Regaining sexual confidence

Regaining sexual confidence

    | Feb 20, 2017
Luck_Dragon   Woman 39yrs
Following on from my topic about the things that help to get you through a rough patch in your life generally, how do you regain your sexual confidence if that has taken a battering as well?


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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

find someone really genuine

take your time and find someone really genuine, down to earth, relaxed and someone who understands and cares about you and nurtures you through it. A slower encounter, even a massage start if you like that, but someone who's not in a hurry. With no pressure or expectation. I've had a rather long dry spell lately, due to being busy all the time, that and my 'me' time which I factor into each day, have prevented me from being able to hook up, but that's changing, I'm actively breaking back in now, or about to. I've had life changes, challenges, to deal with, and have remained horny and wanting it, but just didn't have the time. These first guys I unleash on, will be in for a treat
But you'll find it's like riding a bike, scuse the analogy there just finding that first one who understands will take good care of you, and isn't just in it for himself
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Meander   Woman 44yrs

I know from experience that

I need to find myself sexy before I can believe anyone else does, so will focus on those things and activities that make me feel good about myself and my body.

At the moment I'm feeling bloated, pasty, overweight and generally bleh, so I've started eating better and have quit sugar. I'm also walking more, and am pampering myself with nice creams, make-up, and underwear.

Hopefully I'll feel like my pics look again soon.
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ChasinMidnight   Man 54yrs

A few simple exercises...




...to create self-approval and view yourself as doubtless others see you?


Start by looking in the mirror...you'll see a very beautiful, sensual and sexual woman looking back at you.


Read your own profile...that was written by a confident and incredibly sexy woman.


Open your inbox here...I'm sure it's now flooded yet again and you've more ''offers to help'' than a pack of boy scouts all converging on a little old lady standing on street corner.


You rock and all you gotta do is believe!


Best..... CM

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CucknShells   Woman 49yrs

It really does




come from within.


I watched the Video Embrace the other day by Body image activist Taryn Brumfitt who explores the global issue of body loathing.

I would highly recommend it.

It really does give you a different perspective.


It made me feel better about myself. Like she says your body is not an ornament but a vessel.

Very inspiring.


Shells.


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SassyChic108   Woman 37yrs

Well

I feel the same way it's been 5-6 weeks now no sex for since last time with my ex FWB I just can't be bothered nowadays not gonna jump into cheap sex with anyone.

I need to do more gym workout definitely & just enrolled myself into ju jiutsu class keep my mind busy on other things. I'm enjoying my self ATM.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Luck_Dragon   Woman 39yrs

CM




Quoting 'ChasinMidnight'


Open your inbox here...I'm sure it's now flooded yet again and you've more ''offers to help'' than a pack of boy scouts all converging on a little old lady standing on street corner.



Again, I know you mean well and I do appreciate it, but no my inbox is not flooded. I live thousands of kms from most people, they're not going to waste messages on someone they will never meet, and I don't blame them. I know guys have this impression that every woman on here is receiving a hundred messages a day but it's just not true.
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ChasinMidnight   Man 54yrs

Fair enough, Ms_Dragon...




...and I guess not too many would have the luxury of being able to hop a plane or borrow one to fly there and see you. The world is a small place and in my very often less than humble opinion, you are a rarity amongst women.


No vacuous compliments...not hitting on you...you're most of all you're someone that I would be happy to call a friend and let anyone argue with my pervasive logic.


Be well, beautiful woman..... CM

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ChasinMidnight   Man 54yrs

Last note then gone!




FWIW... I fly up to Townsville a couple of times every year just to chase fish and drink beer with my friends! Given a choice between you and a tuna... well, it's pretty obvious really.


Do you have any cold beer in your 'fridge?


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cat_n_the_hatter   Couple Man 51yrs Woman 45yrs

For me

I whisper to myself, then slowly, slowly caress myself.
It's not that I think I am beautiful. Then I know. (Ms)
Try it



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Luck_Dragon   Woman 39yrs

CM

Thanks but I'm happy to keep our interactions strictly to the forum.


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Haemoglobin   Man 49yrs

Ms Dragon

I guess life is always made of ups and downs. You cannot have the good without the bad, and times like these are trying for sure.
Personally, I try to find the good in things. I dont think this is always easy, but with practice it does become easier. Regularly spending time evaluating the way I think and do things helps me to recognise parts of my life that could use change, or brushing up.

Often I find that the way I feel is directly related to my life choices at the time...eg lack of exercise, eating poorly, stressing over things. I feel it does take practice to be able to sit back and identify these things, but I keep trying to look, and improve when I can.

