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What does it mean if you like to be spanked during sex?If you want to be spanked during sex, does that say something strange about you?

Christina Miller | June 13 2018

What does it mean if you like to be spanked during sex?

Erotic spanking has lost much of its stigma but it still remains something many people are nervous to admit they'd like to try out. 

 

Erotic spanking is a practice that many people who say "they're not into BDSM will try out". As to why it's popular, both among those who don't associate with the BDSM community and those who consider themselves sadomasochists, is simple - it feels good.


If you want to be spanked during sex, does that say something strange about you? Is it weird or anti-feminist that you might or do enjoy it? 

Is it ok to be turned on by being dominated and being punished? Or, maybe you're not really worried about any of that and just want to know how to do it right?


You're in the right place!


Here's a break down on why you want to be spanked, why it's perfectly ok and a few tips on how to properly and safely engage and add some kink to your sex life.


Why you're turned on by being spanked




There is no exact reason why some people enjoy spanking. There are a varied of factors that might influence your desire for spanking. Some enjoy the submissive role of the role-play of punishment and pleasure. It's completely natural for the added spank, nibble, grab or hair pull to bring us over the edge. 

Another more obvious factor is the taboo tends to make this kink more appealing and sexy. 


What indulging in spanking might say about you (if you care)




What it can say about you is - that you are open-minded and willing to explore beyond the conventional sexual desires. Beyond that, it's hard to really say. We are very complex, so many theories can be used to explain this desire. Including the most popular theory rooted in early experiences of pleasure and pain. But this it's not always the case. It can simply be that it feels amazing to you. When the butt is spanked, it brings blood to the surface of the skin, making the area warm and more sensitive to touch. If you enjoy a bit of spanking it could simply mean that your body positively responds to this kind of impact. Unpredicted stimuli fire up our dopamine receptors which, in turn, gives us sexual pleasure. 


There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be spanked




Your sexuality is yours to explore and as long as it's consensual, safe and you stipulate your boundaries, don't let others stop you. 

It takes courage to share your desires with someone. Never be ashamed or shame others for their desires. The bottom line is that if you are doing it safely, you have nothing to worry about. 


Some fun tips on erotic spanking




Make sure that if you are going to try it that you constantly check in with your partner. Whether you are using your hand or a paddle, start slowly. You need to understand the distance, range and how hard to go. It takes a bit of work to get it just right. So vary speed, intensity and types of stokes. 

If you're using your hands remove any jewellery. Tease your partner with anticipation - smack your own hand to startle them with the sound. Keep your spanking to the lower butt cheeks. Space out your spanking and in between spanking rub the area with your palm ensuring there is time for your partner to communicate how they're feeling.


Spanking is not only fine, it can be a lot of fun. If you like spanking what does it say about you? It says that you are lots of fun and willing to explore your sexuality. Just remember safety and consent are a must in anything sexual. 


Spanking is not something everyone likes, or should feel compelled to like. So without judgement politely decline and that's the end of it.


What turns you on about erotic spanking? Let us know in the comments below.


Comments

  • 69tattoorob

    04 Jul 2018

    I watched for one hour a stranger fucking my wife but during that time he continued to slap her arse cheeks both cheeks were bright red looking sore but she never complained to him but when i tried doing the same only softer she told me not to she doesn't like it cant figure her out

  • WATCHMESWALLOW

    16 Jun 2018

    I love being spanked and ordered to suck harder and faster when I’m giving a guy a blowjob . Works when you’re sort of in a 69 position. I love being dominated and having someone impose their will on me ...spanking is someone being in charge and having power over you .

  • kinky_master

    15 Jun 2018

    There is such an incredible feeling of power and dominance, as I start to gently spank her quivering rump, then touch her by now wet and juicy lips, slide a finger between them, as another slap lands on the other cheek. Rhythmically slaps land on one cheek after the other, turning them redder and redder, feeling the heat coming of them while my finger finds your clit as you get wetter and wetter. Oh what a feeling.

  • Starburst106

    13 Jun 2018

    Quite simply it means you like to be spanked. After all, it's well known that if you like anal and threesomes you must be kinky! Or so I'm told...

  • mrnorti69

    13 Jun 2018

    love spanking a good assssssssssssss :P

  • NoRegretsEver

    13 Jun 2018

    Love the sound and the gasp from that first spank you give.

  • SandeGiny

    13 Jun 2018

    Taking off your belt without breaking eye contact. Sploosh.

  • Letsgetwhoopee

    13 Jun 2018

    The bottom line with our sexualities is that we should be getting comfortable with them and with them changing throughout our lives, but that we should never be feeling coerced or compelled for what we're doing or not.