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How did you end up here?
November 15 2019
Are folks googling swingers, or threesomes, or dating? We're guessing it varies between singles and couples? We've had a number of very peeved "if you're not DTF now why are you here" messages over the last two years and we're guessing these have come from people with very different expectations of the site.
We know everyone does this in their own way, but we were wondering if the way people are actually finding their way here explains some of the complaints people have with interactions?
We found out about RHP after going to a club and having it mentioned to us. We'd already stumbled onto one of the other sites after posting a Craigslist ad looking for nude beach friends.... don't judge us, we were new! So we very much knew what we were in for...
Love to hear about everyone else's trip to the dark side
- Posted from rhpmobile
Comments
RHP User
4 years ago
I actually got put onto the site by a friend who had used it when she and her ex were swingers.
I am in a “sexless” relationship, and one avenue we are going down is me having an outlet for my excess sexual energy. RHP allows me to chat, sext, post my photos, post my stories etc.
For me it’s been excellent because rather than tinder etc people have been respectful and I can set up my profile to reflect my situation and expectations.
CcRHP User
4 years ago
I just wanted to find info on how to fuck a warm apple pie....
Mr DragonSpicyKale
4 years ago
Cc, we're glad you've found the place respectful. It's definitely what you want to make of it. Good on you for being upfront in your profile and using the place your own way! It's definitely different things to different people.
Mr dragon, we'd always assumed you'd stumbled on here from Iron chef and stayed for the forums😉 Love your work!RHP User
4 years ago
Spicy kale....
Just here for the recipes Hahahaha
Mr dragonRHP User
4 years ago
It was was our first experience with the online world after passing through the personal adds after passing through personal experiences. Not in laws (as in one of the recent threads on RHP mentions ;-)) stuff thankfully, that would be too awkward for words. Just relatives of neighbours, .
Haha yeah, that's right, we looked for swingers to start off with. PeachyRHP User
4 years ago
because apparently that's what we sounded like while we were courting those relatives of neighbours... so they said their friend said anyway Peachy
RHP User
4 years ago
My presence here is all Dragon’s fault, haha. We met in the real world then he brought me here 🤷🏼♀️
Ms Phoenix.RHP User
4 years ago
I joined here after a separation and 10 years of very Plain Jane sex. A workmate of mine told me about RHP, he was using it purely for ''romantic sexual'' purposes and found it proved fruitful so I looked it up. I wasn't after any proper relationship at all, just casual sex at first. My previous experience with such, before my last LTR, was very, ummm, efficient shall we say - I had no problems at all with finding women that just wanted a fuck buddy.
I was expecting much the same when I joined RHP but oh, how the online dating world had changed by then. I was going about things much the same as my previous jaunts - messaging, establishing a connection, but then when it came time to meeting up for a face-to-face I was met with what I would call stuffiness. It had really changed to a cat-and-mouse game (probably a poor metaphor but it's Saturday morning and the best I can come up with), and it seemed that very long, protracted message ping-pong was the order of the day. Very definitely I was one of those guys that you mention OP - ''what are you doing on here if you're not out for any?", which I thought was a reasonable question. Let's just say that I didn't get any pleasant answers.
I love a good forum so I started haunting the corridors here and was pretty much disemboweled and made to eat my own gizzards when I first floated my confusion on here and that I believed it was primarily a sex site (which I still do). Over time I have come to understand and accept that some (or many) who have joined RHP are using it as another tool in their toolbox for finding Mr Right. It is just what it is, but I do understand the frustration that some men (and I'm guessing they make up the large percentage of obnoxious messages) must feel when they first join here - they're expecting a smorgasbord of moist pink bits banging up against each other only to find that they have to do a lot of doorknocking in a very large building.
Not to harp on it, but you did include it in your topic OP, but I have had my fair share of singles and couples that are obnoxious and think the world revolves around them - so it seems to be a knife that cuts both ways.
I had the idea a while ago, and floated the idea in another forum topic here, that when you join RHP you should select a category - denoted by a colour or similar on your profile - that indicates your intentions here. DTF and want others that are too? You're a red category, and you should only be able to view others who are of the same colour.
Want to dance gaily in a meadow, hand-in-hand with the man/woman/whatever of your dreams - gazing longingly into each others eyes while you spoon-feed quinoa salad to each other? Sex is waaaaay down the order of priorities, only after you have read some Emily Bronte together? You should just get the fuck out. Just kidding. Purple or something, with little love hearts sprinkled over your profile - or something equally pathetic.
