RHP AS A RELATIONSHIP TOOL .

RHP AS A RELATIONSHIP TOOL .

    | Apr 03, 2017
tiger_anh   Woman 43yrs
Hi there . Ex rhp'er, recently re - joined . My question to the males out there and females - would you consider, using Rhp .. as a platform - for finding a longer lasting relationship or to find an actual relationship .. apart from a sexual one ? If not .. then why not ? Yes, we know people mainly use this site for sex but are there any out there, that have used this site to look for relationships or any that have used this site .. and actually found a relationship ? If yes, then is it still active to this day ? Please, would love some genuine input . Cheers :)

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OkeyDoke45   Man 47yrs

Please god, no...

Please, let's leave the ''after a life partner'' types to other, more traditional dating services. I am a member of another well-known ''sex dating'' app, which I could have sworn was for casual relationships only but seems to have been hijacked in recent times by the ''not after hookups, not after one-nighters, after the real deal'' types. There really should be a nice, separate camp for the two types of dating apps. Should you happen to strike it lucky and have a casual relationship from here turn into something more committed then great, best of luck. Otherwise, please don't shit in the pool.


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HappyGoLucky70  

Woman 47yrs

Looking for long term eventually

I am actually looking for a relationship and hoping to form one eventually. And maybe through this site I might be lucky.
I'll be intrested to see if I'm not alone with this.

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LittleGiant   Couple Man 32yrs Woman 29yrs

3 years ago...

I would've said 'hell no, I am NOT looking for a relationship.' And I honestly, truly, reeeeally wasn't. But then Mr and I met through the site and now we're living together and stupidly happy. I resisted for a while because I genuinely wanted to stay single, but you can't fight damn chemistry...

I don't see why people think others shouldn't be able to find partners through here? I know many that have met on the site and coupled up. Sexual compatibility is a huge factor in relationship success (and failures), so this is a great medium to find someone similarly-minded, I think. It annoys me when people try and dictate what this site is for and say everyone else should go elsewhere. It's for whatever the hell you want it to be, and if you find someone that is here for the same thing, then it's served its purpose and best of luck to you.

Miss Little

xx
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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

Why separate sex and relationships​

To some of us, sex is important and a vital part to life. Get that part right up front and then tick the rest of the boxes. Better that way in my book than fall in love and put up with an average sex life.

I recently finished an 18 month relationship in here and made me realise you can find it all here. And you have some great experience and adventures in the process.

So it's very possible.
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Rick_Blaine

I prefer never to rule anything out

I'm not looking for a relationship, but I'm always open to the possibility if I meet the right woman. And that's as likely to happen here as anywhere, maybe more likely.



What form that relationship might take is anyone's guess.
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ChasinMidnight   Man 54yrs

Always expect...

...the unexpected and personally I believe that if it's meant to be it will all work out.

Several years ago, I met a lovely young woman on this site and at first we took it on face value, then guess what? Yes that very scary ''L'' word started creeping into our conversations...and we became very best friends!

Just on two years later and quite happily monogamous, we mutually agreed to move on as our worlds were very much different and keeping it short...could have become quite complicated.

On the upside, I found something perhaps more unique and valuable...a true life-long friend and confidant! To this day we still speak at least once a week so depending on your definition of ''success'' and ''relationship'', I could not have hoped for much more.

Best........ CM
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woody_pusscat   Couple Man 55yrs Woman 51yrs

Long Term Relationships

Yes nearly 8 years and still going strong.

Pusscat xxx
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countrytouch  

Man 35yrs

Ok... sure... OkeyDoke

We'll stick with Eharmony for relationships and this one for sex eh?

What if you want great, exploratory, naughty, kinky, BDSM, or swinging style sex in a relationship? Isn't this the perfect place to look for mutually interested partner?

No, then maybe I'll just quit all this sex business and look for a long term date in a church perhaps and maybe have my naughty sex while cheating on the side... :P





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blackmagicblonde  

Woman 58yrs

most definaitly ,,

im an old rhp member that has returned after a few yrs self imposed excile ,,,in the time ive been a member ,,i recasll 3 couples that met on here and got married ,,
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The_3somes   Couple Man 41yrs Woman 41yrs

Moreso than sex

A lot of the singles I met through here are in relationships with others from here. Moreso than have remained single actually. One couple recently got engaged and are getting married next year. Having said that I've also seen many relationships end from here as well as start but I guess thats the same anywhere in the world.
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lil_bit_rusty  

Man 36yrs

Probability of possibility.

Whether you view RHP as "Just a sex site," for dating and/or relationships, or as a social networking site... in my experience by joining and participating in any (or all) of the activities provided here, the likelihood of meeting others with similar views, opinions, interests, hobbies, humour, sexual outlook/kinks, likes and dislikes and relationship goals (or lack thereof) is increased.
Just as by joining any group, club or social networking site, meeting new people and expanding your social circle will increase the possibility of meeting someone whom you share a connection with and would like to pursue that connection with further.
I'm not saying that every contact is going to be a positive one, or that it'll happen right away... if at all... but by being open and engaging the possibilities are there... just as they are everywhere... at work, the supermarket, at a pub/club, a friend's Birthday party/Wedding... how we meet people and strike up conversations can happen anywhere... this site just gives us a common interest/topic of discussion to start with... one that can be difficult to be open about elsewhere.
As Annie said:
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway'

To some of us, sex is important and a vital part to life. Get that part right up front and then tick the rest of the boxes. Better that way in my book than fall in love and put up with an average sex life.


