Feeling rejected?

Feeling rejected?

    | Mar 22, 2018
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So you scroll past a profile and she list a few things you might match ... so you pass her some photos... but then she rejects you! Without any more conversation. - just a straight up no! I get it .. your ego is bruised ... you thought you had a chance but you only to find out it wasn’t mutual.

This happens all too often —- and it’s not fair to be abused upon rejecting someone. Women on here get inundated with messages everyday it’s a tough job sifting though all the guys trying to find one which catches your eye.
The ratio is 60-2.
But today I got abused by a particular someone as I straight up said your not my type , I read the profile I looked at the pictures I wasn’t attracted to this person so I said ‘ your not my type good luck with your search’.

Now - just because you send a simple hi doesn’t mean anything. You maybe everything I am looking for - but there is more to someone than a few traits I am after. Your message didn’t grab me , your looks I am not attracted to. There is more to the story! I wish guys would not send a copy and paste message , be authentic , try a little harder! They abused me because I wrote back a automated message , and said I didn’t put any effort in. But why would I try when all you said was hi... you showed me your message was half assed. But then I’m supposed to try? I will do equally as you do!
I wish guys would realIse how many guys actually message us each day! I think guys think women on here want every guy that will talk to them — not true!
So what’s your thoughts? Am I in the wrong? Do you disagree?

- Posted from rhpmobile
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sensualgrip

Totally agree.. thats the natures law of courtship.

Totally agree..thats how he law of courtship work. Male/Man needs to come up with the most enticing approach to outstand from the others.. even if the result was from a naive..the effort put in counts. It is jackpot if the female/woman has the ability to respect the effort and is attracted physically as well. If no..then it's a no..atleast he tried..and made her smile. Men need to enjoy rejection and enjoy the struggle to get her(and when you get her..bang the hell out of her for making you wait), rather than walking in here for an easy catch..like buying bread from a servo.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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pangolin28

Ella

Nothing wrong with your response at all and frankly he should have been happy you responded. I like to thank a lass for responding even if it with a simple or automated no as my pet hate is not having my message responded to just left, yeah I know it's no response means no before you ladies smack me about as there is a massive men to women ratio difference but I am sorry I am of the old tradition of courtesy. So I think the guy was lucky. Kudos to you Ella for responding and you will always cop an asshole or two here just the nature of any singles site.


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curiosityx

Simplify.

A ratio of 60-2 is simplified to 30-1. Nerd alert, I know...

- Posted from rhpmobile
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funcple74   Couple Man 44yrs Woman 44yrs

Happens to us all..

We have seen it at its worst, once we have said no based on distance, honestly, then what followed was actually the worst we have experienced.. there will always be some, ....so we are still here and hoping to meet the right ones.. nice people, nice fun.. (oh, and we have met some amazing people here that balance it out to make it worthwhile)..
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nightingale8   Woman 33yrs

I don't reply

If I'm not interested, unless of course they have specifically requested one. This was because I once contacted a girl when my partner and I were looking. We got a no (which was fine) but it didn't feel very nice. From then on I have gone on the assumption that the more polite thing to do is not answer. I figured (many) single men don't get many responses so when the only one you get is a no, it's a bit ego deflating. The other issue is that I often don't have the time to and have occasionally gotten back to people months later when I've been in the right mood.
Way I look at is is, there's no harm in asking a question so long as it's not lewd or degrading, even if the person doesn't fit the profile's stipulated criteria (meh, people are opportunists). But if asking a question to remember it's only a request and no demand for an answer will be received nicely. Play nice pies ❤

- Posted from rhpmobile
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aussian43   Man 47yrs

Rejection

Usually if I get an actual message rejecting me, I send a thank you for responding and wish them luck.

Quite understandably as your experience shows, most women don't respond. No idea why you would want to lash out over it, too many keyboard warriors hiding behind a screen.
Stay on here as a male for any length of time soon get used to rejection! ;)

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovechild17   Woman 48yrs

No you're right....

You are right.



LC.
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sensualgrip

Finally

Finally in this forum.. I find a good intellectual topic to talk...thanks @ellaella29

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad   Man 47yrs

2c

I feel that if someone is so brittle and insecure that they need to respond to a “no thank you”.... with abuse....

.... then I firmly believe you’ve dodged a bullet.

