The Adonis Syndrome

The Adonis Syndrome

    | Dec 25, 2016
redhot666   Woman 52yrs
Ladies,

It appears that many of the ladies are looking for their 'Adonis' here, but how realistic are your expectations ? I have found in my experience that there are many genuine, sweet and lovely men on site that are more the complete package, with their manners, generousity of spirit and time and other attributes that are what we would appreciate more than their looks and six-packs. However, these men are pretty much always overlooked. Why ? Why are the many great guys being overlooked by the ladies on site ? When will you ever meet some of those men waiting in the wings for a lovel time with you ?
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

cbdlivin

can in the real world too 😉



Small disclaimer, when I said in an earlier comment, I agreed with everything deepestpurple said, I didn't agree with the body builder part, realized after but couldn't be bothered clarifying. I think that is offensive. Why would someone be mentally imbalanced because they have the strength of body and mind to execute extreme physical fitness, along with managing time constraints re work, family, other life commitments. And that makes them mentally imbalanced? 😀 Really?

Sorry deepestpurple I did like the rest of your comment, 100% disagree with this though
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the6thone   Man 39yrs

Careful 50z guy...

Youre straying off topic by gelping someone with a question. The forum nazis will come along and smack you on the pee pee...

- Posted from rhpmobile
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SuperFoxxxy   Woman 45yrs

the6thone

Lmao! That's gold!

😂😂😂😂 @ Pee Pee

Ms Foxy
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cavey50   Man 57yrs

reminds me of my ex with




her first hubby.. they had played a bit before marriage happened.. and they used to call it a "Pee-Pee"

On the night of the wedding.. they got back to their suite.. and did the wedding tango..

Laying there afterwards.. she said...

"Oh Larry... your Pee-Pee" is pretty cute after we do it"

Larry said...

"Baby.. now we are married, we can cut the "Pee-Pee" name now.. and call it what it is.. A COCK"

She should NOT have been drinking that night... she laughed in his face.. and actually spat champagne on him..

"HA!! now way.. a fckn COCK is 8inches, fat, and does a fckn LOT better then once a fckn night"

She did NOT stay married long...


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redhot666   Woman 52yrs

The Adonis Syndrome

to Bringbacksummer sorry i do not understand what you are trying to say could you put it in a way i can under stand please
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deepestpurple  

Man 34yrs

Yeah really




Quoting 'I_touch_myself2'



Small disclaimer, when I said in an earlier comment, I agreed with everything deepestpurple said, I didn't agree with the body builder part, realized after but couldn't be bothered clarifying. I think that is offensive. Why would someone be mentally imbalanced because they have the strength of body and mind to execute extreme physical fitness, along with managing time constraints re work, family, other life commitments. And that makes them mentally imbalanced? 😀 Really?


Sorry deepestpurple I did like the rest of your comment, 100% disagree with this though

I'm not saying it isn't very impressive or an easy thing to be at all. It takes a lot of time, effort and money and to fit that into functioning in modern society, as you point out.

My point is that extreme bodybuilders have all of those qualities and ability but then focus that towards building a body which is maladaptive to anything which does not involve picking up something really heavy and then putting it down again 6 to 8 times. They use all types of harmful and questionable drugs and supplements risking their long term health and often causing near term health issues for themselves such as baldness, excess aggression, kidney stress, bacne, shrunken testicles, etc etc etc. Often their motivation for doing this is how they want other people to perceive them. I think that signals someone who is mentally imbalanced.

I should have qualified with; someone who is possibly mentally imbalanced, as I don't think all bodybuilders are imbalanced and I also recognise mental balance as being on a spectrum so the term mental imbalance is relative to each individual's internal cut off point on the spectrum to which the term applies. (the possibly was supposed to be covered by the "can" in "can be a turn off" but I accept that that was awkward.)

At least two people, who are clearly not bodybuilders, have taken offense to my statement. Yet the one person I've seen post who is a bodybuilder was not particularly offended at all, he did not agree with the scope of my statement but accepts that it is a fair statement in a minority of cases.

Bodybuilders live a lifestyle that is imbalanced, they project an image that is unnatural. I would suspect a lot of them don't view themselves as balanced or want to be seen as balanced. I say that signals a possible mental imbalance.

