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Why don't most single guys get it!
April 10 2015
We choose, and it is we, guys based on their imagination, originality, looks and their patience. Recently after some great encounters we've added generosity, taking her shopping buying clothes etc and a nice restaurant for lunch or dinner. It doesn't have to be expensive but shows a willingness to build tension and expectation before the main course.
What do people think? We've copped a bit of flack from guys, some quite nasty, but it has really improved the experience for us and the quality of guy.
Here's what we tell them and we've now put it in our profile
Re: Hi there
haha, I bet
I'll get straight to the point we get a 100 messages from guys a week and Graham might let me play with one or two a month so I chat a lot to sort out my short list and then every week or two he will call the guys he approves of and choose one for me.
A lot depends on the stories you tell and what you want to do and where and with who and what the build up to the day is and on the day what the build up to the sex is.
Graham and I both need to like what we think will happen. I need time to build trust and understanding and friendship if we have that I have a great time and I'm relaxed and open with you. If we get to that point there is pretty much nothing I would refuse you. As long as it's say not unhealthy or physically dirty.
I am insatiatable sexually and have never had one guy out last me ever.
So because of the process and the fact there's only a few "winners" I get called a time waster etc. I don't care I can't make every guy happy and if they're impatient here they'll be impatient in bed, or wherever we do it.
That said you look nice and your profile looks nice
Lek
- Posted from rhpmobile
Comments
JessicaRabbit
9 years ago
You didn't mention whether you sent a 'hey we're here, how far off are you?' kind of text? I usually send a text when I arrive saying where abouts I'm waiting and what i'm wearing. If I don't get a reply, I assume they are driving and wait a while. I've never had a no show thankfully, nor anyone not replying later than 10 minutes after the pre-arranged meeting time to let me know they were on the way. So I guess I wouldn't wait any longer than 15 minutes if I hadn't heard back to my text.
Gotta say though, I find the 'generosity' part of your criteria confusing. How does that show 'a willingness to build tension and expectation?' Naturally, you're entitled to look for whatever you want, I just don't see the correlation.
Also, you're damned no matter what you say and will always cop flack for someone for whatever reason. Don't take it personally. As you said, many single guys out there. Hit the block button and move onto the next.
Jess
xxRHP User
9 years ago
Count me out. Generosity aside, happy to chat and discuss things but jumping through hoops or buying your affection I don't do. You like me for what or who I am or you don't. Bye.
RHP User
9 years ago
When I read your post on here and then your profile, I switched off pretty quickly. Your selection process sounds like a transaction more than anything else, which for me, is always a turn off. Having said that, on sites like this, there are always desperate guys who will happy to be a part of a cattle call. For me the formula is pretty simple, I can detect bullshit in a profile a mile away. If I like the pics i, i make an approach. After brief banter i will exchange numbers and/or organise a meeting for a drink. If i get the impression that the email exchanges will go on forever, then i lose interest and move on. I won't get nasty or call anyone a bitch etc because i don't care enough or take it personally enough to be bothered.
RHP User
9 years ago
Buying you clothes. Have to say that is a bit weird or are you after a Richard Gere/Pretty woman experience?
Otherwise, you are after the seduction and the chase which makes meeting new men so exciting. Not many get that I don't think. Just look at my seduction thread! Seduction and foreplay are dead!RHP User
9 years ago
Sounds more like an auction than a seduction.
RHP User
9 years ago
and each to their own
Just glad that I don't have to resort to this kind of manipulation
Twisted_Mister
9 years ago
+1.
I have zero problem taking a lady/girl/chick/woman/seductress out for a drink or a meal to test the water and chemistry etc, before any further arrangements are made (or not, as the case may be).
But shopping? Buying you clothes as some sort of barometer as to whether I'm in with the cool kids?
How much money do I spend on your clothes? Is there a trigger point where I'm regarded better? Do I hire a limousine too?
No thank you. If someone wants to spend time with me it's because of who I am and what I'm about. I take time and energy to present at my best, but if you're looking to be picked up in a helicopter and taken to Victoria's Secret I'm not for you.
If others are that desperate that's their business.
In line with your forum title, this single guy definitely 'gets it'.
BTW - 'No one has ever been able to outlast me.' Is that the female equivalent of 'I last for hours and hours, can go down all night and make you cum till your head spins'?
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
So we have to take your word for it that you are really a couple.
Going by your 'test' we think you are only going to attract loosers desperate enough to please you. We cant imagine that the genuine quality guys would buy into your charade - why would they?
