This Womans(trans) frustrations with all the talk, and then no action from the mail recipient..

April 22 2017

Ive had some pretty darned hot and positive chats and message exchanges with a few great guys and even fewer ladies over the past few years, though I'm noticing a few of the guys who have made so much effort to write clear,concise,detailed messages expressing intense desires and thoughts to meet up and or play/make love with me, and upon every open chance and invite ive given,Hours of waiting later, and not even turning up or calling to cancel..no excuses for that, until days/weeks later when I get another well written letter/message explaining their actions or lack thereof..
Its not all doom and gloom though, there have been some fabulous times, sometimes lasting for a while or are short termed affairs/encounters eventually the flame and sizzle/spark burns bright but dies later...and leave us both wanting but wondering what may have been..I'm wondering if there are any other women out there, who've experienced similar frustrations and may have some advice for me, or just wish to leave their comment/opinion on this matter !!And if there are any guys/girls out there, that are interested in me, and aren't time wasters....then by all means please message/flirt me asap... i can also be found in other webs under saphire76..especially if they offer free chat or cam access at certain times...Sincerely awaiting ya'all.. Saphire76..xoxoxox

Comments

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    In my experience, the people you connect with, where all the planets align, are few and far between. When I find them, I try to stash them under my bed lol I've commented before about having a lucky run a year or so back, where I had quite a number of them, all on the go at the same time. I knew at the time I was lucky to have them, but just how lucky, became apparent about a year later when one by one, they started to move on, as they do. We're talking a big age gap here so I know they're only on loan to me, but eventually, I lost them all, and startednto then find the bar had been set high, and I:be struggled ever since to find A. Guys firstly who are available B. Where they're not just ticking the older woman box C. With the right chemistry D. Kinky enough, meaning open sexually and dominant, more, I won't go into that but on the same page sexually.

    Needless to say, aside from a few amazing guys who were unfortunately already taken so they were short lived, it has been a long time now without one like that. I completely understand your frustration and re no shows, the last guy to do that to me was one of those long term buddies who popped back into my life recently, but obviously was horny one day, must have gone cold the next or made other plans and let me down 👎

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    What I write will be cliché but I don't reckon any woman or TG reading your post will not relate to your articulate words full of honesty and emotion. Pretty sure all of us have been there and probably some guys too. We are all too quick to write off guys. Yes they can be real pricks but its not gender specific, its just people. People are capable of great cruelty especially when it comes to matter of the heart or anything really.
    My only advice is stay true to yourself always, remembering that not one drop of your self worth, depends on your acceptance by others. Focus on who and what you are, your wants and needs. Do not waiver. And only make yourself available to those who truly want you for who you are. Don't lower yourself to be some guys fantasy on the opposite side of their keyboard or a bit on the side
    Be strong, be gentle, do not lose hope and while you are alone at present, your time will come, even though your road is a little more difficult than others.
    One day you will stumble upon someone who will start a fire in you that will not die. We all do, usually when you are not seeking which is what you are doing at present.
    Till then, focus on being the best person you can be and treat those even who are cruel and nasty to you, the exact way you wish to be treated. With respect, and move on if they continue with their reckless treatment of you.
    This is your time. Grow
    xx

  • cat_n_the_hatter

    cat_n_the_hatter

    7 years ago

    world was a much smaller place and these things to happen were less common since people met each other in the course of their daily lives. Word would get around and that would negatively affect the “ghoster” , so public embarrassment, even shame, provided a balancing force to keep people from acting out of integrity. It wasn't considered ok to just "change your mind". That was one of the reasons why in those days many young women never practiced one night stand as most of them wanted a relationship.
    One way to reduce the chances of being ghosted is to only date people that you get to know in person first, like through friends, meetup groups, and other social events. When we meet in a social field, we lower the chances of someone ghosting us. The community provides a sort of social insurance against it.

    Anonymity that comes with the Internet and relative detachment between people makes it easier for people just to disappear without confronting that 'other'. Humans have a tendency to avoid discomfort, conflict, and uncertainty, as we don't know how that 'other' would react.
    If you want to reduce the chances of someone you meet on the Internet ghosting you, I suggest you talk about this early on in a relationship. Share your concerns and make an agreement that you will stay in contact until you both have a conversation to choose to end the contact. Obviously, you can’t prevent it from happening, but you will learn a lot about the person by opening up this dialogue.
    I know it may not be the most popular thing to say here, but perhaps if you attach yourself easily, you may be one of those people who shouldn't have sex on their first date...or second. Know yourself.
    Share your feelings with a trusted friend or a therapist. Purpose of it is to experience and release the emotional charge you have about it. (Ms)

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    If I like a profile and feel there is a connection, I steer clear of any dirty talk or request of more pics( I have ample in my pg's to show every aspect of me) until we have met for a coffee. Im not here to get some random's rocks off while he wanks to what I have written.then goes silent until he is hotny again in a few weeks. Yeah nar.If they avoid wanting to meet, then they arent here for the same reason as me.

    Look after yourself saphire76. Play by your rules and the right ones will come along

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Can I be honest..... You sound selfish and a little full of yourself on your profile..... You'll only rock his world AFTER he rocks yours and your asking for applications like it's a competition to win you. I'm not trying to hurt you just trying to give an honest opinion so you'll be lucky in future 😉

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    7 years ago

    What Willow said. Everyone here has the talk ups and the no shows whether male female or trans. We never stop learning and the ability to sense those that are going to waste our time increases at the same time as our care factor reduces. Those that don't show is a sign of disrespect. Show them the same respect by giving no second chance and block them.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I dfinately understand the points you raised in your reply.. Since publishing my comment/question, Ive turned over many new leaves, restricted 3 & 4th base to 3rd and 5th,6th and subsequent dates.. I make the guys really work for my intimate availability.. Ive been fortunate to have enjoyed some periods of intimate security, but nothings lasting beyond the time period (when I wrote the question).. Ive taken up relationship/dating advice/counselling thinking it must be fault with me..Its taught me to be less conscious,more intimately focussed and thicker skinned(thats difficult)..even for most people..And If true intimacy is scarce, there's always the core satisfaction that can be hired by the hour/night...not cheap,but very worth every penny..

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Hmm thankyou for your advise... I realised this was definately an area worth attention.. and It'll be fixed soon..thanks again..