New here...body shape...should I even bother?

New here...body shape...should I even bother?

    | Nov 15, 2016
John_Driver
I'm just going through the sign up process. I've seen a lot of HOT women, but I'm put off by the amount of muscled up, chest shaving guys here.
Is there any hope for slim/ average guys that DON'T go to the gym??
I'm lean and reasonably fit, which is a result of working hard all my life, but I don't have big toned arms and legs, nor a big smooth chest. I've never been to a weights gym in my life and never will. It's just not my thing and I don't have that gene that makes me want to bulk up.

Should I just give up before I begin?



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AnnieWhichway   TV/CD 54yrs

John

There is someone for everyone.

And a lot of women are turned of the perfect bodied guys because of their own perceptions of themselves as being not up to comparison.

So just present yourself in the best light and give it a go.

Im not going to suggest that some of those perfect pics may be some that are reliving the glory days......
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SexualAdelaide   Couple Man 42yrs Woman 27yrs

Hahaha

Like Auntie Annie said there is someone for everyone.
Confidence is far more sexy than a 6 pack.
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Koolgrey   Man 42yrs

John...

...don't worry about.

( That's pretty much my answer to all concerns I read or hear these days. Proud of myself.. 😊 )

Maybe just keep in mind that that you see plenty of pics, it seems, of men who look like they've stepped out of a porno....because the far more men who dont-look-like-they've-stepped-out-of-a-porno AREN'T posting lots of pics of themselves looking less than ripped.

Bear in mind, the ripped guys...and girls...are putting their best foot forward for this place. As you would.

See where I'm going here..? ☺ Don't read too much into that.
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sweetgem   Woman 37yrs

It's your call John_Driver

Whether you want to give this site a go or give up now :) but you have found your way into the Forums, so there must still be a silver lining for you I suppose? :)

I would not give up just like that if I were you, John_Driver, maybe I am the type of person that I won't just give up until I have tried my best/hardest. So, I would suggest you to test this water and see it for yourself before you take the exit door :)

- Posted from rhpmobile
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WiccaWitch   Woman 48yrs

Hi John!

Welcome to RHP and the forums!

I wouldn't worry about being average. We're of all sorts of different body shapes in here, so you're among friends. No one likes the same physical qualities in a man, this includes body shape and physique. I agree with Annie. Many women are put off by the buf looking men as some of us may feel they are way out of our range (I'm one of them!). Besides, good communication skills and a lovely personality has a much higher rating than muscles and a six pack torso.

Just be your charming self and you'll have them eating out of your hand in no time.
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Willow_1   Woman 50yrs

J_D

There is more to a good connection than just looks or build. And there is someone suited to everyone in this world, and online. How sucessful you are with the ladies in your local area will depend on more than what you look like. You willprobably have more luck with marrieds that are looking for something on the side, like yourself.you will find that a fair amount of single ladies want a bit more than a quick daytime fuck in their lunch hour. A whole evening of attention from a lovely gentleman is a lot more appealing than a stolen couple of hours in the day to get a guys ricks off before he trots back home to the mrs. Just sayin'
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Willow_1   Woman 50yrs

Typo there

Get a guys "ricks" off. Hhmm, that was meant to be rocks. But I did get a Rick off once or twice.
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Just_Auzzie   Man 44yrs

Haha

Lucky Rick Willow, I'm sure he was happy about that too

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Traum246   Couple Man 59yrs Woman 59yrs

What was your Former Member Name?

A married guy that is a new user going through the "sign up process" certainly knows his way around the site.

To answer your dilemma about competition, worship the wife at home, she's a sure thing unlike here catching the eye of a vixen amongst competition that can outdo you in body form.
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Stirry   Man 37yrs

So what....you're a fatty....

But so am I....even if you're not a fatty, you still think you are...which is the same thing to me....


All I do, is keep the wine up to em until I look better :p




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Summer_in_Sydney   Woman 44yrs

Not sure I'm your idea of a hot woman, but

I much prefer dad bods to six-packs.
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Summer_in_Sydney   Woman 44yrs

But OP,

I'm thinking this may be more of help:

http://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Attached-is-this-a-waste-of-time-52553-Page50000
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John_Driver

Wow! Thanks guys and girls.

Ok...Stirry...no I'm definitely not a fatty.
I'm slim and trim(in most places). Just get tired of the muscle guys getting ago the attention.

Traum 246, I know my way around the site because I know the internet well and have been using forums since they were called bulletin boards, back in the 90s. ☺

Willow....unfortunately it's impossible for me to do whole evenings. That is the time that I do spend with my wife. Not much usually happens which is why I'm on this site. I have the bread and butter, but I need some filling.

And WiccaWitch, thank you darling, for the lovely welcome.
I will get in touch for a chat once I've sorted out my membership as I'm only at guest level ay the moment. Need to get a credit card sorted.

Thank you all again for your replies.
I guess I'm also a little concerned about security and privacy, as I do have a lot at stake. But We are only human and we all have urges, so here I am. Trying my luck.





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SoftandCurious   Woman 38yrs

I'm the same as Summer

Look it's nice to see pictures of a ripped guy sure.

But in the flesh my preference is a dad bod.
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I_touch_myself2   Woman 53yrs

...

I'm going to go against the grain here and say that I like em ripped or tight and lean, and the chest & abs are really important to me. It is what is is, some won't care, some will, but as has been said above, it's not a major benchmark for all women. For me though, no sorry, just wanted to give the other side
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Champagnesunsets  

Couple Man 48yrs Woman 53yrs

And....

Some of those pics are stolen from Mens Fitness Magazines.
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Stirry   Man 37yrs

Johnny boy...

Do the muscle guts get ALL the attention, or is it that that's all you see plastered around the place and assume that that's what's expected??



;)
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John_Driver

Stirry...

Good question! ☺
Maybe it's my insecurity, fuelled by over representation of the "perfect" physique. It's all around us.
The whole big is better thing. Same for women, I guess....the other way around.
All the personsls ads on certain sites...."Hung, gym fit, HOT...." etc. Trying to get attention away from those guys is difficult, but on that note, the women that are into that sort of thing never really appealed to me anyway. Kinda like glamorous American porn...way too tacky.



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Eiliethiya   Woman 39yrs

Comparative definitions..

What I define as "athletic" or "attractive" may not be what another woman considers as athletic or attractive. Looks or "type" are going to appeal differently to everyone. And I've found men and women can have vastly different views on these descriptions also ;)

And how do you actually know that the muscled & ripped guys are getting all the attention? Women aren't ALL superficial.

You basically just have to "sell/market" yourself the best way you can and hope for the best.


- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad   Man 45yrs

Tip

The prettiest guy gets nowhere if his attitude is toxic.

And there are a lot of toxic buff gym types in here..... More, even than the hot (and often fake) women's profiles.

Life isn't a level playing field.
There is always someone fitter, funnier, richer, more charming, more hung, more interesting and a better shag than you ever will be.

So does that mean you curl up in the foetal position and wait for the blackness of death to wash over you?

No.

You get out and get on with being the best version of you that you can be.

👍

- Posted from rhpmobile

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