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Subspace
November 29 2017
- Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Can you describe your experiences with it?
I know very little but keen further my knowledgeRHP User
6 years ago
From my fetlife friends I have learnt a little.
Subspace is not dangerous per se, assuming you are doing only what you agreed to beforehand, and you have someone present whos' main interest is your welfare and enjoyment.
But one of the dangers about being in subspace, is ensuring your Dom is completely trustworthy. While you are in this state of bliss/trance etc, you are likely to consent to things you would not have consented to otherwise. Consider it like being under the influence of alcohol. A person taking advantage of this, and introducing new activities to a person while they are in subspace, may be called "upselling".
Therefor, all mutual decisions must be made and agreed upon in advance.
I have talked to a couple of people apparently in, or just having had, "subdrop". But I didn't question them more about it. I wanted to ask, isn't proper "aftercare" suppose to take care of that possibility? Does it mean your Dom has not looked after you properly? And if some subdrop is inevitable, then it's essentially self inflicted by choosing to do the sub activities (which should have been wonderful for you)? Would it be like a hangover from a night out drinking? (In that I find it hard to exercise sympathy for those with a hangover). Forgive any naivety.RHP User
6 years ago
Very interesting subject.Just looked it up.Found great article on this site if anyone wants to look it uphttp://www.differentstrokes.co.za/store/img/cms/Subspace,%20subdrop%20%26%20aftercare.pdf
RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks for the link midnight 💋💋💋💋
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
never thought of it like being drunk. in a u r right any suggestion made to a person in subspace should be considered thoroughly before because it's a state of we r in and anything that sounds like pleasure will b eagerly agreed to with disregard for personal safety. Like a babe in the woods easy prey for a wolf in Sheeps clothing. There comes the trust Issue I never thought of restraints so it to took less trust and more bravery to reveal myself. But we tried restraints since and found it only served to highten the feelings to a whole new level. As a switch I find it a turn on to finally relinquish my body and soul to Pleasure and care for me instead of me deciding what when where and how. But I don't want to sub for Eva so I Dom her it works awesome for us. As to subdrop being a chioce like a hangover is well u could b right there maybe it on at ur r there or how deep or both who knows maybe with exsperience like we do with alcohol we can judge how long how deep it happened twice afterwards so hard to say but the deeper I went in the deeper my sleep trance thing was only time and experience will tell I would hate to be n a day or two but if I had two days of u that means I'd hav enjoyed hours and hours and hours of pure body numbing exstacy I'd take that still. if pleasure is what it's all about,then subspace is where every desire resides. Hang over or no hanger one small taste and u r hooked. It's a whole new existence unveiled one I intend to exsplore
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Subspace is a very positive experience. If there is not enough trust and enjoyment in your partner, it’s very difficult to achieve.
I disagree that you can be taken advantage of.
Subspace is almost a decision to allow yourself to leg go in order for that level to be achieved. Therefore the bond and trust must already be reached.
It’s a bit like that cum dreamy state we woman can get to (sometimes 😉)
Subspace is even higher.
In regards to aftercare, I think the most important thing to do is relax and be there.
Nothing worse than reaching those heights then having your man rushing around doing things.
Just stop. Relax and feel ☺️
But remember, like a drug or alcohol, what comes up, WILL come down!
This is where after care is most important, you need reassurance and to feel comfort. You may feel ashamed or vulnerable at what you’ve shared or done.
You need to feel appreciated and cared for and realise you were not taken advantage of.
Otherwise, boom 💥
The bond and trust can be broken.
Worse than realising you were played for a one night stand 😢😠
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Your welcome!!
I am keen not just to learn and practice on a physical plain but also a mental one.This side of my life I want to get all the information I can on different things.Having been pretty much vanilla most of the time it is such an education being on here.I have learnt so much already and there is always more!!Which gives me more idea's on what sorts of things I want to try and explore.I thought I knew a lot but it appears my sexual experience is only in its infancy.RHP User
6 years ago
I feel the same as u IV always been a little out the sexually but there is a whole new world to b exsplored so much to learn I close friend has informed that subdrop can last weeks. That is not a comforting thought they suggest tantric sex as a side path so it's back to the books to learn yet more unknown for like you I wish to learn all I can about my new found life
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
Most bdsm couple r fully established b4 going anywhere near subspace me and mine found it without knowing it even existed and while in subspace I am very susceptible as u r most probably r with partner but u already hav that trust we can't b together full time so to explore further we must both find new partners so We will be very vunreable to the influences of others. It's a little scary to think what may happen while in subspace with the wrong person and could become dangerous if we don't recieve the right care
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
I've commented to people before that all one needs to do is cuddle, stroke and caress me, and I'm in such dreamy land lol :P
RHP User
6 years ago
Hi there,
Subspace is the state into which one falls after an endorphin rush of some kind. One could get "subspace" from a crazy roller coaster ride or sky dive, or other adrenaline pumping adventure. But its not called subspace its called a "rush".
BDSM can and does induce subspace through the means of pain/pleasure and TPE techniques.
It is part of the partnership of submissive and Dom or bottom and Top (Master/slave is different). Dabblers will be the only ones who might have a negative experience of sub drop.
Subspace is a wonderful place to reach. It is frightening, exciting, cathartic, joyous. It is mega afterglow on steroids! But the Top/Dom needs to stop everything and provide aftercare. Whatever the submissive needs, must be provided at that point. These things could be wrapping the sub in a warm blanket and left to float in bliss with check ups. To lolly pops or chocolate to ground and give some quick sugar hit to reduce the chances of sub drop or talking etc.
He or She (the sub) will not be able to tell you at that time what they need, so its best to discuss this prior to your scene and absolutely discuss your hard and soft limits and what your safe word would be or if you are gagged - a safe sign! If this safe word is used STOP everything and reassess, cuddle, nuture, be kind!
Sub drop can happen immediately, or days later. Keeping in touch with the sub is so important to make sure they're not feeling abandoned. Even if it was a night of fun NSA, dammit bloody still contact them! Its a brutal feeling being "left" or abandoned during sub drop.
Reading about it is a good start. But experience brings out things one cant get from books ;)
FYI there is also Domspace or Domdrop. But not as common (so I've heard).RHP User
6 years ago
You put that together perfectly 🙌
( oh and I might add, can become addictive 😬)
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
5 years ago
I had no idea about subsoace. My bf introduced me to bdsm and spanking. I go into subspace everytime.
Hes so trustworthy, I feel like he really knows my limits and pushes me that little bit more every session. I love it.
We have to work on aftercare though. He gets the guilts after a session and I'm overly emotional. But we talked about it and we are working on it.
We are both switches, although he's usually Dom, occasionally he'll ask me to Dom
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