Out of my league?

Out of my league?

    | Feb 24, 2017
Luck_Dragon   Woman 39yrs
A couple of recent forum comments and messages have me wondering....

Do you ever think that someone is out of your league - based purely on their profile - and if so what do you base this on? Does this stop you contacting them or not, or if they initiated contact does it affect how you respond to them?





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Smilingwithfun   Man 57yrs

No one

No one is ever out of your league if you truly believe in yourself
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NakedHeart   Woman 40yrs

Sometimes...

As much as I am wildly attracted to men with superior intelligence (IQ &EQ) I am also intimidated by it



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GM4alaugh   Man 51yrs

Who's league

Its been my experience, or I prefer to think 😂 that they may consider themselves out of your league.

I found out recently a friends late wife though another was up on a pedestal so to speak.

Only to find out at the funeral that this other person was in ore of her achievements and generous nature.

You never know do you we are our own stumbling blocks most of the time.

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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

Good topic OP

Never thought too much about it until l read your question.

I rarely instigate the chase, either in here or in real life probably because l know l am not everyone's cup of tea so it's pointless unless the profile is clear that they are looking for TVs. However if l receive a message from a hot person l have no hesitation in trying to make the grade and would not think about being out of their league.

My male half is quite different in that respect and does see some women as being out of reach both here and outside.

Which in itself is odd as l have confidence and self esteem issues whereas my male half has none of those. So for some reason is in reverse for the 2 of us.
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

no

I just fire away, hitting on guys, I'm a very horny woman and always go into it positive, expecting they'll love me 😉 no it's weird, that thought never crosses my mind. I do wonder if our forum presence/notoriety/idiotic behavior/sexual prowess lol might intimidate some guys or just turn them off 😀 but as you can see, I wonder, I don't worry. I like being hunted though, so rarely do the hitting up on here, RL I hit them up 😊 it's a jungle out there though 😉

Being hit on by hot guys is common, never think they're out of my league, I'm usually thinking other dirty thoughts. I always accept with extreme enthusiasm 😜😛
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PhoenixGirl

Yes

For me it's intellect.

I have been quite intimidated by some profiles where I consider their intellect way above my own and that makes me pull back if they have contacted me. If they have not contacted me and I have seen their profile I won't message them.

But I'm working on those self esteem issues while I take a break from looking here.

And I agree with Annie...great topic!
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Hotwives_Inc  

Couple (FF) Woman 48yrs Woman 48yrs

I'm plagued with my own insecurities ...

and will not seek a physical Adonis, simply because I don't offer that in return. I have a mum body, with many a scars, one I consider exceptionally ugly, but necessary. Personally, I don't have a 'look' I go for, but I do feast with my eyes first ... I need to like what I see, attraction is key. I have said 'no' recently to a play with a couple because they 'did nothing for me'. Did I think them out of my league? No just incompatible with what I like :)

I don't see what others see in me, in fact I struggle hugely with the 'you're hot, your beautiful etc'. I love the feedback I get from people, whether we play or not, BUT I put myself out of their league because of my own insecurities. I have received feedback, quite negative, which has made me wary. I've also had a person off RHP come to a meet, see me and walk off ... that did wonders for the self esteem lol.



If I'm hit up by people and they want photos, I'll more than likely stop conversation coz I hate myself in photos, I'm better in real life and I want people to see that but few people want the commitment of a meet without the commitment of a play :)

This is not a pity party lol ... just the reality of on-line dating. I'm as fickle as the next person but I'm my own worst enemy too :)

Mary xx


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PurePeony   Woman 42yrs

A more positive take

I've not felt that someone would be "out of my league", but I have felt that many are "incompatible".



Rather similar sentiments but it's the half full or half empty thang. ;)



I dislike the insecurity and level of self-esteem that "out of my league" connotates. The only types of men I'd feel are "out of my league" would be the billionaire tycoons who go for the blonde leggy models with boob implants and stilettos. =-D Everyone else is fair play, subject to my stringent Quality Control checks, of course! Hahaha! :P



All said, when that bothersome hormonal time of month hits, I instantly degenerate into bloated, fat, ugly and dumpy mode and suddenly, every man becomes instantly elevated to "out of my league" status. :P Bloody periods!!! (Pun intended. :P)
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Missb4u   Woman 44yrs

Yep I do think that

I often think it but it doesn't stop me engaging with them. I have a heap of insecurities about my body but they are just that "my insecurities" it is not how other people view me.