- Posted from rhpmobile
Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
actually, are you serious.... If you are then it's OMFG......😱
Twisted_Mister
9 years ago
Of the ratio of single guys to girls/couples looking for them.
But at the same time, this is not Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. If I have to buy 1000 chocolate bars in the hope of winning the golden ticket, then no. Just no, and I'll go without.
It's demeaning (to me), and I have to look in the mirror sometimes too.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Well, true 50. I assume that is what they are getting at. It does sound very demanding only because they are after something in particular. Maybe she needs to be treated like a princess? I know some guys love to do that.
otherwise for me personally... Having a man allow me to sleep with a man, then choosing the man and vetting him for me. Completely gets my back up. But I am not a sub though. Something I could never do, unless it was a bit of a game I suppose.RHP User
9 years ago
I could do with a new pair of Jocks also .. or if your feeling generous Rolex
RHP User
9 years ago
I really hope what I "get" from this post and OP's profile is way off. If I am wrong, then I think you really reallly reallllly need to watch your wording, as it reads like you're flirting with the line between Hot Wife play, and into very different territory. It's confusing from your profile and post, whether you're looking for playmates, a pig, or someone who will leave a thank you envelope. So maybe revisit your wording and how you've phrased things, to lessen what could be wildly misinterpreted. And well yeah - there is plenty of angst, frustration and bitterness in messages in tihs place. And some seducers - but as you said, you seem to be finding them. It's all about finding the right fit and that isn't going to be everyone who messages you.
RHP User
9 years ago
...... Pimp my ride...... Lovinit....I'm Lovin it..... Still laughing...
RHP User
9 years ago
Really you want your lovers to pay for the privilege??? Sorry but that is prostitution or am I mistaken!
I had a guy message me and wanted to fly me to him and pay me $2000 for a weekend, nowhere in my profile does it say I am for sale and I never will be.
Don't think I could live with myself if I asked my friends to be generous with their money.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
I do love a good fantasy..Well done in creative writing 101..because if I am wrong then you are just an awful,manipulive,exploitative pair...and you Graham in particular I imagine have a liking for gold bling and white suits .
Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
This is all going rather well...... whatever the plan was
Paradisepair
9 years ago
For the guy, for everyone really. Of course it's lovely when someone wants to be generous because it's in their nature and they have the means to. But to insist on it is just wrong. The idea is to reinforce the mentality that just because a woman is highly sexed and available it does not mean she's a free prostitute. This kind of behaviour would just make the ignorant feel justified in seeing women here in that light...
RHP User
9 years ago
Although I think it was Graham's job to take her shopping and treating her like a princess but of course... Lovely if you can get someone else to pay for it. As Sammy says there are blokes around who will do that.
RHP User
9 years ago
the description sounds like more than 'generosity' and more like payment in advance for services rendered. That might not be how it is, but it's how it sounds. Don't most people meet for drinks or something beforehand to see if they click in person and not just in the mental model they've built up beforehand?
RHP User
9 years ago
yeah wording was wrong I meant generosity not financially just willing to spend a bit of time to build the expectation not hi this is me this is my cock fall over with your legs in the air.
And we've tried to make choosing something we both have a role in so we are doing it together.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
easy, I'll go again after I've outlasted you as well 😉
RHP User
9 years ago
I m in Noosa to guys, feel like going for a swim?
RHP User
9 years ago
We talked about this for ages last night thanks everyone for the feedback.
Just fyi what led us too believe everything was cool was the really great experiences we had with some really cool, sweet guys who were excellent lovers but we can see our blunder so are pulling back to think it out a bit better.
Cheers
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Getting other men to buy his partner for sex.
Maybe 'Graham' is a pimp?
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
So many birthday's so quickly. Happy Birthday Lek.
You might want to change your profile content to match the sudden change in age.RHP User
9 years ago
I don't know what's worse....the fact that you're asking these guys to buy your wife clothes and meals in order to have sex with her (framing that as them showing a willingness to build expectation is frankly a load of crap, let's call a spade a spade here why don't we)...or the fact that there are guys willing to do it
Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
Seriously, I'm still gob smacked that you are advertising yourself in this way, on here, where's your self respect and for the men that is doing it for you come on guys, where's yours......
There are specially designed websites for women/men who wish to be paid, maybe you should look into something like that, at least then everyone knows where they stand and exactly what they are paying for.....💋RHP User
9 years ago
After reading quite a few profiles doesn't this pretty much go against what a vast majority on this site are looking for?