Want a partner that you can go and have a drink and perhaps some dinner with, followed by some ribald jibbly jangling at one or another's place? A partner that you otherwise lead a separate life from, coming together only when desire and opportunity permit? You're an amber.SpicyKale
4 years ago
Okey, we've probably got just as many of those replies from couples! We don't get many, but it seems to be a recurring theme with others on various sites. The one line messages are similar... nothing quite like putting a stack of effort into a message to get a one line reply. Even if it's a "we'd like to catch up", we'd still like to know a little bit about you first. We were wondering if people were coming here with the expectations that the place was like a free escort site and if so why?
A lot of people need some sort of connection before they'll jump in the sack. Some need a connection that's a bit more than looks. You don't have the pansexual, demisexual etc... descriptors on here to help, although I get the impression they'd either get ignored or misinterpreted anyway!
There's the "intentions" part of your profile that you can list fwb, social, play meets etc... That sort of covers your traffic light idea, but once again it's probably just ignored or misinterpreted.
ps. This was I no means meant as a whinge, just an interesting topic to discussSpicyKale
4 years ago
Let me expand on that... is it the way the site is marketed and we just don't see it as current members that aren't searching?
Samnite
4 years ago
To be honest, I can't remember exactly how I found out about RHP. I suspect it was many years ago through an internet search.
One of the things that really annoys me is the "it's a sex site" mentality. Yes, people come here for meaningless sex, meaningful sex, just to chat, to make friends, to pass the time, to meet the love of their life, and any other numerous reasons. All these reasons are perfectly valid. What IS NOT acceptable is belittling someone for their reason of being here.
I joined quite a few years ago originally because I wanted somewhere to chat and meet people who are open-minded and don't have sexual hang-ups. However, I found it very difficult to make connections so I cancelled my account. And I chatted and also met people through other similar sites.
Recently I rejoined to give RHP another go.RHP User
4 years ago
Quoting 'Samnite'
One of the things that really annoys me is the "it's a sex site" mentality. Yes, people come here for meaningless sex, meaningful sex, just to chat, to make friends, to pass the time, to meet the love of their life, and any other numerous reasons. All these reasons are perfectly valid. What IS NOT acceptable is belittling someone for their reason of being here.
I agree Samnite, I responded above in a bit of a tongue-in-cheek fashion but also with a bit of a barb attached as I and other (single males usually) have been belittled in the forums in the past for confessing to the wicked sin of using a sex site as a sex site. I didn't agree initially, but agree now, that people can use RHP to find a housesitter if they like for all I care.RHP User
4 years ago
🤔 I joined RHP at the beginning of last year. I hadn't told my husband at first until a couple of days later as I cannot be in a marriage without being honest with myself or my husband.
I wanted to explore things that I had never done before without doing it secretly. What I was looking for was to experience what it was like being with another woman but it seems it was quite hard to find someone/anyone off this site that was looking for the same thing i.e. FF only. I wasn't interested in being a unicorn for a couple and I didn't want the other person that I might meet to be a unicorn for my husband and I. This was purely for me to explore. This eventually happened but not by finding someone through this site.
I have attended meet and greets, gone to clubs and met some really nice people but now on this site I like seeing what events are coming up or what people have to say in the forums.
I am happy seeing the extra person I share some special time with. I don't feel I should close my account just because I am not interested in others at the moment, as since I joined, I have enjoyed this site so why should I give up something that's good for me?
People are on here for various reasons and it's up to them on what they want to do. Your profile should be clear in what you want, that's if people read it 😉 Good luck to everyone on what they are looking for I say 🙂
badboyhere
4 years ago
Well like peachy I am one of the longest running members on this site. I have been a member here longer than some of the ages of some of our youngest members. 2000’s is about when I joined and RHP was a site in the hundreds of members. Now millions. I joined as my wife and I are in an open relationship and we started to explore fwb’s separately around that time. We eventually joined as a couple and she also had her own individual profile. She stopped using her account as she has a full stable of regular blokes to call on as she wishes. For me on the other hand like some of the other blokes have said, it is a mind field of abuse and disrespect for guys. My situation is different than some of the other guys on here in that I am not single and honest about it, and have my wife’s blessing to play and find a fwb from RHP. That does not seem to change anybody’s opinion of me though!
