The Adonis Syndrome

The Adonis Syndrome

    | Dec 25, 2016
redhot666   Woman 52yrs
Ladies,

It appears that many of the ladies are looking for their 'Adonis' here, but how realistic are your expectations ? I have found in my experience that there are many genuine, sweet and lovely men on site that are more the complete package, with their manners, generousity of spirit and time and other attributes that are what we would appreciate more than their looks and six-packs. However, these men are pretty much always overlooked. Why ? Why are the many great guys being overlooked by the ladies on site ? When will you ever meet some of those men waiting in the wings for a lovel time with you ?
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the6thone

Quoting rotaboy 2011

"Can I ask why is it so hard to just reply back to a email... even if your not interested. I know its not eharmony..but a little class to say " Thanks for interested but I am not the one for you" or something like that. "

You can thank the dickheads that spew a torrent of abuse at the women.they send a message to when they get that kind of response.

The women have been classy and then the dickhead will just mouth off like a true wanker.

My advice? Dont take it personal.

I would love to get a response to every message ive sent...but would be lucky to get a 20% response rate. Including the rejections.

Take silence as thanks but no thanks.

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Tall_n_Hard   Man 60yrs

@ email replies...




could we please stick to topic, thanks.
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KillerHeelz   Woman 44yrs

Adonis?

I am attracted to tall men - not necessarily with six packs as none off my 3 current FWB's currently have well defined abs! Nor am I worried about a hairy chest or back or face or nether regions - or lack thereof. Glasses? Who cares? A well sculpted face or arms? Not so important.

All are 6'3" or over - my only real physical prerequisite is over 6'1" as I am so tall.

Health is a big thing as well as I need a guy to keep up with me. This generally means they aren't obese - perhaps average or slightly overweight at a push and they are generally active physically in some way. They are by no means gym junkies and that would drive me nuts! I am no fitness nut myself and my body is certainly not perfect.

After the height and health, it comes down to how we connect. Intelligence over book learning, wit and humour without being nasty, love of family and friends and able to hold a conversation. Do we have to have the same opinions? Definitely not. How boring! Different interests and ideas make for great chats when not fucking.

I want FWB's that I can spend time with in and out of bed. Pretty boys are good to look at and feed my ego - come on we all have one of those! :) But they are not necessarily the ones I want to see again.

Don't get me wrong, if I could have a tall handsome man that thrilled me in bed and out, I'd definitely put my hand up! The reality is I haven't yet met one. It's fun looking though ;)


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Meander   Woman 44yrs

Ok,




Quoting 'deepestpurple'

It isn't a choice between fit/healthy and nice/genuine/interesting. There is the same chance that the fit healthy guy with a good body is nice/genuine and interesting as the others. In fact when you consider that the outward appearance of a person does in some way reflect their inner mental state you could argue that the fit/healthy guys probably are more well rounded emotionally/mentally as well.

That's the reason extreme bodybuilders, even fitness freaks, can be a turn off because it signals some form of mental unbalance.

Also, considering the cliche that this is a sex sight; I can tell you the number of times I can have sex/cum in a day is directly proportional to how intensely I have exercised in the last week then you can start to understand the attraction of the fitter guy to these women.

So, in a situation of abundance of choice you can see why the fitter guy has a lot more success on here.







I'm still not preferring the "fitter guy" to the man with the dad bod myself, and you completely lost me with highlighted part.
I think that's rather offensive, actually.

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EarthQueen   Woman 46yrs

Personally

I'm not looking for an adonis, not at all. An average normal body is fine. I am not a Victorias Secret model and don't expect a man to be physically perfect. That being said I do try to keep myself reasonably fit and would be attracted to a man who does the same. An attraction or spark is important though and thats the main thing. What I'm looking for is individual and different from the next woman. It has to be someone who interests me in their profile and in their messaging. RE not answering to messages When you get hit with loads of messages you do tend to browse through and if theres something you don't like you tend to move on pretty quickly. I reply to every email unless I have already made it clear what my position is and the guy continues to try and message. Then I just ignore.
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Blondie2609  

Man 31yrs

Meangirls

I agree 100% , I'm no oil painting but I've gotta at least be a 7/10 on a good day and I reckon I've done a pretty good effort on my profile and I find that heaps of the ladies on here or groups won't even give ya a look in. #selfesteemreapers

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Wenuready   Man 47yrs

Not an Adonis

People have looked at my pic and classed me as an Adonis until they turn me down and get my response - which is not what they were expecting. Very quickly they start getting the impression that I am a normal, considerate, respectful man. There are still men out there like this that also take care of their bodies....unfortunately I can't make my appendage any bigger LOL.

I am new to posting so don't be too harsh and I hope I have made a few people smile x

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Gabehcuod

Bodybuilder comment

I personally wouldn't have made the comment either, it was perhaps a bit awkwardly stated, but come to think of it, of the body builders I know (a few men and a few women) most of them do have/have had mental issues and it seems like the body building is a form of compensation or a coping mechanism. A few of them have turned into total narcissists.
Of course, not that I would argue that my small sample of anecdotal evidence proves anything.

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Altrix

Just a thought

A honest answer is a sexual suicide in here. I guess most men know the answer, it's a matter of time that women will know it too. As Socrates said "beauty is the short lived tyranny". All men deserve a woman, but is it a right? Don't think so. Competition got a lot tougher on both personality and financial scale.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Ackley220   Man 61yrs

Adonis Types

a quote from Henry David Thoreau.

It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see.