NSA sex, honesty and a genuine connection if only briefly :)
There are places you can go if all that is required is a transaction of sorts..RHP User
9 years ago
your demands and expectations are like a parody of a wort-case-scenario RHP profile. For a guy to respond eagerly to you is already an act of self-debasement, and he hasn't jumped through the rest of your "how-low-will-you-go" hoops yet.
I'd like to think most people on here are seeking some sort of connection, even if only for a night, with a person they're meeting up with, but as has been amply pointed out before me, the transactional nature of your criteria makes that highly unlikely.
On the plus side, there could be a particularly sordid reality TV show in there somewhere.
(Having said all that though, I don't think any of it justifies people sending you abusive messages)
AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
ill consider a liason with you but from what i read on your post you'll have to be taking me out shopping and wine and dine me. You arent that special.
Im special but i treat everyone as an equal.
So......where we going for dinner?RHP User
9 years ago
RHP is a sex site, a swingers site, a dating site, a 'whatever you want it to be' site. So if you, OP, choose to use it as a site to find a man willing to pay for shopping, meals etc. and undergo an extensive interview process before being allowed to have sex, well that's your choice and who I am to knock it?
But surely you understand that by choosing to use the site the way that you are, it effectively means that you're operating in a niche market with very few participants? And that's why 'most single guys don't get it'. Don't blame the fact that you cop a bit of flack or your lack of success on single men... accept that you're working in a limited market, and that most single men won't be prepared to jump through your hoops. I know I sure as hell wouldn't if I was guy.
And finally, Happy Birthday Lek. Wow! 6 of them overnight... that's pretty impressive. I hope Graham spoilt you, or at least found someone to do it for him ;)
Much love,
Elle xxRHP User
9 years ago
...find this approach off putting. It sounds like I have to compete at a sales event, auction, or something else. I'm not on here to be a sugar daddy so definitely wouldn't "apply".
I also don't see how "generosity" builds tension? Except maybe the kind of "wait a minute, I'm buying you drinks and you're not going to put out?"
No offense to anyone here, but the current wording of the profile seems to entice only desperate people to apply, or those who have more time/money than they know what to do with.
If it's the latter, for anyone who has lots of money burning holes in their pocket, I accept donations to get my member level back to Platinum.
TheLuckyOne
9 years ago
Is why single males bother? Sounds like far too much hard work just to have sex with someone else's woman. What is wrong with all the single women out there? 😕
RHP User
9 years ago
I'd like to retract the last comment I made on my previous post.
Making a crack at the OP's change of age, plus the way that I did it, was bitchy and uncalled for. I apologise and regret having done it.
Much love,
Elle xxRHP User
9 years ago
I think some women over estimate the power of odds ratios being in their favour here, then presume they can raise the bar unrealistically higher as a result. The reality is that finding a man that can actually satisfy you physically & aesthetically with a decent personality is not easy at all, that calibre of man will have their own set of standards, so you've got to have something to offer back yourself.
Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
You're right.
And contrition is important.
Lay over my lap and I'll spank you for your sins..Twisted_Mister
9 years ago
The wording was wrong!
'Taking her shopping buying clothes etc'
Hard to take that as anything but absolutely in, not out of, context.
It reminds me of when slaves used to line up at market and the traders would walk past and check their teeth, skeletal structure and so on. Except that the slave who suddenly produced a wad of cash would be bought.
The 'winner', in the OP's words.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Yep, their profile doesn't work for me either. Nothing about it appeals and I can't relate to what they desire... but this forum post is listed under the 'Fetish & Fantasy' banner with the sub title being 'Cuckolding'. Funny how so many so called open minded people are so quick to jump down the throats of anyone whose version of kink doesn't fit into the main stream's version of what it should be.
They are entitled to ask for whatever they want, just like everyone else here. Whether they get it, whether you approve, is totally irrelevant.
It sounds to me that they weren't complaining about not finding men, but not finding men who understood their needs at the psychological level. Now just how many people on here have scratched their heads after writing what they feel to be a very clear profile and responders still don't get it.RHP User
9 years ago
but you nailed it for me....
- Posted from rhpmobile
totallygenuine
9 years ago
I totally agree with you. Nothing worst than never ending messages total time wasters. TG 👎
RHP User
9 years ago
in a little C, as opposed to the other. Just can't see it really....
Emphasis on the little C.
Decades ago it was the fore runner to what is generically known today as the soap opera, that's before the OJ saga changed the demographic.
Those with half a brain will ponder, some with a bit more probably won't get the gist at all.
OP, how much are the tickets?
Couldn't give them away I'd say after reading the initial post.