I have seen RHP change quite a bit over the years and it members wants and needs. More so the needs of the ladies. I feel as apps and sites like Tinder have changed, most women who are on these sites these days only want relationships and will not meet up or play ONS or FWB, this has caused them to look at RHP as an option as they don’t get what they are looking for from these other apps. I feel this is changing the format of this site from what it originally once was.....a sex site. Nowadays the clientele are more wanting it to be a dating site or for meaningful connections.
teamaj2
4 years ago
Spicey kale
Good topic . Everybody’s journey is different . I find people , their thoughts and the path that led them here interesting .
We also , back about 3 years ago dabbled in Craigslist . What a big sifting task that was , not all negative , surprisingly enough . It got us in contact with a couple that run an event . The first ever event we nervously attended . It was enlightening to meet other like minded people ( not necessarily as a ‘hookup’ but to learn more about this lifestyle and where they met people ) . Long winded reply but that led us to here on RHP.
We find RHP great . Like any community / group /club or crowd of people , we are all different, with different wants , needs and expectations . With patience and perseverance RHP allows you to find the right fit ( excuse the pun ) .
As Spicey kale said , we are the same and require some form of ‘connection ‘ ( I don’t love that word ) and common ground before becoming intimate . We try to point that out in our profile as well as other things on our wish list . As we all know not everyone reads profiles and not everyone is polite . That’s just life in general .
We love the forums and the information we gain from it.
As I’ve said previously on the forum , we have taken a break from being paid members as my husband is sadly away constantly for work at the moment and we only play when we are together .
Goodluck to everyone on RHP in finding what you seek .
Freaky_Fun
4 years ago
I had obviously lived under a big fucking vanilla rock for 45 years as l didn't know swinging was even a thing 😂
I found out about RHP from a friend after the separation from hell x 10 that very nearly broke me.
Since joining l have met my amazing partner and so many fabulous friends, 3 of whom have already commented on this post. Love them to bits.
l found my village who accept me for me after a not so very nice time in my life 😊
Mask_007
4 years ago
Very early 2005 i comefrom Brasil to Australia to finish my internship as in hospitality at Mt Buller, is a very lonely place in the summer. And i seen the internet add and that is it. Haven't left. Find some good friends and some good friends/fwb.
Have been a very good experience so far.RHP User
4 years ago
I met a great married guy on a dating app who is in an open relationship & he told me of RHP which just blew my mind! I’m new & taking things slow.
SpicyKale
4 years ago
Absolutely loving hearing about everyones stories😊
We're glad we're not the only ones that treat the pie as a bit more than just a hook up site. As always, make it what you want and absolutely no judgement on how, we're sure others will use it the same way that you do.
When we were first talking about having others join us mr here was listening to some kink and bdsm podcasts. If you put bdsm, bi sexual and gangbang into the iTunes search directory you end up at Life on the Swingset. From that deep dive we found the Bi the By podcast, then OSS in Sydney and we finally ended up here! We're surprised we don't hear more about swingers / lifestyle podcasts, they definitely helped us work out how this all worked. There's over 60 of them on iTunes at the moment!
Hope you find your tribe, we are slowly
EarthQueen
4 years ago
My marriage ended
And after a year of recovering from that, I decided to spend the next year challenging myself with things that put me out of my comfort zone. This was one of them.
It’s been mostly fun and also sometimes difficult because it really shone spotlights on areas I needed to work on in myself, like boundaries. Very much changed me for the better.
I think I found it by google search.
MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
One of my daughter's high school friends, mother told me about this site. Almost 10yrs ago, or something like that.
Ohhh, I'm just here for the knitting classes. 😁
Ms FoxySpicyKale
4 years ago
Mr Dragon looking for cooking tips, now foxy with knitting! I think we need to cut to the chase and start sharing Friday night cocktail recipes! It's obvious we all need to get out more 😬
I still can't believe the number of people that have been put onto RHP through friends, we did lead a sheltered life pre the pie!honkytonk
4 years ago
i was looking to acquire some jousting sticks and somehow i was redirected to the rhp site.
frgn russian hackers i tells yaMsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
LMFAO! I thought you were her for guitar music lessons. 🙊😂😂😂
Ms Foxyhonkytonk
4 years ago
alas noone has taken me up on my offer of 'free' guitar lessons hehe
Nudegetaways
4 years ago
We wanted to have New Friends who were open minded and knew how to have fun and friendships. Someone who didn't judge you.
kisslids
4 years ago
How did I get here
I was reading and thinking about this and it happened exactly like earthqueen
Quoting earthqueen
My marriage ended
And after a year of recovering from that, I decided to spend the next year challenging myself with things that put me out of my comfort zone. This was one of them.
