Having won ‘Porn Star of the Year’ three times in a row on the back of being inducted into the Adult Industry Hall of Fame, it’s easy to see why PEOPLE magazine named Madison Missina the ‘Hottest Porn Star’ in their 2015 list of 100 hottest celebrities! Don’t let Missina’s bubbly personality and sex appeal fool you though, this woman means business. Sex educator, activist, adult star and public speaker, Missina has devoted her expansive 15 year career to all things sex and relationships.RedHotPie recently sat down with Missina to chat about her upcoming appearances at Melbourne Sexpo, her amazing career and her thoughts on digital dating... and make sure you get to the end of the interview for details on our "Meet Madison Missina Comp!
RHP - So, Madison, are you looking forward to Sexpo?
Madison Missina - My Partner will attest to the fact that I live for SEXPOs, in fact I have 2 seasons, pre Sexpo and post Sexpo. So with less than a month till Melbourne SEXPO I’m beyond excited. There’s a lot of preparation to go but it’s amazing being able create awesome things for people to enjoy.
What’s your first Sexpo memory?
Gosh it’s so long ago, probably 10 years ago in fact. My first SEXPO was when I was doing my internship for sex therapy I was there working for Impotence Australia and I remember being in awe. There was so much to take in, and I remember being so jealous of all the dancers who were getting around in sexy costumes. Compared to me in my serious sex therapy clothes I just wanted to find a way to do both, talk to people about sexuality and express myself at the same. If only I had a crystal ball back then, my younger me would be in heaven now..
What will you be doing at Melbourne Sexpo this year?
Melbourne SEXPO will be my debut as SEXPO’s official tour guide, which I’m so excited about. I’ve practically become part of SEXPO’s furniture now so I’m looking forward to sharing everything that I love about SEXPO with everyone.
After amazing feedback from Sydney SEXPO my latest work RAW: Female Sexual Pleasure which is an educational photography exhibit and the sister seminar RAW: Female Sexual Self Esteem will be returning.
But possibly the most exciting will be the Live O which is a combination of art and female sexuality which will be on the SEXPO main stage.
Do you like getting these opportunities to meet your fans?
I live the life of my dreams now because of my fans. So I love every opportunity where I can interact with them. That’s why I put so much effort into SEXPOs I really see it as my chance to give back and make my fans feel special. So I’m always coming up with new things to do.
Tell us a bit more about your project, RAW… sounds like an interesting concept.
What I’ve noticed since the female sexual liberation of the 70s is that we now seem to live in a society where we see hyper female sexuality, which is also censored. Due to censorship laws, the labia are often photoshoped, the beautiful fake orgasm is almost everywhere, and certain parts of female sexuality are considered fetish. The impact of this is that cosmetic surgery is rising, women are reporting pressure to perform like pornstars, to rise to the beauty ideal, get the perfect body, have it all and all this detracts from being able to have great sex but also great relationships. So I wanted to provoke everyone to start a conversation about this. RAW is an unedited, unfiltered look into the diversity and ferociousness of female sexual arousal and pleasure. The seminars are looking into how we’ve ended up with all these mixed messages and aims to empower women to embrace their own particular womanhood, whatever that may be.
Let’s drill a little deeper in your credential list, you’re also a sex therapist! Tell us about how you got into that.
Really I just chased what I loved. I’m an eternal student, I devour books, I love to study society, and I collect qualifications like some people collect handbags. So when I had the option to specialize my social science degree I just picked what fascinated me and I got hooked on sexology. Human sexuality is so fundamental to everything in our lives - it's more than our orientation or what we like in bed; it also covers our attitudes to gender expression, to gender roles to how we approach relationships. Above safety, food and shelter what we all strive for is belonging so our sexual self-esteem is the basis for our connectedness. Especially these days living in a society where sex and messages about sex are literally everywhere and it seems that society is using sexuality as a way to both polarize and unite people it’s a very delicious time to be sexologist.
Have your studies helped your own sex life?
Immensely. When I was about 14 I realized that I was probably a lesbian, yet I also knew I wanted to join the sex industry which would involve me having sex with men and I’ve always been ultra feminine. At that time there weren’t many femme lesbian role models, so being very confused I decided to be straight, which meant that I did not understand sex at all. It was my darkest secret for so long, here I was, a decade later a professional sex worker who did not experience sex as sexual. It was through studying gender and sexuality that I began to start to grasp how I could use my body sexually and begin to understand and be okay with my sexuality in contrast to my career. So I studied female sexual pleasure and arousal thoroughly. I literally had to learn how to manipulate my body to experience sexual arousal with men. Let me just say that vaginas are awesome, they are capable of so much and it always surprises me that this information is so hard to find. So through my academic studies - and then later in my career where I did more body work skills based courses - I went from someone who couldn’t even comprehend that penetrative sex could ever be pleasurable, to a woman who has consistent frequent penetrative orgasms with whoever knows the right techniques. I became empowered enough to realise that my pleasure is important and unique, and educating my partners on how I work is all part of the fun. My studies taught me that sexual arousal and pleasure don’t need to stem from attraction and being able to have good sex with a male partner doesn’t mean that I’m also not a lesbian. I’ve had to break every mold to find me, so I don’t know who I would see myself as if it wasn’t for my studies.