Touchy, you're cool, I like you, you say what you think and I believe you simply don't agree which is ok by me.

Summer, you're a white-knight, I quite often suspect you of being intellectually dishonest, I find you argumentative but you rarely post an argument that isn't emotionally based and yet you've criticised my research methods (for a rhp forum post). Where's your facts? If you want an argument or you want me to actually consider your point of view, hit me with one. "I disagree, that's offense" is boring, tell me why.
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Mister_Playful  

Man 39yrs

Yeah really?

Deepestpurple you are entitled to your opinion of course and thanks for clarifying.

Perhaps your comment here stating ALL bodybuilders use harmful drugs may have been better stated as well.
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Summer_in_Sydney   Woman 44yrs

yeah really?

What Mr Playful said. This "argumentative intellectually dishonest white knight" is so done. The floor is yours.
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

Deepest

Your argument that they are mentally unbalanced. Couldn't be bothered copying.

People get caught up in hobbies and pastimes. Maybe other things lacking in their lives but none the less they find something that interests them and something that reasonable within them. Something that maybe they could be good at.

I think we all like to be good at something. Say a photographer for instance. Gets the bug. Throws themselves into it. Travel in search of the next good shot. Can spend his savings on gear etc. All spare time in pursuit.

No difference to a bodybuilder. Something that they can be good at. A few take roids to get the edge. Not ideal of course. But most are natural.

Your statement of mentally unbalanced is a bit fucked up and very judgmental of all those who love their body building.

Yeah I know I'm a bit unbalanced so no need to go there.
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S_OnTheLoose   Man 37yrs

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Quoting 'deepestpurple'


My point is that extreme bodybuilders have all of those qualities and ability but then focus that towards building a body which is maladaptive to anything which does not involve picking up something really heavy and then putting it down again 6 to 8 times. They use all types of harmful and questionable drugs and supplements risking their long term health and often causing near term health issues for themselves such as baldness, excess aggression, kidney stress, bacne, shrunken testicles, etc etc etc. Often their motivation for doing this is how they want other people to perceive them. I think that signals someone who is mentally imbalanced.
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Bodybuilders live a lifestyle that is imbalanced, they project an image that is unnatural. I would suspect a lot of them don't view themselves as balanced or want to be seen as balanced. I say that signals a possible mental imbalance.

I don't think it is proper to talk about "extreme bodybuilders" and then just "bodybuilders" in a way that isn't very clear you only mean one and not the other - or clarifying that when you say "extreme" you mean the type that does X, Y, Z.

IMO it'd be like writing about women who were gold-diggin-whores... and then just referring to "women" when it doesn't make it clear you meant the comments to apply only to those "of the precious-metal-detecting variety".

As far as supplements go - the only risky thing about the
supplements is their damage to your wallet (which is high since many of
them are completely ineffective when ingested).

(Great post too Annie)
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ontology   Man 45yrs

It appears

pretty clear to me the term "mentally imbalanced" is evoking a highly emotive and negative connotation for some people here in the forum. I'd agree it is a loaded term, and the response it elicited suggests there is still quite strong stigma, fear and defensiveness in respect of Mental Health issues in the community (broadly speaking).

Dispassionate and thoughtful consideration of that one term ("mentally imbalanced") might evoke a different perception/understanding of, and response to @deepestpurple's suggestion; even more so in context of his expanded explanation.

Upon reading his initial post which introduced the 'offending' term, I read his use of "mentally imbalanced" to mean a frame of mind with respect to an activity whereby a disproportionate level of time and attention is devoted to said activity at the cost/exclusion of other activities which are necessary (perhaps important) and which constitute 'balance' in the life of a healthily functioning person. Many of us would be guilty of that on some occasions throughout our lives. Sometimes it may be necessary for short periods of time in order to meet specific objectives.