It’s been mostly fun and also sometimes difficult because it really shone spotlights on areas I needed to work on in myself, like boundaries. Very much changed me for the better.
A good friend showed me tho
Thanks meg
prettyinpurple45
4 years ago
I ended up here, five years ago, because a friend told me to check it out and read up on the forums. Apparently I was asking her too many questions in relation to sex and kinks and everything else of a sexual nature (geez I sound like a pervert) I am just curious!!!
And she wanted me to break down a few walls I had/have up.
I have never looked upon this as purely a hook up site, and I do get asked a lot "why am I here if I am not looking for a quick fuck"?
I have always been upfront to those I respond to, letting them know I am married and just here for "education" purposes, and to make friends on the dark side :) and hopefully one day, break a few walls of mine down!EarthQueen
4 years ago
Quoting 'kisslids'
A good friend showed me tho
Thanks meg Lucky.! A good friend is hard to find .....or is it a hard friend is good to find??
AnnieWhichway
4 years ago
Headed of to 7/11 one night to get some milk. Took a wrong turn, ended up on dark desert highway. Was getting late and saw a hotel. Checked in and met a great bunch that were staying there. We had a wild private party and made some great friends.
Checked out many times but can't find my way back to Vanilla Town.
Found Pleasantville, what a fucked up place that is.
So it was back to the hotel. But they supply condoms and lube so l guess I'll stay......EarthQueen
4 years ago
Annie
Sounds like a David Lynch movie.RHP User
4 years ago
Sounds like a song I've heard...
Dwelling on your obsession with Pleasantville lately Annie, you must watch the video I Got Another Man by Itch. I relate to the woman who stood alone. 🍑 😘kisslids
4 years ago
Earthqueen
Quoting Earthqueen
Lucky.! A good friend is hard to find .....or is it a hard friend is good to find??
But
Hard friends are good to find
Difficult to leave and impossible to forget...
inspirit
4 years ago
A kinky sister inlaw led me here in 2010 after my 20 year marriage breakdown.
Have never looked back oh apart from trying vanilla recently for 6 months. Some one shoot me... 🤪🤪🤪🤣🤣🤣RHP User
4 years ago
Wife walked out on the kids and I after 16yrs together. So it's time to make up for time lost and fuck everything haha take this big fat cock out of its packaging 🤣😈
RHP User
4 years ago
Wife walked out on the kids and I after 16yrs together. So it's time to make up for time lost and fuck everything haha take this big fat cock out of its packaging 🤣😈
RHP User
4 years ago
I've been thinking of you.
Now we can shoot you. PeachyMsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
You sure that's absolutely what YOU want to do? I wish you all the very Best of luck, cause I think you're really really going to need it. 😀😂
Ms FoxyRHP User
4 years ago
Tell us how that works out for you 🙄
RHP User
4 years ago
We had a week away planned and love having a bit of fun. So we thought we would plan ahead and a bit of google and reading reviews. We decided that rhp was the pick of the sites.
RHP User
4 years ago
All the best moving forward! and Welcome to the forum, and RHP. 😊
It's not an easy place for men is what the posts above me are alluding too.
The number of men compared to all the other profile types is terrible!
And it's not the free for all advertising might suggest.
All the best with your journey, 🍑RHP User
4 years ago
Wow...great story here! I was at my psychologist appointment, we were chatting and I mentioned that I thought my ‘moral compass’ was going ‘haywire’! Why she asks....,,As I was seeing and fucking two men that I love! Was there something wrong with me?
Absolutely not, says my psychologist....it’s called ‘polyamory’........,,,,meaning ‘many loves’!
Ok, I said.
She mentioned that if I ‘google’ searched for ‘polyamory HOBART’, I would find like-minded people!
OMG.....so I’m not perverted! Woo hoo!
And you might like to read this book ‘The Ethical
Slut’, she says. What an eye opener! There’s people out there who just want sex....better than Tinder ....and with erotic photos to boot! wowsers!!!
And....,I’ve met my lover on RHP....a beautiful man who worships my curves and has the most amazing cock that I’ve ever had the pleasure of sitting on!! OMG....I love RHP!!
