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Convincing wife to have sex with other men
June 06 2018
I find I'm unable to satisfy my wife. She is very inexperienced and after repeated questions says she never has had any fantasies. I would like for someone to seduce her with none of my involment. Not exactly cuckolding but it turns me on thinking she is being satisfied. Any pointers or suggestions. I have raised the topic earlier but her response is not interested and never shares what's she's thinking in bed but i think she needs to taken like every women does at least once. I think she will respond to someone seducing her starting from friendship first then flirting then seducing etc. Any one had any experience with convicing their wifes?
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Rlee552
6 years ago
... and that is all there is to be said. End of story.
MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
You do not try to ever convince your wife into doing something she does not want to do. It's removing her choice and disrespectful.
If she's not interested, she's is not interested.
She will make her own mind up, when she is ready and wants too, not when you are.
Just back off and give her space to do that. It's the most kind and loving thing to do.
Ms FoxyMsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
"think she needs to taken like every women does at least once."
LMAO, good luck with that one.
I think you're going to need it. 😂
Ms FoxyRHP User
6 years ago
I would start by opening up during sex talking dirty make her feel irresistible sexy..she's not going to respond if you can't make her feel empowered in the bedroom...And I think most women love the idea of being desired or as you call it taken....I'm not going to man bash you just educating you on how to hopefully fulfill a fantasy on equal terms...
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Needs to be taken like every woman does?
To the movies?
Jewellery store?
Romantic weekend away?
That kind of taken?
If you’re talking about the sexual act I think you’ll find each woman is unique in how she “ should” be taken
Maybe try to work out what floats her boat and you may be able to open the line of communication with her.
If she doesn’t share your fantasy of involving another man it will only lead to resentment and tears for you both
Good luck
Mrs LAL
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Don't try to convince people to do something they are not interested in or don't want to do.It wont end well
RHP User
6 years ago
you CANNOT satisfy her BECAUSE you do not understand her..
I would go so far as to suggest that you are confused with your OWN sexuality, and denying your Bisexual inner self.You need to discuss with her.. what YOU need - NOT what you want her to need.
You appear to be trying to feed your own fantasy of male sex by forcing/convincing her to participate because you are too confused and/or fearful to participate in it yourself..
Look inside fella..Work out the strength to follow YOUR inner desires/proclivities and leave her out of it EXCEPT she needs to be aware of it.. And SHE needs to be the one to decide if she wants to be part of it all, or to leave you..
Just saying..
curiousnhorny05
6 years ago
When it comes to sex, you can’t force things otherwise you ruin it.
Romance her, make love to her. Spend time getting to know her body.
Experience or lack of it is never a bad thing. The way you say inexperience it comes across very condescending.
Some ppl are brought up very conservatively in regards to sex.
But don’t convince her to be with others it should be her desire.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Not the kind of "Taken" like in the movie series I guess :p
- Posted from rhpmobile
inspirit
6 years ago
Off to a bad start with some above comments.
Im sure they mean well but just take things a bit personally and/or out of context.
You mention "being taken", yes I agree in the context of being romanced as another poster said.
Unfortunate as it is. Some couples are sexually mismatched. However maybe you are just trying to hard and perhaps read into things too much. Not everyone has fantasies and not everyone needs sex. Thats just who they are.
Go read the hot wife thread. Maybe ask this question in there. There are bound to be couples who had questiond like yourself too at some point of their relationship.
Good luck.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
The more pressure you put on her the more damage you will do with your relationship. Just do what she's happy with, she did marry you and you'd had sex before you were married so there obviously isn't an issue from her side..
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
You can't push a rope...
- Posted from rhpmobile
DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
very thin ice. And it will more than likely end in disaster and could very well also destroy your marriage / relationship in the process.
You think she needs to be taken ? Like every woman does once ?
Taken sexually by force ? You think every woman enjoys that ?
Does she even know that you have a profile on red hot pie?
Swinging, in our experience, is very much driven by the male half, many of whom have plenty of experience in convincing their wives / partners to do all of this.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Are you even married? It seems like you are just trying to elicit sexy chat from RHP members.
Does your wife know that you are on RHP?
Have you ever spoken to your wife about your fantasies?
