Inequality

Inequality

    | Feb 28, 2019
buff44  

Man 47yrs
Hi there. It seems from various posts in forums that there is a significant imbalance with enquires, flirts, messages etc between women and men. Of course as a male i only get to see what happens on my side. I have repeatedly heard that women are inundated with messages etc. Is that the case?
I have also been asked if i have had any success and that it is difficult for guys. I can say that my time on RHP has been a mixed bag with only a small success rate. To tell the truth its actually about what i expected.
Buff...

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FatFunFiesty  

Woman 38yrs

Yes we are inundated. And no, I don't think most Male members have the same "success rates" and the female members.... that's just the how it goes. Wouldn't label it as inequity in anyway shape or form though.
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Freaky_Fun  

Woman 48yrs

If people say they get hundreds of messages a day they're doing better than me or full of shit.

And if men think it's only women that don't reply they're kidding themseleves. We just don't constantly whinge about it in forum topics.

I know one thing for sure is l've never received an abusive message from a couple or a female.
But that's ok l use those messages for sport until they block me 😀
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buff44  

Man 47yrs

Freaky this is by no means a complaint. Response rates are what you would expect, no one owes anyone a damn thing on here.
Just wanted to see what the reality is...

B
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Freaky_Fun  

Woman 48yrs

Oh nooo l didn't take it as a complaint at all.

I was just saying that some people may embellish how many messages they get a day.



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SuperFoxxxy   Woman 47yrs

Buff

When I first started on RHP, yeah sure I was bombarded with contact emails. Nowadays, the contact I receive fluctuates each day. My success rate is due to me selecting very carefully, whom I want to be around and who is a equal/fit to me, with common interests. That is what I expect and want. The last few years, I have been very lucky and blessed.

Ms Foxy
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rotaboy2011  

Man 46yrs

Majority of women on here is my experience say they are overwhelmed... what a stupid word. Or dont have time, or send messages and I will reply. I feel that all should just be normal and politely say no I am not interested... or just reply with something.
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Qefenta3

Benjamin Disraeli

Said"there are lies ,damn lies and statistics "

Why tell the truth when a good lie is far more interesting.

Yes perhaps most women depending on their level of pulchtritude initially receive an overwhelming amount of messages and flirts .

Fresh meat :)

But it does decline. So Buff dont believe all that you hear.

Only 70 percent of women are telling the truth :)

Hugs Q
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PeachyPearL   Woman 55yrs

With the uneven balance of men to women

It's not surprising we hear more from the men than women... But the fact is, many women do post to complain about ghosting and such, there is such a thread posted today. They just don't cop the same judgement most of the time.

Also, men tend to be members more than women, so numbers would suggest they send more messages.

I haven't mentioned other profile types to keep it simple, Peachy, no not inundated by messages but I skip the pretty pictures to attract more attention than I need and have a thorough write up so as not to waste anyone's time.
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leelud

Sounds like you’re asking for individual experiences... so here’s mine.

I think it depends on the profile, as, I have certainly not been inundated. I respond to all flirts and messages as a matter of courtesy. I’ve had a perfect success rate as the people I’ve met, spoken to or messaged have been delightful.
I think it’s a great platform if you verify, take your time, be patient and respectful.

The forums are so insightful and gives you a moment to collect and process the broad views that ‘people’ have.

Happy hunting!
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Mischeviouslad   Man 47yrs

If the op is after individual stories.....im really not sure what benefit there is in that as individual experiences obviously vary widely


Scanning the forums ... as he has done.... is the most logical way to gain an insight of the “collective experience” which tells the pattern

To me, a more interesting proposition is to learn what people decide “success” to be
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MzTracey  

Man 48yrs

It seems to be feast or famine
The last 6 months of last year nothing but this year has been really really great
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buff44  

Man 47yrs

Leelud, individual experiences are certainly what i am interested. Generalizing is never a good thing in my experience.
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nightingale8   Woman 33yrs

Am I the only one having a giggle about the jizz on the hair look? 😁
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SxcMissM  

Woman 50yrs

In my first week of changing states i was the shiny new thing and i was inundated with flirts and messages yes over 100 it was overwhelming😮 and did i respond to all no i couldnt 🙄......thank god i only get 1or 2 a day its so much more manageble 😊
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Wanderer1  

Man 40yrs

I've met with 1 lady in my city in the last 12 months and chatted with a few couples on messenger about possible future meets, I'm thinking patience is the way to go. Also the way my profile is written is utter shit and I could do a lot better 😂
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Snap_Dragon   Woman 40yrs

Nope

Not inundated at all. I don't receive flirts because I've turned off that option in my settings, and even when I was actively looking I didn't get that many messages. When I first joined, when I was also looking for couples, and when I had amateur pic sets up I did have more inbox traffic, but it still would have been rare for me to get more than 5 messages a day. My location does have a lot to do with that, and I do receive a lot more messages when I post travel dates.

Yes it is difficult for men on here. It is also difficult for women and despite what some people think not all of us can easily find sex here (due to a few reasons, location again being another big one). If we're just talking about hooking up then I probably wouldn't classify my time here as much of a success. I have met some great people I now call friends though, and that is where RHP has been of the most benefit to me.


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Redmustang   Couple Man 45yrs Woman 40yrs

In my experiences views flirts and messages fluctuate from day to day with no rhyme or reason... I’ve tried beating myself with a brick to understand why however only end up with a sore head that’s not worth the effort at the end of the day.
Our profile isn’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is going to get to taste our sweetness as compatibility isn’t present. It’s life and I’m learning to bypass the brick for more favourable endeavours with those that see something in us.
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The_Antichrist   Man 39yrs

I’m ML...

Define “success” as its entirely subjective...
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GetMePlease   Woman 48yrs

My 'success' or 'liberation' as I prefer to call it, was borne out of introspection, self-permission and determination.
Numbers of flirts and messages become irrelevant when a profile is found and a person or people at the other end can be connected with.
My inbox has had a lot of mail yes. My desire to be busy with RHP and mail and new connections thankfully is tempered by my desire to be a whole person and busy with living my life.
Might I add here, in this public space, I like your profile. And I wish you 'success'.
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buff44  

Man 47yrs

Thanks Getme. Any form of reaasurance and or compliment is always welcome. I totally agree with what you say about living a balanced life. Certainly RHP is not a distraction but then again as most males on here the volume of my messages is managable.
Success for me is connecting with someone online, arranging a face to face meet and for that to actually happen. It doesnt not necessarily mean there was an exchange of body fluids. The opportunity to meet new interesting people is also one of the reasons i am here. Therefore, as i said i have had some success.

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