Thank you 💋💋💋
wildhoney
4 years ago
I saw RedHotPie ad on a screen at a swingers club .. and it said they were sponsors .. so I had a look .. nice way to stay in touch with people I’ve met in those venues .. 💋
tryinsomething
4 years ago
I seen all the ads at sexpo one year and then when my partner passed away I was really horny and thought I’d look it up and see what it was all about
RHP User
4 years ago
Your Awesome x
RHP User
4 years ago
I attached an event in Toowoomba that is sponsored by RHP.
The host requests that folks who attended leave a validation.
The event, why the NBO nude Bi Orgy of course.
Robbysomeone
4 years ago
Went to a meet and greet for saints, and it was suggested there.
RHP User
4 years ago
Not sure how I found this site......probably while surfing the net. Been on here a couple of year now and have chatted to some nice people and some not so understanding people let’s say! Still hoping to find someone in a similar position....not easy, but I’m not giving up....life’s for living 🙂🙂🙂
RHP User
4 years ago
I saw an advert of the app at the sexpo in Melbourne. I like the site because it has at least some basic verification process and the profile options are a lot more detailed than in tinder.
RHP User
4 years ago
I met an FWB couple in a bar in Melbourne that I
connected with via Craigslist (RIP). The guy talked about some of his
adult experiences which piqued my, at the time, vanilla history and
recommended this site. I signed up and had a brief look but parked it.
When
I moved to Sydney a few years later I remembered the place and seeing a
lot of profiles based in NSW so joined up proper. It has been a good
way to connect with people with shared interests.RHP User
4 years ago
Sorry I fell asleep early this morning and yes unfortunately some people are impatient and either forgot they were knew once also or they didn't have the same hesitations but they need to realise not every two people are the same and they can't expect everyone else to be like they were when they started otherwise you'll never be able to move forward from where you're at now.
SirTwistopher
4 years ago
I used to work in Trade and after a break up they gifted me a sign up and thought I'd be popular. I was 25 at the time, in a band and not sure what the hell I was doing with my life back then but over the years I've been on and off on here when single, I've suspended the account if I'm with someone but after a couple of failed engagements and now 34, ive kinda lost hope in settling down so ive come back here just to have some fun. Or find someone ... special.
RHP User
4 years ago
I was chatting to my cousin about being widowed and having had trouble finding anybody who can meet my needs because most people either can’t handle the fact I’m a young widow, or they can’t keep up with my appetite and I think it puts them off?
I explained that I doubt there’s anybody out there suitable to have a relationship with but I have needs, so she told me about a different site.
When I googled, this one came up instead and looked more suitable so I figured if I’m going to satisfy my appetite I may as well go about exploring my fantasies and meeting my needs properly, right?RHP User
4 years ago
I was having fun with a guy I met on Tinder & he suggested a threesome & to look on here. I eventually changed to a single profile and have been overwhelmed a few times. I have also met my best friend off here, had a relationship & quite a few ONS. I prefer looking on here to Tinder because people are honest with what they want. I would love a relationship with the right person but in reality I’m happy with a fwb to start. Unfortunately it takes time to chat to people & share pics, likes, dislikes. I want to have sex with someone I’m attracted to & who I can have a conversation with. I get that it’s probably frustrating for guys on here but it becomes very time consuming to respond to every flirt or message.
PeterAndLily
4 years ago
Well, the people I was talking with were talking about it and how it was the way that they connected with each other.
I realised everyone in that extended network were pretty interesting and genuine people, so it seemed like rather a good idea to jump on board.
PaulRHP User
4 years ago
A friend mentioned she has been in this site and recommended it.
Maybe it's a more direct and easier approach to seek what you want instead of failing in the dating world.RHP User
4 years ago
I stumbled across The Pie and let me tell ya I e had some great times since I’ve been on here.
Thnx RHPRHP User
4 years ago
Purely by accident, I stumbled and fell onto it, felt ok and never quite got back up!! ☺️☺️
JackanJill69
4 years ago
We had our first mmf experience this time last year and it was amazing.
Weve not found anyone on this site yet but have invited our friend on a number of occassions for more.
Were not after quantity but more quality. Someone or couple that we can be friends with and have some fun times with.RHP User
4 years ago
I became single and wanted to meet and mingle with those of similar interests. Alas... A Google Search led me to find this site and boom, the fun began.
kle58
4 years ago
I was on another site and quite unimpressed with it. A friend I met through that site suggested that I leave that one and use RHP instead. It was a good move!