Our suggestion- speak openly to your wife. It sounds like you two seriously lack basic communication skills. Go get some help if you are intimidated. Free and open dialogue with your partner is the pathway to the closest connection you can ever imagine. If you ever want to be part of this community, you need to learn how to communication on a level so much higher than you can possibly fathom. Otherwise, your partnership is doomed.inspirit
6 years ago
Why do people think the term he has used "taken" is by force! If you actually READ th OP's post he goes on to say romanced etc.
I do not think he meant "forced"!!
I have read comments on other threads similar to this. Why not ask what the OP meant instead of jumping to conclusions. No wonder people dont comment in the forums.
- Posted from rhpmobile
Hottie1
6 years ago
It took for me to consider swinging, which was introduced by my husband. My gorgeous man patiently nurtured the idea through discussion, exploration as a couple, he even hired an escort to help me ‘be with other people (my stumbling block). Up until the escort, I had slept with only one man, my husband. His reasons for suggesting swinging, it’s sexy, fun as well as it would enable me to explore so much of what I wanted to explore ... my husband has not really been a player in the scene, so I know he wasn’t motivated by his desires. I stressed so much about being with another man, I knew how to please my husband yet I had so many questions, were those skills transferable, was I going to please others, would I do it right, was my body ok ....
Cavey, explains it all perfectly (love your work there Cavey ).
From a female perspective, address your concerns and hers as a couple as your first and only step at this time. I’m not going to presume how your relationship actually works but ‘questionng’ her about her fantasies may be quite off putting. If she’s inexperienced, you might be adding to any ‘insecurities’ she might have about her inexperience. Why is it that you believe you don’t satisfy her? Has she explicitly said that or are you presuming or reading into it?
There may be so many factors to consider and we don’t know all the conditions of your relationship for both of you. For me, sex is very mental and emotional, engage my mind and then my body, make it authentic and natural ... for her it might be the same.
Mary xx
mango69er
6 years ago
Agree with inspirit. Trying to find the very worse in someone isnt nice. The grammer nazis can tell me weather i just did an oximoron there. I dont agree with the guy in trying to talk his wife into being with another man. Like the Dynamic couple said. Very dangerous ground your on when it comes to your marriage. I have used the word taken before and it didnt mean by force.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
I’m more concerned with your mental health....your feelings of inadequacy are something that may be more important to tackle than seeing your partner fuck someone else...
I believe that your desire to have her fuck other men is symptomatic to a much deeper issue....
I can only hope you’re doing ok....
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
I would imagine your wife would have let you know by now if she was into being ''taken'' by another man by now. If she doesn't have any fantasies she doesn't have any fantasies. Reading the overall tone of your question, I am unsurprised you are unable to satisfy your wife sexually - she sounds very straightforward - as she has every right to be - and you are clearly interested in what could be described as kink.
You and your wife sound sexually incompatible, it is up to you whether or not that is going to be a long-term problem. It certainly doesn't sound like it is a problem for her.RHP User
6 years ago
The smart-arse in me wants to say "Just ignore her and treat her badly for a few years and she'll probably start seeing somebody else..."
I think you're confusing what she wants with what you want - because I really don't think you know what she wants. Maybe there's some kind of communication issue between you? Learn to listen - really listen - and actually hear what she's saying. Not what you think she's saying, not what you want her to say, but what she really means. It's a skill. Don't talk, don't tell her what she should want or what might be good for her. Ask a question and then just listen. It won't work instantly; it'll take a lot of practice because it sounds like she's learned to bury what she really wants. But with patience, love, and true listening, you might get to a point where you're both much more satisfied - and probably without involving anybody else (except a counsellor, should you choose to go that route - which might be a good idea).
Live long and prosper!
madotara69
6 years ago
Yeah, personally if Tara wasn't like she is then I'd be thinking she was way different to what she could have been but somehow we managed, a bit of advice.. if it doesn't clash with the leather, it's passably ok to let it run it's course and .....
Take your wife yourself, the way best taken as most would have been taken is down the Northern Road off the M4, left mate, your going south, down and take it slow, follow the curves taking the inside after beginning on the outside for a smooth run, she's got some curves in all the right places and be aware it's a place with mount'n men and they love mount'n women, maybe you and the wife right there beside you could liven up the wireless and yodel a yode he lu yodelay yee yaa yodelayey eley eyey heeee ahhhhyodelayehoooo, we do.