I may be blown away that some one so fine would be interested in fat little me and I'll generally say so openly but I wouldn't not talk to them or anything just because of that. I'd chat via message and try to get to know them a little, I have pics of my size and face for them to make their desicion if they want to continue. I think you quickly work out if they are genuine or not.



Connection and chemistry is about so much more then looks.
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mbacpl1

Are they good enough for you?

Rather than dwelling on the negatives,look at your positives.

Don't mean that in a conceited way,either.
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AandEJustforfun   Couple Man 34yrs Woman 35yrs

I think this often!!

Like some of the other ladies, I too am often really surprised by those that contact us. I also have a "mum bod" and alot of insecurities in my looks. I admit though when I get a positive response from those I would consider more attractive than myself (especially in terms of fitness) then it does boost my self esteem :)

But it is nice to know that I am not the only one that feels this way!!!
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Misskez_2   Woman 53yrs

Definitely

I feel lots are out of my league....
I'm confident, funny and get on with people IRL but find it hard to get that across in messages, I end up sounding boring so think they won't be interested, add that to body issues..... and getting older doesn't help.👵🏻😄

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Fourtothefloor

Back yourself. Giddy up 🐎

If they initiated contact Op then it's game on. What do you have to lose apart from going on a date and at worst possibly make a new friend. ? And if your lucky you get to ride the pony.lol 😉😈 Win Win I say.

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tulips4u   Woman 44yrs

All the time


I would never contact younger fitter males on here myself because I feel they are out of my league. I know I shouldn't feel anyone is above me but I have always had insecurities about myself and my body.

For this reason, i'm glad I have someone who does the contacting for me and, 4 out 5 times, they are younger, fitter and also easy on the eyes (and perfect gentlemen) 😊

The real turning point for me has been meeting up with them and being acknowledged by them that they find my body sexy and hot, and you know what, I believe them.

I no longer care what others think about my body as long as I love myself. If they don't like my body, it's their problem not mine.

So say f*ck you insecurities! Flaunt what you've got and be confident with yourself. Life is too short.

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Hank_E_Panky   Man 63yrs

Horizontal separation rather than vertical separation.

NRL and AFL are just that, out of each others league.

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houndhunter

Not out of confidence

A lot of women are too picky so i dont really care and never feel out of league. Im very confident i would ask a super model out .. get rejected and try again with another. Lol

I dont have super model looks or body but also im not ugly.. so gotta keep trying. Who knows maybe end up with a stunnah haha









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houndhunter

Open for all

Man i aint never seeing a woman i didnt like or i ever ignored.

To me woman are goddesses, they should all should be worshipped .

Ms dragon..seriously . Your hot as hell can believe you posting this.. next time you should let me post a thread like that 4 you..

Aint that true boys.

Women saying they feel out of league !!! Ftfoh you feel you outta their league you make sure you come join mine .. lol

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Luck_Dragon   Woman 39yrs

To clarify

I've had a couple of initial messages from guys saying they think that I am out of their league, which started me thinking about the topic, as I wonder what would make them think that. I admit that I also think this about some men, but as I have said in other threads I do struggle with my self esteem sometimes, particularly during lower points in my life.

To those saying it shouldn't matter if you believe in yourself and have self-confidence, well yes in an ideal world that would be the case. This isn't an ideal world though and I'm not going to pretend that I'm perfect. I've got a complicated history which among other things has often involved me feeling like I am absolute rubbish. That's not something you can easily get over and fix, and although most times I recognise my good points it's a huge work in progress.
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purplehaze4u  

Woman 52yrs

All of the time

I have fit athletic guys messaging me asking to meet but I think they are out of my league. So i politely say no thanks which I know is stupid of me.
I wish I had more confidence in myself if anyone knows how to get this please tell me how.

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houndhunter

Your not

Ooow sweetheart.. :* (

Dont say that


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