RHP User
4 years ago
I just wanted to find a respectful place to enjoy my fantasys without being judged ,,everyone feel free to send me a msg or add me
lovers44
4 years ago
We heard about it from another couple we met at the couples club so decided to check it out
RHP User
4 years ago
Definitely like your profile, I'm very much the same! Not happy to or going to settle for jjst anyone. I want a real connection, physical attrwction and I'm sure everything will fit nicely if there is those two things especially! I'm a very sexual guy, sexual but respectful and fun, just want to find a woman of equal! Maybe it could be you, like to chat and find out...? We can chat here, KIK or can give you my number and actually chat on phone if you like...? Hoping to hear back from you soon. Brad. x
temptme8
4 years ago
A few guy friends told me about it!
Kitii
4 years ago
I originally joined when looking for a third for a partner & I. We separated, but I rejoined as a single, the option to post share/view more sent profiles than tinder & that people are more open on here is definitely more attractive than tinder/bumble etc.
It’s a sex site for some, but I know couples that have met on here that have amazing & comfortable relationships from here so I just not give it a go?Kitii
4 years ago
*more decent profiles I meant!
RHP User
4 years ago
Quoting 'KittyFae'
I was chatting to my cousin about being widowed and having had trouble finding anybody who can meet my needs because most people either can’t handle the fact I’m a young widow, or they can’t keep up with my appetite and I think it puts them off?
I explained that I doubt there’s anybody out there suitable to have a relationship with but I have needs, so she told me about a different site.
When I googled, this one came up instead and looked more suitable so I figured if I’m going to satisfy my appetite I may as well go about exploring my fantasies and meeting my needs properly, right?RHP User
4 years ago
And then there’s Brad 😂😂😂
RHP User
4 years ago
Friend sent me to this site i am hoping to learn a few things and get out there
SpicyKale
4 years ago
Anti, go easy on Brad! He might have a decent taco recipe for you😉
RHP User
4 years ago
....actually. They had a link/suggestion for randy people. Like a large percentage here, came out of very difficult marriage and I was looking to explore all the things that I wasn't able to previously. Everyone says that it's a free for all on sites like POF and Tinder. I can certainly say that is not my experience. Even on here I have found it very difficult. Initially I was just after sex to make up for all that I felt like I missed out on. That has changed a lot over the last 5 years. I still haven't had that many experiences through RHP though so still here searching for them.
RHP User
4 years ago
Lol spicy....
I think it’d be one of those “Me, Myself and Irene” type of tacos 😂😂
I’d say “fuck brad” but that is more of a goal than a rebuttal 😂😂
Chaucer
4 years ago
Quoting 'Freaky_Fun'
I had obviously lived under a big fucking vanilla rock for 45 years as l didn't know swinging was even a thing 😂
I found out about RHP from a friend after the separation from hell x 10 that very nearly broke me.
Since joining l have met my amazing partner and so many fabulous friends, 3 of whom have already commented on this post. Love them to bits.
l found my village who accept me for me after a not so very nice time in my life 😊
I was going through my separation and wanted to feel like I was still a part of a community, and being a cheeky bugger with an open attitude to sex and self expression, I fell in love with the forums.
Like Freaky_Fun said - I felt like I had found my village.
I've never been out on a date with anyone on here, but I've been to 5 Brisbane and 1 Sydney Meet & Greets, just because I think you are all so specialRHP User
4 years ago
Was in a boring, sexless relationship and decided life is too short for that. Now I'm here. Simple as that.
RHP User
4 years ago
Same old. Sexless marriage but separated first. This place has been good and bad for me. I found out a lot of what I like. But bad found guys would choose to spend time with other women over me so confidence was shot for a while. Very occasionally but not recently if i have needs ill go to a swingers, but again I'm against polyamory so never really get any fix other than social. This site is more full of guys who have absolutely no idea how to talk to old school women, it seems to work on the hoes though. Not my thing anymore but I have made solid friends, the rest can fuck off my profile is hidden so not leading anyone into pretences.
RHP User
4 years ago
Many years ago a friend suggested joining as a couple. Ended up being a single profile.
The early years where great, but seems marketing wanted a bit of that tinder business.
So I guess thats why its seen as predominately a hookup site.
