mentioned above, is showing as the same chemicals our brains produce of addictions. It's a fuzzy outlook where and at what rate culture morphs to meet the demands by progress, in a world system lead by greed and power streaming above and beyond the laws mother nature intend.

It may be too and as well incredibly instinctual disrespect, unbeknown by reckoning of addictive personality and cultural traits. We are to be seen as primitive into the future looking back in histories pages, the effects of technology in it's first days a new beginning.

Just pondering :)

Mado

Mado Tara xx
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EarthQueen  

Woman 47yrs

The others have said it all


So just adding.
Sorry that he didn't turn out to be what you hoped and hugs xx

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The_Antichrist   Man 39yrs

Lol gaz...

It gets caught in my braces mate 😂😂



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SuperFoxxxy  

Woman 46yrs

Courious

If this is the same man you posted about (in the "why guys don't go down" forum),

The one where you posted "Perth girls can message me if you want to know" or is this another man?



Also as for coming in his hand, maybe he's had a bad experience with a prior partner who didn't like cum on her sheets and it was his way of cleaning up. Or maybe he doesn't cum that often and his tip was extra sensitive. He's probably trained to hold it (a behaviour over time). He could be stopping his ejaculation. Either way, I don't see a problem with it.

To be fair, I don't think he was totally into you in the first place.

Ms Foxy
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Msmidnightblu71

Lovechild

I often talk about peoples agenda's, we all have our own.

I certainly feel for you in this in this situation. When feelings come into it, becomes more complicated.

As far as the sex goes, why he does that is maybe what he is conditioned to do and there is nothing wrong with that as some of the guys have mentioned. we all have our sexual habits. Each guy is different. Communication comes as advice all the time on the forums. When feelings are invested from a woman's point of view, it can be hard to communicate our feelings as we come across as all needy.

I think some people put what they think people want to hear in their profiles just to get what they want, again their own agenda and we only find out their true colours on meeting and spending time with them. Unfortunately people lie to get what they want with total disregard to others.

Getting straight on a dating app is just plain disrespectful and rude.

I certainly feel for you but this guy wasn't worth your time. I read a lot of your forum topics and replies, You are a genuine soul who just deserves so much better.

Hugs Hun move on and find someone better. I know there are guys out there who are worthy of your time and energy.

Ms Midnight
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Brunette_Dragon

Mado

Yep, researchers are certainly discovering that technology these days can lead to behavioural addictions, people constantly needing to check their phone, needing the constant validation of likes, etc.

Regardless of the reason, what he did was disrespectful. Addicts can be some of the most disrespectful people on the planet. They may not mean to act like arseholes and not do the things they do with the intention of hurting people, but the effect on others is the same.

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