Enjoy your night folks, it will be what you make it.RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'simple_desires' So we have to take your word for it that you are really a couple.
Going by your 'test' we think you are only going to attract loosers desperate enough to please you. We cant imagine that the genuine quality guys would buy into your charade - why would they?
- Posted from rhpmobile
Yup! They don't even have a paid membership or any photos upRHP User
9 years ago
Maybe start with a collar. Then maybe some handcuffs. Though only if you get dressed up in them so I can spank some decency into you. Oh and no there will be no sex. I'll just be taking the key with me when I'm done :p
RHP User
9 years ago
I think it's ok to meet up with people for a meal or a cuppa I don't care who pays. If I am enjoying the man's company and we are getting to know each other more how wonderful. I don't even mind if a guy buys me something sexy to wear. If it pleases him sexually and it's something he has wanted to explore in play then I think it's fine. I buy things for men if it's something I want to try and I think it's sexy and acceptable. I have never used it as a prerequisite or a requirement as such. Money and gifts are not equal value to a human for me. I think flesh for flesh is a fair exchange indeed. I think there is nothing more wonderful than exploring a man's body. Our bodies are our most valuable asset. If gifts is something you seek then I don't judge it's not my thing. But I might want to buy a man something to use in the bedroom while we play and I think that's ok.
RHP User
9 years ago
A decent man wouldn't mind buying a drink or something along those lines.. As for buying you clothes etc etc.. Get real!!!
That has desperation written all over it....the only person I'd treat like that is my own partner...
Good luck to you :)
N4November
9 years ago
You guys sound so self-absorbed and sex in most forms is ultimately about mutual pleasure. You're on the wrong site. Try baby doll being pimped out! There's nothing sexy about this scenario except a bull - cuckold thing. But even then there are too many strings involved so fuck that!
No wonder single guys get pissed off. Nice horny girl here fellas.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Dont people on craigslist or locanto ask for similar acts of 'generosity'? Perhaps you need to be more clear if you want a sugardaddy just say it in bold and flashy lights?
RHP User
9 years ago
You say "single guys", right? But your profile states looking for couples. To be honest, even if I did come across your profile on some random night of searching, I wouldn't even give it a second look. I'm just not into grey ghosts! And as for the wining and dining? Sure I'm into that, but I seek a connection with someone before meeting. And as for outlasting me, seriously? I think you have had some shit fucks there honey. Not good form to tar men (who know how to fuck a woman until she has had enough) with the same brush. All I can say is good luck with your search, it may be your gig, but no way would I ever come and play in it. And what's this shit about birthdays?? Spicy (insert rolling eyes)
RHP User
9 years ago
They asked what people think...or at least Graham did..now they know...and yes I do believe it is a fantasy.Graham's fantasy...the photos disappeared and the age of his partner suddenly went up by ten years..you and I both know that some profiles here are all smoke and mirrors xxFreya
RHP User
9 years ago
As a female of this couple I am sick of being treated like im a hooker on this site...which is why I pretty much focus on females and select cpls now.
The OP's type of profile, even though its a fake cpls profile, is advertising the female as a hooker. Not sure about you Indigo, but To us, that is not appropriate for this site. Otherwise, we are in the wrong site!
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
I've played as part of a couple with a male friend and I've never been treated like a hooker. Simple, why the conclusion now it's a fake profile?
OP, you say the wording was at fault, but the fact you mentioned any suitors could take you to buy clothes belies that in my opinion. I think (and kinda hope) any self-respecting guy would run a mile when faced with that suggestion.
Maybe your attitude and "want list" will change now you've read the reviews. Personally I really dislike the idea of a "winner", when did looking for a suitable lover become a contest?
I'm reminded of the TV series Highlander: "In the end there can be only one!"
Forget the jumping through hoops, maybe you should get all the hopefuls in a room together and let them fight it out to the death. ;-)RHP User
9 years ago
Even know I have nothing to offer this profile as a potential lets say CLIENT! I put them on block just because of the arrogance of it The only thing I would take you shopping for would be a new attitude towards othersThey seem so far from reality I doubt that this profile is a real one anyway.Oh look what a surprise no validations either lol nice try but if you're going to make up stories to post in the forums at least make it believable
LetsFrolic
9 years ago
Just meet snd talk to them and decide from there on the night.. i prefer to meet at a decent place.. a recent couple said mh local pub was too formal. . To me they just now spoear like trash or were trying to set me up for getting jumped.
Im hspoy to pay gor dinner or dome drinks or meet and chat .. really i shouldn't have to pay for anything.. it should be meet chat and if yhe vibe is right go from there.. couples rarely meet anyway or respond.