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deepestpurple   Man 35yrs

Yep




Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney'






Quoting 'deepestpurple'


It isn't a choice between fit/healthy and nice/genuine/interesting. There is the same chance that the fit healthy guy with a good body is nice/genuine and interesting as the others. In fact when you consider that the outward appearance of a person does in some way reflect their inner mental state you could argue that the fit/healthy guys probably are more well rounded emotionally/mentally as well.

That's the reason extreme bodybuilders, even fitness freaks, can be a turn off because it signals some form of mental unbalance.

Also, considering the cliche that this is a sex sight; I can tell you the number of times I can have sex/cum in a day is directly proportional to how intensely I have exercised in the last week then you can start to understand the attraction of the fitter guy to these women.

So, in a situation of abundance of choice you can see why the fitter guy has a lot more success on here.











I'm still not preferring the "fitter guy" to the man with the dad bod myself, and you completely lost me with highlighted part.
I think that's rather offensive, actually.



Well your personal preferences are your prerogative but googling "are you attracted to bodybuilders" and scanning through the first three links is throwing up a lot of support to my assertion its a turn off. I'm no psychologist but in terms of it signalling a mental imbalance I'm going to have to hold that truth to be self-evident. Whether B causes A would be a tougher one to prove but my common sense and experience, particularly with women, would say it does in many cases.

It probably is offensive to some but I believe it to be a valid and useful generalisation and if I have lost you then I suggest that is because you are off with the fairies.
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Wenuready   Man 47yrs

Quoting Gabehuod

Bodybuilding comment
.......and it seems like the body building is a form of compensation or a coping mechanism

For the minority...maybe but, in my opinion, a gross generalisation. Unfortunately some perceive bodybuilding this way due to a misunderstanding of the sport and a person's desire to take their physique to the next level rather than compensating for something they lack.

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S_OnTheLoose   Man 38yrs

.

interesting, I suppose people might say that the more educated people are a bit nerdy and bookish - but nobody says they're "compensating for something"... "Daniel did a PhD.... well, sommmmeone must have a button mushroom"? not a likely comment.

Besides even the variance amongst any large group of people - are we meaning "bodybuilders" as competitive bodybuilders or do we mean "bodybuilders" as anyone who gets themselves rather jacked at the gym. So besides competitive builders, powerlifters, etc you've also got the dude-bros "getting jacked for stereosonic brah".

Nobody criticises athletes training for competition - bodybuilding is not my thing, but if you're trying to win a competition that's just what you have to do.

Also amusing when RHP takes the view that a minority pursuit is weird, compensating for something or is the result of some bats in the belfry - meanwhile it's on a forum full of people who partake in swinging and group sex, which nobody outside the community would _ever_ suggest is based on bats in the belfry or something else "wrong" with them.

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Meander   Woman 44yrs

?




Quoting 'deepestpurple'






Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney'









Quoting 'deepestpurple'



It isn't a choice between fit/healthy and nice/genuine/interesting. There is the same chance that the fit healthy guy with a good body is nice/genuine and interesting as the others. In fact when you consider that the outward appearance of a person does in some way reflect their inner mental state you could argue that the fit/healthy guys probably are more well rounded emotionally/mentally as well.

That's the reason extreme bodybuilders, even fitness freaks, can be a turn off because it signals some form of mental unbalance.

Also, considering the cliche that this is a sex sight; I can tell you the number of times I can have sex/cum in a day is directly proportional to how intensely I have exercised in the last week then you can start to understand the attraction of the fitter guy to these women.

So, in a situation of abundance of choice you can see why the fitter guy has a lot more success on here.















I'm still not preferring the "fitter guy" to the man with the dad bod myself, and you completely lost me with highlighted part.
I think that's rather offensive, actually.




Well your personal preferences are your prerogative but googling "are you attracted to bodybuilders" and scanning through the first three links is throwing up a lot of support to my assertion its a turn off. I'm no psychologist but in terms of it signalling a mental imbalance I'm going to have to hold that truth to be self-evident. Whether B causes A would be a tougher one to prove but my common sense and experience, particularly with women, would say it does in many cases.

It probably is offensive to some but I believe it to be a valid and useful generalisation and if I have lost you then I suggest that is because you are off with the fairies.


Self evident how? Because scanning some lines on Google tells you women don't like bodybuilders (is that really how you gather objective evidence?), or... ? Do tell.
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Gabehcuod

Compensating

I wasn't necessarily inferring that they are compensating for something they lack (i.e. a small dick as eluded to by others...). For example, my cousin (who had virtually zero interest in fitness or bodybuilding) went through a marriage break up and stumbled onto crossfit and body sculpting.It was a way to put her energy and mind into something else rather than dwell on the depression of her marriage break up, which at the time was a good thing. It ended up consuming her and she turned into a complete narcissist, but that may also be due to other individual factors.

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TheDiavel   Man 48yrs

Interesting.

I have been on RHP on and off for over 12 months with little or no success. I'm not an Adonis either, maybe you have a suggestion for me?

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trysexualBing   Man 49yrs

Adonis

Definitely, but they can be choosy with the bombardment they receive . Have noticed a lot of the chiselled abs guys are on multiple friends lists , they must be busy , almost too busy to spend two hrs each day in the gym or work . Have also noticed a lot of women over 40 who only want under 40 men , such is the amount of choice , gtg scrap heap beckons .

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If

you add shopping and having coffee with friends your profile has it covered, you sound like a real nice guy, aaahhh there's the problem !
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My comment

was to TheDiavel.
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cbdlivin   Man 52yrs

because

In the end because they can on sites like this....

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