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Do Cis women really hook up with trans?

December 11 2013

Just curious as I have been having this conversation with a lot of my transgender mates recently, but despite people saying there are many, many straight or bisexual cisgendered women that would date transmen (F2M's) I've never really come across them on sites such as this one. Plenty of people tick the actual boxes (literally) but dont go as far as actually adventuring there. I accepted when I decided to start my transition that I was probably making one the most loneliest and isolating decisions of my life but I still held onto a little hope..... so far I've an abundance of men who want to date me, or something more casual, but nothing serious from any of the ladies. I am referring to other forums and meeting places by the way and not just adult personal sites :)

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RHP User
10 years ago
pick me ,,,,,,pick me ,,,,,,,,xxxxxxxxx catherine
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transguywa
10 years ago
LOL. Thanks Catherine, not sure it entirely answers the question but I do appreciate the response Quoting 'kinkarella' pick me ,,,,,,pick me ,,,,,,,,xxxxxxxxx catherine
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hello aselfmademan, having a brain drain but what is Cis?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I didn't know either... Googled it... It means not transgendered... Or born with the gender you're assigned.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not sure that I would, it's not something that I seek or actively avoid. I suppose if I met someone irl I would consider it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi aSelfMadeMan, I have a gay and a lesbian friend who absolutely love their gender/queer studies, but like many here, I don't have a clue as to what it all means. Any subculture is the same, a set of definitions and language that an outsider can become flummoxed easily by. If you're up for it, would love to hear more, perhaps on another thread so this topic doesn't get derailed, as even on a sex centered site like this, we could all do with a bit more education. Full respect to you for having the courage to go through with your transition! For the masses, after wiki-ing it, cis refers to having the perception of gender identity that matches the body/gender they were born with. As Awesome71 said, it's the alternative to being trans.
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RHP User
10 years ago
No different that dating anyone else to me. Actually, probably more fun me thinks. But I have a kink for licking long mens legs in fishnets.
Having said that, I would still use the same screening methods I have for dating anyone here from RHP land.
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transguywa
10 years ago
meeka (and anyone else who is curious!), cisgendered basically means that a persons gender idenity matches the one they were assigned at birth.... so in this case a female who was born female and doesnt identify as trans but as the the woman she was born. hope that helps :)
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transguywa
10 years ago
and thanks to those who did post their comments/thoughts so far :) Am happy to answer any trans related (primarily f2m) questions should anyone else have them :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ive managed to have a few brief flings with Cis-Women,that have been really hot play dates.. the play involves either a somewhat lesbian approach where by my flaccid pre-op cock recieves little or no attention, and at times the play can allow for mutual stimulation via the hetero normative penetrative sex... All in all two or more ladies in after 5 outfits,lingerie,stockings,heels getting it on in sexy romps,without males closer than 80feet to the action, is such a truly orgasmic experience to have..Mind you all, my preference for romance to sexual play requires handsome,well hung,sincere and confident guys whom are into trans women (pre or post-op)...xoxox
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RHP User
7 years ago
Although most of the ftm guys I know that are looking for casual are looking for men 😥

- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi Transguywa,

I'm a cis gendered woman and I'm emotionally and sexually attracted to trans men. I've had a couple of serious relationships with trans men and would do so again in the future if I met the right person.

For context, I identify as queer although my lifestyle has the outward appearance of 'straight'. But if I'm ever asked to define my sexuality, I ALWAYS say queer, on account of having had loving relationships with gay men (yes, GAY men) and trans men.

Your comments re having made a decision which would bring loneliness and isolation sadden me. However, it should be recognised that the cis/straight women who date trans men are also lonely and isolated in their own ways too. That was my experience. We are complicit in a big secret... and often a dangerous secret. It can be a great burden and one which is often carried alone.

Having said that, to any cis/straight women reading this, let me say that you will never find a closer or more intensely intimate connection than you will dating a trans person. I believe there are genuine social and psychological reasons for this, but this is not the forum for that!

Best wishes,

Stuttgart

- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
i must have misunderstood, sorry.
but you're explanation to me sounded like someone who is born a given sex, identifies as that sex?
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is it based on the sexual preference???
lost ? :))))
what does cis literally stand for ?
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