You are of course well known for your work on film, so let's tackle a few questions about your time on the set…
Favourite scene partner?
I don’t really have a favourite. Highlights to me were Lexi Belle because, well, she’s Lexi! It was actually the only porn scene of mine that I’ve watched back. But I also love working with Zahra Stardust - she’s totally hot and being bisexual it meant that our scene was more authentic. And Monte Cooper's spanking scene with me changed my life.
Funniest moment while filming?
I was filming a glory hole scene where my head was padlocked into a wall. The producer had made this wooded collar type contraption which would pose as the lock to make it look like I couldn’t escape. But the problem was that it was quite heavy on my neck. So just before we started shooting he added some screws just hold it in place on the wall, thinking that we could just undo the bottom section and I could be easily released. We filmed the scene, I had my most powerful onscreen orgasm, and then the power went out. In total darkness we discovered that he put the screws in the wrong place so rather than just support the collar he had actually built my head into the wall. We had to break the wall to get me out. I wasn’t hurt but I often think that would have been hilarious if it got to the point of us needing to call for help.
Craziest/trickiest location and or position?
I once was away shooting on location at a farm. This involved lots of sex outdoors in paddocks. The scenes look beautiful. But in real life, sex on tree stumps in paddocks with cows, meant that we had to be very technical with the placement of props to prevent splinters and it seemed that everywhere there was cow dung. But my scene partner Rob Paulson was an absolute gentlemen and made that shoot awesome.
The sexiest thing you’ve ever seen on a porn set.
The sexiest thing that I’ve experienced on a porn set was when Monte Cooper gave me a spanking session. Monte made spanking so sensual it was amazing. The way Monte introduced the spanking doing the proper warm up and build up I was in heaven, even the pain was this pleasurable high. It’s the one scene that I wish never ended! I'd really like to see Monte start to teach spanking - when you have a skill like that you simply must share it with the world!
So, how about your dating life, how does that work?
It’s a little different; I find that I have to be more wary of people who see me as a trophy of some sort. I’ve dated a lot of people who have wanted to ride my coat tails of sort - that are more enamored with Madison than they are with Milly. So I’ve had more than my fair share of short-term romances that have gone nowhere. But I’ve learnt to just take things slower and listen to my gut. Being a sex worker - a pornstar - means that my partners have to really question what monogamy and relationship boundaries really mean. Being a sexologist and being so experienced in sex also means that my partners are often intimidated thinking that they need to live up to high sexual ideals, which is of course not true. You don’t actually need to be a sexual expert to have great sex, that’s a myth. So my relationships take more work than others.
Have you ever met anyone online?
Absolutely - in fact I met my current partner online. But funny story: in the past when I’ve attempted online dating I’ve had to do it in really quick bursts because my profile has a tendency to get reported for impersonating a public persona. It’s the most frustrating thing. Don’t dating sites know public personas need love and companionship too?
Can you give us your top tips for digital dating?
The most important tip I believe is to know that meeting new people and dating can be some of the most fun times of your life. Especially the bad dates, you will probably find that you will want to tell those stories the rest of your life. So have fun and see the whole process as an adventure. Take the pressure off, aim to just meet new awesome people and see what develops.
Keep your bios short but try to show - not tell - people about you. So if you have a great sense of humour put some comedy in it. I remember seeing one profile on a site where everyone added that their ideal first meeting would be to go out for sushi. This person wrote “Well I don’t like sushi, so could we perhaps just meet for coffee? Or maybe literally anything that doesn’t involve raw fish (I’m not in, I know)." This really stayed with me. It was personal, it was funny and it showed that that person was down to earth enough to laugh at themselves.
Put effort into your photos, it’s the first thing that people will see. So make them current and relevant. Include photos that show you doing something interesting or one of your hobbies as that’s a really great icebreaker.
Physical attraction is an important thing, but it’s also something that can grow if that person is awesome or diminish if well they’re not so awesome. Plus with the advent of filters people don’t always look like their own photos. So don’t judge possible matches too much on looks.
When starting up conversations rather than the usual “Tell me about you?” Ask specific questions such as “What did you get up to this weekend?” Whilst many people can seemingly speak about themselves for hours very open-ended questions can be really hard to answer. So keep specific and treat it like a conversation.
So we’re giving away a private Sexpo tour with you in Melbourne, what exactly will that involve?
SEXPO is an expo like no other. It is a chance to explore different facets of human sexuality. It's as much entertaining as it is educational but above all else SEXPO is interactive and expansive. So my tours are like little SEXPO adventures - we will see all the highlights, I will guide you through everything that SEXPO has to offer with behind the scenes information from the specialized lounges to the great things the exhibitors have to offer, and be there to answer all your questions along the way. Each tour will be personalized to the group so whether your after expertise advice on the best sex toys, or you’re a SEXPO virgin who might be a little shy I guarantee you will get something out of the tours!
WE'RE GIVING AWAY TWO LOUNGE TICKETS TO NEXT WEEK'S MELBOURNE SEXPO AND A GUIDED TOUR FROM MADISON MISSINA HERSELF!
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Regularly, I Love It!
Tried It, Not A Huge Fan.
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