So they really appear more like pimps or a profile that just wants all your details.
- Posted from rhpmobileLetsFrolic
9 years ago
Is trying to say is single males have no place in trying to meet females or couples or the swinging scene what so ever.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
...I agree with your view on this topic.
I certainly refuse to compete with other men here for affection. I have my pride and it doesn't allow me to demean myself.
Though, your Highlander reference brings a smile. I can almost picture myself as some sort of Immortalmedieval warrior, fighting through the ages against likeminded meatheads for "The Prize". Cool.But in that case The Prize was mortality and a Oneness with humanity...this prize is the right to buy the fairmaiden a new gown or some hose. How cheaply we mercenaries are selling ourselves now...LetsFrolic
9 years ago
What it all feels seems appears like.. . Its all like the site/industry/fake profiles/society wants to suss guys out and throw trannys and gays at them as they get desperate and held back while they lure and launder females.. and there may be some random genuine people somewhere.
And the sating scene in the world is dead.. only way to meet people these days is online. And someone picks and chooses out of who they canncontrol and who sucks up etc to who may be lucky enough to eventually hook up or find a woman.
This even happens when you meet some females. Its like they have a job just to get info for someone and test you and not for themselves or to create a relationship by what they ask and what they want to do and what they wont do.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
"throw trannys and gays at them". WTF?? Really couldn't understand what you were trying to say in your post, but the whole thing smacks of bigotry and bitterness. If I've got it wrong, please clarify.
ElleRHP User
9 years ago
So the wife states shes outlasted every man shes ever bedded? Maybe they run for the hills halfway into it because "the prize" was a dud.
RHP User
9 years ago
wewantanextraguy, funny how you bring up the OP's lack of validations when you have none yourself?
RHP User
9 years ago
wewantanextraguy, funny how you bring up the OP's lack of validations when you have none yourself?
AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Sounds like you dont get to frolic much. Or you had too many bitter pills this morning.
Get this clear.....
No one is throwing trannys or gays at you. Im not part of the dating society company to make up some sort of numbers to keep people like you busy. I dont actively seek guys. They come to me, whether that is through desperation or attraction i find out in the vetting process.
So dont try a chuck a furphy in the mix with trannys and gays, just because you cant attract a woman.
Dating here is no different to out there. Matter of fact its probably harder. So if you cant score a root in the outside world because of your manners and attitude, you got fuck all hope here.
Rant over.
Oh hang on........this not the venting thread?
PL1963
9 years ago
I'm happy to cook a lady a nice dinner and some, or go out 2 my local little Chinese and then pamper her with massages etc, but the only thing I'd be buying would be some lingerie if we were on going FWB. Soz, it sounds a bit like your "preying" on single guys to me. I'm 52, with a "head like a robbers dog", so I'm finding it difficult, but I think I'd rather "beat the Angry Anderson doll", than pay for the privaliege with a lady I've not meet. Does buying her "clothes" mean that she will have sex the 1st meet? Similar to paying a prostitute? Cheers P.L.
RHP User
9 years ago
Pretty much everything you post these days is a filled with bitterness that you're not getting any. Have you considered that you're creating a self-fulfilling prophesy because what you're putting out there is NOT conducive to attracting anyone.
PL1963
9 years ago
Soz to hear that, there are genuine guys like me out here that are respectful and well mannered, unfortunately the "filth" msg's give us a bad reputation. Are most of the "scumbags" guests or members?
RHP User
9 years ago
listen your entitled to look for what you want ,but selling it like a shop you will get just what you want and the grandiosity theme is what comes across here ,only recently i got in touch with a profile who mentioned money ,FWB etc ,,,that just reads the word Sale ,,,how can you possibly have good sex when theres a currency of any type involved ,what most dont get is Chemistry which is all mental and the physical is only the emmanation of the chemistry. now if two poor people can talk honestly and state what they like mentaly and anticipation is the key here ,not for what another person has or owns then its the evolution of that chemistry that works, the physical is only the manifestation of that chemistry thats why we hear of good sex and bad sex ,i rarely meet people myself because of this unless its a good connection. i dont care if shes poor or rich or what her staus is its the connection and no money or welath or staus is even mentioned ,so many dont get it here at all ,,but if you want to sell your sex then its nothing short of prostitution. any guy can get a cheap escort for that ,just having a profile doesnt make it any different ,get back to basics ,if you want good sex it doesnt come fast or at a price it takes patience and rapour and evolution of chemistry with the person, if you mention money or benifits all that says is your insecure and actualy need the money so no thanks id rather wait for the poor girl and give her time of her life simply because she was genuine and didnt ask for anything.