When you think you've come to the end of the road, you will find yourselves all alone with each other, fizzing from the swaying motion as you had taken her the way mount'n women should be, you can reminisce, you can yodel, you followed the curves picking the straight and narrow imaginary line all the way south, near the bottom to find the landing strip, you've both landed in Camdon.
I'd suggest you take your wife and thrill her even further than many women haven't been taken, you do this, you did that and you yodelled with her a tune in duet, fancy that without sex or fantasy, now you find yourself in a common place with each other along the road to discovery, just the two of you, what next ??, are you thinking some other bloke could take her where from you've taken her, no sir, not where next you say and say with confidance as if you love mount'n women as mount'n men do, tell her you have taken her as far any woman can be taken, to take her further then she must take your hand taken the leap of faith her and her man.
So you go to the place where the landing strip is, in Cambden now you're there, ask the people there to take you both up in an aeroplane and fit you both up with parachutes and at 3000 feet high in the sky, you and your wife jump out of that perfectly working aeroplane and you've taken her and certainly will have her attention, she will surely express to you some deep and meaningful thoughts, primal even when your falling towards the earth from 3000 feet, that's for sure.
Mado
Mado Tara xxRHP User
6 years ago
Some good answers some completely non sense. Didn't i mention i will not be involved, so how can i be bi-curious!. Why does the word "taken" negative. Isn't it better than saying f**k. I just want to experience she hasn't. Why is that a bad thing. And no i don't want her to do this to get a free get out of jail card.
To the guy i lost at convincing...well you had a lot to say for someone who didn't understand our bother reading the post.inspirit
6 years ago
Mado!! ❤
Good luck OP. People will always judge straight away instead of being positive.
I hope others reading this post took on some of the great advice and ditched the negative.
Every one is different. Have different desires and CAN NOT articulate a sentence as well as some you other posters.
Happy Yayday (Friday)
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Indy40s'
Some good answers some completely non sense. Didn't i mention i will not be involved, so how can i be bi-curious!. Why does the word "taken" negative. Isn't it better than saying f**k. I just want to experience she hasn't. Why is that a bad thing. And no i don't want her to do this to get a free get out of jail card.
To the guy i lost at convincing...well you had a lot to say for someone who didn't understand our bother reading the post.
Don't know that I misunderstood your post Indy. Just to recap:- You seem not to be able to satisfy your wife ("I find I'm unable to satisfy my wife'')- She says she has no fantasies ("says she never has had any fantasies")- You want someone else to fuck her (need I reproduce any quotes at all here)- You need help convincing her ("Anyone had any experience with convincing their wifes (sic)")I think you may have misunderstood my response, so I'll recap that as well - your wife may just be straightforward in her desires, she may not want to be fucked by another guy, thus she never talks about it. You need to respect that. Anything else?
rupamohan
6 years ago
Welcome to the forums !!!
Your post can be very misunderstood. It really needs some more interaction for a meaningful replies.Unfortunately the fact is people don't want to put time to understand you. They have option to not respond but they do sort of want to respond with words of wisdom and that includes me...
So we make lots of judgments to respond. Only you know yourself assuming you do because we can be confused about what we are up to...
If you feel you have been misunderstood. Best is to pick up what ever applies to you and ignore the rest.
I would like for someone to seduce her Any one had any experience with convicing their wifes?
These statements will be easily misunderstood. It conveys a meaning as if you are the care taker of her.Taking such care may be an acceptable part of your culture but it is unacceptable in most part of the world where adults are supposed to make own choices without the need of some caring for them. These can be interpreted as controlling behavior and interfering with the rights of an adult.
Send a personal message to us and we can be of help.Rlee552
6 years ago
Although I gave a short response, that does not mean I have not taken the time to read and consider. My issue is not with what his fantasies are, my issue is not with what taken can mean, my issue is that she has been asked and her response was that she is not interested.
The OP then wants advice on how to convince her otherwise as he believes it is in her best interest to be taken (completely coincidentally that turns him on).
Now I am all for having conversations with your partner about this and being open about where your fantasies are. But we also need to respect the other person’s point of view when they say they are not interested.
