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A unicorn is a bisexual female who is down to hooking up with couples for a threesome.

Why would any female want to be with another couple? For many reasons, the few we can think of are self-awareness, sexual empowerment and a more satisfying sexual experience.

Think you might be a good fit for a unicorn relationship? Here's a helpful guide on everything you need to know about being a unicorn in the swinging community.

Know what you want

What is your threesome fantasy? Is it MFM, FMF, FF? Once you decide what your fantasy is, think about your rules of the game. Be honest about your boundaries, don't just accept the first invitation without getting to know the couple’s needs as well as your own.

As a single woman, you get to be pretty selective about whom you play with. Seriously, take your time finding a suitable couple. It’s worth the wait. Clarity is crucial when three people are involved. Everybody's needs and wants should be met.

Communicate your role/fantasy

Couples seek out unicorns for various reasons, most commonly for threesomes, but also to venture into the polyamorous scene or as a step towards opening their relationship. Ideally, the unicorn will be bisexual or bi-curious, not looking for romantic attachment, and available at the couple’s discretion. The important thing for the couple is that the unicorn poses no threat to the relationship.

In saying that, you also must communicate to the couple your needs, desires and boundaries. You might be fulfilling a fantasy of theirs, but you're not there to serve. Unless, that's the specific dynamic you want, even then make that clear too.

Be ready to speak up if anything happens that you do not like. It's absolutely vital that everyone involved feels safe and respected throughout the encounter.

You don’t have to be a model

Single females are highly desirable in most of the swinger communities. The assumption would be that the younger and more attractive you are the more attention you will receive, but that is not the case entirely. As long as you make an effort with your appearance, have a strong, sexy confidence, and you are comfortable in your own skin, you are going to be in high demand.

Do it for yourself

Joining a couple as a unicorn is an exhilarating experience that allows you the flexibility, freedom, and sexual satisfaction without the traditional commitments of a ‘normal’ relationship. It also gives you the chance to explore your own sexuality with the sex you may be more attracted to. 

Finding the right couple

Use RHP to find and interact with couples. Go to parties, clubs, get to know couples. You will meet like-minded people at these venues and couples that you play with will also introduce you to other couples they know and trust.

 Interpret emotions

Since you’ll likely be dealing with a couple, you need to pay attention to each of their needs simultaneously. You need to be intuitive enough to pick up on facial expressions, body language, tone and even eye movement that might signal discomfort, concern or hesitation.

Go with the flow

It is best to find couples that are actively looking to explore the lifestyle. To take the pressure off, meet up for a drink and see if you hit it off. Then meet up again for sex, if not, no hard feelings. This schedule gives the couple and the unicorn time to honestly assess how they feel about each other.  

Ultimately, communication and honesty are the two most important ingredients to a successful unicorn experience. Once you’ve sorted those things out, you can focus on how crazy hot the experience will be. Exploring our sexual fantasies allows us to develop a self-awareness that makes us all better, healthier and sexier partners. 

Are there any more tips you'd like to add to help other female unicorns have the best experiences every time? Let us know in the comments below.