RHP User
9 years ago
People who post here seriously get flamed for expressing their fantasies. I am far from what people are calling a 'hooker' but, if I am honest, being wooed ala Richard Gere style sounds like a fun and hot scenario to some degree. Perhaps because I've never been treated like a princess in my life it is a turn on, but I would hope that people can respect a fantasy without the inherent name calling. Having that kink does not make one a 'hooker' at all, moreso aware of what could potentially be a turn on. Just as we do (should) not shame anyone for which gender turns them on, we should show the same courtesy no matter the kink or desire. We can't help what gets our juices flowing, and providing it's consenting adults and no one is hurt then I think people should be able to let their imaginations run wild.
I'm really saddened by the anger and hate on these forums, are we not here to make love not war (sorry for the cheesy pun but the sentiment is true)?RHP User
9 years ago
Now, please don't take this the wrong way. But your user handle says it all. There is most definitely not a lot of anything HOT whatsoever in your profile.
Your post of we meet a 'guy one or twice' a month makes it sound, like you are running an automated revolving supermarket. Women here complain about being seen as a part of a meat market display and your post sounds like you put men into the same basket.
I'm all for building tension, and excitement but having another guy buy your chick clothes, nice restaurants and lunches - those are things that frankly you do with someone you are in a serious relationship with?
I suspect most single men would rather take their chances with a single female who owns 15 cats, bakes chocolate cookies, and Irons their underwear for them, than run through your interrogation while you critique them and put them into a Yes, No or Maybe basket.
These poor men pander to your every whim so your wife or partner can than screw them senseless then leave them high and drive while you move onto the next conquest. Because that's what it sounds like. It's a bit like chewing gum, then spitting it out into the gutter when you're finished with it. Discarded, and no longer of any use.
Frankly, I'd get narky as well if you seduced me, screwed me once than sent me out like a piece of garbage. I suspect most men, like most women, like to have an experience where there is genuine chemistry, attraction and the possibility of an ongoing friendship.
What I find even more worrying, is that - 'Graham, does the choosing, tells me who I can and can't with whom and when and how many times a month." Does Graham tell you what time to make a cup of coffee, put the washing on.... etc.
And I'm not sure what anyone else thinks, but I'm all for chatting and seeing if we have things in common. But, I'm not prepared to chat, run through hoops and do ANYTHING just to meet someone.
Try, and consider that most of us have a life, are busy, and endless chatting for an eternity rather than doing the deed and meeting for a wine or a coffee to see if there is any actual chemistry is like cutting dollar bills up into tiny pieces and throwing them down the drain. It's called time! Unlike money which you can get more of, time is finite. You can't take a rain-check to get it back!RHP User
9 years ago
Some people think that due to disproportionate numbers on online dating sites they can be more demanding then they could be in real life. Perhaps you can, however the quality guys/couples quite simply are not desperate enough to jump through hoops, they can meet people in the real world. Depends what your after..
RHP User
9 years ago
To be honest I don't take a lot of notice of 'requirements' in profiles, sex is individually different depending on the situation and personality, not a script you can write without knowing the character intimately.
Not sure if you have removed your photos but there is little in your profile that would help write a naughty story that could engage a stranger.
Sounds like you prefer to have stories sent to you rather than enjoying the dating process with a new person.
Having a girl outlast you is not that sexy, I like a girl to cum (first if possible) but I need to taste her pleasure.
- Posted from rhpmobilemoreforyou69
9 years ago
Big miss! I'm not about to; buy drinks, buy dinner and especially buy clothes for anyone o. A first date/ encounter. If you can find them, ( and sadly it seems you have), more power to ya. But let it be said that I ain't that kinda sucker.
Peace
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
I certainly wouldn't be part of the pay per view crowd if that's what the OP is really after, to me that's a real turn off - may as well just pay cash for it to avoid having to return the gifts or whatever should they be the wrong size say. Typically we would go 50/50 or one pays one time the other the next or just whatever is fair at the time I don't really keep tabs.
