To Porn or not to Porn...

To Porn or not to Porn...

    | Apr 12, 2017
KillerHeelz   Woman 44yrs
Question for the ladies....

We all see the inevitable dick, clit and sexual act pics on profiles and in galleries. Par for the course here on RHP. Not my thing and I say so in my profile. Do I get offended? Nope. Tend to have a giggle or roll my eyes depending on the day, my mood or he circumstances.

Then you begin messaging off RHP after both parties decide to move to an easier medium (please note RHP it is a little difficult here!)

There is some flirting and general chit chat... nothing too hot and heavy just a little gentle flirting. All of a sudden a pornographic image appears on your screen. Not a dick pic or a clit pic or any of the usual subjects - something explicit and unsolicited.

What are your first thoughts? What do you think of the person that sent it to you without checking to see if you were into porn? I'm curious?

Thanks all - and please play nice ;)

KH

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DynamicCouple36  

Couple Man 46yrs Woman 38yrs

Happens often

We receive and unsolicited message , we reply and if interested, we ask for a recent FACE photo, and instead get a penis photo!! Lol

Makes us think of flashers, and the thrill that they get when exposing themselves to others.

At that point in time we ignore and or block

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Fit_Geek  

Man 43yrs

That's just weird

Was it accompanied by any comment as to 'this is what I like/want to do/into'? Strange regardless, you've made it to getting towards the hot and heavy with a real person, why would you unsolicited throw in strangers? 😯
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Hotwives_Inc  

Couple (FF) Woman 48yrs Woman 48yrs

Not much turns me off ....

I'd look at the porn as a way of possibly understanding what the person is into to :) I'd possibly even use it to titilate further if it interested me :) If it wasn't my cup of tea so to speak, I'd let the person know. If they continued sending explicit material after that, then I'd say they're inconsiderate and not worth any more of my time :)

Porn is a sign of our times, so the porn itself would not be an issue, neither would the explicitness of it. More of a concern would be the subject matter and whether that was anathema to my values and interests. Again a conversation would ensue to ensure boundaries were established. I don't make any judgements on the porn people watch, if I find it too abhorrent, I'd say so or walk away from where the porn is playing.

I did have a playmate who would detail our planned playsession by sending me links to porn (each a hint as to what I could expect). He also expected me to respond be sending links to porn as well (how I would counter or support his suggested material) ... along with explicit instructions to do certain things as I entered his home ... well it was hot :)



Mary xx
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ChasinMidnight   Man 53yrs

In all sincerity...

...you've got the goods and a great profile to explain who/what you are looking for be it short or long term.

I often wonder if the folks taking what they assure you are ''originals' even realize that there is a live, living, human and maybe even loving person on the other side of the screen? Sure, this site is about sex but jearzus I could have scored this morning at Woolie's just based on my accent and the time when she got off work? Naaa... the leather in my Saab is flawless and the back seat is where I sleep on long trips.

Now then if you want to do a porn shoot, it should be as private as what you whisper in the ear of a lover. I've the cameras and studio gear however you'll never even catch me dead watching the replays of the Superbowl or Miss Universe contest. Every photo you take or film you record has an independent identification code.

You rock and I have to roll outta here..... best, CM
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CandyDelicious   Woman 31yrs

Timing

I think the timing of it is key. If you throw some porn images or videos in when you are still in the innocent flirting stage it is a bit odd. Otherwise, who isn't into porn or explicit images (good ones that is)?? I support everyone's right to be into what ever they are into but my take on your question is that it is very prudish one.

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KillerHeelz   Woman 44yrs

Subject matter

I'm not easily shocked as I have a broad mind and understand people view porn differently. I don't care about dick pics or clit pics or bondage pics or sex acts in general- each to their own. I would normally send a message back saying that I prefer not to receive them. If they persist then blocked and finished.



However, I have received one where the subject matter was not what I would normally expect any adult to enjoy. I even asked a friend to confirm I wasn't being over sensitive. Nope! I wasn't. I didn't show it to all and sundry as once seen you can't unsee.



However, the point is that it was unsolicited porn and not agreed to in the first place. If I had an arrangement with someone that included links to porn or whatever, then fine. If my profile indicated I was into explicit then maybe. This was neither.



So women - unsolicited porn? and men - why do some feel the need to send it? I'm truly curious.



Again - play nice :)



KH x

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KillerHeelz   Woman 44yrs

So Candy...

You think asking questions about porn is prudish? All sorts of porn?

Look - as I've said I don't care about what people do in the privacy of their own homes, cars, spas etc .... as long as it does not exploit those who cannot stand up for themselves. It's just not my thing is all. I too am entitled to my own views. It doesn't do it for me. It's not prudish - it just doesn't appeal.



By the way - do you think underage porn is acceptable? How about bestiality? Or incest? Or rape porn?



Personally I find those to be upsetting - not the usual porn with terrible lighting, worse acting and questionable casting. I question anyone who would send those other types of images - which I did. You can choose which genre it happened to be....



This is about respect and ensuring the other party is ok with with receiving an image they have not solicited.

If you had started chatting and flirting to someone in real life with an eye to meeting up again, would you flash an explicit image in their face out of the blue and hope they wouldn't be shocked? I'm talking about gentle flirtation and not hot and heavy and where you've basically just met and are getting to know each other....



I'm curious about motivation and what others think if they received it.... not whether I'm being prudish...