During my time(s) on RHP I've met and formed some great friendships... some of them I've even met!
Though I've been terrible at maintaining them and have lost contact with many... I do hope that communication could pick up where it left off with a lot of them... the experiences and shared parts of our lives will always be a positive memory for me. Plus, they know too much about me.


In terms of relationships... Once, and indirectly via RHP.
Regular attendance at a club and meeting friends of a friend I'd met via RHP opened up a whole new social circle for me.
Through meeting these people whom I probably never would've met otherwise... I ended up being set up on a blind meet and greet with someone's workmate... locked eyes, instant chemistry, and though both of us were adamant about keeping it exclusively casual... after a few months the L word changed from Like to Love.
Though we drifted apart 18 months later and have had other relationships since, I still value her friendship and enjoy catching up for a chat.

If and when I get around to actively seeking something serious again... I'd certainly use RHP as a tool to facilitate that... along with other site's and the more "traditional" methods.

Cheers
Rusty
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Qefenta1

OkeyDoke

You do realise that most people on those "relationship" sites are also here....Why is it necessary to compartmentalise ? We meet people in all sorts of different situations,here is just one of them. Q
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

okeydoke

roflmao
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Luck_Dragon   Woman 39yrs

Strange

It perplexes me why some people are so adamant that the 'looking for sex' and 'looking for a relationship' endeavours must be completely separate. They seem almost angry at the idea of people using this site for anything other than sex, as demonstrated by OkeyDoke above. I also suspect that those people make up quite a large proportion of those who partner up with someone they are not sexually compatible with, and who then end up back on sites like RHP to find a bit on the side.

Sex is very important to me when I'm in a relationship so the question is really, why wouldn't I consider a relationship with someone from RHP? Particularly given that a traditional, monogamous relationship doesn't really appeal to me anymore, I've got a much better chance of finding someone like-minded on here than I do on eharmony.

Like Miss Little I also get annoyed when people tell others how they should be using this site and what they should and shouldn't be looking for here. There is no one correct way to use RHP and if someone is looking for something you don't want to offer then just skip over their profile. Simple.
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ElkeM   Woman 47yrs

No...

... but that's because I'm not looking to meet anyone for anything other than friendship. My track record with RHP and meeting people for casual sex is abysmal. I acknowledge that's largely down to me, and not due to a lack of gorgeous men on here. And it's the same with any of the more vanilla dating sites out there that I've tried. I'm just hopeless at it. My two current lovers are people that I've met organically in IRL... I seem to be much more successful at that.

However, I agree with the majority of others who have commented... why not use RHP to look for a long term realationship? If I wasn't so hopeless at online dating in general, I would pick RHP to look for a LTR. As Ms_Dragon said, why the need to separate 'looking for sex' and 'looking for a relationship'? And why insist that this is only a sex site and people should only use it as such? For me, it's a platform to meet people first and foremost. If you're just looking for NSA, then skip over those profiles that are open to more and are looking for some strings? It really is that easy.
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lovman8   Man 65yrs

Even with all the bulls...t and bluster that goes on with this site.............

I suspect you will find more honesty here than with "vanilla" dating sites.
And honesty is a good starting point for any relationship.
So why not?
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OkeyDoke45   Man 47yrs

countrytouch

I don't think that's such a preposterous suggestion, to keep those after more traditional/committed relationships to your eHarmony and their ilk. Your case is different, yes you're more likely to find BDSM/kink or swinging
partners on here and if you want a full-on relationship based around that then, again, yes, here would be better. You are far more likely to be successful here than on (say) eHarmony, where you looking for such things would probably be seen as inappropriate and the only responses you would likely get would be to look for such things on more appropriate sites i.e. this one. Which was kind of the point of my post. And church? Please. Although, having had to endure a Christian girlfriend for way too many years I can tell you some strange shit goes on in religious circles. Not nearly as pure as they make themselves out to be. In fact, countrytouch, you might just find what you're looking for there.
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Cruisinglife

Well said Rusty. 😎

Sorry to hear about the one lady that slipped away. 😔 Would have to agree with everything you said. Rhp is definitely a tool for whatever your looking for. Regardless if it's just to talk on the forum's. 😊 You never know when Love cum's to town.😉

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OkeyDoke45   Man 47yrs

Ms_Dragon

I have no worries with skipping over profiles that do not appeal to me, do that all the time as do others. My point is that dating sites and apps seem to be either aimed at those looking for a proper relationship or those looking for more casual relationships or even fleeting encounters. RHP to my eyes sells itself as a ''sex dating'' site, you only need to look at the predominance of sexual imagery and topics on the homepage. Country touch made the same point as you, and I'll concede that those that are after a relationship but not of the traditional (I want love, I want marriage etc etc) variety, like yourself in that you don't want a monogamous relationship are more suited to here than your eHarmony and other such. But what you are seeking is still based around sex, same as country touch. My point was more in reference to the original post in which she refers to looking for a relationship ''other than a sexual one''.


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boobs_or_bust  

Couple Man 51yrs Woman 42yrs

Never say never

And each to their own to use what ever tools they want for how they want ,that's what makes here so refreshing , very few places left that you don't have to be politically correct and watch people speak their mind

Mr b

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