Recently decided to come back with a thicker skin and less expectation.RHP User
4 years ago
Spicy kate
RHP User
4 years ago
I live in a small town and find it hard to meet people to play with so I joined rhp but still haven’t met any one yet 🤞maybe soon
RHP User
4 years ago
I live in a small town and find it hard to meet people
curiousnhorny05
4 years ago
We heard about RHP one time we went to a club. And the rest is history.
Missb4u
4 years ago
A work colleague mentioned it to me back in 2012/2013. As far as I know tinder wasn’t around back then. I had tried things like pof but it wasn’t working.
Joined rhp and felt like I had come home. Here people were open minded, sexual, talking about sex, enjoying sex and exploring. It was a little piece of heaven.
Have been around ever since.
Used to hit the meet and greets in most states a few times and made some incredible friends. I miss those days.
I’m not as active these days but still come to the pie for the forums and to find the elusive fwb or more that I’m seeking.RHP User
4 years ago
I’m am from hobart and I’m afraid that there are a lot of talkers on here and no one that is willing to meet in person
peasandcarrots
4 years ago
I (mr) found this site many years ago when I was single. I don't remember exactly how, but it was through internet searching. Not long after I found the love of my life and have spent the last 10 years together. Recently we started talking about how to revive our sex life to what it was back when we first met, the butterflies you get when youre with someone for the first time, the excitement and anticipation. luckily, I knew just the place to cum to. We're taking things slow, haven't met any other members face to face yet. But it has already had the desired effect on our relationship just contemplating what we may soon be getting up to.
RHP User
4 years ago
My ex and myself where swingers. After the relationship ended I continued to venture down in rhp. It was advertised at a local club on the gold coast..
RHP User
4 years ago
Ive yet to have any success with meeting up with like minded individuals but im hopeful as its worked for a friend before! Feel free to message me 🐻👋
LittleGiant
4 years ago
I (Miss here) was at a swinger's club with an ex partner and someone asked if we were on RHP, so we decided to check it out! I've been on here as a couple and as a single off an on for over 10 years now and found my current (and previous) partner on the site! Wouldn't date any other way now.
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3SM_Events
4 years ago
Heard about it online. When we decided to look for a lady for my wife to experience her first time with another lady we thought this would be a good place to look. Yes, we started as the dreaded unicorn hunters. Didn’t last long though. Soon realised how futile this was for such a search if you aren’t rocking the bodies of gods or goddesses so we ventured out into the real world to make it happen. Back then the chatroom was actually alive and fun so we stuck around because of that. Now it’s solely used for events.
Cucknshells
4 years ago
RHP after doing a search on swingers. My husband and I had open up our marriage and initially saw a male escort. Looked for alternatives and found RHP. I initially wanted to connect with like minded people going through the same thing. Which I did and then I met a couple of people and made some awesome friends. Attended a few meets and greets which has been great. Been here about 7 or so years I think. I especially liked the forums and chatting with people. Have made some life long friends and learned a lot along the way.
Shells.RHP User
4 years ago
A stunning hotwife I was having casual encounters with put me on to it after I was saying that tinder didn’t cater to my needs lol
DonnaBrett
4 years ago
We've been swinging for just over 20 years. We started talking about it on our second date (having both come from previous marriages). Of course back then there was no real internet and we certainly weren't on it. It took us three years before we had our first experiences, not for a lack of wanting to, we just had no idea of how to find people? Our first experiences simply 'just happened' with some of our regular friends after late night parties. Later we discovered printed contact magazines in a sex shop so we sent letters (remember those lol ) to people who advertised and then started placing our own ads. The magazine was very successful for us. Then on our honeymoon we were on the Gold Coast and looking for something to do so looked up ads in the paper and found a swingers club..so we gave it a go and had a great time. Then we found other clubs. When we eventually got onto the internet we were told about AMM by friends and joined that. Then at some point RHP was recommended to us, probably at a party or club so for a while we were members of both sites. After a while we found that RHP was the best site and we had the most success here so we have now ditched the other site. So..here we are!
newgirl74
4 years ago
Originally it was to satisfy curious with the intention of just doing a little window shopping as I was always anxious of actually taking the leap to ‘real’ swinging. I finally took the leap though and once I realised the sky doesn’t fall in when you explore and fulfil fantasies I haven’t looked back xx
windows_spent
4 years ago
Would you believe I saw an ad on Facebook in 2007 and quite innocently set up an account! Wowsers... I did meet one guy (that I recall!) and we’re still friends. We never consummated our RHP romance due to alcohol induced limp penis and his regular and protracted trips back to the UK.