Your profile and pictures are lovely, I do enjoy looking at your profile, and I love the lingerie you wear. Thank you for showing these off
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swingalingson   Man 36yrs

Swinger Club Confidence booster!!

Over the years in the clubs I have seen real and I mean real confidence boosters.





Ladies, that never been to a nice swingers club before are under the belief that men are only looking for a certain type of woman that the Main Stream Media Portrays.



In fact that media does not know what men are really looking for and sometimes the women.



The secret for confidence you ask?



Women who finally muster the courage to go to a swingers club become awake. They become awake to what the real world looks for and appreciate. And most of the time without judgement.



After they learn that sexual confidence my have been battered by themselves or another or a situation but soon realize that the other women have regained it. And I am not talking about cocky I am talking about sexual confidence to experiment and start trying to be adventurous. One thing is that them chatting to other women the other women explain to them how to regain it quick smart.



And the other secret is that a comfortable play partner can bring that sexual confidence back out again.



But that is providing that women are mentally ready and you let him or her bring it out.



Selfish lovers need not apply!
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

not hitting on

hitting on, I'm confused 😀😉

Just for the record, I don't get a thousand messages a day either. Oh to be fresh meat again 😇
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mischievous_me

Discovering your inner self

After years of being emotionally and mentally beaten down, I didn't have a shred of self confidence left. Not in my everyday self or my sexual self.
What I've found to be my rediscovery of my sexual self has been by really pushing against the grain and my comfort zone. I did this by putting myself out there and trying new things with trustworthy playmates who have nurtured me to a new place of growing self confidence. By doing this, I have also found self confidence in my everyday life as well as my sexual life.
I would recommend choosing something (sexual or non sexual) that makes you feel both a little afraid but yet excited. It could be a real turning point for new self discovery and confidence.



- Posted from rhpmobile
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LaFemmeFontaine  

Woman 40yrs

Regaing sexual confidence

For me it has been trial and error and being selective with lovers. Each has added something lively and new, bringing me back out of my shell. There are some beautiful gentlemen on this site who have guided me back until enjoying my body, my sexuality. They've reminded me of why I love sex and have uncovered my femininity - something I thought lost forever.

Confidence in anything comes from mastery and mastery comes from practice.

Hang in there, this passes and before you know it you'll be living you're body, those pressed against it and the reactions you have have as a result. x

- Posted from rhpmobile
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Luck_Dragon   Woman 39yrs

Again




Quoting 'swingalingson'

The secret for confidence you ask?





Women who finally muster the courage to go to a swingers club become awake. They become awake to what the real world looks for and appreciate. And most of the time without judgement.




My location limits me, there are no swingers clubs here. I have been to one before and would like to again in future, but for now I don't have that avenue available to me.
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deepestpurple   Man 35yrs

It's not you, it's them

When you're ready, find someone new. Someone you find sexy, try not to judge yourself just have your own fun. The rest will take care of itself. It's less about performance and more about compatibility. Often what was once great runs it's course and it's time to move on, it's just the way of things.

- Posted from rhpmobile
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WiccaWitch   Woman 48yrs

What Has Made You Feel Sexy in the Past?

For me, wearing nice lingerie does it. Even if it's under my work uniform while I'm at work.

We all have something to bring that sexy confidence out, even if it's just a little spark. A spark can sometimes turn into fire. Go back to whatever has given you that confidence in the past and revisit that. Bring that spark out to bring the confidence out from within and let it grow from there. Whether you initiate some conversations in here or go out and chat to a few people.

To be totally honest, if I were a guy, I'd think you were out of my league and that would be the reason for me not chatting to you. There are many guys in here who lack just as much confidence as some of us women do.
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Meander   Woman 44yrs

Mel,




Quoting 'mandurahmel'

After years of being emotionally and mentally beaten down, I didn't have a shred of self confidence left. Not in my everyday self or my sexual self.

What I've found to be my rediscovery of my sexual self has been by really pushing against the grain and my comfort zone. I did this by putting myself out there and trying new things with trustworthy playmates who have nurtured me to a new place of growing self confidence. By doing this, I have also found self confidence in my everyday life as well as my sexual life.

I would recommend choosing something (sexual or non sexual) that makes you feel both a little afraid but yet excited. It could be a real turning point for new self discovery and confidence.






Absolutely love it!
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MsJonesy   Woman 49yrs

For me its not about

Finding your sexual confidence.

Its about finding you.....getting your soul in balance again.

When that is in place, everything is in place.

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