Holding aside issues specific to bodybuilding (such as performance enhancement - via dietary supplements or otherwise), it might reasonably be argued that prolonged dedication to a pursuit which interferes with other responsibilities or opportunities in life suggests an imbalance which may indicate, or if not addressed may lead to, other longer term difficulties. A simple, readily identifiable example would be work/life balance, and associated high incidence of relationship breakdown.
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Zoustar4   Man 37yrs

Agree

I think RedHot has hit the nail on the head

- Posted from rhpmobile
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LaFemmeFontaine   Woman 41yrs

Give me a ravenous man...

Over Adonis anyday. I want a man who knows exactly what he wants and he takes it. For me it is all about the experience. I don't give a damn what you look like but I'm a sucker for a confident man who is facinated with the giving and receiving of pleasure.



- Posted from rhpmobile
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deepestpurple  

Man 34yrs

Thanks Ontology

For articulating my point of view much better than I was able to.

I made an offhand remark which I thought was pretty commonly accepted as a valid generalisation and several other posters jumped all over it because "that's offensive (not to me of course but I have nothing better to do than be outraged on rhp forums on behalf of a population subset perfectly capable of defending themselves)" And held my wording to unreasonable standards as though I was some form of judge handing down a legal finding.

I think we all lost sight of the OP here. Some Oldandsoft dude managed to convince one of the more impressionable members of this board, who may have said something loosely resembling the OP, to allow him to post in her name so he can push his barrow.

Then some more soft dudes jumped on board and started disempowering themselves by externalising the blame for their unsatisfactory situation and having a pity party over it. My post was intended to be a counter-point to this pointing out that fit people dp not necessarily forfeit other desirable qualities simply by becoming fit and, indeed it may be inferred that they possess certain desirable charactisitics from the fact they are fit. Indeed Touchy, validated my statement that fitter guys have more sexual prowess and is anyone going to question Touchy's sample size? And the soft dudes in unsatisfactory situations *love* to remind us this is a sex site.

My advice to the soft dudes in unsatisfactory situations is to empower yourself by taking responisibility for your dissatisfaction. Old and soft dudes could consider talking to the mentally imbalanced about some of their questionable supplements. Others may consider not being lazy and bettering their physical condition. Or, and this is a very valid suggestion, take their sex seeking efforts to a situation which better showcases the positive features they already have. Because, like it or not, selections on this site are primarily made based on pics. Good luck changing that reality.



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Mister_Playful  

Man 39yrs

The Adonis Syndrome

Back on topic (choosing to simply ignore the above), I think the answer to the OP is both yes and no because it is based on attraction.

We are all different and attraction means different things to different people. Attraction is largely made up of two big things, physical looks and an intellectual connection. Because we are all different we all have a different balance between these two things when finding ourselves attracted. Some will go more so for the looks of the person and others will go for more of a connection, but there is generally always some form of balance between the two. By which I mean that many people will not just rule a person out if they don't have a six pack, but on the other hand if they don't find the person's look appealing at all to them then they will most likely choose not to engage further.

I believe when it comes to the physical component of attraction only we each have our own range of what we like. For some this might be hung guys up to the age of 25 (example only), for others they may actually prefer a larger build to match their own body shape a little more. Some prefer taller, some prefer smaller, older/younger etc, but up to a point.

So yes the look is definitely important, but for many their attraction is not limited to the Adonis.
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Gone_Girl78

Briefly off topic

redhot, I love the stockings you're wearing in your current profile pic!


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Hornyalltime72   Woman 41yrs

My Adonis

Is respectful to me,my family and friends. Is a man who would lift me up and view me as special as I would him. I no longer have time in my life for rubbish and don't want to spend any more of my precious time with people that don't invest same time and energy in me that I would in them. Give me real and raw and people that want to learn and travel and experience the world together with open mind that are caring loving and generous. That's about all I look at now after once only seeing the top layer I want more now. I want someone that's as passionate as me and as imperfect as me :)

- Posted from rhpmobile
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that50zguy   Man 57yrs

Annie

If the pot isn't stirred the soup gets burned. 😇

Xx
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Missb4u   Woman 44yrs

Gotta say

I love an Adonis ❤️

But what constitutes an adonis to me could be very different to anyone else's definition.







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lilyorchid   Woman 44yrs

MissB

Love an Adonis Belt... 😉 to.die for.



I can't help staring, touching, kissing my fwbs Adonis belt. Hubba hubba

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