That same self absorbed and entitled attitude is extremely likely to let you down at a later point, and perhaps in a considerably more difficult way and at a more intimate occasion.

It’s a douche move, born from very ego and self interested behaviour



- Posted from rhpmobile
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megz85g   Woman 33yrs

I auto reply

And often do get an abusive msg back, along the same lines as meander.
Then you have the ones you said no to, that then msg every second day until I have to block.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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MrMojoRisin   Man 65yrs

Some men are arseholes.

When I get declined politely I thank them for their reply.

At the time of posting the ratio is 449:2931, or about 6.5:1.
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FatFunFiesty   Woman 38yrs

Always

Reply. Find it absolutely ignorant and downright rude not to to be honest. Im always short and sweet in my rejections and wish them well
Also always thank them for their message and try to incorporate a nice comment or compliment (if possible). Following this formula the worst (which isnt bad) that ive received in return was, "Thats a shame, your loss Hun".
Politeness and manners cost nothing and it would br nice if more women and couples could make more of an effort in that respect. Put ourselves in the shoes of the single male profile holders, cant be easy or feel too nice.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Hawt1   Man 41yrs

Rejection





Rejection happens, fact of life.
You can take it with grace or act like a child.
I even thank them for taking that time and wish them the best.
I dont think less of people not replying at all, but it is nice to think someone took the time.
Especially as it is so rare.. but this is just a male's perspective.

(Secretly when I was overseas I did get a kick out of seeing women get rejected as the men were after the more exotic natives, funny and so peculiar to see the shoe on the other foot for a change)
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FunInPerth   Man 53yrs

So what do you want

Million dollar question
What do they want or need?
Often they ask for Champaign and glug down Jacks & Coke
In being on RHP since 2012 I can honestly say I have had two real ladies contact me who know what they want and where spot on with what they got. Many just ignore messages or likes or flirts etc
I appreciate a simple " no thanks you not my type " or " you a bit old for me or too short lol (yes I'm short an d old lol) or simply no chemistry spark"

And as I have said I have only got two approaches from ladies ( one I've been seeing on and off for five years now, so I must be doing something right)
Back in the good old days before so much online profiling and shit-short-listing we had dinner dates for a group of ten to twenty or a couples and singles party out at Wanneroo and we met the real people face to face and did not have to deal with the fake profiles and make believe images
That's my view
Oh and often it's nice to banter and flirt before you just come straight out and demand a root for the night.
What happened to sexual tension and courtship?

- Posted from rhpmobile
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SugarSugar69   Woman 39yrs

Rejection

Yes I've been called every name you can think of because I replied thanks but no thanks. This morning a guy messaged me demanding I answer all he's questions otherwise I'd get blocked and I woudn't want that because I'd be missing out on the time of my life 😂......
I reminded him what manners were and to use them.
Then I blocked him.
Some assume being on RHP means we are desperate!



- Posted from rhpmobile
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Koolgrey

. . . .

"Don't let the bad apples spoil the whole pie.."

I like your culinary quips, Meander. On point, as always. 🙄
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aaLittleFun   Couple Man 64yrs Woman 61yrs

non reply

Why is there a need to reply if there is no attraction. It is a rejection in itself but not meant personally. we all value differently. I mr thinks it is worse replying saying thank you for the reply but you are not my type. Any reply should always be polite to stop hurting somebody else. If getting a bad response I think we should not lower ourselves to that level and ignore it. just my openion
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Xxalex   Man 37yrs

I totally hear you..

And yes.. Not hearing back or getting a no thanks does sting a little.. But that's life. it's like all the profiles you matched but skipped over because I didn't think they were my type based on my assessment.... I always say at the end of a message-
Feel free to reply if you'd like to chat further, if not, hope you find what you are looking for.....

Or something to that effect...

I'm certainly not everybody's cup of tea.. Just like lots on here aren't mine..

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Auflaurer   Woman 41yrs

Reminds me of meme I just saw

(Fuckboy at dinner)

Fuckboy: I'll have the peacan pie.

Waitress: Sorry, were out.

Fuckboy: Haha OMG 😂😂😂 you really think I wanted it bitch? Your pie is nasty AF. The worst in town. Get a clue honey. I literally live in a pecan pie factory.
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HungGent  

Man 33yrs

Lost me at 60:2

That's all I could think about too ...

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