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Dirty talk, do it right and take your roll in the hay into a mind-blowing, bed-squeaking act. 

Humans are hardwired to be turned on by verbal cues. Daryl Cioffi, a specialist in couples, relationships, sex and neuropsychology says:

"People very much enjoy dirty talking because it activates all regions of your brain while your body is also getting stimulated... Similar areas of the brain are touched upon during dirty talk as when we curse. So, very often as your brain sees it, the dirtier the better.”

Our brains are erogenous zones often forgotten during sex. So don't be afraid to communicate and stimulate your brain with dirty talk.  

Given a choice between silent sex and sex filled with descriptive dirty talk, we'll take dirty talk any day. Think about it, the words coming out of your mouth are helping someone get off. 

If you are someone who freezes like a Kangaroo in headlights at the words: "Talk dirty to me, baby!" then this is a read for you.

These are the steps to doing it right, because mastering how to dirty talk in bed is a skill worth mastering.

START SLOW

Dirty talk although intimidating at first, is a great tool to instantly turn the heat up in the sheets. 

Dirty talk is not as difficult as it sounds, you don't need years of experience to master the art of dirty talk.

But don't throw too much talk too soon, test the waters before launching into a full blown filth-master, you might just come out too strong.

If you haven't tried it out yet, start slow and gauge their reaction and wait for their response. If they get into it, only then can you push the boundaries. Best to tread lightly until you get the green light.

TIMING

The trick with dirty talk is timing. The best times are generally foreplay, position transitions and right before orgasm. Just add some dirty talk, just the way you know how, and you'll see the spark in your partners' eyes and how turned on they will be.

COMMUNICATION

Dirty talk openly communicates what turns you on and how you like it to be done, right at the moment it counts. It could be expressing rougher, faster sex. Or it could be communicating a kinky thought without having to follow it through. Kinky talk is a great way to explore your boundaries.

How hot is that?

LANGUAGE

Everybody is different and in the heights of passion, almost anything is admissible. Best never to assume you can use degrading language, ask and agree on first with what is ok. You want to entice – not offend – your girl and there's a fine line between the two, so balance fun and filth.

Once you find out what gets your partner going, it could be a command or some kinky thing they want to try out. Or it can be simply telling them what makes you feel good.  Watch them lose it when they hear you use the right words to get them off.

AUTHENTICITY

Dirty talk works best when you are authentic. 

If you don't mean it, don't say it. It'll just feel awkward.

What is being authentic? It's when you are genuinely trying to work towards your orgasm/pleasure and this won't escape your partner.

So yeah, do use dirty talk if you are in the mood for it, because it'll just flow. Unhinge your imagination and let your dirty talk communicate what and how you want it done. There is nothing SEXIER in the eyes of a man than seeing a woman genuine enjoying herself.

Talking dirty in bed is one of the best ways to turn ordinary sex kinky and wild.

Remember that dirty talk works sometimes and other times just doesn't, no sweat just brush it off. Have fun with it and use it if you feel comfortable with it. Because dirty talk isn't for everyone, and that's ok.

As with everything in sex, keep it fun and if you mess it up just laugh it off and keep going. Remember sex is a skill which means practice makes perfect!

Do you agree that dirty talk can take routine, ordinary sex into steamy, hot sex? Share your views in the comment below.