So what I am suggesting to the OP is have the conversation if you want, but if she is not interested let it go. There is nothing wrong with what he wants for her, but I am against anything where he may manipulate her into an outcome she is not keen on but does it to satisfy him.
The issue in this is the freedom to choose and the respect for the decisions of others.
Flip this around. Wife writes a forum post seeking advice because her husband is asking her to have sex with another man and she has told him she is not interested. She asks the room he is making arguments a, b and c in favour - should I listen to those arguments and have sex with another man? I think the vast majority of the room would be telling her to stick up for herself.Rlee552
6 years ago
My comments are also not intended to be a personal attack. I think you were right to ask the question as it is something that is bothering you, so I wanted to give you my view point. You can accept or discard that viewpoint at your convenience, as it is merely my personal point of view.
However, it comes all down to communication and more communication. Even counselling. But communication can’t stray into compelling.RHP User
6 years ago
Does she touch herself? Is it has she even been a sexual person with you even at courtship stage? What was her past like?
If it was anything like me, I was told never to touch myself even though I was so horny even as a kid. It wasn’t until 25 that my boyfriend at the time laid that exact problem out to me that I never touched myself and therefore didn’t know what I liked. Too scared to not be able to please him as much as some good dicking from him made me wet everywhere.
Have had exes that made me so bored and dry, I thought I had a problem, but with that same ex we had the longest sex session I’d ever had - 1.5hrs. We were both so surprised but vanilla problems came back and the love marathon never happened again.RHP User
6 years ago
You think they she may be open to seducing from another guy, that could go extremely terribly and traumatic for her. What are her beliefs on marriage? That she should be loyal to her husband no matter what? Does she come from a background where the women just do what the men ask? So much that you have left out. Your OP is all about asking for advice to please you and what you think would please your wife, but... hmmm I wonder from her not being interested is that she may feel disgusted that you would want her to go to another man and would make her feel unloved by you. It’s a weird and crazy out-there thing to discuss tbh when the answer is probably right there under your nose.
69tattoorob
6 years ago
A Few years back wife and i not sure why started talking about sharing with others her having only slept with three men me only slept with four ladies deciding we should look for a couple we received five replies from single males who contacted her again not sure we could meet any of them but they spent a lot of time talking to her and told me a few were very exciting and she had to masturbate after talking to them saying not sure why but they talked in a erotic way so shall we invite one for a threesome well the first one wasn't what he told her she was nervous but soon relaxed i allowed one on one to start with but he was only there for a quick fuck no foreplay just started fucking her very hard pounding deep into her and cum way to quick then left so disappointing for us she gave her best sucking his cock thinking she picked the wrong man asked if we could try again i areed next day meeting him went well we did swap he fucked her doggie she sucked my cock but again he cum to quick in her tight pussie and said he had to leave feeling upset again we did meet the other three men nothing exciting really happened with the first two but the last one took full control of her leaving no room for me and for four hours i endured the worst time in my life they continued swapping tongues always kissing she sucked his cock he licked her pussie she even told me to look as he finger fucked her virgin arse he continued to slap hard on her arse cheeks leaving red hand prints on her i thought she may stop but she was so lost in what he was doing to her forgetting i was there she got on top and started riding him as he pounded her so hard then i witnessed him maneuver her holding her tight to his chest then slammed his cock deep in her virgin arse not stopping but pounded her hard she let out a very loud scream but never tried stopping him but relaxed and spread her arse cheeks very wide open and started pushing down hard meeting his thrusts so for thirty minutes i watched everything feeling let down by her they both orgasmed together laying on top for about five minutes then she walked over to me saying it was amazing as he dressed he reminded her of the meeting they made during there time on the bed telling her friday night and he was going to bring a freind as her request after he left i was angry with her asking why she went so far even doing anal she sarted crying saying sorry but she was so horny and he did every thing so perfect not like the others now what about friday are you going to meet them like you two disgust as yous were fucking telling me if i wanted to come with her and join them she would do it for me the morel of this true story is why did she fuck five men in a week allowing them every thing they wanted to do to her not paying any attention to me talk about the inner slut she turned out to be we never found a couple to share but her phone was running hot with single males and she wouldnt change her number
RHP User
4 years ago
Before you throw some sex machine at her with a 12 inch dick and the stamina if a hundred stampeding buffalo try getting therapy or talking to a friend of hers about it.
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