It's a fine line

April 04 2016

Between pleasure and pain.famously sang Chrissie.

Are you someone for whom a little pain is essential to an erotic encounter or does just the thought of pain scare you. I have a friend who loves to be flogged. She says with the right person she can be transported to another place.

The pleasure receptors in the brain releasing all those amazing chemicals will respond to pain. However I think it has to be pain that we are in control of,not pain that is inflicted on us against our will.

I am not very kinky but the one thing I do enjoy is to be lightly bitten,on my neck,my nipples in particular but really anywhere.

However I have found that only a few men will do this,they don't want to inflict pain but often are quite happy for a little flogging themselves.

So my question ,is pain pleasurable for you,does just the thought of pain scare you,are you happy to indulge a lover in a little pain or is the whole pleasure pain notion are complete turn off for you ? XxFreya

Comments

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Total turn off why would yiu want pain.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I didn't understand the whole pain for pleasure experience. Freya I love being bitten and recently I've discovered my penchant for biting others. I find it a real turn on. And I love a nice spank on my behind every now and then, but I'm still in the early stages of exploring.

    After going to Hellfire Club two weekends ago I have a new appreciation for pleasurable pain. I was only an observer. But it was so fascinating and strangely pleasant to be allowed to watch others experience enjoyment from flogging, caning, suspension etc.

    I finally got it. And I was so thankful that these people allowed me an insight into their world and how pain brings them joy and arousal. Is all of that for me? I'm not sure yet. But after seeing how it enriches other people's lives I would never judge. And I don't know what I will feel like next week, next year etc. so I will say for now never say never 😉

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...There's pain and there's pain.

    Having my genitals squeezed like playdough is not a pleasant pain...but I wouldnt be averse to a short,

    sharp, pain.

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    8 years ago

    I love it all, I've recently reconnected with an old playmate, who takes me to a place I want to go, a place I need to go and now somewhere I crave to go. He is a Dominant man, I am a submissive woman with him and him only, this is how we play. I trust him whole heartedly, he pushes me and that's what I enjoy, I have achieved things that I never thought possible, it takes me somewhere and I adore it.

    So I'm now I'm looking for an understanding man, who would enjoy the semi vanilla me (I don't actually mean vanilla), but who doesn't mind my bottom being bruised most weeks, because I don't particularly wish to give up on the extreme stuff I do, I haven't finished seeing how far I can go. ANY TAKERS????? 💋

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    The topic, I think, is mostly aimed at receiving pain for pleasure.



    There are also those of who delight in and find great sexual arousal from administrating that pain.



    Feral and primal sex at its best.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Summer_solstice'
    Not into being flogged, spanked, or whipped at all, but...
    I looove being tattooed, that's like a drug to me. And being around syringes and giving injections every day really makes me want to try needle play.
    Go figure.

    Glad you're not a butcher then!

  • aussian43

    aussian43

    8 years ago

    I would fall on the side of being unwilling to inflict pain, kissing, licking/sucking on the next is one thing, but I would be too nervous to actually bite.
    Nipples are a different matter, I know a lady who loves it when I bite and suck on them. It surprised me how hard she wanted it, was really getting off on it. But while most ladies seem to love nipple play, few want it that hard. Some feedback certainly helps (in this case it consisted off pulling my face into her breast harder, writhing a bit and moaning "harder" while I struggled to breathe).

    Personally I don't get turned on by pain, but I do try to make my partners happy.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I have three tattoos and I agree with the pleasurable pain. Gives me a real rush (except when they hit bone)

    I am planning on expanding my collection, and needle play makes sense to me now. Although syringes can take a flying leap lol!

    I've also enjoyed nipple clamps, which got quite painful in the end. But I was surprised at how aroused they got me.

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    8 years ago

    Summer you must try, it's amazing I love it, I liken it to tattoos, I crave it now, I ask for it, get excited when he tells me he has a new design for me. I must show you my photos next time I see you.
    1st piece was a chest corset 36 needles.
    2nd piece was wings on my back 40 needles.
    3rd was a pretty design on my back 100 needles.
    Friday night was a 20 needle design on my pubic mound. 💋

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I despise any sort of pain or rough play.



    The lightest of touches is what sets me on fire.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I had a guy come one day, bent me over the kitchen bench yes the fridge and the oven were blushing but was doing the spanking thing with a cupped hand exactly like you'd see it on porn, detached, I wasn't feeling anything from him the person, no connection or warmth, it was generic, like he'd been to too many swingers parties or something. I could have been anyone. It was so bad I could have been reading a book lol so stopped him and that was that. Can be different if you have those really hot sessions with someone who sets your heart racing, but pain in general I don't like. I couldn't orgasm if I was in pain anyway. I do understand the mild pain, if done properly, that goes with being tied up or restrained in the one position some discomfort will follow. Much more pleasurable stuff can be done without the pain, perhaps the suggestion of it, as in the dom/sub thing, without the actual pain, that will do me Also I was watching a massage porn clip last night which would have been great, but I was put off by her bruises, which looked ugly, she had white skin and they were very obvious, looked a bit dirty to me, but whatever turns you on I guess, not my thing

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...a good point about tattooing. I don't get tattoo's for the sake of the pain, but it's sometimes an almost pleasant pain. The bicep, the deltoid, my back were mild enough a feeling even with the heavy needle that it was an almost hypnotic experience...lost in my thoughts while the needle buzzes away, a fiery, burning feeling numbing the flesh and the regular pressure and a wipe from the artist to clear the blood and fluids.