As for the selection process I've just returned after spending a bit of time with a new found 'friend' in Perth and she easily receives over a hundred mails a day so I guess that would become a bit daunting trying to filter out the crap. After showing me some of the responses I was laughing at what some actually send (sick weird desperate multiple mails, stalking and on and on ) somehow I made it through or into the top 3 just by being normal and I guess making her laugh a bit. Maybe this is what the OP is trying to eliminate in order to make the selection process much simpler but in doing so I feel your going to miss the cream of the crop.RHP User
9 years ago
whats wrong with you people???? doesn't anyone want to just f... anymore with no strings attached?
ocean_man
9 years ago
Why don't most single guys get WHAT? Or am I one of the ones that don't get IT because I don't even see IT?Each to their own. If it makes you feel good go for it. You don't appeal to me.Now can somebody tell me what IT is?
RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Maybe your attitude and "want list" will change now you've read the reviews. Personally I really dislike the idea of a "winner", when did looking for a suitable lover become a contest?
I'm reminded of the TV series Highlander: "In the end there can be only one!"
Forget the jumping through hoops, maybe you should get all the hopefuls in a room together and let them fight it out to the death. ;-)
Sorry, but I almost choked on my glass of wine. Absolutely Priceless! So, well said!Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
What does it say about the self esteem and image of self worth, that someone is prepared to supplicate themselves out so spinelessly...... to satisfy such demands in the hope it will be rewarded with sex?!
RHP User
9 years ago
you can call it what you like a drink or 2 is acceptable dinner is pushing the line but shopping why not just take cash and call yourself by the proper name a worker/ hooker
RHP User
9 years ago
Is irrelavant as we all have Our filtering criterea in some way. Adding generosity to the mix would frighten the hell out of most ppl i know regardless of age, gender or orientation. Be careful and worry less about 'why most single guys don't get it' and think about how 'most guys content with lovin which generosity can get, know where to get it', without the hassle of messaging, searching and not to mention several fine women to choose from upon arrival. Unless they are not welcome to the houses that run on generosity, and if so, why would that be? Perhaps you will come across a gent who has such an imagination that the both of yours combined can't match it. Im not mocking you, Im genuinely saying think about who and what you seek is at all logical and how many months and men can pass before someone a tad, lets say, overly unique is in your company. I certainly hope never, just saying though.
RHP User
9 years ago
Everyone's wants & needs vary accordantly, whether it's dinner or sucking cock ??
We where the biggest advocates for single guys at one stage.
Yeah we met a select few that were great for sure, but they come and go from the scene pretty quick.
Our experience is most seem to freak out when their fantasy become a reality, so we don't bother these days.
Perhaps it's all just about the "wank bank" ?
- Posted from rhpmobileTwisted_Mister
9 years ago
I too have a fetish, which is that someone would buy me a suit before a date at a pretty cool restaurant. Which you would pay for, the lot.
You in?
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Twisted_Mister' I too have a fetish, which is that someone would buy me a suit before a date at a pretty cool restaurant. Which you would pay for, the lot.
how would they buy a suit at a restaurant?RHP User
9 years ago
I could probably manage a visit to the House of Lowes for the bag of fruit,and then fine dining at Cafe de Golden Arches. How'm I doin so far sweet cheeks 😜xxFreya
RHP User
9 years ago
Cut the crap out! You just need a good root, love!
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
One of my least favourite flirt replies is the "If you can't afford a membership, you can't afford me" one.
Personally I think it makes the person sending it sound like a gold digger looking for a sugar daddy (or mama).
I'm not attracted to cheapskates, but the insinuation someone isn't worthy because they won't spend money on another person is offensive to me.I'm I just overreacting?Twisted_Mister
9 years ago
You're on!!!!
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' One of my least favourite flirt replies is the "If you can't afford a membership, you can't afford me" one.
I hate that reply as well, personally I think RHP should get rid of it.RHP User
9 years ago
😜😘😛xxFreya
werdvus
9 years ago
All over it Groover like a fat kid on a cupcake .......Yes Hoops ,Gifts , jumping through rings of fire with a toy in your mouth ,You can bullshit to everyone but the BULL ,,,,,,,,,,,
Kindly (Next ) Moooo ve on
looking at the post and its comments majority RULESRHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' how would they buy a suit at a restaurant?
The restaurant was Suit and Thai?RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Twisted_Mister' I too have a fetish, which is that someone would buy me a suit before a date at a pretty cool restaurant. Which you would pay for, the lot.
You in?
- Posted from rhpmobile "please do not post anything that defames or vilifies"
Duly noted, that speaking freely about one of my many turn ons will result on vilification. Don't like it? Perhaps you should have ignored it but some urge inside you felt the need to take a pot-shot. I am NOT the OP.
Since it is apparently kosher to do so(contrary to my understanding of the rules), in answer to your question: if one of my kinks was putting nasty old men into a suit and taking them out to dinner I would.