KH
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CandyDelicious   Woman 31yrs

What was the subject matter

That's sounds quite judgmental Killerheelz, Who are you to say that all adults would not enjoy it?. What was the subject matter? I am very interested to know that.
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CandyDelicious   Woman 31yrs

For me

This not an aspersion on anybody but my personal opinion that yes I find people that are anti porn can be quite prudish. Nothing wrong with that. It's a way to assess if I am compatible with others.
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CandyDelicious   Woman 31yrs

Exchanging favorite porn clips

Is a quick and easy way to express what you are into. I have exchanged porn clips with men and women. My girlfriends will share especially hot clips quite a lot. Particularly if we have shared interested in certain subjects such as BDSM, public humiliation, "forced" sex, male Gay sex etc.
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ChasinMidnight   Man 53yrs

@KillerHeelz

You are absolutely right and any one (or company) producing that stuff should be looking out of a gray bar window a the exercise area in prison. Period, no jokes or subtle suggestions to the contrary.

For those that can't or don't want to exist without a video fix, more power to them albeit there are international perpetrates that define ''porn'' from everything from child abuse to indentured slavery.

Should you like a more formal opinion, drop me a note. I do hold PhD recognition on a couple of continents in the free world yet exercise them carefully in this format.

You rock ....best always, CM
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On_Safari  

Woman 45yrs

I like porn....

Is it weird that I like the ones that start as girl on girl, oh and gang bangs. I also like a bit of a story line. I don't like the anal ones, that shit doesn't do it for me.... a finger maybe but not a dick ~ just sayin'
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KillerHeelz   Woman 44yrs

Oh dear ...

Who is being judgmental now? Did I say I was anti-porn? Nope. Just not my thing.



I am into erotic not explicit and like to engage my imagination- I'm an avid reader and have a vivid imagination. I just don't find explicit visual images appealing. That's me but I don't judge others if they enjoy porn. That's them. However, I don't send anything to anyone if I haven't ascertained where their interests lie. No point in sending flowers to someone if they're allergic to pollen. At best they will be upset I had forgotten, at worst they could have an asthma attack!



If you and your friends like porn then fine and dandy. Each to their own is my motto. I would hope that others would not judge either you or me for our likes and dislikes.



But I bet you sorted that out between you and your friends before any images were exchanged...



This post is about respecting other people and ensuring they are expecting the image(s). Not whether they are prudish. It's about boundaries and not overstepping them.



I find it interesting this has turned into a discussion about prudishness.



KH



PS - I'm not going to describe the image. Let's just say as a mother of a young daughter I was shocked to see an extemporaneous image like that from someone. It was not a posed shot. I don't shock easily.





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PepperRose   Woman 100yrs

Moi

I don't watch porn. I used to collate images on a tumblr site, but haven't for years. The more I saw into the back-end of the industry the less sexy I found it. If someone sent me porn, they don't understand how my mind works, and I'd think they were pretty unimaginative. I'd be so freaking amused if anyone thought me a prude.
I'd prefer to write scenes that I'd like to get involved in, and someone would need to be pretty good at sexting to get me going. Pic swapping isn't going to do it for me, either. A person's general banter skills is much more of an aphrodisiac, to me. Otherwise I'll settle on my own imagination, or the hot breath and touch of a lover in my personal vicinity.


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MsJonesy   Woman 49yrs

In the scenario you describe Mary

I would be a little taken aback. There is a long stretch from some chit chat and flirting to having a porn pic land in my message tray. Context is everything.

It would also indicate to me the person wasn't particularly interested in much more than an end game of sex, and as my profile makes abundantly clear, my end game is something a little more than that.

Porn has its place, but I rarely (never is probably closer to the mark) use it as part of a build up to a meet. With an established friendship it has other uses....but once again rare.

That has nothing to do with being prudish (and that word could never be used to describe either of the lovely Hotwives!), but everything to do with personal interests and what turns me on, so I'm parking my bag next to PepperRose. She described it perfectly.
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Luck_Dragon   Woman 39yrs

No

I wouldn't appreciate it if someone I'd only just begun communicating with sent me porn. I like some porn and watch and share it with people, but only once I know them quite well and we've established our sexual likes and preferences. Actually, before I've met someone I barely even engage in any flirting with them, as I really don't know whether I'll be into someone until I meet them in the flesh.

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SoftandCurious   Woman 38yrs

Ah no

Acually after reading your hints about what was sent that would be a hell no.

I have friends who move from say RHP to something like Kik for that ease of messaging. If they get sent a dick pic without being asked - they automatically block the guy.

To me its like having a flyer shoved in your face when you're walking through the mall as opposed to being asked if I would like it first. If I get a dick pic without being asked the first time, I usually ask what made them decide this was the point in time to show me their cock? In the rare event I've been sent random porn without a friendship, established rapport etc they get a WTAF and a bye Felipe.

I'm with Pepper and MsJonesy on this one.
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Atalanta69   Woman 48yrs

Wow

I have to say I am with Pepper , Ms Jonsey and Softy if it's not requested , don't send.

I don't believe people who don't want to receive it are prudes either. I personally prefer the real deal instead of a picture.

I personally believe that anything like child pornography are crime scene photos as they can't consent! Because of some work I have done I can tell people it is actually a crime to distribute that style of porn which holds a jail sentence usually of 2+ years and a honoured membership on the child protection register. Which means if you are into uniforms there will be a lot hanging around your house. The other consequence is that the person then would normally have to do sex offender counselling.....and lots of other fallout anyhow just saying.......

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Porn

I like your selection
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I like porn

Some experiment once watching porn they otherwise don't famcy

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