Two years ago, I was on the app Whisper and posted one saying I was interested in a threesome. (After leaving a v vanilla four year relationship where I was at fault for being a flirt) I met a couple and when we were doing Q&A I asked about experiences they’d had and he mentioned RHP. So a decade on, I returned with this profile.
In this stint, I’ve chased threesomes. I enjoyed them all, but they were not sustaining in the way I realised I sought. So now I’m seeking poly partners. And elsewhere I’ve found one, who is equally kinky and poly and so I feel normal dating him and pursuing others if/when I want. Interestingly, now I have a stable partner (even if we see each other once a month on average, which for me is not quite enough) my benchmark for another is higher.RHP User
4 years ago
I heard that I was just having sex
RHP User
4 years ago
I met a chick off tinder one time,and she told me to try this app,she knows I’m interested in trying different stuff(to a limit) so thought I’d join up and see what it’s like
Life’s to short to be vanilla ,gotta have fun before we pass 🤷🏻♂️
Dionysos6027
4 years ago
I did some research online , I was scared to only find fake websites so I took my time before signing up to any sites
Adult friend finder was my first attempt, did a year on it but it was worldwide, so not many peoples from perth on it and I felt like I was wasting my time chatting with peoples I would probably never meet
One day a woman on that told me about rhp , and I was so surprise to see how many naughty , sexy , like minded peoples were on it , all the club's and swingers party !! Mind blowing!!RHP User
4 years ago
I’ve wanted to post on a forum for awhile now and this seems the perfect one to post in. I must have read every post here at least twice trying to figure what to say so here goes.
I came across an advert to RHP on a previous site I was on at the time (can’t remember which) after what seemed to be an endless line of dubious sites. I kept myself single for the longest time as I didn’t feel “ready” to meet anyone for anything. When I finally put myself out there and started hitting the dating websites and Tinder, I was so far behind everyone else and incredibly naive for what was to come.
After a couple of years of being led astray by scammers and fake profiles on a variety of different sites (some very dubious), I came across RHP and decided to check it out.
Having given up the quest of finding my happily ever after at that this stage, this suited me well. The setup of this site in general, the fact that it’s an event sponsor and the favourable online research led me to get membership.
I’ve been apart of the RHP community for about two years now. And a member for roughly 18 months. Not long after I got myself membership I received a formal diagnosis of ASD1 meaning I’m autistic. I have a car, a job in retail (yes it happens) can cook and workout regularly. I can have conversations with anyone about anything for short periods of time with people being non the wiser. It’s just the intimate socializing that I have difficulties with.
The best part of this site (for me) is the way profiles are set up, I guess you could call it the “rule book” for any potential personal interactions. The first part is the “what I’m looking for”, the what I’m after. The general info through to the fetishes is the “who I am and what I like to do to someone/get done to me etc”
The general info to me, is the most important. It’s all about stating the type of person your after to make this all happen. To me at least it makes the possibility of meeting someone easier (not that it’s happened for me yet), knowing something so private and intimate about someone before you meet them.
So with all this in mind I can’t understand the how and why people can be so rude to others when they don’t get what they think is a given, which of course it’s not.
Even when when I receive a “thanks but no thanks message” I usually send a “thanks for your reply and good luck” message in reply. Almost all of those are never read, but considering what I’ve read in the forums about negative reply’s some women get, I can understand why. 😞
So there’s my reasons 😊 and if others are here just cause they think it’s a free pass then maybe they shouldn’t be here.RHP User
4 years ago
Good things happen to nice people.
This is one of those times😈RHP User
4 years ago
I Litterally Found this Scrolling in Twitter to a link and thought why not, no luck meeting anyone yet but I mean, I've only been on for an hour or so lol
IggyandKate
4 years ago
Iggy and I have been together for a long time, adore each other and have great sex. But there’s nothing quite like the butterflies and thrill of the new. So rather than cheat on each other to get that thrill we decided to try playing with other people - together. But it’s pretty hard trying to find people to play with given that most people we meet seem to be conventional monogamists and it’s scary to broach the subject...just in case we get a bad reaction. I also hate being talked about and guard my privacy carefully. Anyway we met a girl in an open relationship and she recommended RHP as a way to possibly meet playmates :)
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