As it turns out, my #1 turn on is kindness, and I would definitely indulge a gorgeous kind man.
A deeply hurt, NMBTwisted_Mister
9 years ago
That wasn't vilification by any stretch. If I put the same thing on my profile as the OP did and then made that post, effectively vilifying single giys then I would justifiably receive the same type of commentary on this thread.
If you're deeply hurt, then I have some empathy for you - but you'll notice that some comments here have been much more far-reaching than mine.
And I'm not old!!!!! :)
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Twisted_Mister' That wasn't vilification by any stretch. If I put the same thing on my profile as the OP did and then made that post, effectively vilifying single giys then I would justifiably receive the same type of commentary on this thread.
If you're deeply hurt, then I have some empathy for you - but you'll notice that some comments here have been much more far-reaching than mine.
And I'm not old!!!!! :)
- Posted from rhpmobile There have been all sorts of comments on this thread, however only one was directed at me personally. I dare not shame anyone's kinks as they are very private and often deeply rooted. I find it hurtful that one cannot be honest in sharing an innermost thought without persecution, and for that the rest of my kinks I had better keep to myself.
I think the OP was perhaps approaching their fantasy in a manner that I would not, however I fully support their autonomy to seek out what it is that they desire.RHP User
9 years ago
I don't think Twisted vilified you, nor even had a go at you personally.
I'm all for fantasies, but I'm sure I'm not the only one who didn't read the OP as a fantasy but more a list of demands.Twisted_Mister
9 years ago
Just looking for presents before being 'rewarded'.
Not my thing.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
I agree, they should ask for what they want.......a sugar daddy.
RHP User
9 years ago
For me it's a kink, because it would turn me on no end being dressed up in a way the man desires in order to accentuate my assets (aka body) so that he can then nibble his way as he peels it off of me as the evening goes on. A plunging neckline where he can gaze upon my chest over dinner, and could sneakily grope me and I feel like his sexy vixen. Unwrapping his delight if you will.
You're looking at it in a completely different way, one in which you feel it is demanding to even suggest and that it is not a turn on or kink for people. I can assure you it is, however minor the # of people it appeals to.
Meander, I felt he was indeed having a go as he mocked one of my sexual desires. A simple "it does nothing for me" is suffice, do not shame me for having the courage to admit what is potentially part of my sexual appetite.
50, I can't speak for what the OP wants, but I have a very full and demanding vanilla life and seek things that titillate me in my non vanilla life. I just think it is a matter of different strokes for different folks.
I also have a thing for a hot tradie with a thick circumcised cock poking out of his workpants, or a busty hairdresser poking her breasts in my face, but you probably won't shame me for those.Twisted_Mister
9 years ago
And I say this with the greatest respect - I don't think it's a kink. It's asking for free stuff from other people with no reciprocation.
As I said, others on this thread have been far more forthright on the subject than me (mostly the girls too) so I don't understand where the confected outrage has come from.
If I want to buy clothes for a lady I'm meeting then my word I will - but saying it's a prerequisite just makes into a transaction. As I said earlier, if I don't spend enough does that make my company not worthwhile?
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
9 years ago
you've described yours in terms suggesting that it's about the being dressed in a way you know he likes, less about receiving stuff for 'free'.
The way the OP described it, it was sounded like it was more about the "purchasing" and spending money on things for them to keep.
persecution, hurtful? honestly, I think you're being a _touch_ sensitive about this one. You described it entirely differently to the OP, and it really didn't come across as Twisted's initial post was trying to "shame" you (isn't anyone else sick of everything having 'shame' tagged onto it? I realise I'm opinion-shaming or something now, but.. meh)
If you support their autonomy in expressing themselves how they like, why not support other people's autonomy in expressing themselves? ;-)RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'nibblemebi' For me it's a kink, because it would turn me on no end being dressed up in a way the man desires in order to accentuate my assets (aka body) so that he can then nibble his way as he peels it off of me as the evening goes on. A plunging neckline where he can gaze upon my chest over dinner, and could sneakily grope me and I feel like his sexy vixen.
Is something I like as well (though for me it would be "a" sexy vixen rather than "his"), and see it as something totally different than what the OP described.
Your scenario would match theirs if you wrote that the man in question would be required to buy the sexy dress for you first if he wanted have dinner with you.My opinion only, of course.RHP User
9 years ago
Sounds like your sweet daddy is tired of paying for your treats. Why not get a sucker to do it for him. We have been happy with the two men we have met on here. The bought a smile, a gentle attitude, and respect. Thats all we were wanting
- Posted from rhpmobile
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