    Though, other places, like my chest, hurt like fuck to be tattooed and it was difficult to think of anything but the prickling pain until it was over.

  • lovman8

    lovman8

    8 years ago

    .......some pain turns me off. This applies to both giving and recieving pain.Depends on the person I'm with, my mood, how horny I am and the wind direction.That fine line is very hard to define and varies from time to time!

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    But !! I find doing the flogging , whipping or spanking very erotic and most pleasurable ONCE you find that fine line between pleasure and pain.
    Trust is a wonderful thing and a partner to show you the ropes and invest her time in you as a novice is a must.
    Call me a hypocrite but receiving does nothing for me other than say bugger me that hurts.

    Any time a lady wishes me to use her horse riding crop then please drop me a line ,, I will gladly find your limits with you.

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    8 years ago

    I get my head in a space, I feel it, but I don't. Like tattoos, some places hurt more than others, but I just adjust my head space and I'm ready to go again. I enjoy it and I call it pleasurable pain, tattoos are the same for me, hence why I have so many I guess.....❤️

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Unwanted pain is either instantly rejected or if not it can turn to abuse.

    Wanted pain delivered can take a relationship to higher levels. The sharing and delivery of something a woman wants or needs is the biggest turn on for me... BUT

    delivery of pain to one who does not enjoy it is the biggest turn off! That is abuse!

    BDSM is largely just an extension of any vanilla relationship... it should be about mutual gain, sharing, connection and delivering that which others cannot or will not.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I like a little bit :)

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Firstly the most important ingredient here is TRUST.


    There aren't many people who I would do hard impact play with. For me, this is a very intimate thing I share with my !aster and very selected close friends who I know and trust.


    Having the right combination of pleasure and pain with someone you trust can be extremely addictive, especially done by a skilful player.





    I LOVE being flogged, it resets me. As I slip into sub space, my body hums, it vibrates, it cries, it releases...it's one of the best feeling in the world....drugs free, 100% adrenalin.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Pushing the Pleasure / Pain boundary can be extremely exhilarating for both parties, but it requires TRUST on a level beyond that of even a normal sexual interaction.
    If you're going to explore a sexual dynamic there is a certain level of trust with the person your playing with, you trust them to be sane, you trust them within the boundaries outlined and approved by mutual consent or by the rules of the swinging club that your attending.
    Sadomasochism can take that Trust level up several notches, you are now putting your physical well being and safety in the hands of someone and asking them to push your limits and help you ride an endorphin high unlike most others. but it doesn't have to, it could simply be the use of toys from the bdsm world that allow you to deliver a different experience - Whartenberg wheels, claws, vampire gloves each of these could cause physical harm... but they are designed to be used to deliver a heightened sensual experience... allowing the subject to explore a heightened awareness of their body and the sensation of touch on their body. This could be extended to include Knives / Wax and Rope all of which provide a level of pleasurable sensation without really pushing the pain barrier.
    Impact play - Whips, Floggers, battons, bats, fists push that physical sensation into a higher level... how many of you have ever poked a bruise just to be sure that it actually hurts? there is a perverse satisfaction of knowing, that those colours mean that when you poke it its going to hurt... but you still poke it anyway.
    A good Sadist will read your body, the way your respond, the way your muscles twitch, they way your breathing changes, and will play with that knowledge to push you into realms of pleasure that disconnect you from the world around you without the use of any kind of chemical substance. You will literally become a puddle of goo under their touch. That is the result that a Masochist looks for, and that a good sadist strives to create.
    On top of that, there comes a pleasure in the release of self control .. or the acceptance of the control of another, a power play that can be just as intoxicating as sexual play, the combination of this with sexual play provides an overall rush which is often indescribable. And you can bet that the Sadist wants to poke the bruises in the following days :)
    There are very few that we would truely explore a S&M type dynamic with, and those few hold a special place in our friendship list because we trust them... sometimes literally with your life.

  • MadhattersCat

    MadhattersCat

    7 years ago

    I do not like being bitten, so the thought of it simply does not enter my head. However, if it is something my sexual partner likes then I have no problems with administering it as long as i have been given good direction to ensure I get it right.
    Once I get it right it is no longer about biting but inflicting pleasure - in return the personal reward is the pleasure given not the act.
    The problem is once again communication, whether it be "i'm too shy to say exactly how I like it" or " FFS why can't he get this right" most of the time is not only expressing how much you like it to your partner but also providing very clear direction, without this all you have is their fear of what they personally don't want.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    a little pain goes a long way. 👿

    - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    C'mon baby make it hurt so good
    Sometimes love don't feel like it should
    You make it, hurt so good !!!

    😇😈😍

    - Posted from rhpmobile